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I think that after their first child was put up for adoption, Cate and Tyler needed to go their separate ways, at least for a while. Tyler feels trapped, hence the anger. I think Cate somehow blames Tyler for giving up the first child, or she's hellbent on proving that they just didn't hook up and produce Carly, that it was true love forever, so she's doing every possible thing to keep him with her. Clearly, he wants out. With her doing so little, unlikely he walks away, unless he could get primary custody of their kids. Cate doesn't do squat from what little I've seen. She says she does so much, but nah. Amber, oh the show is making my life miserable. Bet you'd be a lot more miserable if you didn't have the money from the show. If you're that miserable, quit and get some real help. At the end of the show, it was all rainbows and sunshine. Wait a minute. I thought the point of the show was to show the struggles of teen moms, i.e. safe sex, don't get knocked up as a teen. Then Drew says some statement about safe sex. I thought it was poorly timed. So you have beautiful children onstage, and you're talking about how to avoid (these) unplanned pregnancies? WTH. You have at least two kids who would understand what that means.

Wow, I think I lost brain cells watching this special. Special it was not. I am so tired out from the holiday and work that I just left the show on tv while I was surfing the net. I think part of me thought, there has to be more than this nothingness?? Nope One of the three would give a word salad response and the other two would mimic it. Why did they have Devoin in Times Square? I've seen better reporters/hosts/anchors on high school tv channels. The paid host, Ness, was maybe a notch or two above Devoin. I first thought her name on screen was Mess, and thought wow, how appropriate.

Kate was pretty business like when going over the room that was terribly done. Even if the towels were thrown on the floor by someone else, the cameras showed Laura doing a shitty job of tucking under the sheets. It looked sloppy. It may be that Laura thinks she should be Chief Stew, so she doesn't like what she's doing now and just doing enough to get by. I have someone on our team at work, who was in another position, former company that this unit broke away from - but totally different area. This person was in their job for at least 10 years, so they think they know everything, quick with little retorts and acts like buddies with the higher ups - whom she had contact with in her old job. Problem is, she doesn't know squat about this job - NOTHING. I had her review something for me, which took her about 10 minutes tops. She was in a hurry for yet another smoke break. I asked, you are done already? Yeah, it's not like it's that difficult was the response. I should have checked it again because there was an error. Took me 3 days to unwind later in the month, and it could have been client facing. I almost said - this is why you take more time to review - yes, it's not difficult, but there is no way you're done in 10 minutes. She'd only been there about 3 or 4 months, so I took it easy on her. BIG MISTAKE. She is still careless as hell, resulting in the entire team being on the hot seat for her mistake (total BS). I honestly feel she's regretting leaving the job she knew like the back of her hand, and was the 'go to person' in that department. I am seeing the same sort of behavior from Laura. Coming in hot, knows everything, rushes through shit, and doesn't like being at the bottom of the totem pole. The fact that Kate kept telling her to keep the volume down and move away so the guests did not hear her hit me. If she were a chief stew before, she'd know or should know to keep any arguments, issues, away from the guests. They are paying for a great experience overall, not to hear you yell at your boss (rightly or wrongly). You keep that shit away. It's like hearing this kind of argument at a store or a restaurant. Nope. Take it to the back room or off hours. Laura is not professional one bit. If she's doing this for her 5 minutes, bad move.

Wow. Just saw this episode. Now I've not seen all the prior episodes, but I have read some recaps. It seems like Caroline was either sick or injured, and rarely pulled her own weight. She clearly has issues. I've never seen Kate treat someone on her crew with kid gloves like she did with Caroline. While blasting the music was totally unprofessional, I kind of get it. You're tired, been busting your ass for days/weeks, and this person who hasn't done a thing is now leaving - bad mouths you when she was all sweet as pie hours ago. Then she says basically, fuck you, you do the work, I'm going to sleep - again. Totally get it. There's always a lump on every work team, whom everyone else has to drag along. If they fuck up royally, then everyone pays for it, even though you may babysit them or follow up behind them to mitigate any mistakes. If the team does well, then the lump gets all the 'spoils', too. At some point, you do say - wait a minute - what the holy hell! Then she blatantly lied to the captain. She did not say she was ill that morning as her excuse for not working. She just said she wasn't working (along with the talking head of how she had the nightmare about Kate and Josiah - so she wasn't working or being near them). I didn't see any bullying other than the loud music and telling her to get out. Again, they seemed to tip toe around her. Kate had even said, good job with the laundry (I think on the prior episode) to her. I've never heard Kate give someone a complement for doing the laundry - ever. Caroline just needs to leave this alone and get some help. The people who are basically egging her on via social media are not true friends nor do they have her best interest at heart. She needs to get off of SM, forget this show, rest and get help. I don't understand why she's going after the Captain. He seemed to always be polite to her at the very least. Sensing she's a narcissist or has those tendencies (I have some in my family so I can see the similar actions). She may also be bipolar since she seemed to switch up moods pretty quickly. Wouldn't she had taken or noted any prescriptions she was current taking as she got medication for her foot or sinus infection? Doctors always ask me so as not to have a reaction or cause something else to flare up.

