Yousef lost me (well he lost me weeks ago) in this argument when he started filtering everything through what would be "appropriate" for his daughter.
Clare isn't his daughter's mother or even stepmother. She hasn't met her. She is a single woman involved in some apparently consensual nakedness that he was nowhere around.
She has no responsibility towards his daughter who he abandoned for weeks (potentially months?)* just so he could get into a testosterone-filled fight for the affections of a woman he clearly did not know. I was disappointed she didn't point that out to him and send him packing.
*And normally, I do not care when contestants choose to do this. But you don't get to do this and then weaponize the child you chose to leave behind to make people feel bad for you. This applies from bachelor shows to cooking shows. Miss them? Sure. But don't use them to make me feel sorry for you.
Speaking of bad behavior, I want to show that clip of Jay chasing Clare to every man. Yes, she went in for a kiss. But for whatever reason, whether it's her perception that he pulled back or whether she suddenly realized he wasn't Dale, she changed her mind. That "it's fine, it's fine" while trying to run away is probably the one time I really identified with Clare. That feeling of trying to get away from a guy who clearly gets the message that I'm not interested in getting close to him---and yet him clearly not caring as he continues to approach felt all too real.
Forget whatever came before. Once you get the message, back the fuck off. She wasn't just sad. Or mad. Regardless of whether or not he meant her ill intent (and I don't think he did), she was terrified.
Right. But I don't feel bad for the producers. I don't know much about Clare but it sounds like this is her MO. And yet, I have to wonder about the producers. Her absolutely shutting down to anything about the process to the point of cancelling dates and not giving out a rose on a group date is just incredible to me.