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That's what he said in the last episode, but by this one he is selling the farm, moving to Santa Fe, and wants her to go with him. Subsequent conversations between Frankie and Grace, and Frankie and her kids, are about whether she'll go with him. And it's not just her talking about it in immediate terms. By the finale,

Gross all around, then. Ugh. I know writing individual thank-you notes is a tedious task whenever you have more than a few to do; you're writing much the same thing over and over, sometimes you're straining for something to say, your eyes glaze over, your hand cramps up, you get bored ... But, jeez, it's such common courtesy I can't believe there are so many people out there who think it's fine to skip. Especially for a wedding, when people tend to give fairly expensive gifts (and possibly take time out of their lives to attend).

That is unreal. Did it arrive shortly after the wedding? Maybe it's some sort of placeholder, a way to quickly acknowledge those who attended, with personalized, hand-written thank-you notes for the gifts to be done over the next couple of months? I'm probably giving them too much credit, but that's just so tacky I'm having trouble wrapping my mind around it.

Yes, I noticed she's eating more. I don't think she's an alcoholic, though; I think she's just a heavy drinker (and not even as heavy as in previous seasons). She has definitely abused alcohol, but I don't see her as addicted to it.

That's standard practice among the vets I've used. In fact, that's how they (and the techs and office staff) got some of their own pets, when an owner wanted the animal euthanized rather than treated for a totally treatable condition, so the owner signed over ownership, but then the vet clinic was unsuccessful in adopting the pet out after treatment (since, even though a sob story helps, there are simply more animals in need of homes than there are homes for them). Watching Walter's forehead move as he breathed, because of the damage to his sinus caused by getting kicked in the head by a horse, was crazy. I like when Dr. Jeff asked Dr. Petra to close so he could go call the owner and she said the real reason is that she closes nicer. Addie not caring a whit that one leg is casted all the way up to the shoulder is adorable. Brynne the nursing home dog had such a sweet face, and a great full-body wiggle. I bet Adequan would help that joint feel better. I completely share Dr. Jeff's embrace of TNR for feral cats. I'm also as surprised as he was that they trapped so many in one night. Dolly was sure keeping those kitties well fed -- those suckers could stand to eat a little less, which would save her some money. I liked watching them all take off out of their traps like bats out of hell when they got back home. I don't like the way they said Smokey would have to go to a home with no other cats or other cats who are FIV positive. He's only a danger to other cats if they'd be fighting, because the virus is only transmitted through bites that break skin; with his time living among the ferals and thus remaining bouts of combative behavior, it's perfectly reasonable to say it's not worth taking the chance putting him with a cat who does not have FIV. But I wish they'd made clear that it was his particular circumstances with respect to temperament that made that necessary; too many people think cats with FIV cannot live with non-FIV cats, period, and this was an opportunity to debunk that as a bright-line rule.

I liked Dan calling her out, but I also think it was Sarah Chalke's only moment of good acting, and the time she most felt like Becky, when she delivered the line, "It's just so weird I could fall in love with someone that could flunk out of trade school."

My routine exactly. Yep, like how I use a large tote bag for non-grocery shopping, and just go from store to store with it, adding to it as I purchase, and never have some asshole security guard demand to inspect it.

Are we seriously, on this of all shows, going to do some asinine storyline where a man acts like a total asshole, refuses to take no for an answer, and the woman finds it charming? I know I'm supposed to be torn about what choice Frankie would make, but to me it's a no-brainer to stay where she is; leaving an entire support system, a lifetime of relationships that will never end, a business, etc. to follow one person with whom she's been in a relationship for about five minutes in the grand scheme of things, and which is quite likely to end at some point? Who’s running Brianna’s company while she hides her belly under a blanket and tries to sleep with a guy with whom she has no future? I’m surprised it took Frankie this long to embark on a crusade to rid her life of processed food. Grumbling about this episode aside, this was another great season and I hope for another one (at least).

TIA was my diagnosis for Frankie, so it's good to see my career as an armchair doctor is going well. I was glad Jacob got the hell out so the women could talk, and I sympathized with Frankie saying she wished she didn't know, for how this was going to affect her life going forward, but I am completely with Grace in saying she did the right thing and deal with it already. Did they ship Brianna off to wherever Barry is because the actor playing her is pregnant? “Embrace love, light, and the possibility of a better tomorrow.” “Pass.”

This is the first time I've ever found Peter Gallagher attractive. The "Keep the Gays Out of Musicals" protest sign made me choke on my dinner. Beyond that, I really don't care about the play. I wasn't all that into this episode as compared to previous ones, until the end.

