Chit-Chat: What's On Your Mind Today?

[shapeshifter]

7 minutes ago, Dimity said:

My son and and his wife took their daughter to see Wicked today.  She sobbed all the way home because  "that is the saddest movie EVER".  And now we are waiting for the penny to drop when she realizes that the Wicked Witch who died in the Wizard of Oz (which she has seen several times) is Elphaba!  Oh dear!

How old is she?

[ginger90]

2 hours ago, oliviabenson said:

new med is making me nauseous plus the antibiotics made it a crappy birthday

A belated happy birthday to you.

A side effect of taking antibiotics can include nausea. 

[tearknee]

... a politician or entertainer or athlete or other public figure everyone is talking about has the exact same name as another long-ago celebrity... and no one but you have acknowledged that or has even heard of the older person.

"Caitlin Clarke is a great basketball player!"

"The actress?  Didn't she die in 2004?" 

"What's your favorite Harrison Ford movie?"

"That one he did in 1928 with Franklin Pangborn."

"Why did Kevin McCarthy get ousted as Speaker of the House?"

"Maybe they found out he was really a seed pod double."

[Anela]

3 hours ago, oliviabenson said:

new med is making me nauseous plus the antibiotics made it a crappy birthday. I couldn't drink and wasn't even hungry. only a few people remembered it's my birthday.

I will no longer wish anyone a happy birthday either. I get it I'm not important so be it. I will give as much as I receive from people.

Happy belated. 💙

 

 

The thread was acting like the "submit" button wasn't working, so it posted three times. 

Edited December 28, 2024 by Anela

[Anduin]

6 hours ago, Dimity said:

Does anyone else still use FB?  Lately I've noticed in their "reels" a disturbing number that are starting of showing very bullying behavior and also showing parents who appear to be about to use corporal punishment on their children - most of these seem like they originate in countries like India or China.  Anyway I refuse to click on the reels under any circumstances but especially with these.  Any idea what the hell these are all about?

I don't click on the random vids FB wants to show me, just scroll on past. Are you using a phone and can't stop them playing?

 

Edited December 28, 2024 by Anduin

[Yeah No]

So it happened, just as I thought it would. My SIL posted a photo of me and my husband on her Facebook page that if I could I'd never let anyone see. We were sitting on her huge leather couch that's made for a much bigger person and swallows me up. I look like a cross between Jabba the Hutt and the Michelin Tire man. She took better photos of us on Christmas that she sent me earlier, but of course she posted the worst one! And then I got notified of friends of mine liking it because I was tagged in it and they get notified when I'm tagged in a photo. I was mortified! It's one thing if her friends see it but another if mine do! I'm going to have to fix that!

[tearknee]

1 hour ago, Yeah No said:

So it happened, just as I thought it would. My SIL posted a photo of me and my husband on her Facebook page that if I could I'd never let anyone see. We were sitting on her huge leather couch that's made for a much bigger person and swallows me up. I look like a cross between Jabba the Hutt and the Michelin Tire man. She took better photos of us on Christmas that she sent me earlier, but of course she posted the worst one! And then I got notified of friends of mine liking it because I was tagged in it and they get notified when I'm tagged in a photo. I was mortified! It's one thing if her friends see it but another if mine do! I'm going to have to fix that!

If you want i can turn on my pan-dimensional telegraph machine and ask an old friend to send their spirit guide to visit your S-I-L and explain why it was wrong?

Edited December 28, 2024 by tearknee

[tearknee]

5 hours ago, Yeah No said:

So it happened, just as I thought it would. My SIL posted a photo of me and my husband on her Facebook page that if I could I'd never let anyone see. We were sitting on her huge leather couch that's made for a much bigger person and swallows me up. I look like a cross between Jabba the Hutt and the Michelin Tire man. She took better photos of us on Christmas that she sent me earlier, but of course she posted the worst one! And then I got notified of friends of mine liking it because I was tagged in it and they get notified when I'm tagged in a photo. I was mortified! It's one thing if her friends see it but another if mine do! I'm going to have to fix that!

There are some others i could contact as their employer is often called for when all else seems lost?

[oliviabenson]

thanks for the birthday wishes!

[shapeshifter]

My oldest daughter came to visit (from Oregon to Illinois) at the time of my 60th birthday and planned a surprise party for me at my place of work.
I was inwardly horrified, but tried not to show it. 
Most people probably assumed I was younger.
3 years later I was one of several women of my age who were offered early retirement deals we could not refuse. 

