S01.E03: I Am Inhabited By A Cry

[jenrising]

Available April 6 on Netflix

[Roccos Brother]

The crying church scene gave me the feels, despite me being an atheist. Steven Yeun really is a very talented actor.

Also, I love that the story is playing out in ways I couldn't have predicted - Danny scamming the church and Amy having an actual budding affair with Danny's brother? Oh my. And we're only on the third episode. Things are already getting juicy.

Edited April 8, 2023 by Roccos Brother

[pasdetrois]

The church crying was beautifully done. I was raised in evangelical churches, with services similar to the one depicted in the series, and no longer practice that brand of Christianity. But going back when visiting my parents always triggered me because of the association with childhood happiness and sorrow.

I really appreciate the show's depiction of a Korean church service without being snarky or lapsing into stereotypes.

[dubbel zout]

This was the episode that made me want to finish watching the season.

[gesundheit]

This show is just so good. I'm nervous because it's the best Netflix original I've seen in a while but their release model (and the fact that their dominance has taken quite a blow) makes me worried that folks will binge all of this before the weekend's up and then pretty much forget about it, which seems to do damage to these addictive/quick shows, unlike the ones that are getting constant per-episode engagement and discussion for a full week before the next one comes. Here's hoping this one gets its props! (For one thing, I'm so grateful that it's separated into episodes on this board, because normally the whole-season-in-one-topic format means you either get spoiled or can't discuss the finer points that you've already forgotten by the end anyway, if you wait)

 

I loved the weeping-in-church scene and then the big Amy/George "vulnerability" talk because, even though it's incisive dark comedy, I don't think I'd connect with it as much if it were pure cynicism. There's plenty of humanity going on here.

[PrincessPurrsALot]

3 hours ago, gesundheit said:

I loved the weeping-in-church scene and then the big Amy/George "vulnerability" talk because, even though it's incisive dark comedy, I don't think I'd connect with it as much if it were pure cynicism. There's plenty of humanity going on here.

The characters all feel very whole.  We are still learning more about them, but there is already depth.  

The church scene was incredible. I had forgotten just how good Steven Yuen is.  I like how they portrayed the different people in the church, from very caring to seemingly showing that superficial "it's all good" persona.  Will we get to see some basketball later on?  :-) 

[BlueSkies]

I would consider myself religious to an extent and had nice quiet moments like that in a Church.  It happened after Confession.  I'd feel a load off my shoulders saying everything I'd done wrong.  Of course once I went back out into life I'd sin again.  But the spiritual part of it was powerful.

 

Certain music I've listened to has generated that affect on me.  Amy Grant's That Was Love Is For comes to mind and made me weep one day.  

 

Interesting Amy has her flaws but George was jerking off to a picture of her boss at the end there?  Admittely years back there was a girl/woman I had a crush on I participated in that practice thinking of.....  I feel dirty even typing that.  But yeah that is weird if the guy is married and acts the holier than thou one in the relationship yet jerks off thinking of her friend 

 

[PurpleTentacle]

George really is the most vanilla man out there, isn't he? Who masturbates to an almost fully clothed woman? Get yourself some porn, my dude.

On 4/9/2023 at 5:19 AM, gesundheit said:

I'm nervous because it's the best Netflix original I've seen in a while but their release model (and the fact that their dominance has taken quite a blow) makes me worried that folks will binge all of this before the weekend's up and then pretty much forget about it, which seems to do damage to these addictive/quick shows

What does damage to these shows is that Netflix cancels everything after the second season, because then the actors involved become ever so slightly more expensive.

But I think/hope this is a limited series, so that shouldn't be a problem.

On 4/15/2023 at 4:01 AM, BlueSkies said:

Interesting Amy has her flaws but George was jerking off to a picture of her boss at the end there?

That was a picture of her employe, Mia. The same one she took the picture off to catfish Paul. Guess they both think she's hot.

Edited April 30, 2023 by PurpleTentacle

[BlueSkies]

4 hours ago, PurpleTentacle said:

George really is the most vanilla man out there, isn't he? Who masturbates to an almost fully clothed woman? Get yourself some porn, my dude.

