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I think Christina is accustomed to dating guys who are flings. She admits that most men (paraphrasing) gush all over her, tell her she's beautiful, etc- and my impression is that she has physical encounters with men and has never had a close emotional relationship. It appears she doesn't even know what it means to connect with someone in a non-sexual way (and it's hard if you lie about basic things such as where you live, and if you scrutinize and criticize the other person for not having the same experiences as you have had). So when Henry doesn't "make a move," she is totally perplexed and feels rejected and that nothing works. So the criticism continues; meanwhile Henry retreats further and further because he is not finding anything he has in common with Christina and gets more puzzled with her odd behavior. She strikes me as very superficial ("I'm not UGLY!" she says to her dinner companion)- and that her looks should be enough to win her a guy. I won't comment on her odd wardrobe choices; they didn't help. But yeah, I could have overlooked the superficial things if she seemed the least bit sincere.

Thank you. That, in essence, is what is so disturbing about politics today. The gross generalizations.

Someone commented that Miles only mentioned his needs/wants at the decision, and called it "selfish." Honestly, I think the entire time they were together it was ALL about Karen and she set the mood every single time. He was constantly dancing around her, trying to read her mood, trying to decide if he was doing the "right" thing or not. Which then made him seem "soft" in her eyes. He can't win. Their last conversations together were making my head spin because they speak in metaphors and use buzzwords but never seem to get to the point. I was dying for someone to say "are you attracted to me or not?" or "I'm really frustrated because you just don't give me a scrap here." I'm so sick of her making excuses for all of her waffling and whipping him back and forth - marrying a "shtranger" (you elected to do this, honey!), COVID, racial tensions, etc. This stuff is what life is, so learn to deal with it. Or not. Bennett is trying a bit too hard with the pants and the tattoo. But hey, Amelia seems to like it so... hope they are happy. Christina had SUCH the face of "oh shit, I'm being uncovered." She is so, so bad at trying to act normal. Henry's comment last week that he had to try not to laugh when she was talking about how well they were doing and had turned a corner, blah blah was spot on. Any normal person would be scratching their head at her terrible acting. I think she said "I never thought you were gay!" at least five times, and that was her way of deflecting the entire conversation away from her dishonesty. He had many chances to refer to her questionable character: her allegations that she lived in NO, her leaving the apartment for a "walk" dressed like she was going clubbing, the mysterious disappearing text from a "reliable source" which she now says came as an anonymous text (was it a friend playing a joke? Was it one of his friends? hmmmm).I give Henry credit for taking the high road at the end. Olivia had her stank face on and we knew that there wasn't going to be any concession made on her part. I can't read Brett but I think overall she may be on to something- he pulls out a sympathetic face or makes a loving comment when he senses he may have pushed a little too far or gotten a bit too critical or sarcastic. I wouldn't like that. Woody and Amani are cute and I wish them well. I was a little annoyed by all the teary happiness by Viviana ("Thank GOD we did something right!!!") Dr. Pepper looked awkward sitting there with her legs splayed out in her pantsuit. She seemed exhausted- except when she was patting herself on the back for her brilliant pairing of Amelia and Bennett.

ohh that's my alma mater. Wow.

here's where there can be a lot of discord and disagreement. I am not going to judge someone for being outside, without others in close proximity, getting a break from their apartment. As someone who HAD to leave my home every day (essential worker), I don't see the criticism of someone social distancing (as recommended) to just take a break. My husband and I went out and took walks every night throughout the lockdown. People went to grocery stores. So I'm not going to call them "entitled snowflakes" for that.

I've never been on a TV show but I was interviewed in a bookstore about how I felt when Vanessa Williams was de-crowned as Miss America for having done porn. Yeah, I'm also old. I do have two youtube videos of me doing medical procedures. I guess that's not really celebrity, huh?

I don't think the "I'm sorry" was necessarily disingenuous, even though it was from Christina and well, she's a phony baloney. I don't think an "I'm sorry," implying "I'm sorry that this is so painful and close to home" is inappropriate.

