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I fell down some listicle rabbit hole for BB and am watching season 5, which I never watched when it first aired. First off, the way they talk about LGBTQ people and the things that they say in front of Will about gay people makes me realize that even though we aren't perfect, we as a society have come SO FAR in regards to our attitudes and views. Cowboy literally did not know the difference between gay men and drag queens. Yikes. I'm also so glad I was married before 2005, because if the standard of men was like all those dude bros, I would have considered joining a convent. Double yikes. I am appalled at the Cowboy/Nakomis thing. I know it was controversial back then, and this is probably coming from my point of view as a therapist, but that whole thing could have gone so wrong. The amount of real trauma that they could have inflicted on those two is enormous. Both of them were able to handle it well, and maybe they were just shell shocked, but those propducers were messing with people's lives in a whole new way. I felt icky watching that.

Hydraulics made me think Coolio. Am I old or does that make sense to anyone else? I don't get any of the other clues, and I thought we would get more from Dominique when she said "eulogy" referred to her but we didn't. I'll have to go back to last week and see what was in the boxes and how they could relate.

This makes me think they are a big fat NO on decision day.

I'm still hesitant about Mitch, he seems like a spoiled brat (a male version of Myrla without the expensive tastes). However, I will say that I get what he means about liking women when they are not all dolled up. I had a male friend in college who used to say that the most attractive a girl could ever look to him is wearing their glasses (if normally a contacts wearer), hair pulled up, and wearing sweats and no makeup. I thought he was nuts but he explained that to him, that meant that they were totally comfortable with him and didn't feel like they needed to be anything other than themselves. I think it's kind of sweet and I get the intention. I do agree though, that his expectations should be a little different on the freaking wedding day. It's traditionally a dressy and somewhat fancy occasion. If he dated and found his own bride they could have their super minimal beach wedding or whatever. But that's not what he signed up for so he needs to chill.

Maybe I'm a traditionalist, or it's the GenX/Elder millenial in me, but all of thise tuxes with the printed colorful jackets make me think of Will Smith in the Fresh Prince of Bel Air. It's seriously allI can see when they choose these jackets. It's been happening for the past few seasons.

I'll check it out, thanks! Abott Elementary is hands down the best new show I've seen in a long time and I find Ava hysterical.

Yes. I've been married 18 years and in no way do I feel like my husband's parole officer. It's such a stereotype and pisses me off. A healthy marriage does not actually involving knowing where your spous is at every given moment and having to ask permission to do everything. That attitude about marriage likely contributes to why they fail.

I'm getting Jenelle James vibes from Alexis. Or maybe just her Abbot Elementary character Ava. I haven't seen JJ in anything else so I don't know how close her mannerisms are to her character. It's not a bad thing necessarily, just noticeable. And Nate looked like Pharell in that hat at the bacehlor party.

I mean, some of it really is almost that bad. Yikes.

I binged a bunch of episodes on HBO Max and now I have falled down a rabbit hole watching the original series Degrassi Jr High and Degrassi High. I know this was a kids show but WOW, this acting was really bad!

Screw that, Beth for President! I like that this show went out on a quiet note, rather than making all of us into a sobbing mess. I found myself bittersweetly smiling when it ended. I loved what Jack said to Rebecca about being there. Maybe it's because the news was so heavy today and I couldn't stand the thought of another episode like last week, but I appreciated the way this show went out.

I think that's a pretty high bar!

The middle paragraph on page 8 of the rebuttal from the feds is truly a thing of beauty.

I was a Lindsey defender this season because I saw such a good person in there that I hoped that a lot of therapy would dig out, but after her display during this reunion, I'm done defending her. She was AWFUL. So much passive aggression and condescension! That dress is a great color on her, but it can't hide the inside ugly.

One Easter Egg I didn't notice last night but read about this morning (and I can't remember where!) was that little Jack's red boots were on a shelf behind Miguel! I read this this morning and teared up again. I can't believe I didn't notice this! My theory on why MIguel got less time than everyone else was because the train was moving faster as it went on. The nurse mentioned that everything was moving quickly, and I believe William said something about the train moving fast now as well. She spent more time in the beginning with people and the visits at the end were more rushed, they were walking faster through the train and there wasn't time to stop.