When I turned 70, I explicitly said I did Not want a birthday party. 
Now I wish I had because at 70, it would have made it clear to the guests (extended family in-laws of my youngest daughter) that I really am that old, and that's why I can't join in on all the activities.

[annzeepark914]

On 12/27/2024 at 7:12 PM, oliviabenson said:

new med is making me nauseous plus the antibiotics made it a crappy birthday. I couldn't drink and wasn't even hungry. only a few people remembered it's my birthday.

I will no longer wish anyone a happy birthday either. I get it I'm not important so be it. I will give as much as I receive from people.

🌷Happy Birthday! I hope you'll go out and buy yourself something special (as soon as you feel better). IBgard is good to have on hand for nausea (it was recommended to me by my gastro MD & it works).

[Yeah No]

4 hours ago, shapeshifter said:

My oldest daughter came to visit (from Oregon to Illinois) at the time of my 60th birthday and planned a surprise party for me at my place of work.
I was inwardly horrified, but tried not to show it. 
Most people probably assumed I was younger.
3 years later I was one of several women of my age who were offered early retirement deals we could not refuse. 

When I turned 70, I explicitly said I did Not want a birthday party. 
Now I wish I had because at 70, it would have made it clear to the guests (extended family in-laws of my youngest daughter) that I really am that old, and that's why I can't join in on all the activities.

I've finally gotten to the age where I feel like looking younger works against me because people just naturally assume that I'm up to doing things a younger person can do and although I can fake it pretty well it catches up to me at times (like right now).

I remember when my 2nd to last company was offering those early retirement packages that were too good to refuse. I was just a few years too young to take that offer. And unfortunately it didn't open up any opportunities for advancement for me either as many of those empty admin. positions were either eliminated or consolidated into other positions. And many of the people with the best jobs decided not to retire if you can believe that. Gotta love it.

[tearknee]

Anyone remember children-oriented proper calendars? 

 

[shapeshifter]

19 minutes ago, tearknee said:

Anyone remember children-oriented proper calendars? 

 

“For Scent-imental Reasons” is surprisingly progressive in the end: wikipedia.org/wiki/For_Scent-imental_Reasons#Plot

 

5 hours ago, Yeah No said:

remember when my 2nd to last company was offering those early retirement packages that were too good to refuse

Yeah. “Too good to be true” in reality. 

[tearknee]

The Carrie remake film adaption - the Black Prom massacre at the end - what i like about this adaption is that it gives Carrie the control over her powers that she has in Stephen King's book. As a survivor of bullying in real life, it's cathartic to see bullies punished by Carrie in control and kicking tail.

 

 

Edited December 29, 2024 by tearknee

[tearknee]

People today "remember" the 1950s and '60s as a time of growing prosperity. But that new wealth never came to many. 

*Visibly saddened*

Children whose parents could only afford to serve their cornflakes with water. 

A dairy farmer who always sent a pail of fresh milk every morning to a neighboring family living in such poverty. 

And the mothers always kept the coal inside the kitchen, because it would get taken and they'd never hang the washing outside, because it would get taken.
 

Edited December 29, 2024 by tearknee

[lookeyloo]

Well, folks, I am turning 81 in a few days.  You "young whippersnappers" at 70 make me nostalgic for those days.  I am still in pretty good shape because I work at it, and feel younger inside, but, the mirror doesn't lie.  I will never look like 70 again.  All of a sudden things happened.  Yet, inside I don't feel it.  I think sometimes that my days are numbered, because honestly, 81 is sobering.  People say "Oh you don't look that old" and compared to some women I know that is true, but, I am indeed "that old".  Enjoy your "youth" while you can and I am glad to be this old, but, I don't really like the changes that can't be helped, like wrinkles.  I work at walking upright, and such, and do take 2 weight bearing classes a week but it is not the same as 10 years ago.  The alternatives are retiring to a recliner which I don't have, and dying which are not on my "to do" list.  

[tearknee]

Given the shit i have been put through in RL (a woman than was no "mom" and later a spiral of booze, drugs and druggie so-called 'friends, and degrading things i agreed to do or let guys do to me just to have a pretence that someone cared about me and would say "I love you"  --  for small ticks of the clock of life -- i wish my last decade of life was here several times over *a still and somber sadness*. 

[emma675]

Happy early birthday, @lookeyloo! If I make it to 81, I hope to be as sharp mentally and in as good shape physically as you are. 

