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Feliz Navidad or that damn Beatles Christmas song (Siiiimply haaaving a wonderful Christmas time) will make me leave any store they are playing in around the holidays.

Queen doesn't get enough recognition for their contribution to music. Not just rock music, music period. I can't think of another band that ran the gamut in EVERY genre (even opera ffs) and did it as well as they did. They were, are and will always be better than the Beatles.

If his motivation for being on this show was to teach Joao a lesson about being a misogynist then I would suggest he should stop with his inappropriate comments about every woman who walks into his eye line. Joao is his boss. Period.

This attitude annoys me. Aesha seems to think she's entitled to this lady's money because she did her job. She came off as rude and entitled, though I'm not shocked given how old she is. I think the difference here is Jack isn't especially tweaking Colin or Travis' nose. He does Joao's. Constantly. Anytime Joao tells him to do something, he pipes up with some kind of "He can't tell me what to do" smartass remark. And really, I don't know where Jack was raised but it was apparently in a place where he wasn't taught how a job with a supervisor works. I mean, yeah it's always nice when your boss ASKS but he doesn't have to. And I've yet to see Joao just flat out get rude with Jack when he expresses work that needs to be done. He's tired of being questioned every time he says something needs to be done. If I was Joao, Jack would've been gone after last charter. The fact he's put up with it this long shows that he's not really a strong leader.

While not tipping is an asshole move, I don't consider not tipping to be equated to thinking someone is your slave. Entitlement runs in every circle and servers who act like Hannah would be the type to make me not tip. Thankfully I've never run into someone like her, but lately the pendulum swinging in the way of servers like her being in the right with how they act is off putting. Hey, I'm not the person who's asking you for four different dishes and sending things back, but if you don't keep my drink full, I might not tip you as well. It's not a matter of me thinking someone is my slave, it's a matter of keeping my drink full is part of your job. I'm perfectly fine with getting up and grabbing my own refills but restaurants frown on that so, fortunately or unfortunately, that's your responsibility. The way these people on this show act is off putting. Joao bitching because he had to walk up the mountain for their lunch...well sorry buddy, that's your job. A few episodes ago he was whining about having to put the toys out multiple times in a day. Seriously? Deal with it. That's your job. That's where my problem lies. We've all run into people in the extreme like the lady described above but Hannah acts like she can't be bothered whenever she's asked for ANYTHING...and that's irritating.

One thing that gets me with this show is how put out the interior crew is about EVERYTHING. I get it that some guests are assholes, but it's not like it's a surprise. Most of the guests on this show give completely unreasonable requests (white gumball lady anyone) but they're rich and are paying a shitload of money to be on this yacht. I've always kind of wondered that about servers or customer service folk who bitch and moan about shitty customers. Yeah, shitty customers suck. People who don't tip are dicks...but then...don't be in the customer service industry if you're going to roll your eyes every time someone asks you for something. Sure, this lady is out of her mind...but it's not like she made it a secret. Hannah rolling her eyes when she was asked if someone was going to unpack for her is annoying.

Exactly. Good God that scene of JHud belting it out....I'll go just for that. Will be nice for the Taylor Swift stans to see her next to someone who can actually sing.

Top Gun is my favorite movie ever. I saw it 10 times in the movie theater. I was 10 years old when it came out. It was the first time I ever saw french kissing on screen. I told my mom if a man ever stuck his tongue in my mouth I'd bite it off. Times have changed. I flipped out like a fangirl when I saw this today. I will definitely be going.

Maybe LVP can't face them because she doesn't want to hear - AGAIN - about what a liar she is when no one has proof of anything. Maybe she doesn't want to sit there while they all DEMAND answers they aren't entitled to about why she does things and how she does them. I don't see why she has to sit on the stage and listen to them destroy her character to prove she's somehow above it all. Once someone tells me what they think of me and then proceeds to continue to make shitty comments on social media and in the press...we don't need to discuss it further.