Amber can lose me with how they've ruined her. She would be barely scraping by if it weren't for those MTV checks. She would have to get her dead ass off of the sofa or bed, and she wouldn't have any of her minions to do stuff for her so she doesn't have to get out of bed or the sofa. Don't read the social media if it bothers you so much. She needs anger management stat. When has she not said she was depressed? Oh, and Leah doesn't want to hang around with you because Gary's wife (forget her name) has been the real maternal influence in her life. She's stable, gets off the bed or sofa, and actually does stuff for her and with her. You want Leah to come to you - just because you are her bio mother. She's like a possession to you, plus you're jealous now. I think I could've told Bristol what not to say to Dakota - as much as that counselor did. Don't push any triggers he has. Don't get into an argument. Well, duh. Did I hear her ex say - to his family - that he didn't really understand all this co-parenting stuff. Just tell me when the kids are sick, and I'll tell you when they're sick, that's all we have to do. Not just PTSD but stupid. And Bristol, congrats on picking such a winner. I heard she didn't like how she was being portrayed. 1. Don't go on reality tv, 2., Don't get in continual fights with your ex on tv, 3. Don't talk shit about your ex on tv - or anywhere it can be spread around. Not sure if Tripp wanted to be in contact with the ex or not. He looked a little scared - so not sure scared of Bristol's reaction if he said yes or scared of Dakota. I remember these two fighting in the media when she had their first baby. One said it wasn't Dakota's child, etc,. etc. I don't know who the other couples were. Pass. Maci - she was trying to be supportive of Bentley, and Ryan's parents. I felt sorry for Ryan's parents, but damn, then enabled him or turned a blind eye. Tyler wants out of that marriage. He's not thrilled about not Carly#2. He basically said so with his dad. He hasn't been able to be a young guy. I am wondering if he thought when they put Carly up for adoption that gradually he could get out of that relationship with Cate. Cate will not let him go without lots of drama. Tyler feels like he is a martyr for staying with Cate; if he wanted out, he should've gotten out years ago - walked away, gone away to school or whatever. Why do I get the feeling that Cate really blames Tyler for the adoption? And no number of replacement Carly's will fill that void for Cate. They need to separate now, while there is possibly some time for them to move on and have happy lives.

I have watched maybe parts of a couple of episodes, max. Somehow tonight, I didn't change the channel. As I was listening to Jade say how she wants something better for her daughter, she's going back to school no matter what, I just thought what if this girl had just a normal parent growing up. She's got the druggie mooching mom, who most surely comes around every time she needs help and money. She has to be looking for that big MTV money. Jade, be smart, and if you give her any money, keep the amounts small. Don't let her know what you're really making from MTV. Lexi, she does seem slow. What in the world does she see in Kyler? Stupid name, and he's a lump of nothing. Not like he's even cute, though stupid. Or stupid, but comes from money. He's like this blob, that does nothing. Ashley? Oh, she's the type who wants guys fighting over her. I think Mom (who may have spoiled her growing up), finally put her foot down and told her she has to move out? I don't know how the ratings for this show are, but it's only year two, so the MTV money is not a certainty. Ashley just looked like she wanted to say whatever, probably thinking oh I'm an MTV 'star' now. Again, not guaranteed sweetie. The anger management class couple - I hope it does work out for them. Don't know if he's being sincere or just saying what everyone wants to hear. Brianna. When she was being told how they had to watch expenses and maybe get second jobs, she also had a whatever look on her face (thinking I'm getting that MTV money, no need to work). Then she got home, from which most certainly was a firing (we don't want to work with you any longer is not a lay off), she looked slightly pissed. I'm betting she got into it with a customer or they were just tired of her attitude and missing work. If she was missing work a lot, no way they didn't speak to her about it before, probably warning her. Guessing she was less than enthusiastic at work, again thinking why am I here, I've got that MTV money coming in soon. I was trying to figure out where she lived. I thought she was in an urban area last time I watched the show (Milwaukee, it turns out). Wiki said she moved to Portland OR with her mom (and the ex). How does Portland just have a few jobs? Unless they live way outside of Portland - which why would you move so far out where jobs are scarce? It also said they had lived in an Airbnb because they couldn't secure an apartment - no local job. Why in the holy hell would you move cross country without doing a little research on where the cost of living was reasonable, plenty of jobs, etc.?

I am tempted to respond to the new work schedule email, asking when boss is going to go into the office in his new city. Oh yeah, there's a desk or office reserved for him, but he had the balls to tell me he wouldn't probably ever go into that office. Say what? What exactly are you doing for your 'punishment', because this is after all, a team? Keep in mind he moved because he didn't like cold weather. I didn't realize that was an option. I said to a friend if I wanted to move, to another location, say to help with a relative, I have no doubt it'd be denied. I also think the whole thing was basically because he's not around and his boss walks the floor to see who's there. He thinks you have to be there to work. Here's a news flash: those two don't really work much when they are in the office. One is surfing the net non stop (pc blew up due to something she accidentally downloaded is what a desktop guy said), one is watching videos on her phone. And who is monitoring what we do? No one. Period. Even if we're in the office, boss is around 800 miles away. He doesn't even chat with folks daily. I had a remote boss way back in the day. That boss knew every fucking thing we did. This guy didn't even speak to us when he was in the office, and he'd be gone by 2 pm every day. He'd schedule later meetings with other departments, then be a no show to his own meetings. Before we got the 'punishment', we got a nasty email about something Dip had jacked up - saying if we didn't get it together, he'd take over that assignment, and it would be to our detriment. That's a threat. I am still pondering sending to HR. He gets very nasty and angry if something goes wrong; he should not be in charge of anyone, period. Yeah, I'm thinking I need to explore taking a leave.

