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It's funny how Molly seems to find Jon so immature, while I've never seen him act nearly as immature as she did in that video and when she got called out. I remember Jon saying during one of their previous fights that if they're so similar, yet Molly doesn't like him, then it means she must not like herself. Or that was the gist of it anyway. I found it a bit presumptuous then, but now I think he actually has a point. Molly is very immature, but recoils whenever Jon shows any signs of immaturity, or even just youthfulness. It's quite fascinating. Jon might be a bit passive-aggressive (though who wouldn't be in his position?), but I've never heard him use such hurtful language. Any adult should understand that saying such things is the beginning of an end in a relationship. However, we already got a huge hint of Molly's insensitivity and lack of empathy on the honeymoon, when they were skyping one of the experts and she announced out of the blue that she's not attracted to someone who acts like a 12-year-old boy. If she thought nothing of embarrassing her brand new husband like that, then I have no problem believing she's hurtful in private. Clearly she can dish it but can't take it at all, as evidenced by her panic when confronted about her lies. I don't think Jon is perfect and maybe he did say or do something in private that turned her off, but at least he's not fake about things. I was on Jephte's side during the fight. I could swear it was Shawniece who got frustrated with the maze first and then when Jephte did as well, it was suddenly all his fault and meant he didn't want to be a team or be married and hasn't tried at all or whatever nonsense she was saying. She just got so wrapped up in her feelings about their lack of team work in the stupid maze and acted like their whole marriage is doomed because of it. I would've got really upset as well if I was Jephte and our otherwise great romantic trip ended like that because someone went in a mood. I've been guilty of that myself at times and it's my fault and my responsibility to snap out of it. I thought it was really unfair of her to act like Jephte hasn't been trying at all when he clearly has, far more than most people on this show. He might not be the best communicator out there and he may be inexperienced, but he clearly cares about her and they've been mostly happy for a while now. You don't get to that point without trying. I thought it was really big of him to back down, admit fault and apologise. He seems like a pretty stubborn person as well, so doing that showed a lot of self-awareness and potential to me. If they can find a nice balance, they could have a great marriage in my opinion. The puppy is too cute, but I hope she wasn't an actual surprise. No pets should be impulse bought. Ryan is still an idiot who thinks it's his was or the highway. Is he one of those freaks who only need like 5 hours of sleep per night or why is he so obsessed with going out? As someone who needs 7.5 h minimum, I could not handle a partner who prioritises partying over sleep and expects me to just deal with sleep deprivation. Jaclyn deserves so much better!

I can't stand Ryan. Maybe it's because I'm the kind who'd rather work as little as humanly possible to survive, but his type just grinds my gears. His whole identity seems to revolve around how much he works and how busy he is, and he definitely thinks it makes him a superior human, seeing as he can't stop bringing it up around jobless Jon. I get exhausted just hearing about his life with two full-time jobs, various hobbies and nights out with the boys. I wonder when's the last time he stopped to think about anything other than what to do next. I feel like getting a wife is just another item on his long-ass to-do list, and now that he's married, box ticked, who cares if he sees his wife more than a few hours a week. I don't think Jackie's expecting to be tied at the hip, just to have some time to actually get to know who she's married to. I suppose she already knows though, a workaholic who's not willing to compromise. Good luck to her! I love Shawniece and Jephte. They're so cute together! I find Shawniece absolutely adorable, even with the sobbing, and I'm glad that Jephte's started to realise how good he's got it. Hopefully it'll last and the stupid producers won't manage to sabotage it for the sake of drama. Molly is so confusing. She reminds me of Danielle from last season. Both keep talking the talk but make no attempt to walk the walk. I don't think anyone owes their stranger spouse sex, but considering these people are so desperate for a partner that they're willing to marry stranger, you'd think they'd want at least some kind of affection and intimacy. Saying you find your spouse attractive while treating them like a leper is just baffling to me. Having sex can physically make a woman fall in love because of the hormones it releases, so by not even trying they're basically just sabotaging any chance of a romantic spark. Makes the whole thing a massive waste of time. I just saw the same on the UK version, which is thankfully only four episodes. As for eating ice cream off the floor? Ewwww. That whole phone assignment next episode is such BS and clearly a calculated attempt to cause drama. Most people wish to keep their phone private even if there's nothing incriminating there. I'm not sure if the point is to trust that your spouse won't go through your phone even if they have it, or to show you have nothing to hide. In any case it's crappy to tempt them with it and test their trust when there's no way of fully trusting someone you've only known for a few weeks.