So something stuck out to me while they were discussing puppy gate - AGAIN. Rinna, in a weird attempt to jump in and explain for Teddi, shouts out "Weren't you close to Blizzard?" And it sounded to me like one of those things where you are trying to help your friend out of a jam so you shout out something for her to latch onto so she can end the conversation. Only Teddi didn't get that cue. And she went on to say she wasn't close to Blizzard. Personally I find Teddi to be exhausting in this situation. She explains way too much.

Yes, but I think the point the defense is making is the prosecution made a big spectacle out of saying the girl made up stories and is a liar...yet there is no proof she said it to him. She claimed she said it to him to a friend...months later...and she could have been making it up. The defense is saying you can't cherry pick when she's a liar and when she's not to fit your narrative. She either can't be believed or she can. And I agree with them. I have a very different outlook on this case than most of you. I think if she's in jail for what she did then his parents should be as well. I think the only reason they're not is because they are playing the "grieving parents" card when they are both terribly guilty of not parenting effectively. Conrad's father obviously beat him and verbally abused him and I think the proof that he did it on a routine basis is that he saw nothing wrong with it when he was interviewed - on camera - for a documentary knowing full well people would see it. He thinks hitting your kids is how you discipline them. And Conrad's mother is a liar who was appalled at the messages this girl sent to him and claims she didn't know he felt as shitty as he did but she contradicted that narrative through the entire documentary. She knew. Any kid who attempts suicide FOUR times has some issues. She claims she didn't know it was that bad, yet they discussed him dying in which she guilt tripped him by saying if he died she would want to die as well. Please with her crocodile tears about how she "just didn't know" and "how did Michelle know when she didn't"? Gimme a break lady...you knew. She flat out told Michelle she knew his dad and their family were abusing him yet she did nothing to stop him from going over there? Michelle is no saint and she's not innocent but the adults in this situation are a million times more at fault than she is, IMO. I can give Michelle's parents a slight pass because it seems obvious this girl was a good actress who wasn't talking to her parents about her issues. But Conrad's parents get no sympathy from me. His dad is a piece of shit and his mother is a poor excuse for a mother. Michelle's actions were naive and manipulative. It is clear she is mentally unwell and needs some serious psychotherapy which I hope she gets. But she is not the reason for Conrad's death. This case makes me angry because it took away the onus of ones actions and made unseemly things said in text messages a crime. It also painted Michelle to be some vixen who focused her feminine wiles on poor unsuspecting Conrad. They were messed up kids who got together and licked their wounds. Michelle was arrogant enough to believe she had the answers and mentally ill enough to think this would get her the attention for which she'd been starved. But Conrad acted on his own. And if the conviction of Michelle is based upon her pushing him into it then his parents should be in jail right next to her. Very dangerous and slippery slope this case is on. I hope it gets overturned and she wins her appeal. Not because she's innocent of being an asshole but because I don't think someone can be prosecuted for what was said in a private text message.

Dear Amber, I would feel worse for you if 1. You didn't make Leah's panic attacks all about you. She saw that in the nail salon. She now thinks her having panic attacks upsets you. Good job. and 2. You could've squeezed one actual tear out of your DRYER THAN THE SAHARA EYES during your little display in the kitchen.

She did a good job with the kitchen though. I loved the two toned cabinets.

I took issue with some things but in the end, I believe James and Wade. Although they really should have left Wade's mother out of it. She gave me the creeps with her constant giggling. She still speaks about the things MJ did for them as if she was somehow elevated in status because of it. And she giggled way too much about the things he used to do for them. And I had a big big problem with the positioning of Wade's parents divorce. I don't think he gave two shits whether or not she was married. The suggestion that he was the reason for their divorce as if he pushed her to it really irked me. Not because I was defending him but because she dodged responsibility for her own poor choices. She was an adult. She made the choice to take off with her son to LA. She made the choice to divorce her husband because she felt it would make her look better to MJ. The notes to Wade were creepy. I got the chills when they showed some of them. Talking to children like that is weird. Especially if they aren't yours. I don't even talk to my dog like that. I mean, as far as not believing it...the man clearly stated he slept with kids in his bed. He knew it was societally frowned upon and he openly admitted it anyway. Which, to me, says he didn't think what he was doing was wrong. He felt it was love. And in his own fucked up mind because it was love between two people it didn't matter that it was kids. I don't know how an adult looks at his situation and thinks to themselves...."Yeah, he slept in his bed with kids but I'm sure that's as far as it went."