Interesting dynamic with Grace and Sol being fired up and in synch and Robert and Frankie wanting to be somewhere else. "If I'd known you were as good at this as you were at stealing my husband, I'd have gone into business with you." Good lord, how much time has passed that Jacob already wants Frankie to move to New Mexico with him? I get that the five-year plan isn't the best option at their age, but come on; they've been dating mere months. She's supposed to leave her entire life? Grace breaking down at the thought of Frankie leaving hit me right in the heart. Bud's girlfriend having Grace and Frankie's vibrator (because, of course, she has carpal tunnel syndrome) was great. And her trying to explain the different benefits to sex with him and masturbation with a "perfectly-designed machine" has to resonate with women everywhere. Lots of funny lines in this one: "Other people are the worst." "I hate to cancel on Jacob; he already bought the tofurger and not-dogs for me." "Well, I'm sure those things will taste just as awful on another day." "Are you 15?" "In many ways, yeah." "The same Freud who diagnosed me with penis envy?" "I would have told you." "Yeah, like when my breast was out at Jamba Juice?"

"How do I write nice things about someone who volunteered with the mentally disabled because they're easy to beat at cards?" I was hoping their mom dying meant we were going to see Christine Lahti as Robert's sister again. I like the storyline of losing someone closely related to you, but with whom you had a bad or largely non-existent relationship -- the notion of how you're supposed to feel, and how others felt, versus how you do feel. And I really like the history Robert and Grace share coming into play, with her being the most understanding and helpful to him. Their shopping trip was fantastic; a lot of laughs, and then the "I know how it feels not to be loved by someone who should love you" apology. And buying her a present in the moment. I don't, however, like Frankie getting "When were you planning to tell me about this?" angry at Jacob -- this is the perfect time for him to tell her about possibly retiring to Santa Fe in the future. Their relationship is new. It's committed, I assume, but it's in no way permanent. Because it may progress into that territory as it continues, he's telling her now. He's done nothing wrong. I like the conversation they had the next day much better.

I thought it was, too, with respect to his still being angry about that drunken debacle at lunch (and like that Grace said she'd apologized to Frankie, but owes him one as well), and how he feels about how she treats Frankie in general. It was him horning in on their business meeting that I found completely wrong.

I love Grace taking it out with her shoe (and then walking off on one heel). Also, "Thank you, Bud. It's completely unnecessary and I hate it, but thank you." I love Wendie Malick; she could turn up on every show I watch and I'd be happy. "Drinking straight from a bottle of Sour Pucker is not bartending." I knew the proposed pictures were going to be altered all to hell, but I still laughed out loud when they were revealed. Reality is, though, they already look younger than most women their age, and could successfully, from a marketing perspective, be the face of the product without all that crap -- they already fulfill the "target women of X age by using people X minus 10-15 years age" look, without going overboard. "We can't play a part in erasing the very women we made this for." Yeah! Do it on your own, ladies. First Mallory ruins lunch with Brianna by trying to drag her kids along unannounced, and now she ruins dinner by being on her phone. But her messing with Brianna about her hooker made up for it. I'm more than a little tired, though, of everyone telling Brianna there's something wrong with her for not wanting to get married and have kids. It was perfectly fine for Barry to leave upon realizing she didn't want the same things he did, but not okay to basically tell her she's defective for not wanting it. Now the hooker is lecturing her. First Wendie Malick, then Millicent Martin. This was a good episode for guest stars. "But she's been here since the beginning." "Of time." Get your own lunch, Bud, then you don't have to worry about anyone else eating it. So, if we ever have a topic for the characters, it will be called "Grace & Frankie: The Ben & Jerry of Vaginal Stimulation," right?

You can get them with a tare weight tag on them, but the additional weight compared to the plastic bags is so minimal I don't bother having them adjust the scale.

"I expected this kind of thing from my wrists, and my ankles, and my knees. And my hips. But my back was never like those assholes!" I love that when Grace is crawling over Frankie, and Frankie tells her she's really a striking woman, instead of being annoyed at the interruption in the midst of this crappy situation, she gets all happy and says, "Thank you." And, of course, I love, "Fuck me in the eye," when she realizes how far away the phone is. The slow-speed race across the floor for the phone was supremely silly, but I enjoyed it very much. Along with the entire final segment with the guys. "Would one of you geezers get me off the floor?" when they were deciding how to leverage their problematic body parts. And Sol diving to hide the medications from view while Robert sneaks Grace a heating pad as they video conference with the web designer. I laughed out loud at Brianna's disgust with the people on Tiny House Hunters. I'm generally with those who've said they like the ex-husbands and the kids best when they're with Grace and/or Frankie, but I do love the kids together on their own. "Can you fit a full-size pizza in your house?" "Nope, personal pan only." I still think Robert has better chemistry with the ex-priest than he does with Sol. "This quiche better be good."

