S06.E12: No Hard Feelings?

[TwirlyGirly]

Joanne and Sean finally come clean about their marriage; Shekinah and Sarper turn to a therapist for help, as Statler's panic attack continues; Dempsey is ready to call it quits, and Josh's lack of intimacy leaves Lily feeling unloved.

➡️Air date: 9/16/2024

CHEAT SHEET 

Season 6 Cast: Names & Locations 

The Agony... (Returning couples):

Shekinah (California) & Sarper (Turkey)

Statler (Texas) & Dempsey (England)

...and the Ecstasy (New couples):

Josh (S. Carolina) & Lily (China)

James (Maine) & Meitalia (Indonesia)

Corona (Pennsylvania) & Ingi (Iceland)

Joanne (New York) & Sean (Ireland)

[surfgirl]

On 9/11/2024 at 2:26 PM, TwirlyGirly said:

Joanne and Sean finally come clean about their marriage; Shekinah and Sarper turn to a therapist for help, as Statler's panic attack continues; Dempsey is ready to call it quits, and Josh's lack of intimacy leaves Lily feeling unloved.

➡️Air date: 9/16/2024

CHEAT SHEET 

Season 6 Cast: Names & Locations 

The Agony... (Returning couples):

Shekinah (California) & Sarper (Turkey)

Statler (Texas) & Dempsey (England)

...and the Ecstasy (New couples):

Josh (S. Carolina) & Lily (China)

James (Maine) & Meitalia (Indonesia)

Corona (Pennsylvania) & Ingi (Iceland)

Joanne (New York) & Sean (Ireland)

What is so 'ecstatic' about these new idiots? What am I missing? They're just as bad as the returning dimwits, aren't they?

[TwirlyGirly]

1 hour ago, surfgirl said:

What is so 'ecstatic' about these new idiots? What am I missing? They're just as bad as the returning dimwits, aren't they?

Ecstasy:

4 a: a state of being beyond reason and self-control

Ecstatic:

: of, relating to, or marked by ecstasy

Any questions?

[Shrek]

15 hours ago, surfgirl said:

What is so 'ecstatic' about these new idiots? What am I missing? They're just as bad as the returning dimwits, aren't they?

Because taking drugs might help hence the ecstacy part ?

Edited September 13 by Shrek

[surfgirl]

4 hours ago, Shrek said:

Because taking drugs might help hence the ecstacy part ?

I get your point but I don't think any amount of drugs, legal or illegal, would help the new couples be viewed in any way that might be described as ecstatic. Moronic? Sure! Idiotic? Of course! Dumber than a box of rocks? Absolutely! But never ecstatic. 🤪

[Shrek]

7 minutes ago, surfgirl said:

I get your point but I don't think any amount of drugs, legal or illegal, would help the new couples be viewed in any way that might be described as ecstatic. Moronic? Sure! Idiotic? Of course! Dumber than a box of rocks? Absolutely! But never ecstatic. 🤪

Not old enough to remember that ecstacy was a drug or maybe it was just called that in the U.K. clubbing scene.

Otherwise known as MDMA according to Google so maybe not a U.S. thing.

Edited September 13 by Shrek

[Gobi]

Ecstasy was used as a name for the drug here in the US. It was also called Molly; I don’t know which name was more popular.

[TwirlyGirly]

10 hours ago, surfgirl said:

I get your point but I don't think any amount of drugs, legal or illegal, would help the new couples be viewed in any way that might be described as ecstatic. Moronic? Sure! Idiotic? Of course! Dumber than a box of rocks? Absolutely! But never ecstatic. 🤪

So you don't  agree they're in "a state of being beyond reason and self-control"?

I believe they are.  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

[surfgirl]

2 minutes ago, TwirlyGirly said:

So you don't  agree they're in "a state of being beyond reason and self-control"?

I believe they are.  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

You can believe they are, thsts okay. But to.answer your question, nope, because I view ectasy as a positive thing - yes it can be "in a state of being beyond reason snd self control" - but again, I think of that as more of a positive thing, whereas these people are not positive, they are morons and watching then makes me stabbity,not ecstatic. 😅

[JeanJean]

Dempsey is totally in the wrong here.  She just keeps hammering away and not listening.

Someone needs to explain to her that high anxiety is like being dangled upside down off a 50-story building. 

[surfgirl]

16 hours ago, JeanJean said:

Dempsey is totally in the wrong here.  She just keeps hammering away and not listening.

Someone needs to explain to her that high anxiety is like being dangled upside down off a 50-story building. 

I don't disagree with you, but also Sadler makes everything about the other persona ND HOW THEY are not doing things the way they need to to please HER. Fuck that shit. I wish Dempsey would driver to the nearest airport and dump her and her stuff and go on her merry way. Sadler is never going to change. She told you she loves being miserable so believer her.