Not really. Erika showed up to her house for parties, showed up to her restaurants for openings, invited her to shows, hung out with her on a regular basis and partook in Lisa's hospitality on numerous occasions. I don't characterize that as "barely friends" and it's clear - based on LVP's irritation - that she didn't think they were barely friends either. Also, telling someone their minimal effort wasn't enough isn't "complaining". That makes it sound like she asked for a manager at the grocery store because they were out of bread. LVP thought they were better friends. She expressed that she was disappointed in the minimal effort Erika made in her condolences and instead of hearing that and explaining she was at a loss for words, didn't know what to say, had a hard time finding the right line between condescending and truly sorry....Erika snidely told her she was sorry she felt that way - which let's be honest - is a slap in the face when you're already upset. Erika's talking head at the time this was going on left much to be desired as far as her "The note was heartfelt and I meant it" argument. She came off as a rude and unsympathetic. Which she was. So spare me the "OH Erika's note was so nice and heartfelt and she really, really meant it." when two seconds after the scene was aired there's her talking head making snide remarks about the situation. And just so we're clear...if any of my coworkers sent me a card after I lost my mother, I would've been disappointed as well. I never said anything to the people who disappointed me with their lack of empathy towards my situation when she died but let's put it this way - I remember it. I'll also need you to show me the passage written in the book where it tells us all how we're supposed to act when we experience loss.

I’m sorry for your loss. But it’s unfair to pin how you handled or would handle a situation on someone else and suggest they are unreasonable for expecting more. I lost my mother in a tragic way and while I accepted any expression of condolences I was and am allowed disappointment at those who did it with minimal effort. A girl I considered my best friend and knew my mother well at one point sent me a card. A card? I mean thanks for the $3.50 and a trip to your local grocery store? Look loss is rough and some people don’t know how or what to say at that time. Which is fine. But if I’ve invited you into my life and home, we’ve taken vacations together and you’ve found it within your comfort level to partake in my hospitality at restaurant openings, parties or gatherings than you sure as shit should do better than a fill in the blank note. Handwritten....gimme a break.

This makes it sound super nefarious. Like they wanted to create the environment where Nasser could thrive. This is what I take issue with. They didn't. Their goal was to create an environment where the girls wouldn't have distractions. Which is what ALL coaches strive for when it comes to competition at the level these girls were competing. And they didn't TAKE anyone, parents agreed to allowing their daughters to go. So I'm thinking maybe the isolation wasn't necessarily an issue for their parents. Many of the girls' parents were in the room when he abused them and THEY didn't know it. How can anyone expect Bella or Marta to have known? I'm quite positive that these parents feel guilt beyond measure for what happened to their kids, but I'm also positive Bella and Marta do as well. Like I said, it was heavy handed when it came to them and their culpability. The anger towards them, IMO, is misplaced.

