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She did not bother me all season and I liked her... and then the last show she dialed herself to 100... maybe I was already having a bad day, but for some reason she really annoyed me there. Jumping on tables, etc. Just felt tiring to watch, for me.

I really wish for Aaron Sorkin to have less predictive writing skills. But damm. He was right on the money. Today hurts.

One of the most telling tidbits and reveals the complete incompetence of the police and prosecutor. And of course, it helps when the then presiding judge is also highly inexperienced and besties with the prosecutor. It was a perfect storm of ineptitude.

Seven nation army, White Stripes. Just caught it on today’s repeat.

So he was in a position of authority / influence over these contestants, how did he expect the contestant to react? Go along in hopes of positive comments from him? And he couldn't have waited 3 months for the season to be over at least so there would be no conflict of interest? He may have thought his flirting was harmless, but this is how these things happen. It's disappointing but hopefully he is learning a valuable lesson. At the tender age of 43. ETA: I didn't know he is married. Gross.

Yeah, the statement was too cryptic for me. I don't want Nigel back though. He can remain the EP without perving all over the young girls. I don't mind Jojo, but I do fast-forward through the judges comments for the most part. I get a strong young Miley Cyrus vibe from her. I did not even know the show was back until last week, but when I saw it was back, it added it to the ye old DVR. And some of the auditions reminded me of when the show first started (the staging, primarily). But the focus on life stories is too much. I want to see dancing, not This is us reels.

They could have sprinkled some updates throughout the last 3 seasons instead of the random folks. When they first showed the compound scene I thought, great, they are going to intersperse more about the next generation and we'll learn more about them. But nope. The only one that was a bit more fleshed out was Jack Jr. (surprise, surprise). Like many I was sort of underwhelmed with the finale. I didn't hate it, and actually liked parts of it (the intergenerational swing sets, uncle Nicky, etc). But the winning moment for me was "worst case scenario" Beth imagining Randall coming back from Puerto Rico, and talking about swimming in the Atlantic Ocean with Miguel's dead grandmother. It may have been Miguel's dead mother, but I was laughing too hard at the moment to tell the difference.

Yeah, the childhood recalls are the strongest. And for whatever reason my mom can sing a whole catalog of songs in Spanish from the serenades she and her sisters used to get, as well as a few love poems. She loves music though, and I think that's been a great help through the years--I play her the music she likes as much as I can. But anything else that she can remember is basically from childhood.

Fair enough. And I presume the writers were working from the perspective that Alzheimer's patients can preserve long-term memories better than recent history. Usually the memories that fade the easiest are the ones right after diagnosis, so if you ask them what year it is, they can say the year of their diagnosis or the two or three years prior--even though you could be 8 or ten years forward. I am trying not to overgeneralize, but usually their most vivid memories are from the youngest years, which is childhood and young adulthood, so I can give them that point. Here comes the nitpick, though, for me: with dementia, the brain is the first to go. I am not sure that her memories would be that intact while on her deathbed. End-stage dementia patients can be so affected that their brain forgets key functions, let alone have somewhat coherent thoughts--like being able to see the important people in your life in your last moments, or even hold on waiting for your daughter to say her goodbye. Some dementia patients are placed on feeding tubes because they forget how to swallow. That is just one example of how severely the brain is affected. If they had used any other diagnosis that would not involve early cognitive decline, I would be completely and fully on-board with that theory and think it would have worked beautifully. They could have followed that track with any type of cancer or other terminal illness. I, however, cannot connect to that theory just based on my life experience. I get the show can't please everyone and some people would really prefer to avoid the ugly or devastating parts of the disease. Yeah, I know, long rant... this just hits a little too close to home.

Yup, whoever mentioned that was creepy upthread was on point in my eyes. It was almost like she was hallucinating. Come to think of it, that may have been the point, given her state. Still creepy to me.

The care scene with new "who are these people" helped establish a bit of a timeline--the biggest clue for me from the get-go is that mom was using one of them print-out maps people used in the mid-late 90's. (Mapquest came out in 1996 and gps tech did not come out until 2001, per google). I remember my father asking me to read them darn maps a couple of times when we went out of state, and me trying to calculate exact distances from the time you made a turn to the next one; luckily I did not suck at math. Anyways, this also lines up with Jack's death at the hospital in 1998. That (and the limp) was the biggest clue for me that Marcus was not Malik.

Correct. He was the one she loved in the second part of her life and cared for her in her illness. It would have made the most sense for Miguel to be the one guiding her. They still could have had William on the train for a moment. Somehow this made it look like William was more prominent in Rebecca's life than Miguel, to which I say, no.