 

I mean whatever floats peoples boats in that regard.  I actually find porn boring.  But yeah he was a little on the too new age man for me or something along those lines.  

[PurpleTentacle]

Just now, BlueSkies said:

I mean whatever floats peoples boats in that regard.  I actually find porn boring.  But yeah he was a little on the too new age man for me or something along those lines.  

I mean he can do that, if it gets him off, but it was very vanilla.

I actually thought Amy's critique of that was really unfair. Like, you must have known that he was vanilla in bed before you married him. If you knew you weren't sexually compatible, you really should have pulled the rip cord before you promised to only have sex with him for the rest of your life. There are people who like vanilla and she should have given him the opportunity to find such a person.

Are you a man or a woman? There aren't many men who find porn boring. Women usually get off more to fantasy, like romance novels, men usually are more visual. But there are always exceptions and men and women who get off to the opposite of what is typical. I myself kinda like both.

[Roccos Brother]

On 4/30/2023 at 11:47 AM, PurpleTentacle said:

George really is the most vanilla man out there, isn't he? Who masturbates to an almost fully clothed woman? Get yourself some porn, my dude.

I do that sometimes (but with men, since I'm gay) when it's someone I'm really attracted to, particularly if it's someone I know and already have some sort of a relationship with. Maybe this is TMI but I'm really getting off on the established connection or chemistry I have with said person and the visual just heightens that imagined sense of intimacy. It's very different than being a voyeur to a total stranger you're completely detached from and is purely just an image/video on a screen.

Edited May 2, 2023 by Roccos Brother

[PurpleTentacle]

4 hours ago, Roccos Brother said:

I do that sometimes (but with men, since I'm gay) when it's someone I'm really attracted to, particularly if it's someone I know and already have some sort of a relationship with. Maybe this is TMI but I'm really getting off on the established connection or chemistry I have with said person and the visual just heightens that imagined sense of intimacy. It's very different than being a voyeur to a total stranger you're completely detached from and is purely just an image/video on a screen.

I guess I can't relate because in that case I use my imagination of what I'd do with that man (also gay) and a photo of him in clothes would just distract me. But I might not be typical in that regard. There is that no-fap thing on reddit. Years ago I read into it, out of morbid curiosity and one of their big things is that the "extreme scenarios in porn will alter your brain" and all I could ever think was "oh please, porn is extremely tame compared to my imagination". So I might just have a particularly vivid imagination... at least where these things are concerned.

Might also be a bit TMI, but I just binged season one of human resources and after watching 10 episodes of hormon monsters, this seems like nothing. :D

Anywho, good to know that there might have been a good reason for George to use that photo.

[Raja]

😁

Just like the episode the thread went from a man who almost committed felony murder of a child going to church to preferred masturbation material.

[aghst]

Was that really an evangelical church?

It seems it was mostly families with parents in the 30s and 40s.  They had some kind of Christian rock music too, not just playing a simple organ or piano for the hymns.

A lot of these seem to be second generation Asian-Americans or maybe they are first generation who came to the US as kids.

They don't really seem to code switch, they seem to be modeling American behavior.  Like in that church, there was no Korean or other language spoken than English.  But since their elderly parents weren't there, no reason to speak other languages?

I don't get Danny's desire to bring his parents back from Korea.  Maybe they prefer it there with other family?  So he's putting pressure on himself to come up with money, not just to put them up in some place but he wants a nice place, that plot of land with a view.

Him building by himself is going to take a long time.

Also don't understand, he's going to get the church to take out a loan and use those funds to use as downpayment for a loan for himself for that land?

Church has only seen him once or twice and they're going to trust the guy because he promised to donate his labor?  Contractors are notoriously unreliable.  They'd be dumb to front him all that money upfront.

 

I also don't get why Amy is so desperate to sell.  She's the breadwinner and that store apparently provides them a great lifestyle.  It's great if she can net millions from the sale but she's still relatively young.  Is she going to get enough money to provide for her family for the rest of their lives?  Also, it's just a store right, so why are they talking about term sheets?  Jordan has private jet wealth but she's interested in a store that sells little plants?