The dynamic of these ladies is interesting in a "wow, I'm glad my friendships are not this fake, forced and fucked up." kind of way. They're all trying REALLY hard to make their lives and tribulations look fabulous without LVP. And the thing is...they don't have to. Who cares what they do with or without her? She certainly doesn't. They all claim not to care about what she's doing yet they were all well versed in what she did in Las Vegas. And none of their "fun" looks fun. It looks forced. Erika can't wait to get the eff away from these women and her protests otherwise fall short. Teddi just wants to be validated every time she has an impure thought. Kyle wants the world to understand how hard she tries at everything she does. Rinna is busy pointing fingers at everyone so no one looks at her and goes "Hey, when's the last time you ate?". Dorit is concerned with making sure everyone knows she's never wrong. None of them have a genuine bone in their bodies and it shows. It's really ridiculous how attached to appearances they all are. I can't remember the last time I walked up to a friend and greeted them by telling them what a hot bitch they are. In fact, I can't remember saying that to anyone unless they were sporting a weight loss or a new haircut. It's the oddest thing that I've never understood on ANY Howives show. The reason it's sad to watch is because they are all such HYPOCRITES about it. Rinna's suggestion that her loss is comparable to LVP's is stupid. Both of them lost a family member. Rinna handled it differently than LVP did. Why is this a problem? Where is the book where it's written the correct way to handle a loss? Has LVP handled everything perfectly? No. Considering Rinna's been an asshole since she started on this show, she can miss me with her "I NEVER TREATED ANYONE POORLY!" bullshit. And even if she didn't, what has Lisa done that is so terrible that they continually keep harping on the fact that her loss isn't an excuse for her behavior? And don't get me started on Kyle and her constant whining about what a fabulous friend she is. I'm over it. Because from where I sit, anyone who would go after her friend when she's still smarting from a tragic loss isn't necessarily the proof I'll need to get on that boat. I don't care if what she said was true. It wasn't the time to bring it up. Period. End of story. I cannot tell you the smile that graced my face when Camille told Teddi she wasn't worth her time. Because Teddi isn't worth anyone's time. She is inconsequential. Sad considering her father is an American classic. She is boring and childish and if I have to hear her whine and cry about how she's soooooooo put upon again I'm going to throw a glass at my TV. How the hell is her business growing? I have yet to see her hold herself ACCOUNTABLE for anything on this show. Who watches what she's doing and thinks to themselves "This chick could totally help me get my life in order."? Look, I don't care if LVP is on this show or off this show. I don't think she makes or breaks it. But I definitely think it's time to clean house and move on with new women.

I've watched this show religiously because hello Ruairi O'Conner is hot hot hot as Harry. But for the life of me I cannot figure out why they wasted so much time on Rosa and her dalliances. It didn't connect her to anything. It didn't upset Catherine's storyline. It got to show Catherine being a little nice every now and then but it really was such a throw away that I can't figure out why they wasted so much time with it. I'm not just saying this because I loved Ruairi but they could have scrapped her entire storyline and advanced Catherine and Harry's storyline more. While the end was poignant given they both know they're liars...I think it might have struck more of a cord had they ended it after the birth and subsequent death of their first son. They weren't guaranteed a second season until the third episode wasn't it? That meant the series was half over. Was that always where they were going to end it? I am of the mind of most of you that it would be nice to see them as a happily married couple because they were for a really long time. She was pregnant constantly so clearly they were having sex on a regular basis. Why not show Harry morphing into the Henry VIII we all know and love a little bit more. It seems a better pay off might have been seeing Catherine find out she was definitely going to have a "be careful what you wish for" moment. Whatever I guess. I'll watch season 2...obviously...I just wish they wouldn't focus on such ridiculous relationships that don't mean anything.

No. He’s totally fine. I don’t believe he was given Iodine pills or anything. He was mostly in Moscow and Leningrad (St Petersburg now) and I guess Chernobyl was far enough away that they didn’t think it was a concern. I do remember the state department delaying the trip though. I remember my mom and dad discussing it but the conversation was very “it’s so far away”. I think my parents probably suffered from the same thing Lyudmilla did which was that they just didn’t understand the danger. My mother was super protective of us so I believe if she’d been alarmed she would’ve raised questions. Personally because things like this are downplayed so much by the governments when they happened people think it’s survivable. I mean I knew radiation was bad for you but I had no idea your body literally melted. This show did a lot to open my eyes. So much so that I am in total awe that people now visit Chernobyl and take selfies in front of the reactor sarcophagus. HELL NO! I am never going near a nuclear reactor.

