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Paddy or Pat are diminutives of Patrick. Patty, Patti, Patsy or Pat are diminutives of Patricia. Ergo, in general, Patty is a woman's name not a man's name. It's one of those things that drives many actual Irish people crazy every March. There is no such thing as St Patty's Day, it's Paddy's, because Patty is never short for Patrick. I thought Jenn was super pretty and looked her up on IMDB. I was shocked to learn she's Pam from For All Mankind. I don't think I'd have figured that out as she's very different in each role.

I know, at the end when Tammy was saying to her, 'I asked you out, It took you to this fun thing....' I was just thinking, in what world is someone else's work party a fun thing? Never mind as a first date. Tammy strikes me as weirdly possessive, the way she caught Patty and pulled up close to her when the other cops came to say hi, was disturbing.

And in real life, it is very, very common for a marriage to fall apart after a child is born for precisely this reason. I left my ex less than 4 months after I had a baby. It started to become obvious when I was pregnant and sick that he not only couldn't look after me when I needed him, but he actually couldn't cope without me looking after him. Once the baby was born, he went off the rails completely. And it turned out that while I was willing to put up with him being an awful husband and allow him to subsume my life, I wasn't willing to allow him to do that to a child. So while I couldn't put my needs over my husband's wants, there was never a question of me allowing him to put his wants over our child's. Even with friends with similar husbands who stayed in their marriages, they have told me that their marriages changed for the worse the day their child was born. Their husbands were resentful and angry that the baby needed the time and attention they wanted. And a huge part of the next years/decade of the marriage was the husband throwing tantrums and demanding that attention back.

The plan at the end of this episode is the first one where Allison's reasoning doesn't make sense to me. As I left my abusive marriage, I indulged in many fantasies of widowhood. Never murder, but for many reasons becoming a widow would just have been so, so much easier. One reason would have been to have had the respectability of widowhood rather than the stigma of a failed marriage. To have had only sympathy rather than the knowledge that some people would attribute the divorce to your failings. It sounds weirdly old fashioned but in the years since we have divorced, that fear has proved right, there really are people who judge you very negatively for having left a bad marriage. But if my husband had died because he was a drug lord murdered because of a drug deal gone wrong, I'm pretty sure that would be even worse in terms of how that kind of person treats you. So I was surprised that Allison was so gung-ho to jump on Patty's plan.

Wow, well I wonder if there will be any coming back from that for Greta? I like how she comes across as innocent and silly, because we see her through Sheila's eyes. But she's actually pretty sharp and capable of putting two and two together. I didn't think she'd see Sheila's videos and work out that Sheila had stolen the camera. Like Sheila, it never even occurred to me that she'd make that leap. But she worked out exactly what happened and wouldn't let Sheila talk her way out of it. I guess, she may be desperate to talk through whatever feelings watching Ernie's video throws up for her. So for that reason she may turn to Sheila, because she probably won't want to tell anyone who doesn't know about what Ernie has been doing. So that only leaves he with Sheila to talk to. But other than that, I don't think she'd ever be willing to be friends with Sheila again.

I'm not sure Sheila is going to put things right for the fired nanny. She might feel some guilt about it but ultimately that nanny is just collateral damage. The woman we saw in the opening of the first episode did not appear to be a woman who would care if she got someone fired for no good reason. And that's the woman Sheila is on her way to being.

I think in some ways this illustrates how well the 'two-show' device is working. I kept waiting for new-Patty to cross into the real world and how utterly terrifying that would be. But he didn't need to. We could see him in the sitcom only, yet fully imagine what that meant he was really like. The same is true for the 'interrogation' scenes. We could see them in the sitcom, with the bright colours and the laugh track. Yet be able to fully imagine how that was really playing out. It's really very, very clever because 5 episodes in and we're totally able to see through the sitcom filter.

I actually wouldn't mind a Kurt too much. With a little adjustment he could be the ideal boyfriend for me. I'd happily come in from an evening of sports with my friends and be served up a healthy dinner with some Netflix and chill. If he wanted to discuss his grocery savings for a minute or two, that'd be a small price to pay. I bet he cleans up after dinner too.

