NoWhammies

From the second TMZ article: "We broke the story." Fuck you, TMZ. This isn't a "story," it's real people's real lives. I can never watch this show (or possibly any others that exploit kids' lives as entertainment) again. It's not entertainment, and no amount of Schadenfreude in seeing Kody and Robyn get their comeuppance will ever make me find enjoyment in watching Sister Wives again. What an unspeakable tragedy. I have a friend who lost her son of about the same age to suicide a few months ago. I have been with her as she's worked her way through it. I have held her as she has sobbed the most heartbreaking, gut-wrenching sobs I have ever seen. The pain of these things is unimaginable. It's visceral, and no matter what we think of how any of these people present themselves on our screen, I suspect every last Brown is experiencing that unimaginable pain. And for my part, it's time to do some serious soul searching about what I consume on television. I don't watch a ton of TV, but I've watched Sister Wives since the beginning, and I've done a rewatch of most of the series. But the fact that I watch this and participate in conversations about it contributes to the exploitation of these kids, and that clearly can have real-world consequences. I sincerely hope the show won't continue, but if it does, I won't be watching. And I sincerely hope that there won't be "Dateline" style shows about the whole thing, but who am I kidding? There will be. I just can't imagine finding that entertaining, either. I hope that the Brown family can eventually find some type of peace.

I'm okay with occasional snark, too. They're seeing all the nasty shit Kody & Robyn said and did at the same time we are, which I would imagine could re-open old wounds. It's funny how you think you've really worked through something and then something comes along months or even years later and brings back those old feelings. Forgiveness and healing is a process, not a specific moment in time.

I actually appreciated that Meri said something in the couch episode she did with Jenn (talk back, maybe?) about what she sees with Kody is that he is a man who is struggling and in pain, so she doesn't want to poke him — or something along those lines. I thought there was some actual grace and compassion in that statement given what an abusive fucker he had been to her all those years.

I was an absolute delight as a child, so that would be an amazing thing to wish on people... I agree that marriage doesn't seem like end game for Janelle. I suspect she's enjoying her freedom.

Also Kody's comment, "Sadness makes me angry." WTF? M'kay... sadness makes me sad. Maybe in Kody's pea-brained belief that he is hypermasculine, anger is just sadness leaving the body (much like pain is just weakness leaving the body). Twat.

I don't think self-awareness is Kody's strong suit. So, I suspect he thinks it makes him look masculine and strong. Somehow I doubt toxic masculinity is something Kody knows about.

Robyn's summation at the end was fascinating because of what production shows: Robyn: "We didn't communicate." (quick shot of the adults at a dinner table in Flagstaff when Janelle invited them to see if they all still wanted polygamy and Robyn made it about her) Robyn: "We weren't looking at each other with charity and love." (quick shot of adults reading at the recommitment ceremony) Robyn: "We weren't following our family mission statement." (continues the shot from the commitment ceremony) Robyn: "We let the ease of being apart drive us apart from each other." (shot of Christine's family at Janelle's house during COVID standing 6 feet apart and sending hugs to one another, all of them looking overjoyed to see each other) Robyn: "We let Covid drive us apart." (quick shot of Kody and Gabe in their last convo on Coyote Pass) Robyn: "We held onto our grudges and didn't let them go" (quick shot of Kody and Meri looking mad at each other in Meri's LV living room), Robyn: "We let fear drive us." (quick shot of the moving truck as during Fleehi) Robyn: "We let jealousy drive us." (quick shot of Christine leaving the couch after Kody's dress reveal), Robyn: "We let selfishness drive us." (LONG lingering shot of Kody and then another LONG lingering shot of Robyn). (Shot Back to Robyn on the couch) "We failed. We screwed up." Seriously, all the other shots were quick, but on the "we let selfishness drive us," there was a long pause, and the camera seriously lingered first on Kody on Coyote Pass and then a second lingering shot on Robyn on Coyote Pass. I suspect there's a message in there from production.

I think Kody sold this to them at the time... and they believed it. So I suspect that they believe it to be true because it's what they truly thought was happening at the time, and Kody then referred to LV as his "exile" for the entire time they were there. When they moved to Flagstaff, he told them their exile was over because they chose where they got to live (as in, LV was not a choice). Brainwashing is a bitch.

I've come with some helpful advice for Robyn. They make Puffs Plus tissues with Vicks VapoRub embedded in the tissue. I know because my hubby brought me some for this cold I'm fighting. I forgot they had Vicks in them and wiped my eyes. Instant tears. And it just looks like a normal tissue. No need to stare at lights or poke my eyes with my fingers. Just a discreet dab will do. If I ever feel the urge to dry cry (don't know why I would, but I suppose it could come in handy), I've got these babies at my disposal.