Me too. You now have to bring your own bag, or pay for one at checkout (paper or reusable plastic for a nominal fee - those flimsy plastic bags are thankfully no longer an option - or a canvas bag for $2 or something like that), but I've been bringing my own bags since I started grocery shopping over 20 years ago. And, like you, a couple of mine still in use date back to that era. I'll sometimes hand the bagger just one or two bags and have her or him ask, skeptically, "You want everything in this?" Yep; sturdy bags and strong arms. I also use mesh produce bags for the produce that needs to be in a bag, so I don't have to use the plastic ones. I've been using those for about 10 years now, and they thoroughly confused people at first.

Yeah, I have a good credit score, and I've never carried a balance on any of my credit cards; I pay them in full each month and always have (I just use them for convenience, not as a way to not pay the full amount). In fact, my mortgage was the only debt I ever had; no car, student, or other loans in my history. Same with my parents, who have crazy-good credit. It would make sense to me that if you've always paid cash for everything, never having a credit card or loan, you'd be completely unknown as a credit risk and thus have a lower score. But it wouldn't make sense that if you've taken out a couple forms of credit and consistently met your obligation in full that you'd be considered a greater risk than someone who throws $50/month at thousands of dollars worth of debt. I've heard the latter, but it doesn't seem to be true from my (and my parents') experience.

Adorable picture (and, this is quite probably freakish, but I just want to kiss that little paw that's sticking out). I'm glad Zooey is doing so well, and will be released from the dreaded cone tomorrow. I didn't want to tell a frivolous story until we got some good news on Captain, so: Riley scared me for the first time Wednesday evening. I'd been gone for about 24 hours, and when I came through the door I immediately noticed she had only eaten half her food. Okay, sometimes she gets bored with the chicken and wants rabbit instead, so maybe that's it. But then she was nowhere to be found, and didn't come when I called her; normally she's running and meowing to greet me when I've been gone longer than normal, and under normal circumstances she meows from where she is when she hears me say, "Mommy's home." On the second pass through the house, I checked under the couch/bed in the office, which was her hiding place when I got her, and there she was. She came right out, but was acting a little weird. Then she wouldn't eat her rabbit. She followed me to the bedroom, but instead of joining me on the bed for snuggles, she crawled under that bed. At that point, I was concerned, so I swept through the house again, this time looking to see if it looked like she'd gotten into anything. Nada. Back to the bed, and after about five minutes she joined me. It was shortly after that I realized, by a few indicators, she was scared, not sick. Not that I was happy she was scared, but I'll take that over sick! It took nearly an hour for me to calm her down, and she wasn't completely normal until morning. When I'd come home, I'd come from the cross street above, so when I headed down the street that morning to the cross street below, I saw for the first time that my neighbors across the street and a couple of houses down were getting a new driveway; the old one was gone, which meant Riley spent that day I was gone hearing a very long driveway's worth of concrete being jackhammered out and big chunks of it tossed into a truck/dumpster. She'd have probably done okay if I'd been home, but apparently hearing all that (not to mention feeling the vibrations) without Mommy was enough to traumatize her such that the fear lingered even after the work was done. And the not having eaten the night before the day of the noise (she does almost all her eating in the evening/at night) probably was, indeed, being sick of the chicken - once she was calmed down, she devoured her rabbit, and she's eaten it normally ever since - and just a coincidence of timing. So, all is well.

Wonderful news about Captain! I'm so glad to hear it. Stress plays a role in cats' urinary issues, believe it or not (there's even feline idiopathic cystitis, where the inflammation that causes them to have trouble peeing has no medical cause at all [no crystals, stones, or mucus plugs, no infection, no cancer, but the same symptoms as if one of those conditions existed], and it's believed stress is the major factor), and daily play time - ideally with something that emulates catching prey - helps reduce stress. The idea our pampered pets can be stressed seems outlandish, but it's A Thing. Plus, an active cat tends to go to the bathroom more, and the best thing to do for a urinary tract is keep it moving so none of the gunk can form. Best wishes for continued good health and happiness for Captain; he's off to a great start!

