IM JUST popping in with some info on Ryan and their situation. I am also medically retired from the Marines. This means that my spouse and kids were all eligible for tricare when they were young, which is great insurance. Brianna and the kids probably have great healthcare.
I also get a disability pension from the VA. Ryan probably does too. I dont know if his illness/injury rates him 100% disabled, but if he is rated 100% he probably gets near $4000 for a wife and 4 kids. Now, my illness is service connected but not combat related so I only get whichever one is higher, retirement pay or VA disability. In my case, that is the VA pension. I believe that if your service connected disability is combat related you can collect both a VA pension AND retirement pay. He may be entitled to both