[Yeah No]

1 hour ago, lookeyloo said:

Well, folks, I am turning 81 in a few days.  You "young whippersnappers" at 70 make me nostalgic for those days.  I am still in pretty good shape because I work at it, and feel younger inside, but, the mirror doesn't lie.  I will never look like 70 again.  All of a sudden things happened.  Yet, inside I don't feel it.  I think sometimes that my days are numbered, because honestly, 81 is sobering.  People say "Oh you don't look that old" and compared to some women I know that is true, but, I am indeed "that old".  Enjoy your "youth" while you can and I am glad to be this old, but, I don't really like the changes that can't be helped, like wrinkles.  I work at walking upright, and such, and do take 2 weight bearing classes a week but it is not the same as 10 years ago.  The alternatives are retiring to a recliner which I don't have, and dying which are not on my "to do" list.  

Thank you and I am sure that with your mental acuity and not feeling your age (at least in your head) you have better odds of making it beyond 90 than most people.

I learned a big lesson from my father's example. He refused to give in to getting old both physically and in his overall outlook. Until the very end he got out almost every day even if it was a struggle. He kept active socially even after most of his friends passed away, even if that meant chatting up acquaintances at his local pub and diner (they all loved him BTW). I believe that his sunny, positive attitude had everything to do with his longevity. He had his medical issues like anyone but he refused to give in to them. I know people younger than me (66) that have already given in and it's not a pretty sight. If not for Covid (which he got very early on in 2020) I am sure my father would have made it years past 92. Gather ye rosebuds!

Speaking of that, I have to get out of here, lol. See you later! 😉

[lookeyloo]

10 minutes ago, Yeah No said:

Thank you and I am sure that with your mental acuity and not feeling your age (at least in your head) you have better odds of making it beyond 90 than most people.

I learned a big lesson from my father's example. He refused to give in to getting old both physically and in his overall outlook. Until the very end he got out almost every day even if it was a struggle. He kept active socially even after most of his friends passed away, even if that meant chatting up acquaintances at his local pub and diner (they all loved him BTW). I believe that his sunny, positive attitude had everything to do with his longevity. He had his medical issues like anyone but he refused to give in to them. I know people younger than me (66) that have already given in and it's not a pretty sight. If not for Covid (which he got very early on in 2020) I am sure my father would have made it years past 92. Gather ye rosebuds!

Speaking of that, I have to get out of here, lol. See you later! 😉

Totally agree with your father's example.  I leave the house just about every day even just to go to a grocery store for a few items.  I wear hearing aids and glasses and am befuddled by people who don't/won't.  It limits those kinds of interactions which keeps us connected.  I tell the grands to try new things, so of course I have to take my own advice.  I am slower than they are, but, they are seeing me as an example too.  

 

45 minutes ago, emma675 said:

Happy early birthday, @lookeyloo! If I make it to 81, I hope to be as sharp mentally and in as good shape physically as you are. 

thanks!  The young'uns don't believe all this will happen to them.  It creeps up.  I wish I there was sunscreen when I was young.  I keep telling the granddaughter to use it but she doesn't believe she will turn into me one day.  I didn't either think this is how it would be.  But, oh well, onward.

[shapeshifter]

2 hours ago, lookeyloo said:

Well, folks, I am turning 81 in a few days.  You "young whippersnappers" at 70 make me nostalgic for those days.  I am still in pretty good shape because I work at it, and feel younger inside, but, the mirror doesn't lie.  I will never look like 70 again.  All of a sudden things happened.  Yet, inside I don't feel it.  I think sometimes that my days are numbered, because honestly, 81 is sobering.  People say "Oh you don't look that old" and compared to some women I know that is true, but, I am indeed "that old".  Enjoy your "youth" while you can and I am glad to be this old, but, I don't really like the changes that can't be helped, like wrinkles.  I work at walking upright, and such, and do take 2 weight bearing classes a week but it is not the same as 10 years ago.  The alternatives are retiring to a recliner which I don't have, and dying which are not on my "to do" list.  

Happy birthday, @lookeyloo!

Once when I was in my 50s, my 80-ish neighbor asked if I'd like to join her and a couple of her friends for iced tea in the shade. It was a very warm day and one of the 80-somethings wore a sleeveless shirt which showed the fine wrinkles on the inside of her upper arm. Maybe it was partly because she did not feel the need to hide the wrinkles, but I still recall thinking they made a delicate pattern that implied her skin was still soft. 
In the years since, I try to remind myself of the acceptance I had for her wrinkles, and offer myself the same.

"2 weight bearing classes a week" sounds like something I should look into.

1 hour ago, lookeyloo said:

I wear hearing aids and glasses and am befuddled by people who don't/won't.  It limits those kinds of interactions which keeps us connected.  

