Baylen Out Loud all episodes

[patty1h]

Like I said before, this show is not good for my nitpick tendencies.  Watching Baylen boohoo about Colin being missing during the couch delivery did not evoke sympathy, it made me roll my eyes.   IMO the whole argument  felt like a producers desperate attempt to create some drama in a pretty lackluster show...  get those kids fighting right after they move in - trouble in paradise!   Also, I didn't agree with that friend (or was it her sister?) telling Baylen that she needs to make sure that Colin knows he did wrong by not being available.  That was aggressive. 

Then watching her dadda come and hug his widdle princess  like she's a two year old with a booboo.   He's not helping her mature at all.  Yeesh.

Edited February 25 by patty1h

[Salacious Kitty]

I wonder when the babying of Baylen began? After her diagnosis, or has it always been that way? Her parents otherwise seem to be pretty hands off, so I tend to think this behavior began when she was diagnosed. 

[BAForever]

Show does remind me a bit of Jazz in that both parents supported their kids (Jazz and Baylen) so much that the other sibs in the family might have been affected adversely in terms of needed parent attention. 

[overtherainbow]

Aww, I think the decor is cute. It's a little tacky and a bit much but not so different to how I would want to decorate my dorm/apartment at 21. I don't think it matters to Colin as long as he has his game area. But boy, their apartment is such a dream. Talk about gorgeous. Great location, too. No normal 20 something that isn't a social media sensation and a show could afford. 

I agree that the parents don't seem easily satisfied. The sister too, for that matter. I think Colin is a pretty sweet guy and seems patient enough. I think at a certain point the protectiveness becomes too much. The sister needs to chill a little. 

[patty1h]

I realize I've been hard on the parents about their interactions with Baylen, and after some thinking, I wondered... maybe something pretty devastating happened to her that puts them so on edge all the time.  Speculation:  She got badly hurt when she was younger because of TS, maybe ended up in the hospital, a parents worst nightmare.  That could've put them on hyper alert to her actions and feelings.   

Or they could just be velcro parents.

[Salacious Kitty]

She wasn't diagnosed until she was 18. 

[Jst2Wld]

19 hours ago, Salacious Kitty said:

She wasn't diagnosed until she was 18. 

I wonder what behavior/symptoms she was showing and what exactly did her doctors/parents think was going on with her? Maybe this was mentioned in one of the episodes but I haven't seen all (3?) of them.

[SilverLake0315]

34 minutes ago, Jst2Wld said:

Maybe this was mentioned in one of the episodes but I haven't seen all (3?) of them.

This week was the 7th episode

[Salacious Kitty]

38 minutes ago, Jst2Wld said:

I wonder what behavior/symptoms she was showing and what exactly did her doctors/parents think was going on with her? Maybe this was mentioned in one of the episodes but I haven't seen all (3?) of them.

They probably had a lot of exposition in the first episode, which I missed. I assume all that was covered then  I will have to wait until they do a marathon, I guess. All I know for sure is her diagnosis was late (later than most? I don't know).

[auntjess]

So they're moving into what must be a very expensive apartment, and I guess they decided the huge expanses of glass aren't a deal breaker  even though she freaks out at  storms.
What do Colin and Baylen do to be able to afford this apartment?  

 

 

 

[Salacious Kitty]

Baylen just posted an Insta story about TS. It said symptoms generally appear between ages 5-7. Maybe she was some anomaly? Or her parents just thought she was quirky? I guess I have to watch that first episode. 🤷

[SunnyBeBe]

I may watch the episode about her history again.  We have Primetime On Demand on TLC, so I think it’s available.
 

 I suspect the suspicion of her symptoms and the age she suffered substantially, was suspect.  That’s why diagnosis was difficult.  Eventually, she ended up at the Mayo Clinic.  At least that’s what I have read.  I have no reason to doubt it.  I doubt they would publicly say she she was diagnosed by Mayo if she wasn’t.  
 

