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  1. Aja

    3rd Rock From The Sun

    Just jumping in here because I'm currently watching this whole series on Amazon Prime. It was one of those shows that, while it was airing, I thought it was hilarious, but I never actively sought to watch it for some reason. I hereby revise my opinion: this show was BRILLIANT. GENIUS. GOLD. MUST-SEE. I haven't caught this many belly laughs from a traditional sitcom since Fawlty Towers, I don't think! What they do with Sally's character is particularly amazing, I agree. (From the pilot: "That brings up a very good question. Why am I the woman?" Dick: "Because you lost.") There was an ep I watched recently where Sally gets mistaken for trans and doesn't realize it until the guy sees her naked at the end and is shocked that she's a woman. I know the 90s wasn't exactly the 50s or anything, but that was still pretty edgy! Kristen Johnston was pure magic in that role, with her effortless fluidity from hardcore warrior and weapons expert to being obsessed with shoes and staring at the phone waiting for a man to call her.
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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    Holy WOW, MRS.P! Thank you so much for sharing this. I am so sorry you're going through all this, and I am SO glad you got your mammogram when you did. A friend of mine--younger than I am--is going through the exact same thing. She's an artist and did a really great piece for Wildfire, an online magazine. Have you seen Wildfire? It was a great place for me through my diagnosis and treatment (a link to my friend's article): https://www.wildfirecommunity.org/hot-flashes/2018/11/28/clever-costumes-for-bald-people I got super lucky with my diagnosis--SUPER lucky. I hadn't had a mammogram in probably two years (COMPLETELY irresponsible considering my family history.) I had zero symptoms, felt no lumps, nothing. I was in pissed-off-from-being-fired, zany-job-interview-montage mode. But it was already in my lymph nodes. I'm so happy to hear about everyone going to get their mammograms! Yay, sisters!!! I was completely blown away by how friggin' COMMON it is. Once I was diagnosed, I got on the phone with my recruiter to tell her to call off the job search for now, and she said "Oh, I had it three years ago, you'll be fine, don't worry." I told my landlord (who is this young whippersnapper baby property mogul type dude) that I got this diagnosis and didn't know what was going to happen and he was like "Oh, my mom had it last year, you'll be fine." My very first day of radiation, I went into the waiting room and my neighbor's girlfriend was sitting there. "Oh hi! You too?" I live in Minneapolis, y'all, not Mayberry. But the good news is, I was also pretty blown away by what they are able to do these days with early detection. Thank you so much for all your messages! I so look forward to getting back to normal, starting a new job that I can grow to both resent and become weirdly co-dependent about, and re-joining the Duggar eyeroll festivities here! @MRS.P, thank you again for sharing, and I'm sending all the love and healing vibes to you!!!!
  3. Aja

    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    THE ITCHING IS UNHOLY. Can confirm. But yes, it sounds like your great aunt's situation is very similar to mine--which means she's going to be just fine! ❤️ ❤️
  4. Aja

