S06.E02: Recipe for Disaster

[CrazyInAlabama]

New, 10/15/2024 "Dr. Smith holds an all-sibling weigh-in appointment and the moment of truth is a tough pill to swallow for some; with her recent makeover, Amy looks ahead to her new life; Tammy and Amanda's long-running sibling feud reaches new heights."

[Gemma Violet]

Wow, Amanda is a piece of work.  I'm thinking she's frustrated with her injured leg and therefore her usual strident and bossy personality is magnified ten-fold.   Talk about over-reacting.  Amy didn't want to participate in the competition.  All Amanda had to do is say, "OK, we'll do it without you and maybe you might want to join later."  Then, after Amy leaves, Tammy calmly starts to say, "I can see where Amy is coming from...," and Amanda accuses her of giving her attitude.

[swankie]

I don't like Amanda.  She's a bully. 

[SunnyBeBe]

Just caught the new episode last night.  It’s a temperamental family.  It can get old. 
 

I do find it amazing when people assign blame as to their eating hsbits on to other people. Lol. Like, you were going through a rough time, therefore I couldn’t stay on my diet. I guess they have triggers from other people’s problems.  
 

I am interested in the topic of skin surgery, since I want it for myself after losing almost 100 pounds. (No surgery) I don’t have nearly the amount of skin those on this show have, but enough to bother me.  
 

Has Amanda had more than one bariatric surgery? 

Edited October 16 by SunnyBeBe

[BAForever]

Disappointed in Amanda for blaming others for her lack of progress. I do think she  has spent way too much time in the past helping Tammy and Amy function, but time to move on and take responsibility for her own progress or failure. Sad her son is so overweight too.

Watched enough Dr. Now to know none of them were getting skin removal surgery. No one is close except Misty who isn't interested- she looks great.

[CrazyInAlabama]

7 hours ago, SunnyBeBe said:

Just caught the new episode last night.  It’s a temperamental family.  It can get old. 
 

I do find it amazing when people assign blame as to their eating hsbits on to other people. Lol. Like, you were going through a rough time, therefore I couldn’t stay on my diet. I guess they have triggers from other people’s problems.  
 

I am interested in the topic of skin surgery, since I want it for myself after losing almost 100 pounds. (No surgery) I don’t have nearly the amount of skin those on this show have, but enough to bother me.  
 

Has Amanda had more than one bariatric surgery? 

My understanding from knowing several people who lost a lot of weight, if you lose very slowly, even with the surgery, you won't have the sagging skin issue usually, or at least not that badly.   The arms flaps will probably still happen though.   Lymphedemas may get smaller, but will never disappear without surgery.    The health insurance often only pays when your FUPA covers your genitals.     So, whoever does the skin removals for the family, eventually, will probably be doing the surgery for free for the publicity.    Tammy's going to need some joint replacements too I bet, and she'll have to get a lot lower weight to qualify for that. 

 I don't think the family members realize the trauma of major skin removal surgery.      It's not just a whack off some skin and you dance out of the operating room and you're healed.   A friend was told the bat wing / arm flap surgery would be two months healing time, and she would have to have someone with her for a lot of that, and no driving.  

Amanda did say she had a previous surgery, about 8 years ago.   She's the only sibling who had a previous surgery.    

Edited October 16 by CrazyInAlabama

[Pi237]

Whenever someone says, 'I take care of everyone else before myself,' it's rarely true. Amanda ran her mouth a lot, but did she babysit Amy's kids a few days a week so she could go to the gym? Was she cleaning Tommy's house when she was unable?  Was she cooking healthy meals for everyone? How exactly did she have to stall the act of Not eating as much, to help everyone else? Its ridiculous. 

Felt bad for Tammy. After all that weight loss, to hear you're still 100lbs away, must be heart breaking. 

[BAForever]

Posted earlier, but figured out I fell asleep last 15 minutes of show and wow. Amanda was so angry. That's years of pentup frustration whether true or not. And what's with them talking about Amanda supposedly sleeping around? Who cares?

This entire family are horrible communicators. Amy and Tammy run from conflict and Amanda runs to it. Some family counseling might be good. 

Tammy, you wouldn't last a day without family support- although it would be good for you to try.

Poor Brittney...

[Gemma Violet]

3 hours ago, CrazyInAlabama said:

My understanding from knowing several people who lost a lot of weight, if you lose slowly, even with the surgery, you won't have the sagging skin issue usually.

That's mostly if you're on the younger side, but after a certain age, maybe after 45 or 50 or so, your skin has lost a lot of elasticity.  As someone who slowly lost 60 lbs in my late 50s/early 60s, I speak from experience, lol.

 

1 hour ago, BAForever said:

Poor Brittney...

Yes, I felt so sorry for her sitting there, listening to all that.  And I noticed even Missy couldn't take Amanda's outburst and left the room.  