If Amy wants time off, why doesn't she hire someone to manage day to day?  If the store doesn't generate enough income for her not to work, then how can it generate a big enough purchase price that she doesn't have to work at all?  They have a big nut with the car, the house, the fancy security systems, etc.

 

 

[Raja]

2 hours ago, aghst said:

Was that really an evangelical church?

It seems it was mostly families with parents in the 30s and 40s.  They had some kind of Christian rock music too, not just playing a simple organ or piano for the hymns.

A lot of these seem to be second generation Asian-Americans or maybe they are first generation who came to the US as kids.

They don't really seem to code switch, they seem to be modeling American behavior.  Like in that church, there was no Korean or other language spoken than English.  But since their elderly parents weren't there, no reason to speak other languages?

I don't get Danny's desire to bring his parents back from Korea.  Maybe they prefer it there with other family?  So he's putting pressure on himself to come up with money, not just to put them up in some place but he wants a nice place, that plot of land with a view.

Him building by himself is going to take a long time.

Also don't understand, he's going to get the church to take out a loan and use those funds to use as downpayment for a loan for himself for that land?

Church has only seen him once or twice and they're going to trust the guy because he promised to donate his labor?  Contractors are notoriously unreliable.  They'd be dumb to front him all that money upfront.

 

I also don't get why Amy is so desperate to sell.  She's the breadwinner and that store apparently provides them a great lifestyle.  It's great if she can net millions from the sale but she's still relatively young.  Is she going to get enough money to provide for her family for the rest of their lives?  Also, it's just a store right, so why are they talking about term sheets?  Jordan has private jet wealth but she's interested in a store that sells little plants?

If Amy wants time off, why doesn't she hire someone to manage day to day?  If the store doesn't generate enough income for her not to work, then how can it generate a big enough purchase price that she doesn't have to work at all?  They have a big nut with the car, the house, the fancy security systems, etc.

 

 

The church scenes from my single contact with a specially Korean Evangelical church but many contacts with other single ethnicity churches rang true. I would bet than someone high in the production attends one or left with good feelings 

[Milburn Stone]

Loved/hated the scene where Jordan looks around their house with disgust. I knew it was coming and yet when it came it still killed me. Maria Bello was perfect. 

[SunnyBeBe]

Loving this series.  I grew up in fundamentalist church, but can still watch religious scenes without being triggered too much sometimes. This one was good.  

[Glama]

On 4/30/2023 at 6:47 PM, PurpleTentacle said:

George really is the most vanilla man out there, isn't he? Who masturbates to an almost fully clothed woman? Get yourself some porn, my dude.

Like some other poster said, I think he's attracted to Kayla and so he uses any picture of her that is available to him. I don't think there's anything weird about that. 

On 7/10/2023 at 8:17 PM, aghst said:

 

I don't get Danny's desire to bring his parents back from Korea.  Maybe they prefer it there with other family?  So he's putting pressure on himself to come up with money, not just to put them up in some place but he wants a nice place, that plot of land with a view.

I don't get it either. Maybe it was once his parents' wish to come to America? I feel like he is doing everything for anyone else but himself. He's putting a massive amount of stress on himself. I feel really bad for him.

The crying scene at the church touched me and I started crying too - I've had a very stressful few months at work and I can totally relate to Danny and Amy. 

 

On 7/10/2023 at 8:17 PM, aghst said:

Church has only seen him once or twice and they're going to trust the guy because he promised to donate his labor?  Contractors are notoriously unreliable.  They'd be dumb to front him all that money upfront.

Maybe they trust him because he's the ex of one of their regular members and he was already fixing things without people asking him to. Yeah, it's a stretch but some people have faith (no pun intended).

I'm sooo loving this series! I only discovered it yesterday, and quite randomly. I loved the scene with Paul and Amy kissing. That blew my mind. I can't wait to see what happens next.

And Danny playing the guitar and singing at the end was so beautiful.