    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    Thank you so much, everyone! ❤️ Check out what happened. I got fired from my job in October and received a month's severance, so I thought I'd be a responsible adult and get my health checks done before my insurance expired. Dental cleaning, full physical, mammogram. And then, while frantically trying to find another job and with exactly three days of health insurance coverage left, they called me and said "Yeah, so there was a problem with your mammogram." I said "Please explain to the problem on my mammogram that my income is currently $00,000.00 annually, and I have three days of health insurance left." The problem on my mammogram didn't care. And then life became this weird prism. At first, I was in total shock. I sat for a few hours just letting it sink in. "I have no income. I have no health insurance. I have no spouse, no children, no family. And I have cancer. Okay. I understand one cannot be lucky all the time, but....really? Alllllll righty then. Super. This is just super." I was horrified. All my friends were horrified for me. Even my doctors were slightly horrified because I'm only 43 (but it may be worth mentioning that breast cancer is so prevalent in my family that most of the women were like "oh, it's only in one boob? Lucky!") And then the prism turned slightly. Turns out I was at stage 1, but like JUST BARELY. I was straddling the edge of stage 2, and it wasn't until after my first surgery that they definitively decided it was stage 1. What if I hadn't gotten fired? Would I have gotten a mammogram? I doubt it, you guys. Who knows when I would have finally found the time. And then the prism turned slightly again. I live in Minnesota, and in Minnesota, if you have zero income, zero health insurance, and breast cancer, by some raging Euro hippie miracle, the state will cover all of it. Everything. If I'd still had my job with its "great" health insurance, how many thousands of dollars would I have had to pay? Who knows. More prism turns. Because of the early detection, I did not have to do chemotherapy. That was scaring me more than anything, because I'm pretty scrappy and figured out how to support myself for six months via unemployment insurance and the draining of a retirement account, but chemo would have put me out of the running for a year, and no amount of scrappiness would have been able to save my apartment, my car, everything. Over the Christmas holiday, I was waiting for a test result that would determine whether or not I needed it. If you get an 18 or higher, you need it. YOU GUYS, I GOT A 17. A month and a half of radiation commenced. Radiation is no picnic, but it's nowhere near the devastating effects of chemo. I re-started the interview process during radiation, and a week and a half after radiation finished--last Friday--I got a job offer. So you see, Friends, what appeared at first to be one of the worst logistical situations one could find oneself in actually was the vehicle that saved my life. I almost feel like I should play the lotto? Sisters, get your mammograms. Don't be scared. Make the time. And if anybody here has any questions about it or is nervous or maybe you find yourself in a situation that makes you think "Hey, that Aja chick from the Small Talk thread has been through this, I wonder if she would offer support and advice if I DMed her." Yes, Aja would. 100%. ❤️
  5. Aja

    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    Thank you so much for the welcomes backs! ❤️ I missed this forum! Part of the reason I was gone was because I came down with a case of the breast cancer & had to deal with a bunch of kee-rap. But I'm okay now! Get your mammograms, sisters! ❤️ ❤️
  6. Aja

    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    Hi Small Talk thread! I've been away so long, and I missed you guys! Just wanted to drop in and say that! Guess who *still* gets e-mail notifications from North Love Baptist Church when their services go live? *this gal*
  7. I've been away for months and I come back to...OMG...WAIT FOR IT....long birthday messages written in Evangelicalese. Joshua. I am disappointed.
  8. Aja

    S04.E12: Kimmy Says Bye!

    Really, I held it together until that final "Dammit." Then I cried.
  9. Aja

    S04.E08: Kimmy Is in a Love Square!

    SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!
  10. Aja

    My Brilliant Friend

    OMG YES. That's definitely the cleanest ghetto in the city, no doubt!! And the least crowded! When I lived there during the 90s, even wealthy parts like Vomero had trash piled six feet in the air along all the streets. Life got in the way so it took me a while to finish the series. I read all three books a couple of years ago and lost my mind entirely. I wouldn't shut up for months about how it was the BEST THING EVER WRITTEN and Lila Cerullo is the GREATEST FEMALE CHARACTER EVER WRITTEN and Elena Ferrante is THE DOSTOEVSKY OF OUR GENERATION and seriously, I could not shut up. So I was wary about the show. I just didn't see how it would be possible to do the books justice on screen. As another poster pointed out, so much of the depth and feeling in the books come from Elena's descriptions of her feelings about Lila, the neighborhood, her parents, etc...and one of the most brilliant things about the books, to me, was that at a certain point, especially when Elena gets older, you slowly realize that you're seeing this whole story from her perspective, but she is not necessarily the most reliable narrator. WELL. I was NOT disappointed! First of all, I was GOBSMACKED to learn that neither kid-Elena and Lila nor teenaged-Elena and Lila were professional actors. What!!!!! And I was pleased to see that the more brutal parts of the book (Lila's dad throwing her out the window and breaking her arm, the casual violence of family life, Donato's sexual assault of Elena) were not left out. They're ugly, but it's not possible to write honestly about Neapolitan culture without them. In Naples, and actually a lot of Italy, women are absolutely thought of and treated as possessions. Possessions to be cared for and "spoiled" with pretty things, but also very much expected to to do exactly as the men in her life--father, brother, husband, whatever--tell her to do, with violence to be expected as a matter of course if she does not. And this is as recently as the 90s, when I myself married one. My ex's family wasn't as extreme as the families on the show, not quite. My ex would never have dreamed of physically assaulting me. But the attitude was definitely there. And I, a Scandiavian-heritaged, born-and-raised American girl was TREMENDOUSLY unpopular with the family when it came to these matters. I knew plenty of girls like Lila, fierce and brilliant but trapped in their roles. Stuff like that still definitely exists. And ISCHIA. Won't you please indulge me for one minute while I verbally orgasm over the Ischia episodes! Apart from the last five minutes when Donato turned into Mr. Grabby. (Again--extremely typical. "I love you and can't live without you and only think of you" is Neapolitan-dude for "I absolutely must possess and control you." Note how Marcello is egged on by Lila's rejections--it's not love, it's flat determination to get that little bitch under his control.) We as high school kids used to take the ferry to Ischia for the day just to hang out and watch the yachts and the rich people. One time, a woman who looked alarmingly like Nella pulled us (there were three of us) into her little trattoria off a side road and force-fed us linguini and clams and rhapodized non-stop about how darling the American kids were. No matter how idyllic a film depiction of Ischia might be, I assure you--it is thousands of times more idyllic in real life. You know, I really haven't spent a whole lot of time being sad about missing my life in Europe, but I think I'm about to start. *runs away sobbing* ETA: I'm so thrilled they're at least doing the next book, it looks like! Freakin' YAY! For those who have not read the books, trust me--we have barely scratched the surface of the amazing, happy, heartbreaking, wonderful and horrible trajectory of the lives and friendship of Elena and Lila!!
  11. Aja