IRL, he's 40 and she's 34 but I think that contrary to popular wisdom, most women actually age better than most men. Yes you have your very handsome exceptions who also really take care of themselves into middle age and beyond. But overall, the average middle aged woman, maybe because we have more grooming options and how our bodies distribute excess fat, looks better than the average middle aged man. On the extreme end of the scale, my ex husband is a year older than me and looks at least 20 years older. But he's a semi-functioning addict and since we split I've become a reasonably clean living athletic type. So I do wonder if part of what we'll learn about Kevin is that he's a pretty hard drinker. We've already seen him whining about how lucky Allison is to work at a liquor store, along with his antics at the rager. In real life, a man Kevin's age, still drinking like a college student, very likely does have some sort of problem with alcohol and that's extremely ageing. And part of the casting could reflect that.

Sure. My ex husband was outright abusive in every way, to the point that I learned to literally play dead so he'd stop his attack. And I'm obviously not going to murder him for a variety of reasons. Even though I hope very much that he dies before our son gets old enough to be manipulated by him. But I'm not sure if woman leaves awful husband and gets surprisingly good at new hobby would make for great television.

I think the question of whether or not Kevin is abusive has been fully answered in this episode. The constant calling, him calling the cops to report the car missing to punish her for not answering and the backstory about how he utterly sabotaged her attempt to have a decent career in an especially humiliating way really are more than enough to conclude what their marriage is like.

I miss the multiple timelines. I binge watched the first series and was never bored but I find every episode of this really drags in some places with a lot of very similar scenes and/or some scenes just feeling way too long. I end up feeling bored and keep checking how long is left or browsing on my phone. I absolutely couldn't binge watch this. I kind of like it enough to keep watching but it's a lot of filler.

I'm really liking this. Possibly because I too found my physical passion in my 40s and it makes it really easy to identify with how Sheila is feeling. I get her utter addiction to her aerobics. I understand the feeling when she is about to have a class, what it does for her, how it occupies her mind throughout the day, how she gets through the mundane with her imaginary aerobics routines playing in her mind. I also had a terrible marriage to an awful man, though thankfully mine was over before I reached this point in my life! I unfortunately don't think I'll be building an empire worth millions out of my passion though.

I'm about the same age as Sheila/Rose Byrne, I've almost always been happy/content with how I look. But have been experiencing a really sudden shock of ageing over the last year. I've suddenly become hyper aware of the deepening facial lines and the beginnings of sagging cheeks. To be completely honest, I don't like it. I mentioned to a friend recently that part of me almost wishes that the ageing could just be done, that I could look old and have that be that. Because the thoughts of this slow, drip, drip of my features changing over the next couple of decades is going to require me to find a way to completely adjust my way of thinking if I don't want to develop a Sheila like internal monologue.

They aren't meant to be well off by the Garden Club standards. The Garden Club ladies are seriously rich. Bert and Alma are middle class and their house, as in the property reflects that. It's a reasonably large house on a generous plot of land in a nice neighbourhood. But the house is really grotty inside in comparison to their nextdoor neighbour's. I suspect that part of the reason for that is Bertram. I got really manipulative vibes from him in this episode. The whole implication from him was that Alma doesn't love him and Dee if she wants more than just being a frumpy housewife. His on going anger that she wants to look better and have an outside the home social life. I think he deliberately keeps her frumpy and isolated. Sure we have his whole gesture of handing her his wallet to buy a dress when she told him how much she wanted to be seen. But she never even bought a dress with it. She's conditioned not to actually buy herself nice things, even when she has insisted on getting his 'permission.'

Why is Alma's house so dowdy and her life so downtrodden? Bertram is a vet, he would be earning enough for the family to have nice things and almost certainly a pay for some form of household help for Alma. If not a fulltime housekeeper, they would certainly have a woman who comes to the house a few days a week to help Alma with or even do the bigger cleaning jobs. They aren't rich society people but they lived at a time where the family of a vet could have an extremely comfortable, frequently luxurious, life.

Sending Serena a finger made so little sense. It's not going to be read as the taunt/threat it's intended as. Fred was complicit in her finger being chopped off. Send her his, reads like a gesture of solidarity. "He took your finger, now you have his." They should have sent her an ear or some other body part.

Something is driving me absolutely crazy about both of the Turner parents. If you knew your teenage daughter had been letting herself into the home of a man that you now know is an abuser who has targeted at least one teenage girl. Wouldn't one of your absolute biggest concerns be if she had been in any way abused or groomed? Especially as she underwent a radical personality change at the same time and is being accused of being in his home while he was abusing someone. If my child was even a student in the school Martin Harris worked in, I'd be having some careful conversations to try and ensure nothing inappropriate had happened. If I found out that my kid was actually more connected to this person than I had ever realised I'd be highly, highly concerned that they had also been targeted. It's really, really weird to me that this has never entered the Turner parents' heads. I'm not saying that Martin ever did abuse Jeanette in any way but it's downright negligent that neither Greg nor Cindy have ever even worried about that possibility and checked to see if, at least on that score, Jeanette is ok. IRL, when I was a teenager in the 90s the abuse that was committed and covered up in Catholic schools started to be revealed, my parents discussed this with me and my brothers to make sure we had been and continued to be safe. And that was just on the basis that they were shocked that abuse had happened in numerous schools and felt it was important to check that the places they had assumed were safe for us actually were.

