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You've got it right, I think. As someone who married a Jeff Lewis type (and there is a "type" associated with his behavior), there is NO act involved when he begins his slow burn which quickly escalates into verbal abuse and, lately, threats of firing. He uses people until his rage gets the better of him at which point he lets them go, then expects all to be forgotten at a time he deems appropriate. He uses Jenny, whether she formally "worked" for him or not. Okay, maybe the last few years she was employed by the show rather than by Jeff Lewis Design. If their actual relationship was staged for the sake of the show they would've fooled me. I am thinking specifically of Jeff's calling Jenny to come to the bedside of Grandma. He sure appeared to have needed Jenny's motherly assistance both as support to him and to the grandmother. He is narcissistic to an extreme. I think the term, "narcissistic," is overused, but in Jeff L's case it would seem the best description. Gage is beginning to assume that long-suffering expression I've seen on the faces of many victims of narcisstic abuse. It would not be surprising if he has learned to block out much of Jeff's cruel behavior by simply going through the motions, doing what is expected of him, and dreaming of the day when he can gather the courage to leave. He stays with Jeff because of the show and the money-- that's my guess. If I had to offer Gage one important piece of advice it would be this: Leave now before Jeff beats you to it (which he will, I promise). Narcissists cannot bear to be left; they must be the ones to do it first. I'm still wondering, too, about the firing of Paul and Franky. Didn't one of them get fired by Jeff earlier on in this season or the last, only to return again, quite predictably? If Flipping Out is, indeed, gone for good, I'll be shocked.
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I feel only empathy for Jen and Larry, since I went through a similar situation many years ago with my son. My way of dealing with it went against the "tough love" approach. Some may have accused me of enabling, but I am beyond grateful that my son is 30 years old now and hasn't used drugs in years. He has a very good job, will be married soon, and worked as a D&A counselor in his earlier years of recovery. That first real job seemed to help him with his sobriety as much as it helped the recovering youth with whom he worked. He was much younger than Ryan when he got clean, but still.... I believe a parent's pure love will steer a child straight before the alternative: being tossed on the street to mingle with others of the same ilk. Also, Ryan's parents obviously are contributing to his recovery by supporting his rehab efforts, no matter how many times it takes. In any case, Jen and Larry would not even BE on Teen Mom, along with appearing at those obnoxious interviews with Dr. Drew, were it not for Maci signing up for the show in the first place, albeit a decade earlier. After all, someone had to initiate MTV's filming, thus allowing the nation to view Maci's messed-up, baby-out-of-wedlock, world. And they're all still allowing it. I remember Maci announcing she'd prohibit her son from filming due to Farrah's immoral presence, but she's still filming, and so much for yanking Bentley from the camera's prying eye. I believe the producers coax Jen and Larry to participate on this show; otherwise, another feeble storyline would dry up. As it stands, the show is choking by on its last breath. I give it another season, and that's being generous. In the meantime, it's not easy for me to find fault with Ryan's parents. Just don't get me started on his wife.
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Rachel & Jon: Bearded in Britain
StayingAfterSunday replied to Drogo's topic in The Couples (Spoilers)
Re: Jon's alleged number of fights over the years. Has the possibility been considered that he engages in street fights as a form of entertainment? Some English travellers (a/k/a Romany, gypsies, gipsies) have been known to take to the streets and go all in for bare-knuckles brawls, sometimes planned in advance and other times occurring impulsively. Spectators from their community will cheer their favorites on, similar to a pro (okay, semi-pro) boxing match. It would not be a leap to think that TLC might distort or misrepresent this past time of Jon's in order to convey something more dramatic and risky for the sake of a good story line. Of course, Jon and Rachel would be required to play along, but I think we've seen that the benchmark is pretty low for reality-show participants. I'm not by any means suggesting that Jon is, in fact, a traveller or associated with their community, but it is something to think about when all of those fights were discussed on the show. For what it's worth, I found this little flyer from 2015 advertising 24 affordable traveller and gypsy caravans (or pitches) for rent in Jon's hometown of Weston-super-Mare. https://www.homechoicensomerset.org.uk/Data/Pub/PublicWebsite/ImageLibrary/GT leaflet.pdf -
The Girls: Are they really that clueless?
