Pet Peeves: Aka Things That Make You Go "Gah!"

[EtheltoTillie]

I mostly hear "classy" as an insult for when you see uncouth behavior.

[Is Everyone Gone]

57 minutes ago, EtheltoTillie said:

I have to say I haven't encountered this one.  Thankfully.  Are you hearing it a lot? 

Yes. Like Melania Trump is so "classy" compared to Michelle Obama, European players like Luka Doncic and Nikola Jokic are "classy" compared to Lebron, and so on. It's very popular in alt-right circles.

[PRgal]

It could be regional?  Like the whole "gentrification" issue I have.  That said, I'm still waiting for a cha chaan teng that is really, truly upscale and not just mid-range (in the downtown Toronto area, anyway).  If they made burgers upscale, I don't see why they haven't yet done that here, like they have with dim sum.  I get the vibe that it's gatekeeping.  

[Is Everyone Gone]

14 minutes ago, PRgal said:

It could be regional?  Like the whole "gentrification" issue I have.  That said, I'm still waiting for a cha chaan teng that is really, truly upscale and not just mid-range (in the downtown Toronto area, anyway).  If they made burgers upscale, I don't see why they haven't yet done that here, like they have with dim sum.  I get the vibe that it's gatekeeping.  

No. It has nothing to do with that. It absolutely has become a racist dog whistle popular among the alt-right circuits.

[isalicat]

2 hours ago, Is Everyone Gone said:

Yes. Like Melania Trump is so "classy" compared to Michelle Obama, European players like Luka Doncic and Nikola Jokic are "classy" compared to Lebron, and so on. It's very popular in alt-right circles.

Why are you hanging out in "alt-right circles" if this sort of talk (which I would agree is clearly racist) offends you? (as it should)

[PRgal]

Sometimes, I feel like I’m from a very different world and view things from a very different light.  Is it just me?  Is it neurodivergence?

[partofme]

15 minutes ago, isalicat said:

Why are you hanging out in "alt-right circles" if this sort of talk (which I would agree is clearly racist) offends you? (as it should)

You don’t have to hang out in alt right circles to see this.  I’ve seen the first comparison on line and I never read anything remotely right wing.  Not only is the comparison laughable but blatantly racist.  

Edited Thursday at 11:01 PM by partofme

[Anela]

3 minutes ago, partofme said:

You don’t have to hang out in alt right circles to see this.  I’ve seen the first comparison on line and I never read anything remotely right wing.  Not only is the comparison laughable but blatantly racist.  

I’ve seen it, too.  I’ve also seen it used sarcastically, as in “stay classy 🙄”.

[Is Everyone Gone]

1 hour ago, isalicat said:

Why are you hanging out in "alt-right circles" if this sort of talk (which I would agree is clearly racist) offends you? (as it should)

I have some very MAGA facebook friends who post this stuff constantly. 

[Spartan Girl]

Today I was chatting with a coworker about how I cancelled lunch plans with a new friend because she was sick. Coworker suddenly asks if I volunteered to bring soup or whatever to said friend, which I felt was a weird question. When I said no, she wanted to know why.

Uh, well, because I’ve barely known this girl that long and even if she did, she had her own family to run errands for her if she needs it. If I didn’t volunteer to do that, that doesn’t make me a bad person or a bad friend, does it?

I’m sorry, but people who feel obligated to go so extra like that annoy me. And I don’t need to be back in a friendship where I go above and beyond for the person, that didn’t end so well for me.

Edited Friday at 02:50 AM by Spartan Girl

[Dimity]

2 minutes ago, Spartan Girl said:

Coworker suddenly asks if I volunteered to bring soup or whatever to said friend, which I felt was a weird question. When I said no, she wanted to know why.

I have never once in my life ever brought soup to a sick friend.  I've also never asked anyone else if they brought soup to a sick friend.  This was definitely a very weird question!

[Bastet]

1 hour ago, Dimity said:

I have never once in my life ever brought soup to a sick friend.  I've also never asked anyone else if they brought soup to a sick friend.  This was definitely a very weird question!

I've done the first, but not the second -- because, yeah, that's weird as hell.  And then she asked why not?  What a wackadoodle.

[annzeepark914]

1 hour ago, Spartan Girl said:

Today I was chatting with a coworker about how I cancelled lunch plans with a new friend because she was sick. Coworker suddenly asks if I volunteered to bring soup or whatever to said friend, which I felt was a weird question. When I said no, she wanted to know why.

Uh, well, because I’ve barely known this girl that long and even if she did, she had her own family to run errands for her if she needs it. If I didn’t volunteer to do that, that doesn’t make me a bad person or a bad friend, does it?

I’m sorry, but people who feel obligated to go so extra like that annoy me. And I don’t need to be back in a friendship where I go above and beyond for the person, that didn’t end so well for me.

I would've said, "Because I can't afford to get sick".  There are some really bad strains of flu & pneumonia going around that are affecting people who had the vaccines.

[Absolom]

11 hours ago, Is Everyone Gone said:

My newest pet peeve is when people use the word "classy" as a thinly-disguised racist dog whistle. There is room for the word classy, but when "classy" becomes "white and pretty," it becomes annoying.