I am so beyond pissed. Dip had a meeting (boss made her do it I guess) about work from home days. He's cutting them due to errors on team. Now I've not had one smidgen to do with any o the errors - none. I protested and he said well we're a team. True, but he is in another region of the country, where he works from home every fucking day. Doesn't see the hypocrisy. Then the Queen Bee said well what happens if you're sick or something happens where you have to be at home? Does that mean you've used your one day? I said, I'll just call off sick - then the Dip or Queenie will have to stay later. She shut up then. And after over 2 year, QB still can't connect to the network from home. Why? I'm sure she doesn't want to do so. She has a part time job down the street from the office, so easier if she comes into the office. I said he's a poor manager, and makes me think I should start looking elsewhere. I'm sure it'll get back to him somehow. Oh, and that it was horrible way to manage, yelling at folks and not instead counselling/training/mentoring people. I also said I had thought about going to HR with concerns. The thing is, he knows he needs me, and I know it. The other two have zero clue. True others could step in, but it'd be temporary. I bet his little working remote would be cancelled. He'd be called into the office to 'fix things'. He's told the other two he could hire anyone off the street to do what they do. Ass.

Watching old 16 and Pregnant shows today, and there is the one with Kailyn. I didn't find her likable then, still don't. Incredibly whiny, and self centered. While her parents weren't great, she landed with Jo's parents who seemed to be truly concerned about her and took care of her. She didn't appear to be grateful one bit. Jo was a bit of an ass, but I'm thinking the me, me, me all the time had started driving him away. She was with some friend Steph, who she said they'd been friends since kids, always went pumpkin picking. Guessing that friend has long been tossed aside? I'll be the armchair psychiatrist and say she's having kids to fill the void of not having a 'normal' family while growing up. Her dad seemed worse than the mom. I read that mom was an alcoholic, but do we know that's true? Seems like she tends to tell stories and spin webs. She's also learned to be very manipulative. I was going to say who knows where she'd have ended up without the show, but she would've managed to keep her head above water. She moves from person to person, manipulates, then once she has what she wants, moves along.

I agreed that Angelina with her old face was the most attractive, but her bad attitude didn't help her at all. Sammi still looks recognizable, so I don't think she's had any crazy plastic surgery. This show has really jumped the shark. The only drama comes from Ron. Actually, the original series had mostly drama from Ron/Sam. The first year, it was so different, so that also carried it along. But when shows have to change locales, you know it's getting a bit stale. I still think they maybe should have had some sort of rotating cast. Maybe keep half and bring in half new, then vice versa.

It's great to hear your new job is going so well @GHScorpiosRule !! And back at the shit show that is my job, Dip struggling with one project that I've done for years. It's basically coordinating end of period stuff. There's a workbook, with one tab having a timeline, same fucking timeline as every year. Dip "worked" on it last year with me, but apparently didn't give a rat's ass, just doing her shit, doing as little as possible. We have had 4 meetings already this week, going over the same damned things. The last go round, she invented shit for her to do. I said no, I told you another group monitors that, this is just an FYI - blank look - it's for reference only. Now I had said she needed to complete a survey, another 4 tab workbook. I have every other period's saved in separate folders, so go look and use as a template. Ok. Today, acted like never heard of it before (another department asked for it and boss sent an email). And yes, another meeting next week to go over it. I said well at least try to get together a draft before this meeting. I'm tired of doing the work for her. Boss actually said to me, I don't understand what is so difficult. And he added you've done this how long with zero issues - at least in the prep (we've had system errors beyond our control before). Typos and wrong dates. Then asking me who would provide her info - and she's worked for this company for over 15 years. Does not retain a damned thing. During our last meeting, asked about something she did last year!! WTF. I said oh it's in the manual. "Well, I didn't see it and I was reading it this morning". I grabbed the manual, took a minute to look at table of contents and said - abcd - it's on page 10. Ohhhh. Yeah, you read it like you do everything - half assed. Every question that is asked of her gets a response with 'this is the first time I've done this'...……….. It's like watching a 10 car pile up in slow motion.