In the final library scene at one point June turns to Emily and says Emily should speak, 'if she wants.' And I wanted Emily to turn to her and say, 'oh, so now you care about what I want?' Because Emily's wants were utterly irrelevant to June up until it suited her. That said I'm glad Emily was happy Irene/Iris was dead. Her suicide felt manipulative to me, an attempt to make Emily regret not forgiving her. Because all of her language was completely centred on herself. She couldn't sleep knowing Emily was in Canada, suggesting she was fine with what she had done, it was the potential consequences of being outed by her victim that were keeping her up at night. She wanted Emily to forgive her so she could get on with her new Canada life fear free. To achieve this she hounded Emily in spite of the clear distress it caused her. Someone who was sorry wouldn't have been able to sleep after escaping to Canada, because the horror of what they had done would have been playing on their minds. She would have wanted to apologise to Emily and try to make amends never expecting forgiveness if she was actually sorry. She wouldn't have continued to cause upset by following her around. Killing herself was a way to escape consequences while also trying to punish Emily for not giving her what she wanted. So I'm very, very glad that it backfired and just made Emily feel freer.

I'm mainly thinking about the giant plothole that is June standing up at the hearing, which all the Gilead commanders will be keeping a close eye on, and openly stating that Lawrence disobeyed the laws of Gilead. Sure he's the commander that gets to sit in the middle of the table now but the other commanders, who will resent that as he got there by blackmail, now have grounds to have him right up on the wall.

She already did that with Nick at the beginning of Season 2. When she first escaped Gilead and went into hiding in the newspaper offices. She caught him by the hair and made him submit to her. He totally went along with it though and fully understood why she was acting as she was. (I haven't seen this episode, so don't know how Luke is portrayed here.)

Oona was a massive hypocrite anyway. She encouraged Moira to come with her on her aid missions knowing Moira would have to travel under falsified papers as a Canadian citizen. A seasoned aid worker knows damn well that you can't bring a wanted person from a war zone back into that war zone. To Gilead, Moira is an escaped criminal. Her presence on that mission was just as damning to the organisation as June being on the ship. But Oona did it just so she could have her girlfriend with her.

Whatever about June being able to get herself out, jumping into a "pull-up" is much easier and more doable than doing it properly from a dead-hang. Though as a woman who can do a proper pull-up, I'm not sure I'd be able to jump and pull myself up following many hours of being wet, cold, hungry and exhausted, following days of torture, following recently having been shot in the abdomen. But even if she somehow summoned the power to pull herself out, the idea that June could lean in, reach one arm down and pull Janine up was superhero level stuff right there. I was actually wondering why they didn't at least get in one of the vehicles being transported. Those seemed like something they would have had an decent shot of getting out of easily when the train approached Chicago. And they were less likely to have been inspected along the way as the cargo carrying cars. June might even have been able to put her superhero skills to good use by lifting it off the train and driving off in it.

That second part is rooted in history. The 6th person the Soviets sent to space, and the 12th person ever, was Valentina Tereshkova in 1963. A little over 2 years after Yuri Gargarin's flight, the Soviets sent a woman. Tereshkova is to this day the only woman to have ever flown a solo flight in space. It was a massive public relations coup at home and around the world. Tereshkova toured the world and met with Queen Elizabeth in England when they were both pregnant the following year. In a similar but not quite alike nod to the Stevens' PR aspect, Tereshkova was very much encouraged to marry fellow Cosmonaut Andriyan Nikolayev shortly after her space flight, in order to have a fairytale Russian space couple. Their daughter being the first person in the world to have both parents who had been in space.

Molly and the ships were in orbit and as such in the earth's gravitational pull. I'm not quite sure how far up the ships were compared to the ISS, but the ISS is still subject to about 90% of the earth's gravity that we feel on the surface. Even if they were a good deal further away than the ISS, they would all be well within our gravity well considering that the moon is in our gravity well. Molly would continue to orbit the earth in ever decreasing circles before her body would eventually burn up on re-entry.