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Ugh as some who is RIDICULOUSLY allergic to cats...if you have six cats, I will die in your house. If you come over to me when we're out and there is cat dander or hair anywhere on your body and you hug me, I will break out in hives. I think some people don't realize just HOW SEVERE the cat allergies can be. I absolutely detest cats, but they make me physically sick (throat closes, hives everywhere, runny nose, eyes swell shut). Everyone who has cats swears their house is so clean, you can't smell them, and that the dander doesn't bother those who are allergic! Then like clockwork, cue my allergies and their shock that this has *never* happened before. And yes, I medicate beforehand. I get that a lot of people don't like cats, and that it seems to be trendy...but I have to say, as someone who is allergic to cats, a lot of cat lovers REFUSE to accept that some people have awful allergies when it comes to cats, and they won't ever come around and like them. I just can't like something that makes me that uncomfortable. The reason I'm okay with dogs is because I'm 100% not allergic at all. I'm also from Long Island, so take that as you'd like ;)

Thank you! Danielle Caprese for Kleinfeld. Thank you! It was perfect.

I know that the contract to be on the show is about 50 pages long (I’m not exaggerating). TLC basically owns the right to portray you however they want, they WANT you to have an entourage, they do not guarantee that your episode won’t air until after your wedding (could premiere beforehand, and it has happened), and a crazy amount of other things. IMHO, It takes a certain personality/type of girl to willingly sign her wedding day/exprience away like that. Dont get me wrong, I had a great experience at Kleinfeld. But knowing what I know with these shows (I’ve had friends and vendors film forSay Yes to the Dress and Four Weddings) there’s no way in hell I’d ever want to do it. Gratuitous wedding pic

I know I posted awhile ago about my experience shopping at Kleinfeld, and I swore I'd update you all when I went in for alterations. My wedding is on Saturday, and I just picked up my dress today after three fittings (plus today, so kind of 4). And side note: I added straps to my gown. It was a non-negotiable for me. I don't like the way that I look in strapless. My dress was a size 10 for my hips/butt (I have a huge ass/hips, but tiny waist), so they had to take the top half of my dress in A LOT. They were VERY thorough and attentive. I also have basically no boobs, and they put in padding and fit that dress the best they could. Honestly, I'm very happy. Kleinfeld does charge a flat rate and it's pretty steep for alterations, but from what I've heard from people...they don't mess up. I hear SO MANY horror stories about bad alterations. General consensus with Kleinfeld is that they are pricey with alterations, but know what they're doing. The woman who did my gown has worked there for over 30 years in alterations. I've posted pictures bustled/unbustled. In the original sample, the dress was blush with ivory lace. I ordered ivory over ivory, and added the straps. And for the record, this was my third fitting. I got my hair colored this morning. It was a hot mess in these pictures. More views Bustled

I have pics of me from the 80s as a kid posing like that

I'm getting married in 13 days. The head table, or dais, is something that REALLY isn't done anymore, at least where I'm from. The sweetheart table took its place. I always thought that the head table was really unfair to the dates of your bridal party...do the spouses/dates all know each other? Just let them all sit at a regular table together! I have a sweetheart table, but don't anticipate actually sitting down at it except to eat or during the speeches. None of my friends did. It's totally normal around here to have that, though. And to be honest...I didn't ONCE think of it as a way to get more attention or to be on display.

Where, I'm from, NO ONE mows their own lawn. Literally, I do not know one person, and I didn't know a family who did it themselves growing up. IDK if this is a Long Island thing or what...we have so many nail salons that I was in shock when I went to school in another part of the country and they quoted me a price for a regular manicure/pedicure (that I could get for under $25 on Long Island always). I have a feeling that the landscaper thing is similar. I wouldn't know, because I don't own anything besides my co-op. Getting married this month and can hopefully find a house in the near future that's affordable (I am not holding my breath). So much to criticize Kail for, but I hesitate to do it with this one. I'm all for spending money on things that make your life easier and give you more time...IF you can afford it. Though Kail has all the time in the world, but whatever. Speaking of which, I didn't even feel like going cake tasting for my own wedding. She is so extra. Just choked on my bagel, thanks.

None for nothing, but I'm 33, take adderall AND spin classes (SoulCycle is my happy place at least three times a week, now 4-5 getting ready for my wedding) and I do NOT look like that. It's not that easy. Must be an incredibly high dose of adderall, restrictive diet/not eating, among other things. I've never been heavy I'm petite, but seriously. Beth Skinny isn't attained by just adderall.

Those two girls look SO much alike to me. I'd never guess they were half siblings. Guess Gary Time has some strong genes. I'm okay with that. The world needs more bread making, spite chicken owning, bargain hunting people <3 I would shamelessly watch the crap out of a Gary show.