I can definitely say that my leanings toward each individual on this show have solidified at lot this episode: Bennett: what a thoughtful, kind human he is. He listens, he doesn't foist his advice or his lifestyle on anyone else. He is carefully cautious with his relationship, but willing to put his all into it to see where it goes. Yes he's a goofball andhis ambition in terms of providing for himself in the future is a little weak but he is a genuinely good person. Amelia: she's nurturing the relationship and seems to definitely consider Bennett's feelings. And she looks a little less like a disheveled hippie with her haircut and perhaps some less questionable wardrobe choices. Karen: way to make Covid a reason to continue your dance of indecision. I do appreciate that she liked Miles' baring of his emotions without throwing him shade about his "feminine" side. But she is really still keeping him at arm's length which to me shows she's already halfway out the door. Miles: he is trying but he realizes his potential is waning. She goes on and on about "getting to know each other" and all the other things she should be past and he knows it. Woody: he can really read a room. His commentary on Christina was spot on. He seems to be very devoted to the concept of a committed marriage. He's entertaining, caring and funny. Amani: I have really come to like her entire personality. Yeah, she and Woody are cute together but she's also sincere and caring with others as well. She asks questions and wants to know the answers. She was very kind with helping Olivia move her belongings. And she didn't reveal the personal details to the group that Olivia shared with her, which I give her great points for. Christina: fake, fake, fakeity-fake. What the hell? Crying? Over Olivia and Brett? And then she trash talks Brett, "confesses" that she's dated a lot of assholes (why to they bleep out the "holes" part rather than the "ass" part?) I'm sure the others were inwardly rolling their eyes at her phony drama. And that clip of her revealing that she used to be a big liar? I think the pathology runs extremely deep here. Henry: very twitchy at times tonight; I was so hoping he would tell the group in front of Christina that she accused him of not being attracted to her because he was gay; that she "lost" the text from the supposed informant, etc. He had sooo many chances. I do like him and I know he's already thrown in the (wet, on the floor) towel. He just can't pull his trump cards and he is so justified to do so. I guess because he's a decent guy and doesn't want to embarrass her. But she is doing a very good job of doing that all by herself.

Bill sets off a huge ICK response in me. Not only the hideous wardrobe, the dingy teeth, the stringy hair, the horribly ostentatious "mansion" that looks like it's from King Henry the VIIIth era, blah blah... but he uses Brie's naiveté to manipulate her. "Honey, don't you know this is how the world works? I have to let my ex stay in my spectacular beach house because we spent x years together! You have to be nice to my vile ex Kathleen when even though she trash-talks you on camera because we have children together!" He knew that Brie came from the "wrong side of the tracks," as it were but makes every effort for her to turn against her family. Yeah, Sharon is crude and I'm sure her coughing on the food etc was all played up for the cameras' sake. But Bill has no problem constantly insulting her to her daughter which I'm sure is his way of dividing them and avoiding embarrassment that he chose someone whose family doesn't match his elitist standards. All the talk of "she's gotta go," as if she's a worn out sofa and the "YAY!! when they discussed that Sharon moved out would be upsetting to me as her daughter, no matter how unclassy she might be. It's all disgusting. Then to top it off, he buys Mom off by renting her a house and offering to purchase it in a year "if she still likes it." Brie, the naive little girl that she is, lights up with joy that her Knight in Shining Armor would do such a selfless thing for her mother! What a guy. On the flip side, we have Erica (what exactly is an "influencer"? Does that provide income?) who uses her small-town-gal persona to manipulate Rick. I get his point, adults nowadays don't usually go to their intended's father to ask permission. But she pushed it pretty hard and I think it was just to give herself a better presentation. I wouldn't want to marry the guy- I have a problem with older guys sitting around with puka shell necklaces and ponytails as if they are aging Rolling Stones- he has a penchant for hot pink clothes and his teeth are way too fake (maybe his hair too) but he seems fun-loving and energetic. Still, no need to moan and rub tanning lotion on her belly while her mother watches. I have to laugh at Reese's family bemoaning the fact that Nonie might be inhibiting "his future." What does that consist of exactly? Hitting every skate park in Seattle? Holding the Guinness book record for longest beard or time between shampoos? He has such a bland flat affect it's really hard to believe he has feelings for Nonie. A guy who has never used a clothes hanger and has skateboard logos emblazoned on all of his shirts isn't someone whose life progress will be impeded by living in a house that has intact drywall. Kattie (another one without any sort of real way of supporting herself) needs to get a clue and dump that piece of shit who "has told her that he cares for her." Another one with an expressionless face and questionable interest in his girlfriend. "You're thinking of moving to Vegas?" (GULP)

In all fairness (and I posted this earlier), as a healthcare worker I can attest that most of us were OVERLY cautious, having to report to work knowing the virus was out there and we were in its presence. You cannot assume that she was "ignoring it;" how could she? Olivia in scrubs (we all changed right before leaving the hospital), "recklessly" checking on her family- these are all assumptions that none of us can make. How easily those who were able to truly stay home can make judgments on those who did report to work as essential employees.

Richmond is comparable to New Orleans. Taxes aren’t bad and there is a teaching hospital here with lots of housing for residents.

