Pet Peeves: Aka Things That Make You Go "Gah!"

[Cloud9Shopper]

15 hours ago, Absolom said:

The red flags are multiplying. I almost had to change churches to get away from an overly pushy guy like that. Fortunately it's a mega parish with multiple weekend services. Anything pushy sets me running.  I want to know what's the rush?

After he asked me out again last night, he messaged me an hour or two later saying “So do you wanna go?” When I didn’t respond he wrote back “Well?” As if that’s going to make me say yes. I don’t understand how he got to his mid 50s and is still so clueless. You don’t keep pushing for answers for a date from someone who isn’t responding. When I asked a guy out several years ago and he declined, I was disappointed but I also didn’t keep badgering him until he agreed to go out or demand an explanation. 

It made me think that just like women have the movie and book “He’s Just Not That Into You,” we need a version for men. Like the reverse of the scene in the movie where Alex tells Gigi that Connor* isn’t going to call her and explains if a guy wants you, he will call. The same should apply to men. If a woman wants to go out with you, she will say yes to your invitation. 

(Not related, but I’ve been rewatching The Resident and almost typed Conrad instead of Connor. 🤣)

[Absolom]

Good luck with the can't figure out a broadside. You're way past hinting and gentle. Entitlement, early onset Alzheimer's, egotism?  Who knows, but no one wants to deal with it regularly.

[annzeepark914]

Boy, am I ticked! A temporary cap on a front tooth came off as I started eating dinner. Called the dental office...closed 'til Monday at 8AM. Don't have plans so I'll be hiding out all weekend (all I need is a corncob pipe 😫). I'll call the office when they open and they better have the permanent cap there (it's been 2 weeks). We've got a Xmas dinner party to go to Monday night (only if the permanent cap is installed!) Call the waaaaaaambulance, pleze.

[Mindthinkr]

9 hours ago, Yeah No said:

but are you saying that the dealership said they replaced a part and the second shop found out they didn't do it?

That’s exactly what I was saying. He even gave me the original factory part to take back to the Ford dealership. They said I couldn’t prove where I got the part,  that they would check the car (after it had been replaced by the other garage) to see if a new one had been put in. Since then I have never gone back to that dealership or owned another Ford or any other vehicle that franchise sells/services. It’s alarming that they do this broadly. It’s bad enough that I’m a woman and they try to take advantage of that first, but I do understand cars somewhat and try not to let them bully me. I applaud your husband for trying to be honest when even his employer doesn’t want him to be. 

[isalicat]

On 12/19/2024 at 2:37 PM, Cloud9Shopper said:

I don’t mean any disrespect to anyone reading this who is happy in a relationship with someone where there’s a big age gap but I’m not willing to date someone that much older than me. If he were five or 10 years older than me, that’s one thing, but I can’t see myself being with a guy who is in his mid 50s. And it just feels odd that he keeps asking me to things when I’m not reciprocating. 

Edited Yest. at 02:40 PM by Cloud9Shopper

I think you need to be much clearer that you are not interested in dating this guy, not just come up with conflicting schedules. Just tell him outright - "Sorry, but unfortunately if I was interested in dating right now, and I'm not, the age gap between us is too great for me. Thank you so much for the invitations, and have a happy Christmas!". End of story.

I am now seeing a guy who is 15 years older than I am and the age gap is not an issue but we are both senior citizens and have a tremendous amount of things in common. Plus he is a real gentleman, kind and funny, still in great shape and attractive and that is all incredibly hard to find these days!

[GHScorpiosRule]

GAH!!!  After the site’s certification issue that has the site all kablooie and unable for us to read and post that lasted all day yesterday, now it’s all smooshed and left justified!🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

Hopedully the behind the scenes tech will be able to rectify it soon after I just reported it in the Bugs and Technical  thread.

[StatisticalOutlier]

On 12/20/2024 at 5:55 PM, isalicat said:

I think you need to be much clearer that you are not interested in dating this guy, not just come up with conflicting schedules. Just tell him outright - "Sorry, but unfortunately if I was interested in dating right now, and I'm not, the age gap between us is too great for me. ..."

But why mention the age thing at all?  It's irrelevant if someone isn't interested in dating at all.  Mentioning the age thing opens the door to exceptions.

[EtheltoTillie]

1 hour ago, GHScorpiosRule said:

GAH!!!  After the site’s certification issue that has the site all kablooie and unable for us to read and post that lasted all day yesterday, now it’s all smooshed and left justified!🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

Hopedully the behind the scenes tech will be able to rectify it soon after I just reported it in the Bugs and Technical  thread.

I’m glad you reported this. Thanks.  I just signed on and noticed this 

[Cloud9Shopper]

It doesn’t affect me since I stopped working at the grocery store but it’s annoying nonetheless: retail stores being open so late now on Christmas Eve. The store I used to work at is open until 5, but I see our local mall and other grocery stores being open until 6.