When they were at the Tourette’s Convention, were there any other adults who had the degree of vocal tics that Baylen did?  It is a neurological condition, but I still wonder how the tics would go if they brought her no attention.

 And, as far as her OCD and Anxiety…..what is she doing to address them.  Those things are very debilitating too.  Working on those issues would be a priority if I were to be her caregiver.  

Edited February 28 by SunnyBeBe

[Shrek]

On 2/27/2025 at 11:48 AM, auntjess said:

So they're moving into what must be a very expensive apartment, and I guess they decided the huge expanses of glass aren't a deal breaker  even though she freaks out at  storms.
What do Colin and Baylen do to be able to afford this apartment?  

 

 

 

She just does her social media, but he is (I think) in the air force or one of the other services. 

[Ottis]

Big black mark for Colin. Not on his effort to make his girlfriend laugh on her birthday, but on the way he reacted to her reaction. Dude, man up. You screwed up. It isn't about what *you* thought you were trying to do. You disappeared, and then got mad when your girlfriend, who just moved in with you, was upset. You should have immediately apologized.

Not a good sign. And now he wants to propose right on the heels of moving in? Colin seems to be caught up in his own idea of relationship bliss, and not their combined welfare.

I love Braylon's sister. She has a good head on her shoulders.

I don't understand how their lives work, if Colin is awaiting basically a transfer and yet they rented an apartment and bought a lot of stuff for it.

[kathyk2]

1 hour ago, Ottis said:

Big black mark for Colin. Not on his effort to make his girlfriend laugh on her birthday, but on the way he reacted to her reaction. Dude, man up. You screwed up. It isn't about what *you* thought you were trying to do. You disappeared, and then got mad when your girlfriend, who just moved in with you, was upset. You should have immediately apologized.

Not a good sign. And now he wants to propose right on the heels of moving in? Colin seems to be caught up in his own idea of relationship bliss, and not their combined welfare.

I love Braylon's sister. She has a good head on her shoulders.

I don't understand how their lives work, if Colin is awaiting basically a transfer and yet they rented an apartment and bought a lot of stuff for it.

Exactly moving is stressful even if you aren't disabled. Baylen would have been raked over the coals if she had done the same thing. I think TLC is paying for the apartment so they can film there.

[Madding crowd]

Colin has been in the Air Force for years, he knows how to take care of himself without Baylen’s help. Most adults don’t expect their partner to spend every minute with them, even on their birthday. Colin missed a couch delivery while trying to do something funny to make Baylen laugh and perhaps be less stressed. He didn’t miss the birth of their child or an important hospital appointment. I don’t know why anyone would rake Baylen over the coals if she left Colin to handle a couch delivery; he will probably handle most things like that.

[Ottis]

21 minutes ago, Madding crowd said:

Colin has been in the Air Force for years, he knows how to take care of himself without Baylen’s help.

Not sure what this has to do with anything? Colin clearly "took care of himself" by disappearing to create his joke, I guess.

21 minutes ago, Madding crowd said:

Most adults don’t expect their partner to spend every minute with them, even on their birthday.

The whole point of the show is that Baylen isn't "most adults." And she didn't expect Colin there every minute, just for the couch delivery and then to head to the party.

21 minutes ago, Madding crowd said:

Colin missed a couch delivery while trying to do something funny to make Baylen laugh and perhaps be less stressed. He didn’t miss the birth of their child or an important hospital appointment.

As the show has emphasized in every episode, Baylen moving out on her own, away from the people who have cared for her her whole life, into a new location and apartment, is a giant step for her. Leaving her alone for a couch delivery is not the point. The point is that while she is working hard to deal with all of those changes, on her birthday, with a party planned that will introduce her and his parents, Colin disappeared. And the reason he disappeared wasn't some kind of military training issue (which I assumed), it was a lame joke. It's the kind of decision a teen boy makes, getting caught up in "this will be sooo great!" while ignoring the needs of others.