Not a joke, for sure. But let me defend Olivia a bit as another healthcare provider. Because we have had to report to work daily, many of us have developed a more practical view of Covid and its risks. Not to minimize them, at all... but I, like many others, spent the first few months of the pandemic in a level of anxiety, reporting to a building that I knew had the virus inside its walls, and like many- viewing it as an invisible killer that could kill us off at any moment. It was exhausting, physically, mentally and emotionally. We all stripped in our garages, washed our scrubs in bleach and showered the minute we left work. Over time, it's really difficult to maintain that level of hyper-awareness and function. And we all have learned to be careful and reasonable, protect ourselves and families as we can, and we have continued to go out into the world and do what we have to do. Many other people who have been able to work from home and stay there, have the view that a) they are safer and more "right," and b) that those of us who work in health care are teeming with germs. I don't find either to be true. That said, as early on as these scenes were filmed, I am surprised that Olivia went to see her family, although as others said, they may have had special health concerns, etc. And we have no idea whether she very well may have been following precautions (showering/changing before seeing them, wearing a mask, etc). So I get Brett's concern. I have learned there are so many degrees of caution out there; personally I am glad to have had a job to go to (for my own sanity) and, thankfully, I have remained healthy. This despite a coworker contracting Covid and having patients in our hospital with it. I am convinced that Christina equates love with sex, and her total befuddlement that Henry hasn't showered her with compliments regarding her hot/sexy appearance and wanting to jump her bones is a sad testimonial to her perception of a good relationship. Also- flowers don't mean love, either. Henry needed to be direct: "why did you lie about where you lived? Why would you go out for a 'walk' dressed in dress and heels for six hours?" but he just can't. I don't know if it's because he's nice or because he's cowardly. But she seems to be pushing because she can. I can't decipher Brett's body language. He says one thing but his demeanor belies it. Olivia asks, "do you want to be married to me?" to which he answers, "I've expressed how I feel," with averted eyes and a flat tone. He could be interpreted as holding his cards close, not wanting to be vulnerable or hurt her feelings. But he comes across as flip, sarcastic and cold. I think he was exhausted by her constant push for analysis of their relationship.... but he could have been more diplomatic and said, "look, the official period is over; I need to go back to my house; Covid is freaking me out and I really think we aren't helping each other out during this stressful time." I cannot imagine having to be quarantined with someone I barely know under such difficult circumstances. It was hard at times with my beloved husband, cat and dog, in my comfortable house. Imagine being with someone who is sarcastic, bitchy, cold, awkward, or dirty- in a sterile apartment that's more like an Air B andB for two months. Lord help me, I'd have a full-on breakdown.

Henry's twitches came out full-force when the blindfold went on. I noticed that he was much more relaxed and made good eye contact during his conversation with Bennett (who was so attentive and insightful. I really do like him.) Christina has a very odd way of dressing. Sort of beachy-meets-milkmaid. Olivia is exhausting, but Brett has an infuriating way of acting as if he's having a conversation while never answering a question directly. His end was mostly "uh huh," "I hear you," or answering her questions with another question. That would drive me nuts. But to be equal to both of them, she is exhaustive with her questions about their relationship, analysis of every move, glance and word, and her refusal to just converse and get to know the guy. Karen and Miles bore me so I find myself getting up to do chores during their segments. Woody and Amani are cute, as are Amelia and Bennett; therefore I don't have much to say about them. Now I realize why they put such odd couples together. Otherwise we wouldn't watch.

In addition, she chose the "non-chores" that Bennett dreamed up, like answering the door and getting the mail. Those aren't chores! I looked Amelia up and noticed she is in residency in my area. Interesting!

I guess this is taking things a little too seriously for me. Honestly, if someone thinks armpit hair is unappealing, so what? we all snark here on dirty feet, unkempt hair, and even things that people can't change like Brett's nose and Christina's chin. I have fun here; I don't necessarily want to get deep into feminist principles or the evils of big corporations. But hey, I won't argue anyone's right to voice their opinions.

Olivia is a nurse practitioner. She could very well be diagnosing and treating you; much more likely than taking your vital signs at the bedside.