[Kath94]

Why couldn't Sean & Joanne tell their kids a bit gentler?  It's already going to hurt that they've been living a lie for TWO years.  I think I'd broach the subject by telling the kids & her friend that they really like each other and are thinking of getting married. Then, when they're used to that idea, tell them they've already made it legal.  We just HAD to get married, we couldn't help ourselves!  We KNEW it was premature which is why we were afraid to tell you.  Don't just blurt it out and hurt everyone's feelings.  Ugh!

...and if Sean overstayed a visa previously, being banned from the U.S. for three years, what's the big deal?  They've been married for two so there can't be that much of a wait left for him to get approval.  They each have minor kids tied to parents in their home country so neither is going to make a permanent move for a while.

[Red Bridey]

On 9/17/2024 at 2:18 PM, Kath94 said:

...and if Sean overstayed a visa previously, being banned from the U.S. for three years, what's the big deal?  They've been married for two so there can't be that much of a wait left for him to get approval.  They each have minor kids tied to parents in their home country so neither is going to make a permanent move for a while.

The usual punishment for non criminal  violations by non-citizens is five years, so the ban may have been imposed before they got married and he may have three years left. Now of course, Joanne could apply for a waiver of the ban, but there's paperwork and immigration attorneys and money involved, and since she's an "independent contractor" (or whatever you call a psychic/life coach/empath) and he's fully unemployed, CIS would most likely toss their application on the "Not a chance in hell" pile.

I agree that Dempsey appeared completely unable to give "Statler" what she needed on the ferry, but S has not been honest with D the entire time they've been together. D is a happy, adventurous, imaginative and capable person and she has maybe stupidly but optimistically believed that S was being honest about wanting to embark on this particular adventure together. She hasn't seen the passive aggressive side of S, while S believes D lied to her and hid money from her. If S were being honest instead of just horny for a pretty blonde, she would have said her particular neuroses made this lifestyle unthinkable and Dempsey should follow her bliss with someone else. But no, she lied and lied and lied and D's eyes are finally being opened. D is Sunshine and S is Misery. I feel bad for Dempsey. I hate S. 

Edited September 18 by Red Bridey

[lightninggirl]

All of these couples are so whacked out, and we didn't even have Elevator Dude and TataTears this week!

Stapler and Dimwit - wow, everything about them is so disjointed and planned horribly. They're best suited to being one of those couples who do not speak a word of each other's languages and just get horizontal, and that's the end of their involvement with each other. They really need to not be together. Stapler's a dang downer wrapped up in a neurosis blanket and Dimwit just seems to be a user.

It's difficult for me to comprehend that Sarper and Shekinah have only been together a year. I feel like we've been dragged through through their shit for about 8 seasons. 

Josh has probably been there for 4 months and STILL using the time change and his cold for the reason why he won't get with his wife. I'm convinced that he's skipped town because there's a hit on him or something and that's the only reason why he's actually in China. Or he's got some bookie debt and someone's threatening to break his kneecaps. Or there's some gay revenge porn that he's being threatened with. Anything, but this is so weird. Poor Lily. She's working double overtime for a dude who's using a couple of sniffles to avoid bedding her. She deserves better.

Sean and Joanne are SUCH a weirdly matched couple to me. Sean also seems like he's got a bit of a rage undercurrent brewing there, and I wonder what he's like when he doesn't get his way. He and Sarper are probably taking the same roids.

Edited September 18 by lightninggirl

[SunnyBeBe]

I can’t figure out why Josh is avoiding loving Lily.  He seemed embarrassed to be called out on it.  Tired, a cold……hmmmm….that causes a man to lose interest?  I don’t think so.  It sounded like his excuse.  Sigh.   

[candall]

On 9/17/2024 at 1:18 PM, Kath94 said:

Why couldn't Sean & Joanne tell their kids a bit gentler?  It's already going to hurt that they've been living a lie for TWO years.  I think I'd broach the subject by telling the kids & her friend that they really like each other and are thinking of getting married. Then, when they're used to that idea, tell them they've already made it legal. 

...

I agree with this.  I feel mad on the kids' behalf!  So basically all that "consult the children" was just bullshit lip service.  Joanne even says, 

"Sean and I were so wrapped up in our little world, in our own little bubble, that neither one of us really thought about the fact that we may be hurting the people we love the most, by keeping the truth from them."

 

You got married on the sly and you kept it a secret from everyone for years.  Uh, okay, kind of rude, extremely self-centered, but whatever.  I think the real damage is caused by all the talk about how the kids have to schlep over to Ireland to give ol' Sean the stamp of approval before things proceed.

Her oldest son probably feels like a fool, having told Sean that he believes his mother is waiting to hear his opinion.  She doesn't care what her son thinks!  She married the guy two fucking years ago!

Edited September 21 by candall