    My Brilliant Friend

    About three hours ago I let out a scream because I was just taking a casual gander at what's up in HBO Series Land and WHAT DO I BEHOLD! I read this series about two years ago and would not, COULD not, shut up about it for months. Easily one of the top five best things I ever read in my whole life. I never in my WILDEST DREAMS thought anyone would be crazy enough to try to adapt the whole thing to the screen. (They're going to do all three, right? RIGHT??) Here's why else I'm going to be an annoying blithering idiot from here on in: part of the reason I loved the series with unbridled passion is because I lived in Naples. Daddy-o was military and we landed in Naples when I was fifteen. When I was sixteen, I met the Neapolitan dude I would end up moving in with at 18 and marrying at 26 (and divorcing at 38). So I lived there a while, man, and it's crazy. And beautiful. With no shortage of crazy. Or beauty. And Elena Ferrante nailed Naples, like, down to the protons. TOTAL masterpiece. I just can't tongue bathe it lavishly enough! It really helped me retrospectively understand my insane in-laws, too. Because like, I'm Scandinavian. Imagine a pasty Norwegian standing there amidst all that chaos looking bewildered. That was me! I am SO SO SO HAPPY ABOUT THIS SERIES!!!! It's only been two episodes but I think it's beautifully done so far! I'm sure it helps that Elena Ferrante is involved. SHE IS A GENIUS OF THE WRITTEN WORD. (Cannot tongue-bathe enough.) One nitpick and then I promise not to be THAT GAL anymore...at least I'll try so hard...I promise...but IN THE BOOK (so sorry in advance...) (not a spoiler, but tagging it because I do reference the book) It's a trip to hear the dialect spoken so strongly too---ahh, brings back a lot of screamy Christmas Eve dinner memories! I wonder if they had to subtitle the really heavy dialect bits when it aired in Italy? Dang am I excited! For a Norwegian!
  12. Aja

    Jill & Derick Dullard: Counting On (Donations)

    Which made her sound, quite frankly, insane.
  13. Aja

    Jill & Derick Dullard: Counting On (Donations)

    I'm not seeing how "in God we trust" leads to "dehumanize everyone who isn't exactly like me" or "lie, bully, spit acid and judgement from my internet pulpit every day." I'm also not making the connection between "In God we trust" and "forcibly convert everyone to Christianity." As usual, Cathy will need to elaborate A LOT more before I have any idea what the fuck she's talking about. But she doesn't like that. She just yells "Jesus!" and covers her ears and runs away.
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    Jill & Derick Dullard: Counting On (Donations)

    "It's our national motto" is like "because it's in the Bible." Yes...and?
  15. He got him a Cross Church LAWYR.
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