I get back to work today, and Queenie is all into one project. Problem is, she doesn't know what the stuff means. Then we have Dip, working on something else, just screwing up stuff right and left. The stuff that was screwed up - not the actual body of documents (she took a copy from what I've done for years now), but there were typos and misspellings all over the place. Then other shit was mucked up. Boss was livid and directed at the entire team! I was like WTF. I've not been around. I walked Dip though EVERYTHING. It's not my fault she has the attention span of a gnat and an Etch-a-Sketch brain. Dip even fucked up meeting invites. I told boss I'd take it back, after he said if she didn't get it right, he'd do it - after threatening entire team. He's really been a dick lately. It's been that way with others on our team, just not part of this sub team. One woman was out for major surgery, and dickhead boss thought she'd be into work the next week! Then was concerned re: coverage of her shit the day before she was to be out for surgery. She has me read the emails, and he was way out of line. If he starts in on me, I will definitely get HR involved. No sense to it. And, the thing is, if I threaten to walk, they are beyond screwed. Not that I'm a freaking Einstein, but no one knows the stuff. The fact that Dip thought a former team member and I would be around to do the heavy lifting, while she could do her own thing (gossip and surf the web), just shows her mindset. She wants to do what she wants to do - only that. That both the former team member and I said the same things about Dip a good two years ago - and he did NOTHING, sucks to be him. Not my problem now. I warned you. So then I had a call with him. Oh yeah, we're in deep shit. And I said well what exactly has been done wrong. NOTHING I DID, but we're a team...……..so I will get docked on review for shit others did wrong. BS. I am calling him out on his shit on that review. I told him my concerns in DETAIL over a year ago, that she wasn't qualified for this job. Now the chickens have come home to roost. Plus, I think this is retribution for the bad employee survey that all of our management got this year. And if he pushes it, I may write - not sure if he wants me to quit out of frustration as he certainly doesn't value the quality of my work. His buddy, the QB, is feeding him shit I believe. But QB fucked up royally, and it went to HIS boss, who asked WTF, so she's on his shit list now. I couldn't talk freely - he called me to talk - as he works remotely now all the time - he lives roughly 800 miles away - as the Dip was sitting at her desk mere feet away. But, I wanted to say - what did you think would happen? I have shown her everything 4, 5, 6 times, nothing sticks. I can only go behind her and find so many mistakes before something breaks loose. I have caught a ton of mistakes. I cannot do everything. As much as I try to give stuff to Dip to handle, it means double or triple work for me, as she doesn't understand, fucks it up, I catch and have to either fix it (she has left for the day) or doesn't understand or I have to spoon feed it to her how to fix it. She even argued with me re: something she typed wrong - I had to do a screen shot and circle the typo. The fact that every difficult or different request is left for me - where's that teamwork? I've never been able to get out of doing stuff I didn't want to do (aka the Dip slide), plus I have learned new things as new products are available. Anytime something new is introduced Dip takes months to learn it. Wants manuals and example, then never takes notes (loses or can't read them if she takes notes), then wants someone to sit with her and walk through it, even though we've already been using it - learned it ourselves. She fucked up monthly reporting, so boss took it away. I kind of asked about that and he said easier to do it himself - so there you are! And on the project QB has (which Dip originally had but slid out of that) we were told to do abcd, now boss wants something different. I know he said it was good one way because I saved some of the items. So now, reinventing the wheel to get shit done. I really need to play the lottery often.

@bilgistic, I think you're spot on re: your niece. I don't think she really knows this guy. She knows him from vacation times, basically. It's a whole different ballgame being with someone all the time. People who actually know their spouse ahead of marriage always say year one is difficult. She hasn't explored the world to know what she really wants to do yet. Since she's so into church/religion, maybe she could've volunteered with a church group helping people in another part of the country (I wouldn't offer up going overseas as I tend to read horror stories about naïve missionaries who reach a tragic end while traveling abroad for the first time.) But sounds like there's no going back now; I doubt anyone could change her mind. She's probably got fairytale dreams about how it's all going to be happily ever after. A friend of mine in college changed her entire course load and plan to marry a jerk. Literally, every one of her friends could not stand this guy. We took bets at the wedding how long it'd last. Yep, within a year, she filed for divorce. She was one who HAD to be with a guy. Within weeks of breaking up with one guy, she'd be engaged or be 'engaged to be engaged' (hated that term) with the new guy. She changed colleges and graduated early, really screwing up her degree. She'd even been to therapy, recognizing that her needing someone so desperately was sick (she was adopted and said that was the root cause - but her parents were lovely people, gave her everything, supportive of her every move - maybe that was the reason - they gave too much?). I doubt even if someone who married young and regretted it would change your niece's mind. It won't happen to her - she's found her prince (or whom she believes is her prince). And back on my dysfunctional family, Mom is not answering the phone tonight, so she's angry with me for something. Fan-fucking-tastic. I am still so sore and tired. The one thing she said made me shake my head. She used to do all of the Christmas decorating herself! She'd take days to do it, giving herself a break some days. Yes, and had to do it in a day. One day. She wouldn't hear of me putting stuff up before Thanksgiving, and then she had other things that were a priority. So I busted ass to get what would take her weeks done in one day. Then she said I hadn't really done that much for her. I think I won't call her tomorrow; at some point she'll call - because she realizes she needs me - even though I don't do all that much for her.