I know everyone is different, but I come from a big Irish Catholic extended family. I didn't know wakes were supposed to be sad until well into my teen years. There was always laughter and joking and food. There are no rules with grief.

I loved this. I ignored everything that seemed out of place or took me out of this and just enjoyed being taken on this journey of an episode. I started crying with Beth's goodbye and pretty much didn't stop the rest of the episode. I absolutely loved all of the callbacks to earlier things, Gerald McRaney, William, the interaction between all the ages of the kids, and I even am okay with the train metaphor. Mandy Moore is absolutely stunning. That last speech by William knocked me into full sobs. I love the idea of him leading her through to the end. I said it last time we saw the aged up daughters of Randall, but that casting was amazing. I could honestly see all of them as grown versions of the younger ones. I don't know how they did it. My husband is currently working out of town and called me to say goodnight just as Kate was getting to the house. Thank goodness, because I needed something to take me out of this. There's a few things that made me go hmm... but in the end this episode was absolutely beautiful.

Same here. That song makes me melt.

It was such a small thing, but I really noticed Milo trying to be Kevin instead of Jack in the scene with Mandy. He changed himself just enough to immitate his vocal patterns and posture. Seriously impressive.

I know everyone likes to hate on Lyndsey, but I really think she means well. I think she springs into helper mode to get validation that she never got as a kid. I also think she said one of the smartest things ever last week when Mark was talking about living in his childhood home and she said she wasn't going to compete with the past. She talked about it this week too when he talked about living in that apartment and not making many changes. He needs to move forward and something is really blocking him from doing that. Get a therapist! My husband's mother had been dead since he was 20, before I came into the picture. One year for his birthday he asked me to make his mom's friend chicken for him. Is there a recipe? No. He just knew she used Crisco. I have never fried chicken in my life and as much as he tried to not show it, he was disappointed in my effort. Not because it was bad, but because it wasn't his mom's. He eventually recognized that this was an unfair request. Mark is like that, expect he doesn't realize how unfair he is being by asking Lyndsey to insert herself into the role of his mother and grandmother.

I think it's the therapist in me that really wants to like Lindsey, but she is making it so so hard! This show is soooooo edited, and I am certain there are things we are missing or things that are put in the wrong place, but she really isn't coming across well at all. I don't think Mark is the beaten down doormat we are seeing either. I want these two to work, because when they have their good moments they look so natural together and like they are having so much fun. It's terribly painful when they are arguing about all the percieved slights though. Katina's bodysuit thing she was wearing at that last meal made me double take. It was so close to her skin tone I thought she was naked at first. She has long and thin limbs and could really wear some clothes well, but that bodysuit was not one of those things. O's tshirt was obnoxious.

The "queen" thing reminds me of Chicago Nate. *shudders* Ick.

I don't buy for a second that O was happy to see Dr. Pepper. His first thought was defiitely not, as he said on the show "perfect!". His first thought was "I wish I could walk away but I just shit my pants so I have to stay seated". Or something along those lines.

Watching Mark and Lindsay with the experts solidified what I said about last week's episode. If they can get some individual and couples therapy, I really think they will be okay. Lindsay seemed to be accepting of what Pepper said to her, she just needs some time and reminders to put it into place. Not to mention, she's clearly never dealt with the rejection from her mother. When Mark said he's never been asked that question before about turning into his dad, I literally yelled at my TV "That's because you've never been to therapy!". All he had to do was reach out and hold Lindsay's hand when she was crying and vulnerable and clearly wanting his support and he was just frozen. They have some cute moments, and can say positive things about each other. They just need to do some work on themselves to make it better.

I absolutely see this. They have such big communication problems, but that isn't something that can't be overcome. When they are on, they are really good together. But Lindsay is so defensive and Mark is so passive that everything becomes such a big deal when it doesn't have to be. If they went to a real marriage counselor on a regular basis they would learn to talk to each other and hear each other and things could be great.