When you give an adult $$$ you don’t get a say in how they use it, nor do you get to follow them around like a psycho monitoring their movements. I agreed she should get a job. She does need to be independent. Abusive men are about control, the control doesn’t always start with hitting them. It starts like this. How many times have people tried to leave Bobby and he’s taken everything from them. How about last season when someone tried to leave his fund and ruined their business? He’s the same, his love and support are as long as he’s controlling you. You have to be doing what he wants you to be doing or he pulls it. I would walk away and did so with my own dad. But as much as people like him threaten to leave you alone , as soon as you tell them to eff off they still keep trying to control you they just choose another method.