But as I noted before, OK, bad judgment. It happens. But the way Colin reacted when Baylen was upset, and then later tells Sami that he couldn't have reacted any better ... that's immature and shows he isn't figuring this out.

And THEN he wants to marry her. He needs to grow up fast.

Edited Tuesday at 12:19 AM by Ottis

[Madding crowd]

The reason I brought up Colin taking care of himself for years is you said if Baylen had left him alone to take care of a couch delivery she would be raked over the coals and I’m quite sure Colin wouldn’t care as he probably does a lot of things without her.

Baylen is 22 years old and needs to be able to handle things alone sometimes. Colin works full time and cannot be with her every second. If she cannot be alone she needs a caregiver or her parents need a power of attorney so they can force her to live with them. Colin does a lot for her but will not be able to be with her 24 hours a day . 

[kathyk2]

3 minutes ago, Madding crowd said:

The reason I brought up Colin taking care of himself for years is you said if Baylen had left him alone to take care of a couch delivery she would be raked over the coals and I’m quite sure Colin wouldn’t care as he probably does a lot of things without her.

Baylen is 22 years old and needs to be able to handle things alone sometimes. Colin works full time and cannot be with her every second. If she cannot be alone she needs a caregiver or her parents need a power of attorney so they can force her to live with them. Colin does a lot for her but will not be able to be with her 24 hours a day . 

Disability isn't a choice between complete independence or complete dependence. I've been disabled since birth and moving out of out my parent's home was stressful. If Baylen moves again she'll me more prepared.

[Madding crowd]

I understand, I’m disabled myself. Baylen will learn as she goes along. I follow her on Instagram and she seems to be doing fine. I don’t agree Colin is bad for her though, they love each other and will help each other. 

[jcbrown]

That was some patriarchal infantilizing bullshit. I despise the antiquated custom of asking permission to marry a woman. It strikes me as ridiculous that the whole family has to orchestrate the "perfect proposal." It was like watching people plan a kid's party. The codependence of Baylen and her parents is simply breathtaking. Why didn't they let her take the lead at her own doctor's appointment?  She is used to being treated like a child so that is how she behaves.

[xls]

The boy sitting his ass on the kitchen counter just NO!

NASTY! 

Don't know if it was a brother or boyfriend of the sister because I could not focus on the conversation. 

Edited Tuesday at 05:44 PM by xls

[Salacious Kitty]

1 hour ago, jcbrown said:

That was some patriarchal infantilizing bullshit. I despise the antiquated custom of asking permission to marry a woman. It strikes me as ridiculous that the whole family has to orchestrate the "perfect proposal." It was like watching people plan a kid's party. The codependence of Baylen and her parents is simply breathtaking. Why didn't they let her take the lead at her own doctor's appointment?  She is used to being treated like a child so that is how she behaves.

I bet that Colin wants his proposal to be social media perfect, like those of his friends (probably). Dad telling him to keep it simple was actually good advice. But yeah, going to Dad at all, yuck. 

[Ottis]

18 hours ago, Madding crowd said:

The reason I brought up Colin taking care of himself for years is you said if Baylen had left him alone to take care of a couch delivery she would be raked over the coals

I didn't say this, maybe another poster did?

18 hours ago, Madding crowd said:

Baylen is 22 years old and needs to be able to handle things alone sometimes. Colin works full time and cannot be with her every second. If she cannot be alone she needs a caregiver or her parents need a power of attorney so they can force her to live with them. Colin does a lot for her but will not be able to be with her 24 hours a day .

You are making the same point again, and also, this is hyperbole, Baylen never said she needed someone 24/7. It was a specific need (couch delivery, in new apartment when Baylen has moved out of her home for the first time in her life)  on a specific, special day (her birthday, where her and his parents were to meet for the first time). Everyone, including Colin, knew Baylen would be extra stressed (heck, pretty much anyone would in her situation). Colin had to choose ... be there for my gf who I know will be stressed out and therefore will likely need additional support? Or go play dress up for a joke? Easy choice, IMO, and he made the wrong one.

