I had long imagined that I would be comfortable and open discussing sex with my (theoretical future) children, until I was confronted with explaining AIDS prevention to a class of 11- and 12-year-olds. Looking into the faces of these children, the ability to casually, calmly, and openly discuss condoms and alternatives to penetrative intercourse died on my lips. So, on the one hand I can see a mother think that it's okay to discuss sex with her 11yo but, on the other hand, BDSM sex with blindfolds and cable ties?????? I hate to clutch my pearls but... jayzus.