This series was terrifying. Absolutely terrifying. I don’t know shit about how nuclear reactors work but the way they dumbed it down was excellently done. Jared Harris definitely deserves an Emmy. I get it was important to the story to show the fallout but I honestly had such a hard time with episode four and the animal killing. I fast forwarded through most of it because I just can’t. The most disturbing thing was the conversation when they’re trying to figure out how to clear the roof off after two robots failed and one of them asks if the US has offered anything and Scherbina (I think) responds no and that Russia wouldn’t take their help even if they had. I grew up during the Cold War but holy shit! You just unleashed this shit into the air and things are so bad you wouldn’t accept help from a country you hate even if they had a solution?!?! I mean I know that’s how the world works but...I mean...damn. That really drove the point home. My brother and I took Russian in high school. One of only two schools in the US that had an exchange program. My brothers class was slated to go to Russia for the trip in 1987. The State Department kept delaying the trip. My brother said they were watching “the cloud” closely and when it blew the other way they cleared the kids to leave. I was 11 when this went down so the seriousness of it was lost on me back then but talking to him about it now, he was just like “I guess it wasn’t a big deal.” When I ended up going in 93, Russia was collapsing and they were afraid of a coup. We had to get special permission from Clinton to go. Both times my parents let us go! I think I need to have a discussion with my parents.

I don’t hate or like Camille one way or the other. But I will say this. She is absolutely telling the truth about PK and if Dorit was smart she’d start digging. Camille handled the take down with calm and ease, the kind of calm that people have when they know can bring receipts. And all these women know she’s telling the truth. Because you’ll notice NONE of them accused her of lying, other than Dorit. And that’s all Dorit could say in response. Then Dorit defaulted, yet again, to the other women defending her. Which tells me Dorit knows there’s a kernel of truth. Camille is shrewd and I have to give her respect for it. Because she was attacked by every woman at that table except Denise and Erika and she didn’t back down a single iota. I absolutely enjoyed it being that Dorit routinely plays the victim, is not careful with people and consistently dodges responsibility for anything she does. Everyone gets their comeuppance. Welcome to Dorit’s. Don’t poke the bear if you don’t want the attack. It’s a simple warning.

Because he told her to sit there and wait until he got there. He didn’t think she was gonna say “fuck it” and get back into the car. Only when he called back and got no answer did the police get involved. Upon watching the documentary again, somewhere around the beginning he’s at the police station giving them information about where she is and what she’s driving. He’s heard in the background. Danny was there too. I guess they could’ve been at his house or a deputy could’ve been sent there but IIRC the dispatcher says he’s there in front of her. Even if it was at his house, the fact remains there is no 911 call from Warren or Jackie stating their kids are in danger with their aunt and are possibly in a car. How far away from the station did he live? How long did Diane have from when she hung up and when he made it to the station? And he seemingly only stopped there when he couldn’t get ahold of her again. Why didn’t he call 911 the MINUTE his wife got off the phone with his daughter? Why didn’t he call 911 when he hung up with Diane after telling her to stay put? Because if he had and the cops had found her, with how drunk she was, at a minimum she would’ve been thrown in the drink tank and possibly charged with endangering the lives of minors if she had done what he said and stayed put. However, had she been driving she would’ve been arrested. I’m not blaming him. His loss is terrible and I think he was trying to protect his sister and didn’t realize it would be at the expense of his kids. I think he knew but never imagined she’d ever put his kids in danger. The entire documentary, Jay and others repeatedly state how responsible she was as a mother. Her kids never had a hair out of place. They were well behaved. Warren and Jackie would have had no reason to expect she would’ve gotten blasted on the way home from a camping trip and put his kids in danger. But he knew she was an alcoholic. And with many family’s, their chosen forms of dealing with addicts is to contain them. Just let her drink! She’s not hurting anyone! She only does it at night! Never around the kids! She’s fine. We have 3 kids and a life of our own to deal with. She’s Danny’s problem. Let him put her into rehab. And then they do something to endanger someone else....and THEN it’s an issue. THEN they get involved. THEN she’s denied access to her nieces. So...AFAIC...Warren knew. Or had a suspicion.

