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If Amy is telling the truth (which I don’t believe), and Michael doesn’t contribute to the childcare/care of the household, him leaving would decrease her work load as she wouldn’t have to take care of HIM, just take care of the boys. Having an adult in the house that doesn’t contribute to the running of the house makes more work. It’s easier to be on your own and run things your way than attend to the needs, wants, opinions of someone else. Taking care of one or two dependents is much easier than one or two dependents with another adult “in the way”- I say this as someone who’s spent their adult life as a caregiver. All that said I think Amy is being unfair to Michael. I think being a Mom is harder than she thought- and she wanted these babies, Michael was a means to get them. I think he’s an easy scapegoat. I just can’t believe someone who was always so helpful and willing to care for their sister-in-law wouldn’t care for their own kids.

Truthfully I do worry how my sister will fare once our Mom is gone. I promised if my Mom dies at home I will make sure she can see and touch the corpse to understand she is gone (to the best of her ability). She will either live to be 100 or die within a year of our Mom from grief. Nothing I can do about that except love her, and show her Mommy's bedroom is empty. I joke that she doesnt love me, only Mom first, and then M, and then L (the weekend caregiver) I am the big meanie who never gives her what she wants and tells her "no"- but she is going to be stuck with me!

Nick said that Devin said she didn’t like it but got used to it because he just kept at it. Like WUT??! Seems he was very inconsiderate of her feelings. Reminds me of a trend I’ve noticed where certain cultural groups will nickname babies/toddlers “monkey” because they climb. As an ADOS person that is highly offensive and a huge fucking NO- there might not be any ill intention on Nick’s part but hit hurts Devin (you know the woman he loves and claims to want to marry) so the appropriate response is to just not do it any more. There are more obese people in the USA than in Korea, but I don’t think Nick is so obtuse that he doesn’t know critiquing strangers weight in public isn’t often done in the USA (or even Australia where they met). A part of me thinks he just wants to be shocking and edgy and has no social graces. Yeah he did announce his opinion. But there’s a thing about social appropriateness and social graces when you’re meeting people for the first time and don’t have an intimate relationship with them. I am not going to show up to a stranger’s home and when they ask me “what do people think about x” tell them ONLY a bunch of negative stereotypes. It would’ve been different if he said “it’s a stereotype that there’s a lot of junk food here, so many places to shop, and everything is spread out” that would’ve been one thing. When the USC partner visits a foreign country and does nothing to lament about stereotypes they are often portrayed as ignorant, I think the same standards apply to Nick. The statement was in poor taste. And then he grabbed Devin’s stomach after the fact. It was reality tv gold but I think her Dad responded well.

My Mom says you never get over losing your mother. I’m not a natural nurse either (despite the vast assumption to the contrary- I have the skills due to life circumstances not due to a desire to hone them), but I’m sure she knew how much you loved her and I know she was lucky to have such a dutiful and caring daughter. It’s hard seeing someone you love so fragile and helpless. My Mom is looking so much like Grandfather these days. Just smaller with jewelry on. She’s had a rough few days and she says I’m not patient like M (no I’m not, M is a caregiver by profession)- but she did get out to Cirque du Soleil last week and like a little kid she asked could she have an Xmas present early. Sure Mommy whatever you’d like-I got her this heated leg massager because she has lymphedema in both legs, I think she will like it.

Yes people who use wheelchairs travel, but an equipped vehicle costs more money (if they don’t transfer out into the car seat), so I’m guessing it was cheaper and easier for them to just take seats out and have Tammy sit on the floor (as dangerous as it was). I thought Tammy looked really nice with the reddish hair and blue top. Great colors for her. I can see changes in her mood. I think this is likely. I don’t buy that Michael doesn’t do anything to care for the kids. He was always so helpful in caring for Tammy. I think Amy is overwhelmed and rather than acknowledge her own limitations and figure out how to work through it, it’s Michael’s fault.

Their names are Sam (USA) and Citra (Indonesia). I think she will flip when she realizes he has a record that impacts his employment potential and may be serving time after they are married.

Tales from life with Cosmo- on his afternoon walk today we were enjoying unseasonably warm weather (50F/10C) in Chicago. I went to throw his bag away in a neighborhood dumpster and when I opened the lid there was a live rat in there!!!!!! I was shocked. (I don’t know why, probably because I wasn’t expecting it) Cosmos been with me almost 3yrs and I’m still amazed how much other “wild life” I see in the city with walking him.

What gets me is that Devin doesn’t like it. If she doesn’t like it and it bothers her then he should cut it out, even if in his culture/language the name wouldn’t be particularly offensive. I agreed with her Dad. If she hates it that much he should cut it out.

I’m so sorry. Grief is a bitch.

Air Date: December 15, 2023

Ah gotcha yes that makes sense.

