S07.E04: SYSTEM OVERLOAD 2017.12.11

[SPLAIN]

4 hours ago, snarts said:

Yes.  The way he said it to me came across like Maci has other children to worry about, so why is she so focused on Bentley.

We really have no idea how much Maci drinks.  If you knew me only through social media, you'd think I was a raging alcoholic who's always on vacation, because that's the only times I tend to post.  Jumping to the assumption that she's an alcoholic and just as bad as Ryan seems really unfair.  It feeds into the whole mom shaming movement, everything to what they feed their kids, to how tight they make the car seat straps.  It's ridiculous to me how judgy people are when it comes to moms.  Meanwhile, the men are applauded for simply showing up. 

Two words re bold: snark board.

lol@ the men comment. The only men on this show are Gary and Jo. They should be applauded.  They do more than just show up. They have come a long way from the early seasons so, yes, I will applaud them. I will applaud them loud and clear. That is what one calls growth and maturity. It shows change. It shows that even though they were both victims of abuse, they don't wallow in any self-pity.

As for the rest of the guys, not sure when anyone of them has been applauded. There is a difference between pointing out a wrong being committed against them and applauding them for undeserved behavior.

I don't know how much Maci drinks, but I will speculate and base my opinions. By the way, I do know she drank during her pregnancy. That's enough for me to be judgy against her.

Edited December 17, 2017 by SPLAIN

[snarts]

I wasn't policing peoples comments, I was stating my own opinion.  If you want to call Maci an alcoholic, go for it.  I happen to disagree.

Again, in my opinion, moms (not just those on teen mom) are held to a much higher standard than their male counterparts.  I prefer to share my snark equally :)

[Tatum]

23 minutes ago, snarts said:

I wasn't policing peoples comments, I was stating my own opinion.  If you want to call Maci an alcoholic, go for it.  I happen to disagree.

Again, in my opinion, moms (not just those on teen mom) are held to a much higher standard than their male counterparts.  I prefer to share my snark equally :)

I get what's you're saying. I really do. And I happen to agree with you, in general. Women are held to a different standard than men in *everything*, including parenting, and it's very frustrating.  But in this specific case, I don't think that's true. Maci is the one who chooses to take selfies of herself holding up beer cans. Maci drank so much at a public event while pregnant that her hangover treatment was covered by multiple teen mom fan sites. Maci allows herself to be filmed while drinking in almost every scene. You are correct that none of us can diagnose Maci as an alcoholic but she has given the public plenty of reason to wonder.  

[mamadrama]

25 minutes ago, SPLAIN said:

My opinions are on the show. It shouldn't be about anyone else.

Hey, I got what you were saying! I love your snark and have always thought that it was spread pretty evenly amongst the "mothers" (in parentheses because, you know) and "fathers."

Judging these fools and making fun of them is just, well, FUN! I mean, of course in real life (and if we knew them) we'd be more lenient, mostly because we'd get a fuller picture. But coming here to joke around about what we're seeing on our television screens, man, that's kind of the highlight of my day. 

[GreatKazu]

29 minutes ago, mamadrama said:

Hey, I got what you were saying! I love your snark and have always thought that it was spread pretty evenly amongst the "mothers" (in parentheses because, you know) and "fathers."

Judging these fools and making fun of them is just, well, FUN! I mean, of course in real life (and if we knew them) we'd be more lenient, mostly because we'd get a fuller picture. But coming here to joke around about what we're seeing on our television screens, man, that's kind of the highlight of my day. 

We are here to entertain one another! CHEERS! Your posts are so on point @mamadrama. 

@Tatum and @SPLAIN  agree. 

Maci has never come out and even said, "Sure I had a few beers here and there while pregnant" which wouldn't be an issue as plenty of females have had alcoholic drinks during pregnancies. I wouldn't bat an eye at that being the case. It is the hard-core drinking, the shots, getting so drunk and hung-over, and then slamming the idea that she ever drank at all during her pregnancy.  Even Taylor was quoted as saying "No one ever started a party with milk." [paraphrasing]  At least he came out and admitted that yes, they like their alcohol beverages. They are adults. They have that right. Over-indulging and putting your fetus in harm's way (and smoking no doubt) will get you some major shade thrown at you. 

Edited December 17, 2017 by GreatKazu

[GreatKazu]

On ‎12‎/‎14‎/‎2017 at 11:44 AM, jumper sage said:

So the people who think they are the parents of the year consist of a drug addict, his fiance who gave up custody and drug addicts parents who are now going crazy.  When Ryan's dad called Maci the C word it enraged me.  I think that is the worst thing you can call a woman.

[shakes head and walks away]

He never called her the C word. He called out Taylor as a cocksucker. I just watched the scene again and it was never said by Larry. 

[Tatum]

I just responded to you in the other thread, but I think Larry calls Taylor a cocksucker in a previous episode, not the episode in this thread. So, if he did call Maci the C word, it was not in the same instance that he called Taylor a CS. But I never actually saw  a scene where Larry called Maci that.

[GreatKazu]

44 minutes ago, Tatum said:

I just responded to you in the other thread, but I think Larry calls Taylor a cocksucker in a previous episode, not the episode in this thread. So, if he did call Maci the C word, it was not in the same instance that he called Taylor a CS. But I never actually saw  a scene where Larry called Maci that.

Yes, I checked both episodes.

I think the poster misheard.