I am not judging you in the slightest. But as a teacher, I WISH more parents would pull the legal card. I worked for a school where my students' services were cut/not being provided left and right. That school is still doing the same thing because parents were either unaware or not raising hell. The ONLY WAY things get changed in a school is if the parents open their mouths. I left that school, as I couldn't stand going to bed guilty every night because I wasn't giving my kids the things they needed to succeed. I wasn't provided with the tools or resources. It killed me. I couldn't let the parents know that their kids weren't getting their services, either. It was an awful experience, and it still pisses me off to this day. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. It shouldn't be this way, but it is. Parents need not be afraid of entering a legal battle. It is truly the only way things start to change in some cases. Once a couple of parents start wising up to the situation, the house of cards falls. It's the only thing admin are afraid of.

THANK YOU. As a special ed teacher, I call BS on all of this...unless she doesn't have an IEP. And for some reason, why do I not put that past Leah and Corey? There are plenty of parents I know who are against getting their kids an IEP who need it, who have far less difficulties than Ali, simply because they are in denial or think there's a stigma attached. If the aide is in the IEP, which the aide should be, there is no way that the principal can just pull the aide. You're 100% correct; it's against federal mandate/IDEA. I really hope that they have an education advocate for Ali, though I highly doubt that's the case.

I'm going to assume that you're not from the NY metro area. Sorry that I don't have your approval...?

Crest Hollow is one of the cheapest venues on the island. Wedding of the century indeed. While you're there, feel free to crash another one of the 3 or so weddings that will be going on at the same time. ;) I love Hayley Paige as well. To me, they're selfish because you're forcing people to give up a vacation weekend to travel for your wedding. People like different things. Can't please everyone!

I was actually going to ask you if it was on Long Island, haha. I'm getting marred in August. A few things, and forgive me if I sound defensive: - One year, I had a wedding literally every three day weekend. I'm a teacher, and I love my three day weekends. It drove me nuts, and I swore I wouldn't do this to my guests. I didn't, I insisted on a Saturday night wedding which cost me more, but I tried to think of my guests when planning. - You are likely the 10,000th person to tell her that "It's about the marriage, not about the wedding." Everyone knows this, and if she doesn't...she's a bridezilla who isn't going to listen to you anyway ;) Let her be. - I have over 300 people on my guest list. I have a huge Italian family, and over 70 of us go on vacation every year on my dad's mother's side alone. Our annual Christmas party winds up being in a small room at the New Hyde Park Inn. And surprisingly, we genuinely all love each other (well, mostly everyone) and look forward to getting together. Cutting people out wasn't really an option because of this. It is what it is. I'm hoping for 250 to RSVP yes, quite frankly. We shall see. - My 8 piece band was upgraded to a 10 piece band because we wanted to add horns. My fiance's only real request about the whole wedding was that we had a band. All my friends had a band except for one at their wedding; it's very common around here in my experience. I'm not going around to everyone telling them how many pieces are in my band or what I added to the band, though. No one cares besides us. - I have a photobooth, but it's mainly because one of our groomsmen has a business doing it, and it's free. He was the one who approached us, which I felt was a nice thing to do. Not everyone loves dancing, so that is another option for people besides the dance floor. - Drones are included in a lot of photography packages now (I don't have one, just know this from researching photographers). I had a friend who had one at her bridal shower. I used to roll my eyes at the concept of having a professional photographer at my bridal shower...until I had mine and realized that my bridesmaids and all the people close to me were far too busy to really stop/remember to take pictures. I wish I had more images of the day, especially because my grandma is 91 and we had a great time together. - We have money from both my parents and his parents. It is covering most of the cost of the wedding. Yes, we are lucky...but all money comes with strings attached. Yes, I know that the money would likely be better spent putting a down payment on a house or investing, and yes, I have been told that a million times. I offered my fiance the opportunity to elope because I knew with two Italian families it was going to be a lot of opinions and an epic production. He declined. So here we are. I also own my co-op...but bottom line, how people choose to spend their money is their business. Long Island weddings are ridiculous. I'm a bit embarrassed about what some of my guests from other places in the country may think, because what is normal here is SO different elsewhere. In closing, my dress was purchased at Kleinfeld, it was cheaper than most things at my wedding, it isn't a Pnina fairy princess stripper dress, and I am very well aware that our wedding is just one day of our life. I do, however, think that our patents need to be reminded of that at some point... Don't hate me! *runs and hides* Fine. I'm defensive. I'll admit it! ;)

I don't know about overmedicated, but many times certain medications that kids are on for behavior will make them gain weight like this.

We actually are having the church wedding now AFTER my wedding date. We met with the priest on Wednesday and decided that would be the best option.

As a teacher...this tweet (and her grammar/syntax in general) makes me twitch. I definitely think that Farrah had some sort of learning disability, especially when you consider how damn motivated she is. I don't think that her verbal and written abilities are an indication that she didn't try in school. As a fifth grade teacher who has additional teaching certifications in literacy and special education, something is definitely going on here. Don't even get me started on Sophia and the computer based homeschooling.

