I saw the look, but like @gesundheit says below, I think she was trying to either convey to shoot Lydia (I thought her look was of pure glee when she pointed the gun that way) or even herself.
She did say "it wasn't my fault" but I'm thinking now, after seeing that flashback, that she meant it wasn't her fault he was taken away from his mother.
I thought this as well. That the mother turns to drugs or gets in a car accident or something to cause his death.
They never explicitly said he died, if I am remembering correctly. I thought Aunt Lydia just said "it wasn't my fault" and then everyone just assumed he died.
I think this as well, otherwise why would he even call her "aunt Lydia"?
I'm not necessarily saying the writers are flip-flopping, but there are racist people even in this diverse world. That Commander and wife could just be racist assholes.
I, like many of you, have lost all interest or care or anything in June. This episode, though, I flat out hate her. There is nothing good about her. For her to be so smug and Godfather-like in her bullying of OfMatthew and then not caring at all when Janine was getting beat to shit again. I'm just 100% done with her.