I honestly don't think I've watched an episode of reality tv where I've said "I just don't care" to myself so many times. Not to mention that it all seemed horrendously scripted and fake; I just couldn't buy into it the least little bit. Colt working on self-improvement, introspection and meditation? Naaah. Eric really caring about Larissa and being excited that she is getting new boobs? Nope. (I only watch him because his odd hand motions fascinate me. I bet he was nominated "most likely to flunk out of acting school on the first day" in high school Asuelu's sister being genuinely concerned about her mother and her feelings? Not really. Paul acting "normal" (did you notice how fake-polite he was to Karine at the airport- and how he now says her name with a Brazilian accent? "Karrriné" vs "Kreeny"). His mother was kind of pitiful. "PAUL!!!! PAUL! CONTACT ME WHEN YOU GET THERE!!!! PAUL!!!!!!!!!!!" Elizabeth's mom with this line: "I thought this country was poor and everybody would be sad." What the actual f? And the ongoing commentary about the food, and how Charlie and the lovely Jen refer to "OUR money" when they really mean CHUCK's money. They all seem to have limped through life so far through "ill-gotten gains," a shred of TV fame and perhaps a few free meals while drying out in the local jail. People in glass houses and all that. I did love the wedding because it looked like a blast with the music, dancing and food. We all knew Charlie would not be able to hide his ugly personality and wow, is he ever a sloppy drunk. I was waiting for him to fall down. Ange and Michael had a nice wedding. All the sex talk was gross. No one cares. Not even your TV audience.

I don't think the topic was screaming children, it was nursing children. The previous poster was saying the child could potentially scream if it weren't fed and its mealtime was during the mother's restaurant experience. so... if she can discreetly breastfeed her child, then there's no screaming and no disruption of your $15 cocktail. And most restaurants have changing areas in the bathrooms, so the diaper change shouldn't affect you either.

Or when you are on TV...

I do applaud Darcey for wearing reasonable shoes when she met up with Georgi in NYC. Georgi's hair is absolutely heinous. No, no, no. I am not sure how these women can really believe that their men friends "get them," are their "soulmate," and "understand them" when a) they speak limited English, b) their main concern is that "he's hot" and c) they've literally spent about 10 hours total with them. I was kind of hoping for a drunk Darcey scene because she's one of those blatantly obviously inebriated people who just gets sloppy and slurry once the alcohol hits and everything falls apart. In other words, a sloppy drunk. The reason their company fell apart: "we were following love." awwwww

Darcey's insecurity is as palpable as can be, and her jealousy of Stacy is just cringeworthy. ("go ahead, enjoy your fiance," she says, with barely concealed disgust). I get so fatigued at her over-the-top exclamations over every little thing (her kids dancing- "yeah, go girl!", the roses Georgi gives her - "ooh roses! I've never been treated so well!", the immediate "fixing" of her life after one short therapy session -"I'm in a good place! Time to start a new chapter!") The whole speil about her senses being so heightened- the food was so flavorful! Georgi smells so good!- was pure Nicholas Sparks on steroids. She is just full of phrases right out of a self-improvement book. But every action, every tear, every sneer belies her phony happiness. If her kids are "her world," she sure doesn't show it. If she has to say she's a "cool Mom," she isn't. And if she is truly over her disastrous relationships (really only disastrous because she expected a fairy-tale filled with roses, diamonds, and endless affection) then she doesn't need to talk about them. Ever. Ever again. But they come up, over and over and over. She was hurt, she was crushed, she was deceived. She is EXHAUSTING. Stacy is a little less tearful but another version of the same thing. Every little moment that doesn't go perfectly is a crushing disappointment. Florian is tired- she hoped he'd be more excited to see her. She forgives him- uh-huh- for the suspicious pictures, but she is going to have access to his phone (a gift from her!) and monitor his every move. I think Daddy Silva's protective act is staged. I can't imagine feeling like his "little girls" need him to monitor and coddle them is real. However, he does put a roof over their heads so there's that. The whole California move was odd. "Girls, Mommy wants to go to CA to work on the business. What do you think?" "Sure. I would like a warmer climate." OK! Done! The kids have to be acting. That's just not teenager behavior.

Angela: "I may fuss a lot, but I've always shown you respect, Michael." HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA Paul: "I've done everything I can to provide for my family." HAHAHAHAHAHAHA Colt: "I haven't been a very good boyfriend." HAHHAHAHAHAHA

Well, Lindsey showed her ass in no time flat. She really expected that Flaps would design a house based on her "wish list" of magazine pictures? Of course, we don't have any idea what these guys promise their "soul-mates" when they are trying to woo them in prison. And the inmates have no idea how little money most of these schlubs have. I would say it's a case of each one duped the other. The guys on the outside promise all the clothes, jewelry, limo rides, five-star restaurant meals their "queens" desire, and the inmate women come across as sweet little wronged innocents that will immediately provide all of the cooking, cleaning and sex the desperate men could ever want. This was a business arrangement in Lindsey's eyes: "I promised to pretend to be in love with this guy in exchange for my dream home and a limitless credit card." So she's pissed. Destinee is similar. She really thought she could pull a con on Shawn- pretend to promise her soul to him and play the wife role in exchange for all the shopping she could manage. Her outright disdain for him, while he just takes her abuse, is disgusting. He's more stupid than Scott though. He is sure they can "work it out" and that theirs is true love. I wish I could say he is about to get what he deserves, but... yeah, six children.