The thing is though, that she wouldn't have been truly single. I think she started dating her current boyfriend about a year ago...she did come on that small reunion road trip that aired in August or whenever this past year, and she had the boyfriend then, too (Ron wasn't on that). She's still with the same guy. I would have loved to see her there, but with Ron there it was never going to happen. Just look at how often he brings her up with a pregnant live in girlfriend...never mind the fact that Sam isn't even in the house with them! That was truly a toxic relationship, and while I do believe she has genuinely moved on, I don't think we would have seen fun Sam on these episodes simply because Ron was there. Sounds like their relationship was a decade of unhealthiness, and it would be best to leave it in the past for good.

THIS. I have so much respect for Sammi for skipping out on this season. Their relationship was dysfunctional, and she truly seems as though she's trying to move past it. Ron is just not a good person. I can find something redeeming about all of these little guidos. Snooki is getting on my nerves right now, but I think she has no clue how to do anything but revert back to her old self when being filmed for this show. She doesn't know how to balance...and while it's painful to watch, I think it's far less cringeworthy than Ron's behavior. I don't find her to be malicious or horrible...just annoying in the moment. Ron, on the other hand... From everything I've read, Pauly D really stepped up when it came to his daughter and understands that she comes first. Mike really does seemed to have learned his lesson and has a huge heaping of self awareness. JWoww does as well. I love their conversations together. The way Ronnie has acted in the house for this reunion both regarding Sam and The Situation is downright appalling. I hope that Jen's ex is hung like a freaking horse.

Absolutely. Honestly, I'm so grateful that throughout this entire planning process, I'm so excited to be spending the rest of my life with the man I'm going to marry rather than being excited for ONE (overpriced) day. I keep saying that I went into the wrong line of business and should have done things in the wedding industry; it's ridiculous. You put it best, it's the first day of a marriage that includes friends, family, and relatives. My fiance and I loathe seafood, but I'm still having seafood at my wedding because I want to make sure that my guests are comfortable and enjoying their evening as well. Besides, I like to save my hard "NO" votes for the things that really matter to me. Makes it a bit easier to pick and choose your battles that way ;)

I'm trying to figure out why anyone would be offended. It's not as though I'm asking for gifts for both, nor am I even inviting guests to the church. If anything, it's probably more upsetting to the Catholic church itself, not my guests. I don't know about you, but I come from a large, close Italian family and have extremely loyal and wonderful friends. Where do you live? This really wouldn't be a problem with the people I know. We are still having a ceremony in front of our friends and are saying vows; and we mean them. *If* they find out, I can't imagine my friends and family having a hissy fit over something so utterly ridiculous. As I said earlier, I know many people who had to have a legal ceremony on a different day for various reasons, and no one said a word to their face or behind their back about it. It didn't even cross our minds. Thank you <3 I really appreciate that! It's not what I 100% wanted, but my grandmother is 91 and Italian, so I totally get it. I'm very close with her, and my future husband is very close with his grandfather (also Italian), so I get it.

A lot of people do this. In my county, they don't accept online ordained ministers who did it online, so I know many people who go to city hall another day or time just so that it's legally recognized, but had who they wanted to perform the ceremony do it on their wedding day. I don't really see getting married beforehand in the church to appease my fiance's 90 year old grandfather in a ceremony that only includes immediate family as being a really shitty thing to do to my guests. They won't know about it, and I am doing it for the sake of family.

Granted I agree with you, since it's been 5 years...but there are plenty of people who get married before their wedding because of various reasons. I think there's a difference between being legally married and having a wedding. Sometimes, the situation calls for it. Or maybe I'm just bitter and trying to make myself feel better because my fiance's 90 year old grandpa wants us to get married in the catholic church by a priest, but I picked my venue and wanted to get married there. Compromise: We're getting married in the church a couple of weeks prior. I am not inviting anyone but immediate family (not even bridal party) and grandma. I am also not telling a soul. He's very close with his grandpa, but I'm still trying to reconcile that my wedding day will be my "real" wedding still. That being said...yeah. Not a wedding when that happens 5 years later. I don't get it.

Anyone else notice the twitching with Ryan/what looks like a tic? I can't tell if it's a leftover injury from that car accident, or if he's on something. I don't think I ever noticed it before, though...really thinking he's on something. Mackenzie TOTALLY knows that Ryan is full of it when talking about drugs/rehab. These two just look so guilty on the couch. Dr. Drew isn't buying it. Did Larry just say, "Get him, girl" when it was suggested that Maci go out on the couch with Ryan? Maci has Ryan's number and Ryan knows it...and I say that as someone who is NOT a Maci apologist.

Thank you, and no hahaha. The word "snatched" did not come out of his mouth! Thank you!