It seems ridiculous to me because honestly, sorry, but if you haven’t done your gift shopping by now and don’t have it by maybe 12 noon or 1:00 on Christmas Eve, forget it. Go without. Especially since a lot of earlier church services and Masses start at 3 or 4:00. I recognize not everyone goes to church and some people are of other religions that don’t celebrate Christmas, but if I had it my way, the stores would be shut down by 2:00 at the latest or not open at all. Give the retail or food service workers a break for most of the day and plan better. They shouldn’t have to work until early evening on the day of our biggest holiday after the abuse they’ve taken for the last month. You likely don’t desperately need to be at Kohl’s or the mall at 3 pm on Christmas Eve. 

Edited 19 hours ago by Cloud9Shopper

[Annber03]

I agree. Unless it's an emergency or you need some food, there is no logical reason any store that sells stuff that aren't basic necessities needs to stay open at ridiculous hours on the holidays. Let the retail workers go home and be with their families, they deserve it. 

My mom used to work retail, and she always got a kick out of it when she'd be working on a holiday and some customer would come in and be like, "I think it's just awful they make you guys work on the holidays."

Meanwhile, my mom's just standing there looking at the customer and thinking, "Gosh, if only there was an obvious solution to that problem staring us both in the face here.." 

[Anela]

I’ve hardly seen my dad all month, he didn’t get home until 9:30pm last night, and is still out tonight. He’s out making deliveries to people. 

Edited 19 hours ago by Anela

[StatisticalOutlier]

On 12/15/2024 at 7:59 PM, Dimity said:

However tonight I noticed The Sound of Music was on and decided to have it on in the background as I did other things

And one other thing about watching The Sound of Music on ABC--those damn lemurs or whatever jumping up in the bottom left corner periodically, not to mention the ABC that was always down in the right corner, sometimes with a snowflake appearing around it.

It shows such disrespect for the content and the viewer.   The only good thing I can say about it is that I watched it over the air, so they can't count me among their viewers, and I therefore did not vote "YES" to "Do you want to watch movies with a ton of commercials and unrelated shit going on on the screen?"

[Mrsmaul2021]

1 hour ago, Cloud9Shopper said:

It doesn’t affect me since I stopped working at the grocery store but it’s annoying nonetheless: retail stores being open so late now on Christmas Eve. The store I used to work at is open until 5, but I see our local mall and other grocery stores being open until 6.

It seems ridiculous to me because honestly, sorry, but if you haven’t done your gift shopping by now and don’t have it by maybe 12 noon or 1:00 on Christmas Eve, forget it. Go without. Especially since a lot of earlier church services and Masses start at 3 or 4:00. I recognize not everyone goes to church and some people are of other religions that don’t celebrate Christmas, but if I had it my way, the stores would be shut down by 2:00 at the latest or not open at all. Give the retail or food service workers a break for most of the day and plan better. They shouldn’t have to work until early evening on the day of our biggest holiday after the abuse they’ve taken for the last month. You likely don’t desperately need to be at Kohl’s or the mall at 3 pm on Christmas Eve. 

 

 

That sounds about right, at least in my city. Stores closing around 6 on Christmas Eve, Considering these same stores were closing at 8, 9 and sometimes 10 pm during the holiday season. When I worked at the bank we closed at 2 pm

1 hour ago, Annber03 said:

I agree. Unless it's an emergency or you need some food, there is no logical reason any store that sells stuff that aren't basic necessities needs to stay open at ridiculous hours on the holidays. Let the retail workers go home and be with their families, they deserve it. 

My mom used to work retail, and she always got a kick out of it when she'd be working on a holiday and some customer would come in and be like, "I think it's just awful they make you guys work on the holidays."

Meanwhile, my mom's just standing there looking at the customer and thinking, "Gosh, if only there was an obvious solution to that problem staring us both in the face here.." 

 

 

 I had long left retail by this point but I remember being so pissed when they used to have black Friday starting on Thanksgiving Day. I remember working those long hours during the holiday season and back then, black Friday was nuts. Let those workers have that ONE day. They already have to go in early due to black Friday. I thought it was the most selfish thing. 

[Annber03]

11 minutes ago, Mrsmaul2021 said:

 I had long left retail by this point but I remember being so pissed when they used to have black Friday starting on Thanksgiving Day. I remember working those long hours during the holiday season and back then, black Friday was nuts. Let those workers have that ONE day. They already have to go in early due to black Friday. I thought it was the most selfish thing. 

Not only has my mom worekd retail, but so has everyone else in my family at some point, and we all absolutely LOATHED the Black Friday commercials that would bombard TV as Thanksgiving rolled around. Especially the ones that would announce that the stores would open and the deals woult begin on Thanksgiving itself. Because god forbid anyone wait an entire day to go to a store and start buying their Christmas gifts and let people have a chance to enjoy a day off at home. 

[annzeepark914]

If anyone's looking for something to watch, the Kennedy Center Honors are on now (CBS). They're doing Bonnie Raitt first. Good music!

How did this post end up in Pet Peeves? I swear I posted it in regular chit chat last night. 

Edited 1 hour ago by annzeepark914