It seems to me that Meri was in love with the concept of being swept away to a life of luxury and romance. She must have been reading too many "bodice-ripper" paperback novels to actually believe that a frumpy, lumpy, uneducated, middle-aged woman would be appealing to "Sam", a handsome, younger, fit, multi-millionaire as "he" described himself. Did she never question what she was bringing to the table that would cause him to be attracted to her?
When Kody arbitrarily said that he was waiting for Meri to court/flirt with him, he may have been expecting declarations such as: - "I love you, I Love You, I LOOOOVE YOUUU" as she had verbalized to Sam, an individual she had never laid eyes on. It may have been a good idea on Meri's part to have tossed a bunch of bananas into the picnic basket and she could then have demonstrated her skills. That just may have turned the tide to Meri's favor.