@UnicornKicksBack re: I’ve dated the self righteous before and it’s damaging when they literally think they’re Gods gift and you’re attached before you realize it.
GIRL. You don't even know (and I say that as a figure of speech bc you DO know). I recently got out of a relationship with a guy who turned out to be incredibly sanctimonious and self-righteous. One time when I was making dinner for us, he was venting and I said "I'm sorry you had such a shitty day" and he put his hand up and said "no, no, not a shitty day, a bad day" and went on to say that he tries not to swear and we should use language that is pleasing to God 😳 The F what? I'm in my mid 40s and cooking you dinner under my roof with groceries I paid for and you're going to correct my choice of language? Oh hell no. Pun intended.
He was also cheap AF and only ever wanted to get takeout instead of sitting down in a restaurant (where presumably one would leave a gratuity after the meal). I broke up with him after he pitched an enormous fit and acted like a condescending jerk through an entire meal when I suggested we get dinner from the counter and sit down at the tables for counter service instead of eating sweaty/soggy food out of containers at home. It was a beautiful summer night and we had plans to go OUT and I just wanted to be around other people enjoying the weather and didn't want to do dishes that night.
He also thought it was virtuous to wear his clothing until it was threadbare, stained and falling apart and I'd have to ask him not to wear his old fleece sweatpants in public. I could not understand why he didn't have any pride in his appearance in that regard, and when I diplomatically asked him about these different habits, his response was something like it's not important to God so it's not important to me. Look, I don't care what anyone wears as long as its neat and clean. Looking like a disheveled mess is just lazy and a deal breaker, and I make no apologies.
Thank you for the massive vent, I feel better getting that off my chest, and I'd love to hear what your experiences were!