I love the silly episodes, and how they blend that with the ongoing relationship issues. I love that virtually every time there is a disagreement between two characters, I see both sides. Grace’s gun is named Louise, hee. I liked going back and forth between the two versions of the shooting. And the double fuck-you of smoking all of Frankie’s pot without her. “We can hang out more, just like tonight. We can smoke the pot, and have the talks. Maybe we can start a book club.” Damn; this is all the time I have to watch until tomorrow night or Sunday. I’m loving this season so far.

So what broke the door glass, that woke Grace up and set this all in motion to begin with? The dummy didn’t do that. “What fresh hippie hell is this?” Grace is right that Frankie needs to have a rational conversation; Grace should have told her from the beginning that she had a gun in the house (as I said in the previous thread, that is something everyone has a right to know about their home), but that ship has sailed. They need to figure out how to sort this out now, and that can’t happen if Frankie just walks around doing her filibuster. But Grace is awfully blasé about the fact she shot what she thought was a person, and dismissive of Frankie having a problem with that (or having a problem living in a house with a gun in the first place, when that's a choice many people - me included - make). Frankie’s lie about where the money came from didn’t take long to bite her in the ass, which I like. And the “I’m sick of you” fight was inevitable, and I like that it’s another scenario in which I see both sides. Grace declaring they have to get dressed for the office to sit around a table in their own home is ridiculous, but her saying they need a dedicated time and space for work isn’t. She does treat Frankie like a wayward child rather than an equal partner in the business, ordering her not to speak, but on the other hand Frankie says outlandishly inappropriate things during business meetings. Etc. Their different personalities are good for each other, but they also inevitably cause significant conflict in both their personal and professional relationships. When I saw it was Lois Smith playing Robert’s mom, I thought, “She’s not remotely old enough to be his mother,” but then looked her up and she’s 86 years old. Still not quite the right age, but I had no idea she was that old. “I could have happily died never knowing you were one of them.” Oh, ouch. Just a horrible thing to hear (and Martin Sheen played Robert's reaction beautifully), but I like the symmetry with Grace having lashed out in the immediate aftermath by saying it would be better if he’d have died (and the asymmetry of Grace not having meant it, and thus apologizing for it later). Oh, Mallory, take Brianna’s advice and get a room for the night; any man who refers to watching his own children as “babysitting” and wants his wife to come home because the kid shit the bed and he can’t figure out laundry deserves everything coming to him.

You’ve been burglarized, Grace, not robbed. I know, I know – almost everyone says it the way she did (even one of the cops in the episode). But she’s so precise, I’d have been very pleased if she’d said it correctly. “Dusty bag of elbows” Ha! Brianna asking if she should take the jewelry with her to keep it safe also made me laugh. Almost everything resulting from the burglary made me laugh: - “I think it was supposed to be men’s shoes, but Mom thought that was too heteronormative.” - Frankie declaring squatter’s rights to Grace’s bed - “Do you want me to do things to you?” “Stop asking me that.” - The upside down TV - The Frankie dummy But, wow, Grace keeping a gun in the house without Frankie's knowledge. That's something you absolutely have to disclose; I wouldn't want to live in a house with a gun, either (precisely because you're statistically more likely to wind up using it against the wrong person, or "person" in Grace's case, rather than successfully defending yourself with it). And to have your friend outright ask you to promise, and lie to her face? This is going to be big. And, WTF, Grace? You seriously just shoot first and ask questions later? What if that had been one of the kids? Hell, what if it had been a burglar? An unarmed burglar sitting in a chair. He'd have deserved a bullet through the head rather than an arrest (for a non-capital crime)? Grace’s medicine was missing from the nightstand on night two. Sol has no right to get pissy about not being included in “drinkies” since that’s for the people in the production (it’s the same as going to happy hour with coworkers before going home; nobody has their spouse come join them for that), but Robert shouldn’t have padded his rehearsal time to begin with – just say, “I have rehearsal until 9, and then we’re going out for drinks; I’ll be home a little after 10.” Interesting fight about Sol "inning" Robert, because I'm with both of them -- they shouldn't deny what they did, which involves being both cheating assholes and trapped products of their time, but they don't need to go around blurting it out to the world, either. This will obviously continue to be a thing, with the liberation Robert feels being part of a gay community - and that particular community being one that Sol is not part of.

I wasn't questioning his urge to retire, just the speed at which he went from deciding to retire to being 100% gone, since he's a partner, but then noting that the fact his husband is the other partner, leading the transition, and his stepson is the one taking over makes it a lot easier to move that quickly.

Sounds like she's already in the middle of learning a valuable lesson, and will get her butt in gear to make sure she doesn't lose the trip. Good for her, and good for you.