DeeplyShallow

Monica is a single parent because she f’d her BIL for 18 months. Choices have consequences and that’s not Lisa’s problem

Tinsley’s father passed away several years ago

Dreadfully boring show. NYC used to be a must watch show. Erin sucks, Sai sucks, Brynn is one note… blah.

The first episode was by far the weakest but the rest were so moving. The session between Kat and the terminally ill patient was so moving. I’m laid up with covid and binge watched all 8 episodes and my eyes hurt from crying… but it was a good cry. I really enjoyed this show; a nice mix of light hearted humor and sadness. I’m not turned off by the language, it’s not a big deal.

It doesn’t help that the platinum blonde is aging but that hairstyle is exactly like her mother’s, which also makes her look exactly like her mother.

Um. Wow.

I don’t know; I was with my boyfriend for years and lived in across the country; FL is only a 3 hour plane ride from NY. My childhood friends and family met him many times when we were together. If traveled home to FL, one would think he would join her at least once in 10 years and meet the people she supposedly considered lifelong friends. It just seems strange to me.

I have seen a lot of support for Nicholas on Reddit and a lot are calling Amrit out for being whiny and self-involved it’s weird that Anisha was in a 10 year relationship and no one met him. What was her rationale then?

I am sure it’s in the company name, absolutely.

I love Lopa. I know that it’s an unpopular opinion but you know what you’re getting with her. She’s no BS & tells it like it is. I can’t stand Reshma, Vishal’s mother. I think she’s completely full of shit & tries to hide behind some spiritual, yoga platitudes but she’s completely untrustworthy and full of it. Also, the way she eats grosses me out. I really think Lopa, though rough around the edges, just sees things how they really are.

Why don’t we have separate episode threads?

I think because Raj had his number and it was his way of saying stop fucking around with my daughter. You’re serious? You’re not lying? Prove it. He knew that engagement would never happen. Raj knew exactly what was up and Rishi is a terrible liar. He was obviously full of it when in the car with Raj, let alone in his scene at the park with Monica.

Re: Vishal’s drinking. I do think there’s something more than his Crohn’s. I don’t know if he has a dependency but if his drinking is causing problems (and, it is) then it has reached the level of abuse. Amrit said something that struck a chord- (paraphrased) “If Vishal had a drinking problem, you would think his partner would not drink, as a show of support” Years ago, I was friends with a couple. Eventually, it was revealed that the husband had a “problem”. He was in and out of the ER; sometimes he would miss work because of “migraines” (aka, hungover). My friend would not stop drinking and not only that- she kept alcohol (and plenty of it) in her house. Her thought was, “why should I stop because he has a problem” Now, the crazy thing is, they were both psychologists and you would think that the wife would have known better (since the husband was so far gone into his addiction). Eventually, they divorced and he died a few years later due to his alcoholism. It’s all incredibly sad. bringing it back to the show; Vishal very well may have a significant problem and Richa may be too naive and (dare I say) selfish to make any changes on her end. It’s going to be a continuing, vicious cycle. He can say he doesn’t want to lie to her and will be upfront about his drinking, but they had an agreement for him NOT to. The fact that he can’t go out to a dinner or a brunch without having a drink is very eyebrow raising. If you don’t have a drinking problem and know that it’s a sore spot in your brand new marriage, what’s the big deal about not drinking for a while?

Wendy is all over the place. This next business venture makes her look like a desperate fool. It’s like she’s frantically trying to collect businesses like she collected degrees. Her husband is not on board, what’s missing in her life? What is she trying to prove and to whom? Is she going to blame mom again? Also, Dr. 4 Degrees did not look like she was following Peter’s numbers explanation and he was very clearly sounding like a grifter when he was doing it. That’s how people get conned and Wendy is an easy target. My husband and I have successful careers and 3 kids. He also coaches both of our older kids’ soccer teams. We have zero time for anything and are stressed out every day. I see & feel for Eddie. There is no way that Wendy has time for the family with all that she has going on. No way.

EMDR is not to uncover repressed memories, but to process trauma, as you said. However, as one processes trauma, new memories, thoughts, and feelings begin to be uncovered as the psychological defenses used for protection are lessened. I am a trauma specialist. I have a PhD in clinical psychology. Whitney’s reactions do not ring false. I implore those discussing on this board to refrain from casting doubt on anyone who shares past trauma/abuse- even if it’s now used as a storyline. It is this line of thinking that further casts doubts on victims- especially female victims- of abuse. Military trauma is not the same as sexual trauma. Military trauma is horrific but more readily accepted as truth. Women’s rapists and abusers are routinely given a slap on the wrist or the benefit of the doubt. Please, everyone, criticize clothes, criticize the friendships, hell- criticize their charcuterie making abilities, but do not question a victim talking about abuse. There is no right way to recall, handle, and express trauma. Everyone’s experience is different.