Why do they insist on marrying every single AA woman on this show to a younger man who's nowhere ready to get married and/or is expecting something else entirely? It has never worked and it never will. If they can't find any black men who are marriage material, then they should stop trying instead of recruiting random young guys from dating apps. It's so unfair! Shawniece might be a bit much at times, but she's clearly serious about this whole marriage thing and wants to make it work. Jephte seems to have no idea what he signed up for and has already given up. There's taking things slow and then there's trying to run away whenever your new wife comes anywhere near. No heterosexual man will act that way unless they have zero attraction to said woman. He's cute but hardly the big catch he seems to think he is, more like a wet noodle. I so don't want to watch another 10 episodes of Jephte trying to avoid Shawniece like the plague. I also felt really bad for Jon during that call with the "expert". He can act a bit immature, but calling him a man child out of the blue was so mean! I'd have a hard time trusting someone who throws me under the bus the first chance they get. Molly really needs to work on her posture. Ryan is such an obnoxious dork. I can't for the life of me see him as attractive, not one bit. He gets worse every episode. Props to Jackie for being so tolerant and positive about the whole thing. And he was such a d!ck to Jon with the whole "You're still unemployed? I've never been unemployed". I'm sure Jackie will get sick of him soon enough. Not that she should be on this show either, since she's clearly still in mourning. I think she probably just finds the idea of starting from scratch too daunting at this point, so she thought she'd skip all that and get an insta-husband. I guess it's a nice distraction but so unlikely to work out. I'm finding it hard to root for any of the couples this season.

You can be adventurous even when married, but if you marry someone who's not into adventures anymore then it's a drag. Sounds like Arie prefers being comfy these days. Or so he says. Bekah should find someone who still has that lust for life.

Not gonna lie, as someone who could never understand the appeal of Arie and found him kind of suspect, I feel pretty validated right now. The guy doesn't have a clue what he wants and can't be bothered to find out since he's too busy thinking with his little head. I'll be shocked if he's still with Lauren when all this airs.

I do think they fell in love, they just weren't compatible in the long run which was obvious during the season already. He's a minimalist hippie who doesn't want to be tied down by material things and refused to even discuss the issue of kids, since apparently it was too early to think about such things despite the fact that he'd just married a woman who definitely wants them. Lily, on the other hand, sells luxury real estate, wants to live in a nice house and make as much money as possible and have kids within 5 years. Nothing wrong with either lifestyle, they just aren't compatible in any way. Love/infatuation doesn't take you very far if you want different things out of life.

The site must be Raya of the "Jordan still has a Raya profile" controversy during JoJo's season. Poor Amanda desperately looking for another "celebrity" to date, so she can stay IG relevant. How dare they cockblock her?! Raven already had fake boobs during Nick's season. I think she said on Twitter that she got them at 21. I think they're too big for her frame. I find it a bit sad that Danielle got implants, especially since her chest is still barely there. I guess she just didn't want to be completely flat but not chesty either. Or maybe she's planning to go up a size once her skin streches a bit. I don't think you can have very big implants if you basically had nothing before. She's probably the prettiest woman there, just so timid. Robby is a joke. I don't think he's gay though, just someone who's mostly turned on by himself. I bet he wants to have sex near mirrors, and if not, keeps picturing himself while at it. Any smart woman will stay away from that. I hope Derek's adoration will make Taylor more tolerable. Perhaps she'll focus less on people's pronunciation and emotional intelligence once she gets some.

Is it just me or did this episode feel about 7 hours long? This coming from someone who watches the Bachelor/ette every week. They could've shown the worthwhile bits in half an hour max. Not that they even need a decision show, since these decisions have no bearing on what happens in the future. They might as well just leave the couples alone after 8 weeks and then ask what's been happening 6 months later. There's no need to act like there's some imaginary deadline, when they can get a divorce any time. I would understand it more if they could get the marriage annulled after 6/8 weeks and not after that, but it's a divorce whether they stay together 8 weeks or 8 months. What a waste of time. I must comment on the editing as well, it's so painful. I've watched 4 other countries' version of this show including the Danish original, and none of them are like this one. They may have the odd cliffhanger, but other than that, they're very documentary like. Why on earth do the US editors think viewers need fake suspense in every conversation and a cliffhanger before every commercial break and in every preview? Every single scene feels like a total patchwork with no rhyme or reason, odd silences and facial expressions. It's exhausting to watch. I can guarantee you, it would be no less interesting to see exactly what happened as it happened, quite the opposite in fact. Chopping up every conversation is beyond unnecessary. It doesn't help that this season had about 10 episodes too many. I can't remember anything noteworthy happening since they moved in together, except for Sheila moving out for a day or two and A&A adopting some snails. Other than that it's been same old same old week after week. I figured Danielle would choose to stay married after some comments she made about wanting to keep growing as a couple, but I was still surprised. All I can say is, I'm so glad I don't have to keep watching them! Oh and Cody seemed disappointed. I bet he had a booty call lined up already. I wonder how long he kept banging his head against the wall once the cameras left. I guess we'll find out next week. A&A looked genuinely happy and in love. I wish them all the best! I think Sheila and Nate can make it as well, if she learns not to start arguments over every little thing. Fighting fair is important but so is avoiding pointless fights. There are so many real issues that can come up in life that there's really no point wasting energy on the little things.