Sure, sure. But he did mention he wanted to "check himself into the hospital" (as one does) so he could be with Robyn. He probably had to wait until the 4 PM check-in time so housekeeping could make up his room, and by then he'd learned Robyn would be fine and it was time to take her home.

Kody should be giving them money for college — that's what fathers do. So good for him for at least being that responsible. But you know — when I gave my kids money for college, I never asked for anything in return. I suspect with Kody, there are always strings attached. I know this personality type. I had a rich grandma who would give us money for things as teens/young adults. There were always strings attached.

Most entertaining wedding I've ever seen on television.

Oh thank god I got through all that. The hotness (or notness) of sex between Kody and the wives is going to give me nightmares. The only thing more nightmare-inducing from this show would be discussing the hotness or notness of sex between Mykelti & Tony.

He looks puffy.

WTF is going on with Kody's face?

Absolutely agree that Kody and all children of cleaning age (in other words, all children) are equally responsible for the state of the manse - at least from a cleanliness standpoint. It has always bugged me that women are judged for the state of a house and not the men and kids. Also agree that a shopping addiction may also be at play. As well as general overwhelm. When you start to let stuff go, it probably gets more and more overwhelming the bigger the mess. That much clutter and mess is a chaotic and super stressful way to live and probably takes a mental toll on everyone in the house.

Robyn's continuous repetition of sittin' on the porch with her sister wives borders on pathological. Look, we all have dreams about how the future might be, but as situations evolve and life changes, we adapt and change those dreams instead of stamping our toddler feet and insisting that everyone is ruining our dreams as they fail to bend to our will. I can't imagine still holding tight to the dreams I had 10 or 15 years ago because my life has moved far beyond those. Also, I think Kody was trying to let the television audience know he was "performing" for the whole 18 seasons of the show (without breaking the fourth wall). In his pea brain, I suspect he thinks that will make people view him more kindly somehow because he never meant any of it...it was all an act, doncha see? His OG wives were all hideous, awful humans and he managed to perform in spite of their inherent horribleness. The sacrifices he made to pretend to love them! He's a hero.

It makes me wonder if Robyn has some kind of uncontrolled health condition (probably autoimmune - maybe Hashimoto's, judging by her neck) that makes it really hard for her to have the energy to clean up or be very active. There have been times over the years that I've been "out of spoons" in chronic illness vernacular to do a ton of cleaning - although never to that extent of clutter because my husband and kids could help, and I'd do what I could no matter how shitty I felt. But then, I didn't have 7 people living in my home, either (of course, I also worked full time and didn't have a nanny). I hate giving Robyn the benefit of the doubt, but is there anything about Kody that says he'd be willing to step up to the plate and help with housework if Robyn was under the weather? ETA: Holy crap that stresses me out to look at that kind of mess!

Robyn is a shitty actress.

The episode title is the production team totally making fun of the Kody, Robyn, and any of the other adults in the fambily who use the tortured idiom, "the pink elephant in the room," right? If so, chef's kiss.

Yep - sorry. See my post above. It was apparently a hope-induced hallucination that this thing was finally going to come to an end.

No sorry - I said that. I think I hallucinated out of wishful thinking that in the preview for next week, they said, "Next week on the season finale of Sister Wives." I just checked, and they did not. It was a beautiful dream.

You can't really control the portion sizes you get at a restaurant. It doesn't mean she's going to eat all that. It's what the restaurant gave her from whatever breakfast she ordered (which looks like huevos rancheros or chilaquiles).

When the family was having the Vegas homes built, Meri was obsessed with getting a wet bar and thus had to have a big, giant house with a gazillion rooms. The wet bar came up a lot. After Kody and Meri legally divorced so Kody could marry Robyn, Meri got herself caught up in a very public, very humiliating catfishing scandal whereupon she thought she was going to run off with a super rich, handsome, tall dude named Sam who turned out to be a very sick and malicious woman named Jackie who eventually released a lot of Meri's voicemails, etc.

I have no sense of spatial relations and I was watching the show on an 11" laptop screen with 58-year-old eyes, and even I could see that car wasn't going to fit in that trailer. Morons. I thought Robyn looked genuinely anxious on the Zoom call. It's uncomfortable to watch your chickens come home to roost. Please, show, less of Tony. A) he's gross. B) I can't understand what he says because he's a mush mouth. C) Mykelti married her father (and also is her father). Thank goodness we're finally getting the season finale next week. I'd be okay if it was the series finale.