[barshi50]

5 hours ago, CrazyInAlabama said:

 I don't think the family members realize the trauma of major skin removal surgery.      It's not just a whack off some skin and you dance out of the operating room and you're healed.   A friend was told the bat wing / arm flap surgery would be two months healing time, and she would have to have someone with her for a lot of that, and no driving.  

I am amazed that they think they are ready for skin removal surgery.  You can still see that they are carrying a lot of fat. That has to go before you can have any skin removal, regardless of how much you have lost. Just because you have lost 200, 400 lbs doesn't qualify you if you still have 100 or more pounds to reach your goal weight.

[Chalby]

I have a feeling Amanda has been helping out her sisters, family, etc, for a very long time, all while biting her lip to stop herself from blurting out obvious hypocricies.

How many times have Tammy & Amy spewed obscenities, had full on tantrums, or simply refused to acknowledge how much the family rallies and does for them?

After injuring her leg, Amanda probably assumed the family would immediately come over to help, just as she has done countless times for them. Yet, it sounds like a week can go by without a check in from either Amy or Tammy.

She offered Tammy her home because Tammy no longer had a rental. It wasn't a forever solution, but an "until you're back on your feet idea". But then Amy left Michael and moved in with Tammy (Amanda helped). Then Amy only called Amanda to help move her stuff back home because Amanda's the strongest.

Yet after everything she's done to help, Tammy is complaining to the camera about the worn down house, sweeping some glass that she feels immobile Amanda should be dealing with. Tammy also wants Amanda to deal with her "out of control kids" when they're not even with her; they're at Tammy's. If they really are busting her windows like vandals, confront them, or phone the police. Don't expect Amanda to discipline them long after the fact. It's an empty threat.

All I know is no one had better phone me to complain about my grown kids, especially without saying something to them first. 

[Chalby]

On 10/16/2024 at 5:45 AM, Pi237 said:

but did she babysit Amy's kids a few days a week so she could go to the gym? Was she cleaning Tammy's house when she was unable?  Was she cooking healthy meals for everyone?

From what I recall, Chris, Misty Amy and Amanda all looked after Tammy when she lived in the duplex with Amy on the other side. Amanda and Misty were the ones who noticed henr house had been broken into, and got her stuff out. Amanda was the one helping look after Amy's kids once Amy decided Michael wasn't helping.

But I will agree that once Amy or Tammy began expecting more help or not appreciating what she has done already, that's when she loses her mind and says enough.

Even that fight at Amanda's house came out of nowhere, but I understand Amanda's frustration. As soon as Amy started to talk, she looked at Amanda and ask her "why are you looking at me like that?" As a person with resting bitch face, it drives me nuts when people assume an emotion that I'm not feeling.

[Dibs]

Tammy is the family scapegoat. It seems every TLC reality TV family has one, and she's it.  No way did she deserve to be thrown out of the house for simply saying "I see where Amy's coming from."  Blame it on pent-up frustration, pills, Mama Bear Syndrome (which is often hysterical) or whatever, but I do notice the other family members unify by dog-piling on Tammy.  Amy's the insufferable and pathological one, in my view, yet she just turns on the water works (I'm not sure she's even squeezing out any real tears; it's mostly whining and scrunching) and gets away with murder. I must say I was amazed to see poor "blind" Amy, who needs people to drive her places and thus kisses Amanda's behind, reading the fine print on the condensed milk can.  Even I can't do that without my cheaters or magnifier.  I just hate to see Tammy vilified season after season -- and yet I'm watching it!

Edited November 2 by Dibs

[Chalby]

On 11/1/2024 at 5:03 PM, Dibs said:

Tammy is the family scapegoat. It seems every TLC reality TV family has one, and she's it.  No way did she deserve to be thrown out of the house for simply saying "I see where Amy's coming from."  Blame it on pent-up frustration, pills, Mama Bear Syndrome (which is often hysterical) or whatever, but I do notice the other family members unify by dog-piling on Tammy.  Amy's the insufferable and pathological one, in my view, yet she just turns on the water works (I'm not sure she's even squeezing out any real tears; it's mostly whining and scrunching) and gets away with murder. I must say I was amazed to see poor "blind" Amy, who needs people to drive her places and thus kisses Amanda's behind, reading the fine print on the condensed milk can.  Even I can't do that without my cheaters or magnifier.  I just hate to see Tammy vilified season after season -- and yet I'm watching it!

Dysfunctional families always have a scapegoat that helps the family stay together. As soon as the scapegoat is gone the family falls apart because their real issues come forth

[Chalby]

On 10/16/2024 at 8:13 AM, Gemma Violet said:

That's mostly if you're on the younger side, but after a certain age, maybe after 45 or 50 or so, your skin has lost a lot of elasticity.  As someone who slowly lost 60 lbs in my late 50s/early 60s, I speak from experience, lol.

 

Yes, I felt so sorry for her sitting there, listening to all that.  And I noticed even Missy couldn't take Amanda's outburst and left the room.  

You're right, after 50 the skin doesn't go back after being stretched. I hear the loose skin is very painful because of rashes, heaviness, and sagging.