StayingAfterSunday replied to Meredith Quill's topic in Unexpected
It was painful to watch Emily try to articulate a simple sentence. Then the sagacious insight shared by one of her friends, "I don't want him [Diego] to be like a teenage boy one day and a dad the next day." Has no one let her in on the secret that Diego is, in fact, a teenaged boy? Then there is Emily trying to express in fifty different ways just why it isn't OK for a guy to treat a girl like that, meaning the way he treated her or treats her. It just isn't OK, and, like, she just doesn't want her daughter to think it's OK to be treated like that by a guy. -
Small Talk: 90 Words Per Minute
StayingAfterSunday replied to David T. Cole's topic in 90 Day Fiancé
Great point. As it now stands, these delusional chumps deserve no sympathy when the truth is revealed. I really believe some of them know they're being played, but ego and lust prevent them from pulling aside the curtain and exposing the lie. They're just as guilty as the catfisher since they, too, are playing a game. It would probably be a lot cheaper, though, for these people to join that online platform (the creators refuse to refer to it as a "game") called, "Second Life," where pretending to be someone else is the whole point. -
Season 2 Discussion
StayingAfterSunday replied to Drogo's topic in 90 Day Fiancé: Before The 90 Days
I have got to see that movie, then, to gain a better understanding of what might be going on with Karine. If her excuse for the way she looked goes beyond her having just gotten out of bed with no time to apply makeup, a touch of lipstick, or comb her hair, then it's got to be something else. Her appearance, as well as her affect, have changed considerably since last season- which, according to the timeline, is about four months. -
Season 3 Discussion
StayingAfterSunday replied to Drogo's topic in 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After
I don't think Anfisa - or Jorge - are interesting, and they sure as hell aren't interested in each other. It's becoming all too apparent that the two of them keep their story going for the sake of that TLC paycheck and little else. That picture of Nicole above: Too funny. Every time I look at Nicole's face I try to picture her 80 pounds lighter. Okay, 100 lbs. lighter. Her face seems actually misshapen and bloated due to her obesity. It's really a shame because she could be pretty if she took care of herself. She might even be able to snag a guy with sincere intentions, unlike Azan. Of course, none of this even begins to address Nicole's lack of common sense, etc. -
Season 3 Discussion
StayingAfterSunday replied to Drogo's topic in 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After
Maybe I'm the weird one but I like Jorge. If he'd lose some weight and get in shape he'd look like a different person. Jorge was honest when he said (on the tell-all show from last season) that his infatuation with Anfisa and the subsequent deception on his part resulted from the fact that someone of her caliber was taking an interest in him. Evidently he allowed his ego and his male member, no doubt, to compromise his character. Anfisa's nasty outbursts and astounding sense of entitlement strike me as much more offensive than anything Jorge has done. Jorge's sister got it right, IMO. -
Russ and Paola: You're the Only Juan for Me
StayingAfterSunday replied to David T. Cole's topic in The Couples (Spoilers)
Russ - or anyone, for that matter - can clearly see that Pao's body type conforms more to the adult entertainment niche than it does to anything else. (I just don't see Pao strutting down the catwalk in Milan.) With this in mind, Russ is justified in feeling offended when Pao continues to pursue this elusive career that seems to miss the mark of respectability. It's getting tiresome to hear Russ talking about supporting his wife, his wife not supporting him, supporting each other, blah blah. -
Justin Ritter (Tulsa) is my absolute favorite. He's hilarious, no small feat when dealing with such horrific circumstances on a daily basis.
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S01.E10: When Right Feels Wrong
StayingAfterSunday replied to druzy's topic in Teen Mom: Young And Pregnant
Agreed. As for the ass whooping I think Stephan has gotten plenty of them from that aunt or whomever raised him. His breaking down in tears after his aunt berated him at the baby shower made me wonder if he was actually afraid of the consequences still to come. About Kyler and Lexi: Yet Kyler is just the type who will mope around and be inconsolable when she dumps his ass. He likes feeling so important and special by the likes of Lexi the former cheerleader --never mind the fact that Lexi's personality is as dynamic as a piece of soggy toast. The more I think about it, I'm convinced the show's producers went out and found as many people as they could with IQs south of 80. If this show comes back for a new season I will not be tuning in. Stephan/Lexi/Lexi's mother: Stephan's face as he raged and ranted, fists clenched and eyes blazing, reflected evil. Only a dull, stupid girl like Kayla could be so clueless as to not recognize this. He will do more than hit her if she refuses to accept the obvious. That baby could also be endangered by this human landmine of a father. When Lexi's mother said she felt sorry for Izaiah and Kayla she was thinking about the 18 years of sheer hell they will have to endure with Stephan in the picture. Configdotsys, your suggestion is right on. That tape may very well prove valuable in keeping an unsupervised Stephan away from the family. They will need to file a police report, though, every time he erupts or steals or exhibits any more sociopathic behaviors. The importance of documenting these incidents cannot be overestimated. -
Oh, yes to all of this. I got so tired of hearing the two of them talking all over the place about nothing. "Ups and downs," "a rollercoaster," "everything we've been through," and on and on. I was tuning them out after hearing the same nonsense replayed, none of which made much sense. To be honest, I thought Ryan had some personality although he did come off a little "ADHD" at times. Jackie's constant "pouty face" was starting to wear on me. If I were Ryan I could not stand to look at that all puss of an expression all day. Not only that, but I thought Jackie had little to no personality. The decision day "PDA" shown between the two of them threw me for a loop; perhaps Ryan, in particular, should pursue a career in acting - or comedy, or both. I cannot for the life of me understand why in the world the "experts" thought these two were a good match. Same thing for Jon and Molly. Jephte and Shawniece. I love Shawniece and her hearty laugh. These two have a good chance of making it because I think Shawniece's easy going nature and sense of humor are what Jephte needs to help him loosen up a bit. I read that he's the eldest of 14 boys. At least I think I read that; if so, it may explain his lack of experience in dating, falling in love, etc. Who has time to chase girls when you've got 13 younger siblings to (presumably) watch out for?
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MAFS Social Media, Spoilers & Speculation
StayingAfterSunday replied to Bella's topic in Married At First Sight
Of course it's going to be Jephte's kid. Even so, the question remains as to whether they are still married.