I wish the cocktail parties were structured differently. LIke, have Matt introduce a topic (not related to childhood trauma r anything serious) and they just all chatted together. Then, MATT could take aside each woman for a little one-on-one "chat" to get to know her. None of this "Can I steal you?" crap, just everyone getting a few minutes to talk (or makeout, if that's how they want to spend the time)
The emphasis could be getting to know someone, not having the women claw each other in an effort to "win". Even last week, Chris H announced an activity with "Matt wants someone who will FIGHT for him." Really? is that an admirable quality - someone who sees "LOVE" as defeating the competition to win the prize? Take Victoria, for a prime example - does she even LIKE Matt? because it seems she is so focused on defeating her competition, that she lost sight of what the prize is. I'd like to see some of these women grapple with their feelings - are they ALL really ready to get engaged to this guy, just because that's the premise of the show? In the real world, haven't they ever met someone they liked, and NOT "fallen in love?"
I guess the producers assume that we all want to see women talk dirty, be embarrassed, compete, backstab, gossip, etc. And maybe some people do. I'd like to see one man meet a group of women, try to figure out what it means to fall in love, how to figure out your feelings in this artificial situation, and how to navigate several relationships that are building, to find what you really want.
This show could be so much more.