Oh, I should have explained better—Proposition 8 was a proposed amendment to California’s constitution to prevent gay marriage. It was voted in by over 7 million people. And it was overturned a bunch of years back. My point in bringing it up was that it is not a fringe viewpoint to have reservations about the LGBT lifestyle in California, let alone the rest of the country. The reason I brought it up was to point out that Bravo does not always represent the mainstream point of view of this country. There are people who feel all kinds of ways, and it’s not that one has been proven right and the other proven wrong.
I found this episode really tough to swallow. I couldn’t sleep last night—if I’m being honest, it was probably related to this episode—so I re-watched it at 4 am, like one of those movie detectives who re-watches film over and over because they think it will clue them in to the identity of the murderer. And I was intrigued and appalled. Then I looked into the minister, and it got even stranger from there. I am finding myself re-thinking some of my own beliefs. It really got to me.
Re-watching the episode, I found it was positively Orwellian. And Kafkaesque. From the beginning, when Lisa is talking to Ken in the car, and she pretends she just heard about the minister, Ken tells Lisa that this minister’s views fly in the face of everything Lisa believes in and Lisa says in this chilling way, something like, “well, we’ll just have to tell them.” And she’s completely calm and almost charming about it. It was so chilling. Like, in that moment, obviously Lisa was going to change Brittney’s and Jax’s minds about who was going to officiate their wedding, and that was going to be that. And, of course, that’s what happened.
Then Sandoval, Ariana and Lala kept saying how uncomfortable this thing with the preacher was, when the info had been out since at least January 2019. They just kept saying—especially Sandoval—that they are getting tagged in these re-tweets about this pastor and they’re really unhappy and uncomfortable. I have to agree with everyone who posted here—why did Sandoval wait so long? Why didn’t he bring it up to Jax and Brittney a long, long time ago that this was wrong to him, and he had reservations about supporting it? Why didn’t Ariana, as a bi-woman, who said twice that this pastor is trying to invalidate her humanity, not say anything? Why did Ariana go to Lisa? Lisa is not even Brittney’s boss at this point, not that I would understand why a boss gets a say over someone’s nuptials. Who is Lisa? Is she Napoleon?
Then Brittney doesn’t even have the decency to call the pastor, she texted him. I can only imagine what kind of conversation happened between her and Lisa and God knows who else behind closed doors. The thing is, I don’t think Lisa cares about the LGBT cause much further than it’s lining her pocketbook. She knew about this “homophobic” pastor. There is no way Andy knew in January 2019, but Lisa didn’t. So why didn’t she go to Brittney and Jax then? Because it wasn’t causing her a personal problem until two weeks before the wedding.
Then, after Brittney and Jax changed the pastor to Lance Bass, Lisa aka Napoleon clearly gave the order, A Few Good Men Style, that Brittney wasn’t to be touched. Everyone except Sandoval suddenly wanted to whitewash the whole matter and pretend it didn’t happen. Brittney was back in full good standing with everyone except Sandoval, and, by asking questions, Sandoval made himself the target. Why can’t he ask questions? What are you guys hiding? If there was a grave ill going on, better late than never, right?
Say it had been a Nazi that Brittney and Jax had hired to officiate their wedding—no one can say “boo” because they changed their minds at the bottom of the ninth? Huh? If this preacher is really a bad guy like everyone is saying, the question still stands—why did they choose him?
Then I saw that the Tweet they put on the screen was dated February 2015. So this info was 4+ years old. I figured this must have been a really bad guy that people would be unearthing his Tweets going back so far, so I looked into him. I can’t find any evidence that Ryan Dotson is “homophobic,” much less a piece of shit.
He gave an interview to Page Six, and he sounds like a mainstream, Christian clergyman with small-town or traditional values: https://pagesix.com/2019/06/14/pastor-who-made-anti-lgbtq-comments-wont-officiate-jax-and-brittanys-wedding/
He says in his full statement, which is buried in tiny font at the bottom of the article, that he is an American who is entitled to his Christian values, and that Brittney and Jax approached him, because they wanted a Christian wedding. He says he loves the gay person (he uses the term “homosexual,” but I’m not sure I’m allowed to use that word, so I’ll just say “gay.”) He says he never discriminated against a gay person. He leased his property to a gay person, he has gay people working for him in all of his businesses, and he reports that they are some of his best workers. He reports that he has been the target of a smear campaign of hate and intolerance by people who claim to be on the side of tolerance.
I simply don’t see what’s wrong with those statements. Where does Ariana derive that he wouldn’t recognize her as a person? I feel really bad for the guy, though I think he was naive to agree to officiate this wedding. I think Brittney and Jax were much more in the wrong, especially Brittney, to have one foot in each world. As others have said upthread, you don’t really get to move out to one of the most pro-LGBT places in the world to sleep with a guy you barely know, become his live-in girlfriend, let him buy you silicone breasts, become employed by a huge LGBT activist, participate in her Pride events for years...and then ask Ryan Dotson to marry you. It’s like being a little bit pregnant. It’s confusing when someone has one foot in the traditional world (when it suits them) and one foot in the progressive world (when it suits them). If you are going to straddle both worlds, you need to put a lot of thought into your responses when your friends from both walks of life come to you with questions. The more I think about it, the more awful it was that Brittney screamed “fuck you” to Sandoval for asking to ask a freaking question. But I don’t see what the pastor did wrong, other than agreeing to this in the first place. He was just living his life according to his conscience in Kentucky, which is leaps and bounds ahead of what Brittney is doing—living the unexamined life in which she stands for nothing and appeases all.
And I guess it caused me to reconsider my views, because I posted yesterday that I wouldn’t go to a wedding that I didn’t support. This used to be one of the few small things my husband and I would disagree about—I would say I wouldn’t go to a wedding and be phony about a couple who shouldn’t be together, and he said he didn’t care. But does my “conscience” extend to the officiant? At what point would I be willing to throw down the gauntlet and refuse to attend a wedding? If the people getting married aren’t exactly how I want them to be, and the officiant isn’t in lockstep with my belief system? Why? Would it kill me to celebrate something that doesn’t adhere, chapter and verse, to my lifestyle? Would it kill the people on the show to have attended the wedding without fanfare, or at most, raise a conscientious objection as soon as they realized what was going on, and bowed out of the wedding graciously if they couldn’t abide by it? Because nothing even resembling that happened here. I think everyone on this show who was involved with this thing behaved terribly. Lisa, Lala, Jax, Sandoval and Ariana, but especially Brittney, and the whole thing makes me sad. I don’t enjoy this type of entertainment.