I agree. I don’t think Julio was as into Kristen as she was into him, and I think he didn’t really want to move to the Netherlands, but I do have to agree with Tim a little bit, something else was going on with her and that guy. A broken clock is right twice a day. Julio may have ended things with her anyway because he met someone else he wanted to pursue. At the end of the day I’m glad they broke up because it would’ve been a disaster of a marriage. FYI- Holly and Wayne met on an ex-JW site, but @athousandclowns they explicitly said that we’re waiting until they got married to have sex with each other. Which I don’t think is unbelievable just because they have both been married before. Deciding to have sex with one person in one circumstance (marriage) doesn’t mean you’re game for every other sexual experience. I know several religious people who have been divorced/widowed and didn’t have sex again until they were married again. (If you don’t mind I understand, but I don’t think it’s a given) I do think Wayne is done with the marriage and it was a bad idea.

@BetyBee are we living parallel lives? This morning in Cosmo’s morning walk in our local park, an unleashed shitzu took a liking to him and ran up just running circles around him. At least we were in a park and not the side walk (although it wasn’t a dog park, dogs are supposed to be leased). Cosmo was un-phased and I had to stop him from sniffing a dead squirrel.

So sorry for your loss @Jynnan tonnix- what an adorable darling! You gave Pippin a wonderful life. @CalicoKitty it seems like you are in a great head space through this. You’re a solider. I agree with you about commercials. I’ll share the front when it gets here!

I agree with you @BetyBee- I live in the city and there are a few neighbors who rarely have their dogs leashed. It’s not safe for the dogs! What if there is a loud sound a they run in the street out of fear?? What if a bigger dog comes by? Cosmo is always on his leash unless we are in a fenced private yard, for his own well being. I also know there are people who don’t like dogs or who are terrified of dogs, and they have a right to walk down the street in peace as well. One day this week Cosmo was being stubborn and wanted to sniff in the middle of the street. I pulled him along to get him out of the street and he whimpered. A neighbor was watching me to make sure I wasn’t hurting him (I wasn’t, he was fine but we can’t hang out in the middle of the street!) I appreciate the concern for Cosmo.

I think Brandon’s Mom loves her son and wants him to have a better life than she had. But I understand why he isn’t open to listening to her after the trauma her addiction put him through when he was very young. Of course I applaud her for being in recovery and trying to make amends, but that doesn’t undo the damage done to her kids/her relationship with them. I also think people forget that Brandon is very young- his Mom hasn’t been in recovery that long. He’s only 23. It’s not as if she’s been sober for 25yrs and he’s just refusing to listen to anything she says. Rebuilding that trust and authority with him is going to take time (which she seems to understand).

@Stuckathome I think Holly and Wayne are poorly suited. I think they liked each other but Holly is too emotionally needy to be away from her community and rely only on Wayne for emotional support. This is likely a situation where two people just shouldn’t be together. Yeah I haven’t minded them.

She was in the shootout where the mafia went after them- there was one at Raq’s house and the studio.

She might just not care to wear it. I know a number of devout Muslim women who don’t cover their hair outside of attending mosque. I don’t think Sam is being forced to covert, but if Citra feels being married to another Muslim is a non negotiable for her, and Sam wants to marry her, then he should think sincerely if he wants to do this. Actually practice the faith not just appease Citra. I don’t think so either. Which I think means a world of pain for both of them.

I don’t think Kristen is a bad human, but I got why they questioned her story. The peanut gallery seemed fair. Kristen seems like the type who cries easily when she gets upset and overwhelmed which leads people to not push or question her. Julio is no prize and I think he was stringing her along from what we saw of their time together, but there was truth in his version as well.

Yes she died in last seasons finale.

As far as Julio and Kristin- something tells me there’s a bit of truth in each of their stories. I think it’s likely Julio was on his way out of the door, so Kirsten either cheated or tried to make him jealous. I think they were poorly suited and it’s good they broke up, but Tania did have a good point, if Kristin thought Julio broke up with her for someone else, she didn’t lead with that? I mean they weren’t married yet (were they technically engaged??) but she would be justified in being upset. I dunno. Danielle and Yohan, I think Danielle had an inflated sense of self importance, but she was genuinely hurt that Yohan thought their relationship was a horror story. If Yohan just wanted a woman with more earning potential than him, he could’ve found one in the DR. He wanted to come to the USA or be kept- you promised at least the first (I don’t think she told Yohan if he married her he would never have to work again) and didn’t deliver so he left. While I think Kenny and Armando have one of the healthiest relationships in this franchise, I do think he’s having a child for Armando. He’s got FOUR biological children and is over 60- he’s not doing it for himself.

The show was amazing. He’s funny.

Speedy recovery @Notabug! Its been a very busy few days but I wanted to share some outtakes from the holiday card photo shoot!

Such gorgeous girls! Thank you for sharing with us. You gave them long beautiful lives. I finally got the holiday cards ordered and I wanted to share some outtakes with you guys.