I think this is a huge problem with how mental health is viewed in this country.
"Most people" would do what now? How does anyone know how "most people" handle anything? This reminds me of cops who come to people's houses and decide someone's family member slaughtered them because he didn't cry hard enough or show the proper amount of emotion. Cate had a miscarriage and from what I could tell it was for a kid she and Tyler desperately wanted. I don't think "most people" would handle that by just popping into their therapist twice a week and then getting on with their lives. Depression isn't something you handle when you get a minute. It takes over every second of every minute of every hour of every day. Which is where the disconnect comes in for those of us who don't suffer from it. The going attitude "Everyone has shit to deal with, what is so bad that you can't get your shit together?" is annoying and unhelpful to people who know very well they are annoying the hell out of everyone around them but they just can't pick themselves up. There is an underlying feeling of Cate having done this for attention and from what I saw, this was hardly a cry for attention. She wasn't living life, she wasn't getting back up, she was failing to cope. And she was talking about suicide. And putting her in a hospital for two or three days may have made her feel better for those two or three days....and then what?
What is more disruptive to their daughter? That her mother is gone for a month or that Nova walks into a room to see her mother crumpled on the floor in tears without warning every other day?
Every single friend I have ever known who has suffered a miscarriage suffers in silence because of this type of attitude and these types of judgmental questions. And I, for one, don't think someone has to show an appropriate amount of - whatever - in order to check out of their life for a minute and figure it out. If you (I mean you in the general sense, not you as in YOU) don't get it, then don't get it...but stop making people feel like they are weak because of doing this. It takes an INCREDIBLE amount of strength to admit you can't handle things.
I feel for Cate and for Tyler, because watching it happen to someone you love isn't any better than living it. I wish them both healing. It was hard to watch.