What bugs me the most about Fairstein’s defense of herself is her absolute INSISTENCE that people just don’t know the whole story. We don’t know what the evidence was or what the boys said because we’re only being shown bits and pieces. This is the same shit Sea World pulls whenever someone says they are an evil organization. We’re all just making judgments without being fully educated on a subject. Well tell me how effing educated do I need to be to see that the POOL you have a whale in is TOO SMALL? So Linda tells us that this mind blowing evidence that proves her innocence is that one of the boys admitted to having a steel pipe on him that night. Ok. Sure. Was this pipe found? Was it ever proven he used it on anything? If it was found did it have DNA on it? Was it ever proven that a pipe is what was used to hit Meili? No? Then WHAT is your point, lady? Because her point is simple. And her “defense” wreaks of it. She didn’t care that they didn’t commit THIS crime. As far as she was concerned they had done something that night and that’s all she needed. And if they hadn’t done something that night? They would have eventually. Which is a huge gigantic part of the problem with why white people do not understand why this case in particular was so goddamn infuriating.

This whole thing made me sick. And I watched it all go down when it was happening in the news. Nasser is gross and I’m glad it took down the entire organization as it should have. However, it was heavy handed in some ways that I was uncomfortable with. Namely, the Karolyi’s. Did they create an environment for him to become the hero and abuse? Yes, but it didn’t happen purposefully. I don’t have a problem with them telling athletes they couldn’t see old coaches or that their parents couldn’t be on the floor. Parents, in some ways, can be a very bad influence on their kids in these situations. And in these sports where they are doing dangerous movements where it is IMPERATIVE that they listen to their coach. Having your parent in there giving pointers or offering up opinions is not conducive to that level of competition and I would contend that EVERY sport involves rules surrounding the involvement of the parents. I don’t know any coach who wants a parent around during training or practice. Same goes with coaches they may have at home. I don’t think it’s fair to lay blame at their feet for this because I think, as someone also stated before, he groomed them as well. They didn’t know or suspect. He was a professional and they trusted him to do his job. And, not that it’s their fault that is so not what I’m saying, they willingly went to him for comfort. Bella and Marta are from a different country and a different generation where things like this are not discussed. They seem singularly focused on the task, creating world class athletes, which they did. None of the girls in the documentary or that I have seen in the news ever stated that they told Bella or Marta what was happening. Both coaches, as was stated before, were well known for not dealing well with the emotional part of the sport. It isn’t really shocking to me that they didn’t know or suspect. They absolutely made mistakes. I just don’t think they are to blame in this instance. Kathy Klages, Steve Penny, Lou Anna Simon are people, I believe, who shoulder most of the blame. They were not only told, they did things to curb suspicion away from Nasser and made girls think they were crazy for making accusations. They failed to do the most fundamental part of their jobs which was to protect their athletes, much like Joe Paterno who knew and did nothing. I mean, if the girls feel resentment towards the Karolyi’s I’m not saying their wrong. Survivors can blame whoever to help them survive, I just don’t sit up in judgement of their coaching techniques. At the end of the day, it was a huge scandal that resulted in necessary consequences for those involved. I feel terrible for all the girls and I sincerely hope they find peace. That poor girl who lost her father....wow. I also have no problem with the judge or anything she said to Nasser. He made it clear he was not remorseful for his actions nor was he taking responsibility for them. And he tried to use the court system and her job as judge to garner sympathy and turn the story around to him, twice. She protected them. She’s human. And if I was tearing up listening to the girls statements then I can’t imagine how she must’ve felt standing in front of them. She did a fabulous job.