I have only watched a few minutes so far, but Randall questioning the fact that people are able to smile and joke and eat is soooo Randall. What does he want them to do, sit Shiva? A PIA through the end. I am willing to give him a bit of a pass if he does better, but it’s not looking good. Back to watching!

I was so nervous that would happen that I had to fast forward. But damm, Lim? I really hope she’s not a goner, though it doesn’t look too good right now.

I’m pretty sure. It was listed as new, but I deleted it already so not sure. Sounds like it’s back on Hulu, though…

Anyone see the episode from this Friday about the serial killer in NC in the early 90's? He killed 10 women before being found. They did not even suspect a serial killer early on, even though young, black women kept being murdered in similar fashion. It turns out that they all either worked at one of two fast food restaurants or knew someone who worked there. Both restaurants had one man in common. He knew them all and was a "nice guy" so they freely opened the doors to their home to him. He would strangle them--and then go to their funerals to hug and console the families. Just horrific. The "police work" was more than sloppy. And then they held press conferences saying they had done an excellent job. And complained about not having enough resources and staffing. I don't know how much staffing is required for someone to ask "where did she work" and "who did she trust". The last question about trust is the one that actually led them to the killer, but not quickly enough for him to not kill one last victim. And at some point the police even blew off one of the victim's cousins who actually suggested the killer as a suspect. So of course he kept killing more and with more frequency, which finally got him caught.

I'm surprised no one else has brought this up. I get that they do not want to show the abyss of darkness of dementia, but I also thought Rebecca was the best behaved dementia patient ever (with her hair always perfectly done). No screaming fits in the middle of the night, no mood swings or personality changes... I'm not even talking about the absolute worse parts that loved ones cannot manage and land people in nursing homes. They did briefly show her having that "lost" look in her eyes I often see my mom have, but I guess that was their version of her more advanced dementia. I did connect to it when they showed how panicked she became when Miguel was out of sight for a minute. We've certainly experienced that. And I'm not saying I would have liked to have seen a less sanitized version necessarily, but I agreed about it being considerably underplayed.

I asked myself that same question--and thought Dateline did a better investigation that the original detectives.

Finally got around to seeing The Real story about Pam Hupp. It was an exercise in frustration. I mean, we all know the story, but the prosecutor did not do herself any favors with her denial. I suppose she can’t really admit to anything if she’s being investigated for misconduct, but still. She really came across as believing her own BS, against all evidence, similar to the way Pam would make statements and expected everyone to believe them as just facts. Leah just kept digging her head in the sand. I did love Keith’s exasperated “it was your job!”. Pam really had it easy-must be nice when the prosecutor takes the job of defending the killer and not letting facts come to light.

Melendez, though.... don't think the actor wanted out. I know, it was a while back. I would have much preferred he stuck around

From my perspective, that doesn't negate her racism. You can be crazy as hell and a racist too--that's not a good combination. And you can certainly date someone with a Latin surname and also have something against Latin people (or women, in this case). It reminds me of the old "I can't be racist, I have black friends!" defense. Doesn't hold water in my eyes. What does hold water for me is when I see a blog post where she wrote "Being white is more than just being aware of my skin, but of standing behind Skinheads -- who are always around, in spirit, as well" that's not coincidental. It's a way of life for her, and she was willing to post that on social media. Just an example of a horrible human being all around. I also heard a podcast where they discussed the case (I am not a podcast person but listened to that one on a long drive the other day) and heard them discussing Keith's defense of her, once people started to doubt her story. He apparently used the word "sub-human" to refer to the doubters. Which could have been an honest expression of disgust, but it's also a term that is known to be used in white pride groups to refer to other races. Just made me go "hmmmm". Maybe there's a reason these two were attracted to one another. I do believe that he was not in on Sherri's plan. But I still side-eye him for that.

Right, imagine how many other legitimate cases they could have worked and maybe even resolved in all this time. Then there's the virulently racist postings that she denied were hers. Yeah, right, I have a bridge in Brooklyn to sell you, too. I knew she was racist, but not white-pride, skinhead- supporting racist. As a Latina woman, I was especially disgusted by her accusations. Down to the Mariachi music. I mean, wtf. Eyebrows too thin or too thick? She turns my stomach. I hope she gets a tough enough punishment. Not holding my breath, though.

This makes me wish there was an applause reaction on these forums. I may tune in again. But not making any promises.

I saw on the the news that the handyman was arrested. Apparently she had had some type of "dalliance" with him. So still a crime of passion, except not by hubby. We'll see if anything else comes up.

Exactly. It's one thing that these types of placements are often understaffed, but if you can't keep a minor from ending up in the hospital with life-threatening injuries, you should not be running the place or it needs to be shut down. Especially when they are well-aware of the "happy hour". What in the fresh hell.