Christmas will be brief. I have just the 24th, 25th, and 26th off. I may not have to work on 1/1 like I have forever, but not saying a peep as she'd expect me there. The good thing is that with winter, I can say oh the roads are bad, etc., so that cuts way down on visits. It was actually calm most of yesterday and today. I swear she lets some cleaning go to hell on purpose, so then when I'm asked to clean it's beyond disgusting. She kept insisting that her bathroom floor needed cleaned, and if I could look at the guest bathroom, too. Guest bathroom isn't used much so it was not bad. She had some new mop contraption, and it didn't work well. So such a good thing that I brought along my steam mop. I have my car packed to the brim with food supplies and cleaning supplies because she does not stay stocked (or have up to date tools). I move along to her bathroom. She'd said she had prior 'accidents' in not getting to the toilet soon enough or the toilet overflowed. Now, I've used the guest bath multiple times, never an issue (same toilet brand - she's saying the builder used substandard fixtures, which I don't think so, they're just low pressure toilets). Anyhow, she said she'd cleaned it. Not really. Good thing I have a low gag reflex. It was AWFUL. I had the steam mop in back of the commode, as much as possible. I then grabbed some disinfectant wipes and had to use at least one quarter of the super sized container. It was spotless when I left it. Then she crabbed about where I put the used wipes - I keep that bag for ……… whatever it was. Fine. I grabbed another bag and, voila, all solved I made a nice breakfast, and she said it was good, but the eggs could've been done more. Da fuq? She left it until it was almost stone cold - again. I will tell her, meal is 5 minutes away from being done. Do what you need to do - bathroom, or get yourself to the table. Of course, she screws around until the food is cold, then complains. She wanted to go to the grocery, because golden child is still 'sick'. I wanted to get there early. Nope. I said we won't be there until after noon. Bingo. 12:30 we left. "Oh, it shouldn't take long". One hour. Then she says as I'm walking the aisles to find something for her, we need to get home or I'm going to poop my pants. Great. So, we get checked out as soon as possible (she wanted to chit chat with someone!!), get her home. I had said I was going to go to two other stores for stuff she wanted - just run in and out. I got the groceries inside, and then left to get the other stuff. I'm like I'll be lucky if I get out of here by 5. I go to the two stores. One had a checkout line that was a good 30 minute wait, so I bagged it. Nothing she can't get later, and it was not urgent. Store two's parking lot was out to the drive. Hard pass. It was just to see if they even had what she wanted. I get home. I see her coat on the floor. Now, this is interesting because she always makes a big to do on how she can't get coat on or off by herself. But there it was on the floor. I'd been gone a good 30 to 40 minutes, so I went towards the bedroom. She's rounding a corner, just fine. I startled her a bit, then she started into blubbering. No other way to describe it. I couldn't understand what she said other than 'accident'. I was like what? Went from blubbering incoherently to yelling, "you have no sympathy". I didn't even know what really happened. She didn't make it to the bathroom. "I hope it never happens to you", etc. I said yes, I've had it happen, while driving to YOUR house. I've puked in my car while DRVING home from work. So yes, people have accidents. It's not like you lost a limb or something. She said oh I cleaned it up. Right. I changed into my old clothes, and went into the bathroom. Now remember, it was spotless. Was. I was muttering to myself, did you aim away from the toilet? She said she'd cleaned the seat - more like smeared it. Under, over, behind, and the floor. The smell was bad, too. She'd left her soiled clothes there, which I removed carefully out of my way. I was like seriously? I got it spotless again. I don't recall a thank you, but do recall a litany of excuses, and saying again, it won't be fun when YOU get older. Hell, it's not fun now. I got nauseous so I took a cat nap - Mom was asleep by then in her chair. So I start packing up all my stuff, and she thinks of more things she needs done. Happens all the time. I've asked and asked, can you write it down ahead of time, so I'm prepared on what need to be done - that way I can plan and not miss a thing. "I never had a list when you were a kid, and I got all of my stuff done!!!!" I left at 5:45. It's a four hour drive. I am dead dog tired. I did manage a side trip to a new store location, and scored some stuff I've had my eye on for a while. I then called to say I'm almost home. Rang forever, then I get a sullen voice. "Oh, ok. Be careful." I said oh you sound like you were asleep. "No not asleep, just don't feel good". I said well go to bed and take care of yourself (knowing full well it's the start of a pity party). "Well, I may not go to bed all day". My response was well ok then, have a good evening. Click. I almost said, you do you, I'm out. My house is a mess, and a little chilly (heat was down lower), but even with the mess and work I have to do - putting this stuff away, so glad to be home. I'm going to read up on some of the suggestions, and thanks for bearing with me as I vented! "