[MyPeopleAreNordic]

On December 14, 2017 at 2:23 PM, WhosThatGirl said:

I never liked Butch. He said something funny sometimes but I can’t forget the way he talked to Catelynn when they fought and the things that he said.

Butch is an awful, terrible human being, but damn if he isn't trash reality TV gold. He's one of those people who was just meant for trashy reality TV. I don't like him as a person, but I think his appearances are my favorite parts of C&T's boring segments. At least he's an entertaining addict-felon rather than a boring addict-felon when compared to some people in the franchise. 

He's an awful person. But he's a great trashtastic reality TV side character.

Edited December 19, 2017 by MyPeopleAreNordic

[teapot]

16 minutes ago, MyPeopleAreNordic said:

Butch is an awful, terrible human being, but damn if he isn't trash reality TV gold. He's one of those people who was just meant for trashy reality TV. I don't like him as a person, but I think his appearances are my favorite parts of C&T's boring segments. At least he's an entertaining addict-felon rather than a boring addict-felon when compared to some people in the franchise. 

He's an awful person. But he's a great trashtastic reality TV side character.

totally agreed.  I can't quit him, or Kailyn's mom Suzi!  *hangs head in shame*

[StayingAfterSunday]

22 hours ago, MyPeopleAreNordic said:

Butch is an awful, terrible human being, but damn if he isn't trash reality TV gold. He's one of those people who was just meant for trashy reality TV. I don't like him as a person, but I think his appearances are my favorite parts of C&T's boring segments. At least he's an entertaining addict-felon rather than a boring addict-felon when compared to some people in the franchise. 

He's an awful person. But he's a great trashtastic reality TV side character.

Butch is pitiful, but I'm guilty in that I feel sorry for him after seeing his visit with the shrink (Tyler was there, too) when he told about his childhood.  

Since TM is considered Reality TV I'd rather see ten more of Butch than one impeccable Macy.

[AmyFarrahFowler]

On 12/20/2017 at 0:19 PM, StayingAfterSunday said:

Butch is pitiful, but I'm guilty in that I feel sorry for him after seeing his visit with the shrink (Tyler was there, too) when he told about his childhood.  

Since TM is considered Reality TV I'd rather see ten more of Butch than one impeccable Macy.

I lost any pity for Butch when he marched himself over to meet Carly after B&T specifically asked him not to. He's an adult long past childhood. It's time he moved past (notice I didn't say he can get over it) blaming all of his shortcomings and poor decisions on a bad childhood. Nobody cares, Butch. Grow the hell up.

[FozzyBear]

On 12/11/2017 at 8:41 PM, snarts said:

Per Ryan's call with the attorney, they've never been to court and he has no set visitation with Bentley. Maci has 100% legal & physical custody, what more could she have done to protect Bentley? 

I'm sorry, but i have a hard time thinking Maci should've known the extent of Ryan's drug issues when his own family & girlfriend allowed him to be filmed on a tv show. Heck, i gasped when he said heroin. Now she's doing what she can to further protect Bentley and she's still getting flack?

My personal theory is that Maci knew there was a problem (for how long and how serious she thought it was, I can’t say), but also thought that Jen and Larry were taking care of Bentley during Ryan’s parenting time. Not a completely unreasonable assumption given Ryan’s history of being Big Brother Daddy. So I basically think that Maci thought Jen mostly took care of Bentley while Ryan stopped by every now and then to play water guns for a few minutes and Jen kept an eye on making sure Ryan was sober if he was ever alone with Bentley. Not a great plan, but Maci’s not the best with good plans and has a bit of a party girl steak so maybe she really did think Ryan’s use was weekend recreational. I think the impaired driving did take her by surprise and hence the no Bentley time without Maci being there rule going on now. I’m not sure she ever really trusted Ryan, but she did trust Larry and Jen and now I think that’s gone too. 

[FozzyBear]

On 12/12/2017 at 7:38 PM, Kb60 said:

PAWS (post acute withdrawal syndrome) occurs after detoxing from opiates. It includes crippling depression and pain and a feeling of wanting to crawl out of your skin. It can last for months, and in my case, years.

Years? Damn, I’m sorry. The only think I’ve ever detoxted from was cigarettes and I don’t think there was any PAWS stuff involved. I used a e-cigarette to get me over the hump of having a drink with people who are smoking. After a few months that seemed to do the trick and now it doesn’t really bug me or at least not enough to give in. I’m not sure I could have been strong enough to endure years of withdrawal. Good for you. That’s something.

It makes me even less optimistic about Ryan. That all sounds like very hard work to learn to manage and Ryan’s not exactly well aquatinted with hard work.

Edited December 31, 2017 by FozzyBear

[FozzyBear]

On 12/14/2017 at 0:03 PM, Mr. Minor said:

I remember when Butch was a fan favorite until everyone figured out that he is a total fucking loser.

I never liked Butch (User of Other People just radiates off of him), but I started hating him in earnest when he got on his high horse about Farrah doing porn. Excuse me?!? When was the last time you had income you could legally put on a tax form? Go have several seats.

[SPLAIN]

2 hours ago, FozzyBear said:

I never liked Butch (User of Other People just radiates off of him), but I started hating him in earnest when he got on his high horse about Farrah doing porn. Excuse me?!? When was the last time you had income you could legally put on a tax form? Go have several seats.

His disdain for Farrah doing porn rubbed off on Catelynn and Tyler.

As if Butch and Tyler didn't jack off to watching Farrah do her job.