A skimpy timeline, though with interesting photos (and possibly future fashion for THE CROWN) of the ill-fated Charles and Diana relationship.
He did an interview first by the way, admitting adultery, before Diana's Bashir interview.
I keep going back to their ages and experience when I think of this marriage. I believe that Diana wanted, more than anything, a loving marriage and happy family. Her own broken home was devastating to her, and not a picnic for her siblings either, but they were older and perhaps coped better.
Her sister famously saying she wouldn't marry Charles as a dustman or a King, while her much younger sister fantasized about a possible "knight in shining armor" that could make all of her dreams of a happy family life happen doesn't seem far fetched for me.
Diana's natural kindness and sympathy to Charles after he lost Mountbatten, and the constant pressure on Charles to stop his playboy lifestyle and produce some heirs, as well as a young Diana's romantic dreams resulted in a disastrous union.
I agree with others that say they were mismatched, and I do think their AGES were a huge part of that, you just can't ignore the differences and changes that happen to us between the years of 19 and 32. I also can't ignore the differences between a virgin and a vastly experienced playboy who had plenty of sex for many years. I think most of us have been through that, and know how much we change during those years, becoming not only more naturally jaded, but also being away from the family home alone causes us to realize who we are and what we really want. Sometimes those are the same things we wanted as a teenager, but sometimes they are not.
I also think we have two insecure people here. One, Charles, at least had years of knowing what was expected of him in that Royal fishbowl, and I think was actually enjoying his playboy reputation as "the world's most eligible bachelor" instead of the awkward, huge ears, unattractive, unhappy, and bullied wimp he had been as a child. Diana, despite her beauty and natural charm, was still basically a kid, and completely out of her depth as far as fame, royal expectations, and certainly the press. She becomes more insecure when finding out Charles wasn't "in love" the way she thought, and found the Camilla gift to Charles. An older, wiser, more secure woman might have had the strength to just call the wedding off, but she was just too young for that kind of action.
Again insecurity, this time mostly Charles' rears it's ugly head when Diana starts getting all the press, and most of the love from the adoring public and the press which would print any story that would sell. Diana as Goddess and beloved, at first. The public wanted Diana, the beauty, not Charles anymore, who was back to being the ugly big eared bore or his childhood, instead of the dashing playboy and "most eligible bachelor in the world" he'd enjoyed for more than a decade.
Diana, seemingly effortlessly, was achieving things Charles had wanted for years, a "modernizing" of the monarchy, popularity, and she connected with the people where ever she was, in a way that the stiff and programmed Charles never could. Meanwhile, Diana certainly realized that this was happening, and appealed to the crown and her husband for guidance, which reportedly was never given in any significant way.
There is no way she could have become less popular, less photogenic, less beloved, in order to prop up Charles' fragile ego, even if she tried.
It eventually dissolved into a war for love, for love of the people, the press, and certainly for human love from other people, since there was none between the married couple. They both used the press to "win" this war, Charles with the palace machine behind him, Diana with mostly her wits.
I don't think Charles would have ever married Diana, except for his "duty" as future King to produce heirs. It really comes down to that in the end.
I do think that Diana, once she finally realized that, and that her "knight in shining armor" and dreams of a "happy family life" had all been a fantasy, and she was simply a means to an end, was devastated.
It's a sad tale of two damaged puppets, Charles the puppet of The Crown, and Diana the puppet of Charles.
The thing is, if Charles had been able to manage his jealousy of Diana, and been loving and supportive of her, and able to leave his spoiled playboy ways behind? I do think they might have been happy, or as happy as any married couple could be in a fishbowl. Diana was accomplishing things he had reported wanted, modernizing, relating to the people he was to rule, in ways that the stuffy CROWN had always prevented him from doing. The main problem is that HE wanted to do that, to achieve that dream, and instead, he was overshadowed by this pretty nobody.
With a decent marriage counselor, they could have been a powerhouse team.