2 hours ago, jcbrown said:

That was some patriarchal infantilizing bullshit. I despise the antiquated custom of asking permission to marry a woman.

Enh, I view that the same way as I view Colin's parents suddenly asking Colin and Baylen to read scripture. Some people do things differently and while I might not do that, it's not a big deal. It's actual a cagey move by Colin, because he can find out, before he proposes, where Baylen's parents stand. I don't think that's why he did it, though. He was just being traditional, as he was brought up.

2 hours ago, jcbrown said:

It strikes me as ridiculous that the whole family has to orchestrate the "perfect proposal." It was like watching people plan a kid's party.

It's a TV show. Every "event" on these shows is a big production, to manufacture drama. I don't know whether anyone involved actually wanted it to happen, or to be a production, but they have to make good TV.

2 hours ago, jcbrown said:

The codependence of Baylen and her parents is simply breathtaking. Why didn't they let her take the lead at her own doctor's appointment?  She is used to being treated like a child so that is how she behaves.

There is some truth to this. I do think they should give her more room to lead. But they are all adjusting to this new stage of her life, and honestly, with her increased stress causing more tics, they all probably think having the parents ask questions is just more efficient. She's really not that old, IMO, and asking doctors questions can be tough for anyone.

 

[overtherainbow]

6 hours ago, Salacious Kitty said:

I bet that Colin wants his proposal to be social media perfect, like those of his friends (probably). Dad telling him to keep it simple was actually good advice. But yeah, going to Dad at all, yuck. 

 I cringed when he started talking about how he wants him to give a little speech. Just make it natural dude! It sounds like he wants it to be very orchestrated and very made for TV. Honestly, good on the dad for making the point that it should be his (Colin's) moment with her and he has his own memories with her. I get her dad is huge in her life but it's not the dad who's the one proposing. I think there is genuine love and I'm glad they have each other but I can't help but question if this whole proposal was (probably) rushed because they were filming a TV show. 

[kathyk2]

I thought there was nothing wrong with the way Julie acted at the doctor's office. Baylen was having a tic attack and couldn't speak. Baylen asked the doctor questions when she recovered. I was glad to see the doctor recommend medication rather than surgery for her. Recovering from an operation can be difficult and Baylen has had enough stress this year.

[Salacious Kitty]

I thought the recommendation to treat the OCD & ADHD first was good. That would probably relieve some stress for Baylen, and reduce the severity of the tics. 

[swankie]

I'm sorry but I can't stand hearing Colin speak.  Sometimes he sounds like he's talking under water. It just bugs me. 😖

[SunnyBeBe]

I have a couple of opinions on the proposal.  First, regarding any couple, I detest public marriage proposals. Always a pet peeve of mine. Just my personal taste. To me that’s private and a special time for the  two.  Doing it at a ballgame, middle of restaurant, at large gathering screams insecurity.  Anyway, others feel differently.  And, if there is money involved, I get how that may be a motivation to bring on the drama.  
 

Since I realize the realty (wink, wink) show needs content, I understand a proposal is good content.  But, snark is good, no?  Lol So, I won’t judge the decision too harshly.  I would be embarrassed of a grown man asking a father of a grown woman about proposing.  Just yuck.  

 

 

[patty1h]

11 hours ago, SunnyBeBe said:

 I would be embarrassed of a grown man asking a father of a grown woman about proposing.  Just yuck.  

That is an outdated move to ask for a woman's hand from her dad, but it could that be Colin's religious upbringing - maybe he has that old school belief that a girl belongs to her father until she is married and he is following "tradition".  

[BAForever]

11 minutes ago, patty1h said:

That is an outdated move to ask for a woman's hand from her dad, but it could that be Colin's religious upbringing - maybe he has that old school belief that a girl belongs to her father until she is married and he is following tradition.

If people choose this custom, it's their choice, I much prefer the idea of asking for a blessing from future in-laws.