They stayed quiet, but they were making all those sexual gestures -- if Scott doesn't like to be embarrassed, and it seems like he wants to keep his life (and his life/relationship with Tinsley) off camera, I totally get why she wouldn't call him at all, let alone to demand an ultimatum. If you know this about the person you're in a relationship with, and you witness what they just did to Dorinda, would you then turn around and call your boyfriend, knowing how they'll act, and that he will see it? Even after that fact and with her having ample opportunity to warn him about what happened and what would be broadcast, he would still be embarrassed.
Flip the switch -- if it was me and a bunch of guys were encouraging my boyfriend to call his me and they made sexual gestures, I would be embarrassed too -- its a lack of respect for the other person and the relationship.
Tinsley, unlike the others, does not put aside her respect for others to act up and out on the show. If the situation with Scott was already tense and she was walking on eggshells anyway, throwing in behavior that was disrespectful to the relationship wasn't going to help and she knew that and stood her ground.
Like others, I blame Dale for much of Tinsley's relationship situation. Tinsley was raised with the attitude that your entire life goal should be to be a wealthy socialite wife. Different way of thinking from a different generation. I was raised similarly -- old school Italian parents whose entire goal was to raise a daughter to be a proper country club wife. You defer to your husband -- he is the breadwinner, you are the shiny object on his arm. And if he cheats, well honey, you just look the other way and get a nice piece of jewelry out of it! You can never be too rich or too thin, etc. My aunt once told my cousin that she couldn't find a relationship because she didn't know how to market herself.
But its a different world now, and the way the Dales of the world, my parents, etc., operated and raised their kids is not how the world and relationships work today, and Tinsley is finally seeing that.
I think a lot of her struggle is because she is seeing that how she was programmed to believe she should be -- a pretty, quiet doormat who is a lady in public and his sex toy in private -- is just not how the world and relationships work anymore, and if you act like the doormat you were raised to be, you're going to get walked on (kicked, beaten, and emotionally run over).
She's been raised to believe that you do whatever you need to to get that rich man. Who cares if he's controlling (whether physically or emotionally?) You adapt yourself. Its YOUR fault if you can't keep him. He's going to be who he is, its up to you to change to make HIM happy.
But she's starting to see that isn't the case and the conflicting mentalities are wearing her out.
That's why the best thing she can do is stay the fuck away from Dale and her antiquated ideas of relationships. Tinsley could be a dynamo power force 100% on her own. And once she truly embraced that instead of assuming she has to adjust who she is to suit a man, she would likely attract a really great guy.
Love or hate Bethenny, (I'm in the love her category), she was very kind to Tinsley once she saw how tormented she was by trying to force the Scott relationship. Bethenny gave her some good advice about being her own person and standing up for herself, and that relationships need to be about what both people want and need, not solely what the man wants or needs -- basically the opposite of what Dale has been drilling into Tinsley since birth. Bethenny's message is what Tinsley needs to be hearing, not Dale's antiquated nonsense.