I don't think we have been exposed to exercise manic yet. I think he is just unwilling to tell her where he is because they used to be weight loss partners and only one of them is following through right now. He is scared for her, and scared of her feeling passive aggressively shamed or left behind, and all he can do is take of himself and be there for his family ( and NOT go to his normal vices for consolation). When SHE was on board with fitness and weight loss, he jumped ship with the weight loss and they have exchanged roles. Two addicts trying to be on the same page isn't easy. So much emotional baggage involved.
I say Toby should keep going.
And I really hope Kate is wearing padding, because this is getting really distressing.
It's so hard not to project onto a person with a disability, like they are missing out, even when they don't know any difference. But Kate is doing a great job recognizing that smells and sounds and touch go such a long way, and that there are so many means to recognize, learn, communicate, and feel safe. I think this episode would have been too hard to take if they had not softened us first with the last episode and now we know that Jack is ok.