Yes, always challenging. When she was able to do more for herself, it was better. She was in charge, and loved it But she's always done the major ups and downs, pouting when angry. One example, she went to the neighborhood association meeting. It had just started up, and she was grumbling, we've been here for 20 years and didn't have one, why now? Everyone else thought it was a good idea or was willing to give it a try. So she came back, breathing fire. It was summertime, so we had every window and door open (never used air conditioning as we had to "conserve electricity, don't run up that light bill!"). Neighbors were walking home, and she was unhappy that everyone voted to have the best streetlights installed. None of the options were expensive when spread out per home in the association. She kept ranting about why they couldn't be happy with the free ones (they were ugly, really ugly). She was yelling and slamming doors. One person walking by - I was in the dark in my bedroom wishing I could disappear - said 'oh my goodness' and shook her head. Of course, my brother and I tried to placate her, to get her back from her rage. Bad move, as she then would attack us, like we were 'on their side'. Ironically, years later, she said how nice the street lights looked, how they improved the neighborhood. I said but you didn't want them. Oh, but she did, according to her. The golden child called today, and oh so nice while on the phone. Meltdown after she hung up. Now she says she never complains, but it's complaining all the time. Golden child is still not feeling up to par. She ranted, saying no one asks how I feel, I have plenty wrong, etc., etc. I told her to say that to him, not to me - which fell on deaf ears. I got the freaking tree up and she decided to cut back on one item that is half broken and was a real pain in the ass to put up. Yay. I still have a few things left to do, but here's hoping it can stay on a somewhat even keel until I leave on Sunday. I was watching some news show, but no, it got switched to a kiddy type Christmas show. The kicker - she's fast asleep in her easy chair. I'm in the homestretch. I keep thinking, stay silent, and just plod along. Never thought I'd be excited to be off vacation, but yes I am. This is not a vacation, though.

Well today was a crapfest. I knew that my brother wouldn't show up. He's been "sick" for over a week. He listed excuse after excuse why he didn't go to doctor - finally saying he was on vacation. Stupid wabbit - I got onto the online appointments. Yeah, he was booked, but his associates and urgent care/walk in clinics associated with the whole medical group had multiple appointments available (his excuse was well if I go somewhere else they won't have my records). Uh, yeah they will - even said something like that online. So then magically, he got into a doctor last evening, but just couldn't come the 1.5 miles. He and Mom talked on the phone for over an hour. And he was actively talking a LOT. So, I may be totally wrong, but I call BS. He just wanted to stay away, which I get. Believe me, I get it. I got here on Sunday. Mom was all hot about getting some carryout food, had a coupon (it was for almost half off). I came into the house, unloaded my stuff and said well what do you want, where is the coupon? Her hearing is GONE, so I had to repeat it like 3x, finally to the point of almost yelling. I have to over enunciate, which then she gets mad. She will not go to get her hearing checked, it's always just a wax build up - except it is not. So I had to drive across town for the damned food, as location 1 didn't have what she wanted. Then I'd said well I'll take you out to your favorite breakfast place. Nope. We have to go to the grocery. Ok, so why not go to breakfast first? Because they will be out of everything! I've got nothing for Thanksgiving. Of course, every store had more than enough. Then she decided she wanted to go out to eat the next day. Fine. I don't care. Except she stays up all hours, then gets up late, then complains about the late starts. Hmmmm She says she cannot grip or grab things due to bad shoulders and fingers/hands. Shoulders are shot, only remedy would be surgery, which her doctor did not advise. The hands/fingers is newer, but she refuses to have it checked out (either circulatory or nerve damage). I've said I'll take you in for a visit, but no. She expects me to find something on my 'computer'. I've said again and again, I'm not a doctor. She then gets mad. So yesterday, we make the dressing for today. I said well I've got it to here, do you want me to do xxxx? NO. I NEED TO DO IT. Wait - I thought you couldn't grab anything. She was doing a lot for a couple of hours, not sure what exactly, but definitely using her hands. Then the broth/rue was cooking for hours and she asked me do you think it's cooked enough? Yeah. I had to keep adding water/chicken broth so it wouldn't burn. Today, she was on pins and needles re: brother. He didn't even bother to call to say no, I'm not coming. "Should I call him?" I said you'd be calling me. "Well, if I knew you were coming and not here, I'd call because I'd be worried". No, she's called me yelling asking if I've left yet, am I coming. She tiptoes around him where I get dealt with a sledgehammer. So, I did everything for the meal. I had place settings out, food cooking, then I quietly put the one place setting away as soon as I heard her side of the phone call (she did call him). I walked on eggshells so as not to set her off. Cooked the meats using the appliances she wanted (air fryer and a Ninja oven). Later I was told the meat was dry. Yeah I wanted to do it differently, but you said no. She then tells me that we need to make that 'old casserole' we used to do (I still have done it many times) to use up the meat. I'd brought stuff to do a special meal for her as she was complaining how she never gets to eat that any more. I lost it and said well I bought all of that stuff, now you don't want it? Crying/pouting commenced, and is going on now. Honestly, whatever. Tomorrow will be bad as I have to put up every Christmas decoration East of the Mississippi for her (maybe not that much but it's a lot for a small house). I just never do it 'right' and get "don't you know how to do ANYTHING?" Brother will not be around all weekend, so he gets out of doing all this crap. He will have to take it all down as I have to work on New Years (well sort of - but not saying anything to the contrary). I've heard complaints about how he puts stuff away, 'just like he doesn't care'. He doesn't. Trust me. He does not care. You get worn down, as it is never, ever enough. I came here on Sunday in the best mood, and it was gone within 15 minutes. Thanks for letting me vent, and I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving. wrot wroh - a cough from Mom in her bedroom - ……...wish me luck