That's a new one for me.  I'll have to listen for it although I can't recall anyone using the word classy very often.

[annzeepark914]

9 hours ago, Absolom said:

That's a new one for me.  I'll have to listen for it although I can't recall anyone using the word classy very often.

I always associate the phrase, "Stay classy" with Will Farrell (playing Ron Burgundy in Anchorman). Never saw the movie, just clips. So, I'm surprised to learn that it's perceived by some as being racist.

[Dimity]

11 hours ago, Bastet said:

I've done the first, but not the second

I just realized I've brought groceries to a sick friend - most recently during Covid.  I think a lot of us did the drop it on the doorstep and run thing for friends and family who got Covid!  But I sure never had anyone tell me I should and cross examine me about it.  The more I think about it the more breathtakingly nervy I am finding it! 

[Spartan Girl]

12 minutes ago, Dimity said:

I just realized I've brought groceries to a sick friend - most recently during Covid.  I think a lot of us did the drop it on the doorstep and run thing for friends and family who got Covid!  But I sure never had anyone tell me I should and cross examine me about it.  The more I think about it the more breathtakingly nervy I am finding it! 

And the point is, I wouldn’t did any of those things for a friend unless they asked me. I did send a care package to a (now former) friend in Chicago when they had COVID, but that was only because it was Christmas.

I’m glad I’m not crazy for being so annoyed at this coworker “suggesting” I do thing things, then acting like I’m weird for not immediately volunteering to do it. It’s like Carrie Bradshaw expecting Charlotte to offer money to loan then getting mad when she doesn’t.

[StatisticalOutlier]

Many years ago I was really sick (it turned out to be pneumonia) and a not-very-close-to-me friend brought a bag with some beverages, probably like ginger ale or gatorade, and a bag of those little mandarin oranges, and I don't remember what else.  She left it on my doorstep.  I'm very much a self-sufficient loner and I thought it was a nice gesture.  Plus it introduced me to those little mandarin oranges, which I really like.

13 hours ago, Spartan Girl said:

Coworker suddenly asks if I volunteered to bring soup or whatever to said friend, which I felt was a weird question. When I said no, she wanted to know why.

I've found a guiding force in this one scene in Annie Hall when a young Woody Allen is at a gathering in his house and there's a friend of his parents named Joey Nichols who's telling Woody that he goes by Joey Five Cents because his name is Nichols, see?  Joey Five cents.  Get it?  Joey Five Cents.  Nichols, five cents.

As Woody walks away, he mutters to himself, "What an asshole."

 

[Is Everyone Gone]

Here's another pet peeve, maybe more relatable to people who live in big cities: I hate how real estate agents describe one-room studio closets without a kitchen as "cozy."

[Dimity]

Thanks to budget cuts the Ottawa School Board is phasing out alternative schools.  We always had our children in the alternative school and two of our grandchildren are in one now.  This really sucks.  At a time when they should be putting money into the schools they are being forced to take money out. 

[StatisticalOutlier]

On 2/27/2025 at 4:49 PM, Is Everyone Gone said:

I have some very MAGA facebook friends who post this stuff constantly. 

Serious question:  I gather you don't agree with it, so do you enjoy reading it anyway?

[Is Everyone Gone]

15 minutes ago, StatisticalOutlier said:

Serious question:  I gather you don't agree with it, so do you enjoy reading it anyway?

I actually like to read right wing talking points, just to see the difference in perception and also their attack points.

[Absolom]

20 hours ago, Bastet said:

I've done the first, but not the second -- because, yeah, that's weird as hell.  And then she asked why not?  What a wackadoodle.

Two or three appropriate responses: Why would you ask that? It's not your business.  She lives 15 miles away from me.  

[PRgal]

46 minutes ago, Dimity said:

Thanks to budget cuts the Ottawa School Board is phasing out alternative schools.  We always had our children in the alternative school and two of our grandchildren are in one now.  This really sucks.  At a time when they should be putting money into the schools they are being forced to take money out. 

I think things are still okay at the TDSB in Toronto.  For now.  However, there was a huge fuss about entrance requirements/priorities for specialized programs a few years back which gave priority to "underserved communities."  They don't use "racialized" or "non-White" or anything like that because East Asians aren't considered "underserved."  

Anyway, this is the website to apply for specialized programs:

https://www.tdsb.on.ca/Elementary-School/School-Choices/Elementary-Central-Student-Interest-Programs/Application-and-Admissions

[Blergh]

I know  the following is a First World Problem (and I know I can't solve it). ..

However, yesterday, I had to venture to a colleague's relative's remembrance service and it took place on a major road starting out in our residential urban county and then continuing to venue's  suburban county.

Anyway, I had trouble finding the venue because the road's street numbers 'flipped' from odd-numbered on right-hand of street/ even-numbered on left hand of street to vice versa the instant the road crossed the county line (and this was NOT mentioned in the online map I had pulled up).

Thankfully, I had given myself extra time in case I got lost (which I did) but I had circle back several times to find the venue before I 'got' that the numbers had been flipped.

Would someone tell me WHY they couldn't just keep the street numbering the same regardless of the street crossing  the county line? I mean, it's the SAME street and that street's name didn't get changed crossing that line!

Just venting. .