Many quiet introverts need time to feel out the other person, and Henry admitted that he has some eye contact issues. If that person (e.g., Christina) starts the wedding out the way she did (bitching at the producers before she even walked down the aisle), is so indifferent to the conversation with the new spouse that earrings are much more important, literally looks down their nose at you, asks with condescension, "you haven't left the COUNTRY?", and looks equally disdainful at your home and makes stink faces during every conversation, then the quiet person may very well shut down. And she is the one who got super snippy trying on dresses with her mother and friends. So I think she is a "type" that is not a good fit at all for Henry. For people who say, "why is he on the show? He isn't even trying" I will say that he might have gone on the show to really take a chance and hopefully find someone who is a good fit for him. There are lots of women who would like a low-key, thoughtful guy like him. I don't give Christina a pass to be nasty just because he is slow to warm and quiet. The right match could have been magical. As for Brett and Olivia, I see both sides because they mirror me and my husband. He's a saver; I like to spend. I am grateful that we have saved well over the years and it is pretty fun to watch your net worth grow, pay off your mortgage, and be able to take nice vacations (which Brett can't see yet. But someday he will have a big enough nest egg that he will realize that he doesn't have to save every penny). I rolled my eyes at the party scene when Olivia was in the bedroom talking to- mother? aunt? friend? - and said "he's loud and outgoing" and the camera cut to him sitting in the living room laughing: "HAHAHAHAHAHA" with his mouth wide open. Although I think most couples could overcome the budget differences, I don't think there is enough attraction there for them to want to get past it. They will probably part come decision day.

I really think that, despite Sumit's assertion (said with the enthusiasm of a piece of furniture) that he and Jenny are "truly in love," I think he is just a slog who doesn't want to try very hard at anything and sees her as someone who will keep him company and give him sex. But he's also conflicted because he really doesn't want to be disowned from his family, which is a true possibility in his culture. Not that I would blame them. What an odd situation for any parents- but especially seemingly very traditional Indian parents. I know someone from India whose parents never approved of his wife (they met organically and fell in love; his parents had wanted him to marry someone they had selected) and they will not visit his family or welcome his wife-and he has been married to her more than 30 years (and they have 2 children). So these cultural expectations run very deep. On top of that, I doubt Sumit has anything to bring to the table with regards to moving to America. He doesn't seem to have any sort of job skills (I know that many in the tech/engineering fields can come here either temporarily or permanently to work ) or money (nor does Jenny). Add to it the total lack of foresight and planning each of them has, and yeah - they will just remain stuck in their little sad apartment feeling persecuted for the rest of their days. Ari acts like a very young person who knows nothing about the world. Which is probably what she is, emotionally. I don't have the dislike of her Mom that others do. She is seemingly the baby of the family, Mom and Dad are older and have protected and coddled her- including her wild hare of traveling all over the world without a care on their dime- and her mother is understandably worried about her being basically alone in a very different country with her baby's birth imminent. Ari just can't think beyond ten minutes from now and without Mom there to hold her hand through everything, she is realizing she has no life skills AT ALL. I truly believe that she has some sort of stunted development going on. She is 30 and acts like she is 16. Brittney is playing a very scary and stupid game. I want to wipe the perpetual smirk off her face when she gloats: "no one is gonna tell ME what to do?" Her smug little question when confronted about her (ridiculous) Instagram pictures (I'm paraphrasing) about "is snooping against Islam?" or some such just shows what a stupid twat she is. First of all, she obviously posts because she wants her pictures seen. Second of all, she has no regard for Yazan's culture or the serious implications of defying it. Her comment that "Yazan's parents want him to be a virgin so.... yeah, he's a virgin" (you could almost feel the wink) is just a flirtation with disaster and a callous disregard for his culture or his feelings. Meyliza and cheesestick are so boring. She is so full of disdain it just oozes off of her. She has no interest in repairing their relationship and he is looking more and more the fool "trying" to win her back. He needs to go home and address his poor self-esteem for thinking that being horny is a reason to cheat on someone he regards as his true life partner, and for continually embarrassing himself by repeating the story to her, her father, her sister, her mother, and millions of TV viewers. It's excruciating. Although I wish Kenny and Armando well, I am getting fatigued by the crying and repeating over and over of their trials of being accepted in Mexico. I do love that little dog, though.