Ok, there was absolutely NO need for me to go into the office today. None. It was a big fuck you from QB. Oh, I don't know where to find this - I answered. I could've done so via phone or IM. Then boss bails on meeting that was so urgent. Yeah he logged out before 2 p.m. QB left at 2. She came in early due to Dip being out yet again. I came in and there's a request from 7 a.m. sitting there. I'm sure QB probably didn't know what to do, except I'd shown her and Dip, plus she checked the same update about a week ago. QB actually told someone else she needs a new job. Yes, get someone in the job who wants to learn at least. QB was being sickeningly sweet, and I was just playing along, acting all cool. I was LIVID, but I kept thinking, I SEE YOU. She's playing games, but whatever. If it keeps up, yeah I'll go to ER and or doctor. One time years ago, I was very stressed out, and doc wanted to write me off work for a while. I had a nasty boss, so I was hesitant. Now, nah. I'd gladly take off a few weeks, with a do not disturb mandate.

I am beyond pissed today. We've been working on a project for boss, with Dip coordinating. He's been out on vacation for over a week, never mentioned squat about it. Now, it's to be all wrapped up, and the actual project document updated with milestones. Only one to update the document was Dip. Dip had a meeting or meetings to go over shit, never mentioned it once. Of course, when the two (Dip and Queen Bee) said they were done, I went out to the overall list, and no big chunks were missing. I completed the missing chunks. I have copious notes and saved emails of everything I touched. Now boss is on a rant, we need this all updated. Dip is out the rest of the week - conveniently. So QB says oh I know you're remote tomorrow, but I can't get all of this together, so can you come into the office? I almost exploded. I responded with a one word - ok. I am out all of next week, under stress for that week - week with mom (90+, high maintenance, and she's all upset about shit, dumping on me). Boss then says oh is there coverage, and you can't attend our meeting on Monday. No, it's been scheduled for MONTHS, and D and QB have scheduled out who is 'late' each day. He backed down a bit. I also have been doing some major jobs, while the other two do minimal work. Both were gone yesterday by 2:20 p.m. QB takes over hour lunches and multiple long breaks, but it's ok since she's friends with the boss. Boss is remote all the time now, so he doesn't see or care what goes on in the office. He only cares when it's his ass on the line. I barely got into the office and Dip was all like - I can't get this abcd to work. 1. it's not abcd - it's xyz. Explained multiple times. It's so easy, I set up the query and you click on it. Query is gone. Poof. Dip must've deleted it. I'm like use an old one. It' won't work (imagine a whiny 60 year old). Yeah, because she now has a temporary laptop, having blown up the old one (on websites shouldn't have been on - downloading crap - friend told me Dip is always surfing the net - while QB is watching movies or tv shows on her phone). Kills me that they can get off for any little thing - it could be that their pet gerbil isn't eating right, so they have to monitor it 24/7 - and it's ok. I take off legit vacation time, and it is a big fucking deal. I am literally shaking, upset with family shit and now this crap. I was trying to see how I could be off for a long time - 1. they'd be screwed, 2. I'm about ready to have a breakdown. FMLA?

Where does the money go? Booze, drugs, toys for UBT. I'm sure they eat out a LOT, too. Not like a 5 star restaurant, but it adds up. Why is nothing finished? Because it'd be work. They'd rather be partying.

I think Mike quashed any bad feelings towards Angelina in Miami. It was maybe that she wasn't exactly his favorite or perhaps he didn't want any more drama in Vegas (when she showed up to season 2). I don't think he's gone out of his way to pick any fights with anyone now. I didn't see what Ron said to Jen in the club. I read that he said she needed to lay off the shots, as she was getting drunk (which is why they go to the clubs - with the exception of Deena and Mike). Next thing I saw is Jen saying I want to leave NOW. I was half watching, so I wasn't sure where that came from exactly. Probably shit that happened behind the scenes added to it, who knows? I think Jen has major anger issues, as does Ron; both also may have substance abuse issues. Right now, Pauly is happy making bank from his regular job. He sure knew how to use the show as a launching pad. Deena seems very happy; I don't think she craves the spotlight now like the others do. She seems happy to live in her townhouse with her hubs and new baby. Mike, I think will be ok, too. The rest - not sure.

The blender is a Vitamix, which if you use a blender a lot, is the only way to go. It has a lifetime warranty. Anything goes wrong, they'll fix it or replace. It can do a lot of things, not just blend. The mixer is a KitchenAid, which again is the best around. People buy those for a lifetime, and even gift to their children once they pass away. All of the attachments you buy - they will always fit any model of the stand mixer. There is a wide assortment of attachments - peelers, spiralizers, meat grinders, etc, so it's not merely a stand mixer. The Dutch oven and the other similar pan are by Le Cruset. If you are a serious cook (Mike seems to like to cook a lot), then it makes sense. Those are also lifetime investments. I've had a couple of crappy blenders, and I have a Ninja now, which is ok, but I sort of wished I had held out for the Vitamix. It's basically asking for quality items rather than crap that you will have to replace later. Plus, they had a wide range of items on the registry. You register for what you'd like - a wish list. It's no guarantee that you'll get everything, but why not list it? They had stuff as low as $7.95. The other people in the cast who make big bucks, plus maybe people with the network or the show who make bank, may want to spend something more than the average friend. With all of the gadgets they had listed, someone could easily get several and put in a basket or something. I didn't find it outrageous, to be honest.

