This resonated with me. Yes, it can be a PITA but her house flooding is also an opportunity. We built a house last year and (hadn't planned to do it) we had many decisions to make. I assume some of her house was salvageable but even if not, she was able to pick out new cabinets, light fixtures, bathroom tiles, appliances, paint, finish, etc. It really isn't that hard to do. I was in the Air Force for a gazillion years so I had many opportunities to pare my belongings before each move. If Richard's stuff in the basement was ruined by water damage, just pitch it. Nobody wants it. IF her 18,000 holiday decorations (pick your holiday), were ruined, Hannah is eternally thankful.
As an aside, I think millennials don't want or value the same stuff I do. I used to take a winter indoor cycling class and I would always set my bike up next to a young married couple. One day I mentioned something about china (I have a lot of it) and they both looked at me and said they weren't interested in ever owning china. So there you have it.
BTW, I'm sure it was a shock to have her extensive water damage but you pick up the pieces of your life and move on. Aren't her mom and sister there? Why not have fun with them redoing your house?
ETA: Her observation that John couldn't understand/didn't have the same level of responsibility, etc., ummm, I think he had a business to run (the kind with income and expenses, payroll and taxes) and I guess it wasn't going too well for him.
She is a piece of work. Clip.