Yes.
We all have unique bodies with unique genes and unique histories of damage, but still, trying to keep moving and getting out and conversing just make life better, IMO, at any age. 
At 71 I can no longer walk as far or fast as I did just a couple of years ago, which is a bit depressing, but when I do go out for shorter (20-30 min.), slower walks, it's actually as mentally uplifting as those longer, faster walks were.

My 92-year-old uncle is very sad that he can't walk unassisted anymore, but he still speaks well and he laughs at my jokes when we talk on the phone.

Edited December 29, 2024 by shapeshifter

[Mindthinkr]

4 hours ago, lookeyloo said:

Well, folks, I am turning 81 in a few days

Happy Birthday early 

You are correct about still staying social and being connected. I know many people in their 80’s living full rich lives. They are active and I mean besides exercise. The ones I’ve seen that don’t have either given up or refuse to wear their hearing aids. I’m happy for you that you have such a good attitude about aging and will probably enjoy many more years. We can revisit this conversation in 9 years when you turn 90. Enjoy your special day. 

[EtheltoTillie]

We are about to go outside for a walk because we can't let inertia take over!  It's a Sunday, and it's easy to just sit around watching TV, especially since it's been cold.  At 69 and 10/12ths I am trying my best.

[EtheltoTillie]

Came back from our walk.  It was a balmy 56 degrees today.  Very enjoyable.  The dog enjoyed it too.

[lookeyloo]

2 hours ago, EtheltoTillie said:

Came back from our walk.  It was a balmy 56 degrees today.  Very enjoyable.  The dog enjoyed it too.

Excellent.  when I say I go to class twice a week for weight training I didn't say I am not always motivated and sometimes have to drag myself there and whine inside my head the entire time.  I am always glad After I do something.  

[oliviabenson]

2 hours ago, lookeyloo said:

Excellent.  when I say I go to class twice a week for weight training I didn't say I am not always motivated and sometimes have to drag myself there and whine inside my head the entire time.  I am always glad After I do something.  

happy birthday!!! I wish you a happy day!

[Anela]

10 hours ago, lookeyloo said:

Well, folks, I am turning 81 in a few days.  You "young whippersnappers" at 70 make me nostalgic for those days.  I am still in pretty good shape because I work at it, and feel younger inside, but, the mirror doesn't lie.  I will never look like 70 again.  All of a sudden things happened.  Yet, inside I don't feel it.  I think sometimes that my days are numbered, because honestly, 81 is sobering.  People say "Oh you don't look that old" and compared to some women I know that is true, but, I am indeed "that old".  Enjoy your "youth" while you can and I am glad to be this old, but, I don't really like the changes that can't be helped, like wrinkles.  I work at walking upright, and such, and do take 2 weight bearing classes a week but it is not the same as 10 years ago.  The alternatives are retiring to a recliner which I don't have, and dying which are not on my "to do" list.  

Happy early birthday. 💝

[Cloud9Shopper]

Christmas celebrations are officially over for me. We opened presents this morning with my sister and brother in law and my niece and had dinner with them. Now they’re going home tomorrow. (They were visiting from out of state.) I’ll keep my decorations up a few more days, but I plan to start listening to regular music again tomorrow. But that’s fine because I’m pretty tired of Christmas music now honestly. 

I have a few more days off work before we go back on Thursday, but I started organizing my finances for 2025 this afternoon and have a rough budget planned out. I finally hit a “good” rating on Equifax (low 670s) so want to keep going in the right direction this year. I also have been figuring out the rest of my goals for the new year, so I’ll share those here soon too! I just need some time to recharge. 

[shapeshifter]

8 minutes ago, Cloud9Shopper said:

I finally hit a “good” rating on Equifax…

I am so happy for you! 

[shapeshifter]

Happy New Year?

This morning (New Year's Eve) an idea just came to me while doing the crossword puzzle🚽 (so take it or leave it or flush it).
Instead of New Year's Resolutions (ugh)
how about New Year's Revelations,
which are ideas or concepts that seem so obvious now, but which I/we totally missed until this past year, and/or through January 31.

Mine had to do with responding to someone who being confrontational with something positive, even if it's just: I appreciate that you don't want the purple flowers to get lawn mowed.

Edited Yest. at 04:34 AM by shapeshifter

[Yeah No]

Happy New Year everyone!

[Mindthinkr]

I’ve heard people saying “Happy New Fears” instead of Happy New Years. 
I hope everyone has a year of good health and positivity 🥳