My regular makeup consists of IT BB cream. Fortunately, my skin is okay enough for a light coverage, blended with a beauty sponge. Sometimes, that will be all I wear, if I'mY in a hurry or just don't give a crap mood. I use the IT blush, which looks very natural. I also have their setting powder, which is a pore minimizer. Not sure if it minimizes that well, but it is very lightweight and gives a more finished look. Now if I'm really going all in, I will dig out my old, old, old YSL, Touche Eclat Radiance Pen. I had heard it was discontinued - which is why I have hung onto this old treasure. On a couple of occasions where I had time to really do a thorough job on my makeup, I had many compliments after highlighting (and blending everything, of course) using this pen. Someone told me, where did you hear it was discontinued - it's at Sephora. The nearest Sephora is a bit of a trip from where I live (well compared to Ulta which is like a 2 minute drive from where I work), so I'll have to either order it and have it shipped out or just trek up there on a weekend. I typically wear a liquid eyeliner; right now I'm using an Elf eyeliner, which has been working ok for me. I've also used Bare Minerals liners and eyeshadows (loose powder from the jars) wet as liners. I've tried all sorts of mascaras, but nothing has been my absolute favorite as of yet. Plus with allergy season and glasses, sometimes I skip it.

I started watching some YT videos, just looking for a good eyebrow product. I took a little too much off of one brow, which actually is hidden by eyeglasses, but it bugged me. Anyhow, I was like wow, I should step up my makeup game, and try some new products. I think I'm going to try an UD palette (a Nudes palette that is on sale now at Ulta). Nudes are pretty much what I wear. Anything with too much glitter shows of the lines, yeah I'm an older woman (sigh). I'm also going to get the UD eyeshadow primer. I did try a trick a few months back re: primer that someone mentioned in the comments in a YT video. The person used the Maybelline 24 hour Color Tattoo eyeshadow (lightest shade they offer) as a base. I got it along with a darker color, figuring I could use it in the crease of the eye. Multiple nurses or folks that worked long shifts said it really did last. It worked ok, I won't say that no shadow disappeared, but for under $5 each, not bad. Not bad shades on their own. I have been using an IT Cosmetics palette, Naturally Pretty, for a few months now. Not a huge palette, maybe 6 to 8 shades, all neutral colors. I was thinking a soft lavender, green, or even a gray blue shade would be nice as an alternative. I saw the new UD Naked Cherry, and while the colors are pretty, I know I wouldn't wear them. I haven't seen anything in those colors, just wild, bold colors, or nudes. There is someone on YT who has 1200 palettes. I was like how do they afford that, then I saw one person unpacking stuff, and they got products sent to them to review. Now, the same person also bought a lot of products, too.

http://www.theashleysrealityroundup.com/2018/10/24/here-they-go-again-jersey-shore-star-ronnie-ortiz-magro-blames-black-eye-on-jen-harley-she-responds-by-calling-him-a-drug-addict/ Just saw this news story. He's taken down the post, but yeah anything you put on the internet is out there forever. Are ratings down? I think Jen is going to be on the upcoming show, so those of us who are a tad cynical might say this was a ratings ploy..... It'll be the same old thing with them. Fight, honeymoon phase, fight...…..

Treasure has so many issues. She was definitely racist, but it was even more than that. The whole I'm perfect crap. She was so smart, beautiful, on a different level. When Phil quoted actual prison statistics from the Federal Bureau of Prisons, nope you're wrong, you have wrong facts. As even a teenager, had I acted that disrespectful in front of any adult, every privilege I had would have been gone - for months. I also noticed that the mom and brother had lighter skin tones, like a shade or two lighter. I believe that darker skinned black people have been put down, even among their race. Several models and actors/actresses have broken through the stereotype that darker skinned people are not attractive. Just wondering if someone said something to her - could have been an offhand remark, when she was little, that set her off on the "I'm Caucasian" mantra. She thought for years her dad was white, then mom says oh btw, he wasn't your dad. But mom said this started around age 5; she's 16 and dad died 6 years ago? So she was 10 when she found out he wasn't her bio-dad. Mom I think was way too coddling with her. If she didn't want to be around her AA family, I'd tell her, you can go into foster care, or go get emancipated, try living on your own. Phil didn't ask if she had any friends. I doubt she has any. Could've also dropped her off at a KKK rally or white supremacist function, and see how she fared there. Her attitude would get her in trouble anywhere. The front of "I'm better than anyone else" is going to get her in trouble. Her brother is right; she says something to the wrong person, she will end up in the hospital or worse. She doesn't believe in empathy. So guessing no church or any spiritual background there. Phil also could've dumped her on the street (with a producer or camera crew nearby - but under orders not to give her any money). Let her see what it's like not to have shelter and food. Then see how she feels about giving a homeless person money, then taking it back - just so she could laugh about it. Why couldn't he sent her to one of those tough love ranches? She's a minor, so Mom could sign off on it. If she's hoping for some 'fame', she'd better hire security first. I do think she's got a lot of self hate going on - really not a ploy for fame.