I thought Nick and Heather only really started communicating in February? That was months after the season had finished airing, so I doubt it affected her opinions on the aftershow. Or are we talking about this season's AfterBuzz? I read so many comments from Sonia's fans about Nick going on the show to diss her and it turned out he posted some emoji on their live chat or something, that's it. I don't know what Heather said about Sonia, but I doubt it was anything that bad. I only really watcher the Bachelor AfterBuzz, but many of the hosts have connections to the show and the contestants and they're always talking about inside info they've heard. If Heather heard Nick's side and felt the need to defend him while Sonia was putting her side out there daily, then I can't blame her. Maybe Sonia should grow up and accept that everyone might not see her as the victim. And that's okay. I swear I've never seen someone so obsessed with random strangers' opinion. I don't know why they announced the pregnancy in People, probably because they got paid and they have more entertainment aspirations. I doubt it was some ruse to piss off Sonia. Not everything Nick does is about her. And I really can't blame him for not notifying her in advance. He's said they haven't even talked since the divorce and I'm not surprised since she's been shading him so much while at the same time claiming she wishes him the best and whatever. Why would he want to stay in contact with her? I find her hypocricy and constant contradicting of herself annoying and I'm not on the receiving end of it. The best thing Nick can do for both of them to is to keep his distance, but I don't think laying low while she keeps bashing him and his new girlfriend/baby mama is the way to go either. All this drama could be avoided if Sonia simply stopped talking about him. If she thinks he's so awful, then she should thank her lucky stars he's someone else's problem now. JMO.

He only retweeted that mean tweet after Sonia had been going on and on about him and Heather on her Twitter for like two days, and I'm talking dozens, if not hundreds of tweets. How much is he supposed to take before he can strike back? If I was him and my ex was slut-shaming the mother of my children and insinuating I cheated etc. I would be way meaner. When is she going to move on? She'd said she'll stop talking about Nick 395834589 times, but then he posts something she finds hypocritical or announces a pregnancy and suddenly she's talking about him 24/7 again to anyone who'll listen. How is it even about her?! She can hate him if she likes, I don't care, but it just seems like she can't handle anyone *gasp* liking him. Even though she has probably ten times as many fans as Nick, she won't quit until everyone hates him. It's ridiculous IMHO. So what if Heather claimed to be helping Nick and they then hooked up months later? They still hooked up AFTER Nick and Sonia were already divorced. Why couldn't she have been genuinely rooting for Nick and Sonia, but then then the marriage ended and she had a spark with him so things happened? Is she not allowed to hook up with a divorced man, because she was once hoping he wouldn't get divorced? He was free game at that point, Sonia didn't want him and has made it abundantly clear that their marriage was toxic and he wasn't right for her. So why does she still care so much? Sounds like she pretty much ended the marriage in December already and didn't trust what he was saying, so what is keeping her so pressed? Victim complex? Who the heck cares what Heather's motivations are/were, it doesn't concern Sonia in any way. I saw some fans try to point out to Sonia that she hasn't really moved on, since she cares this much and she got all defensive as usual and insisted she's moved on and asked why she can't just be angry for a day. Maybe try ranting to your friends and family instead of strangers all over the internet? Just a thought.

Sheila doesn't seem to realise that there are only so many times you can make a man the villain in a fight you yourself started for no real reason, before they retrieve their balls and go find someone who appreciates them. She threw a couple of fits and instead of running for the hills, Nate groveled and apologised, so now she's taking him for granted and thinks she can train him by punishing him for every little thing he does wrong. That's not how it works though in real life. She may be feeling chipper now since he proved his love and loyalty, again, but he's worn out and starting to see just how unfair and unbalanced the situation is. It's fine for her to say stuff like "I'm ending the marriage" and "I don't want to be with someone like you" and call him a bitch and speak to him with total disrespect, but god forbid he says something nasty in the heat of the moment and everything he does right is void and she's out of the door. If he said something along the lines of "No wonder no man has loved you at your worst, since you act like a spoiled child" then I would agree. IMO Nate has been far more patient with her moods than most men would be and if she drives him away, she'll regret it for a long time. If this is her pattern of behaviour while in a relationship, then no wonder she's single. No one will put up with that long term. Sheila thrives on being the victim and that has got to stop, since Nate will get fed up with being the perpetrator. I think A&A are just fine and I'm sick of the producers trying to create conflict and doubt. They signed a lease already and paid the deposit/rent! Why would you even try to pretend one of them might still bail? The mind boggles. In other news, I googled the place they stayed at just to see if there was any mention of the dead animals and I didn't see a single animal in any of the pics. Did the show put them there as props and if so, why? So random. I want to slit my wrists every time Cody and Danielle appear on screen. They've been treading water for the past 10 episodes (at least) and if I hear Cody whining about not getting any one more time, or Danielle saying she's "just not there yet", I will scream. You wouldn't think Cody could make himself any less attractive at this point, but then he throws in another comment about hard it is to not have sex and he succeeds. If you can't just enjoy the moment, or let your so called wife enjoy the moment, without once again reminding her that getting laid would be nice, then you're a clueless idiot. Sorry, but you're actively keeping her at arm's length with all the whining and pressuring, so you can blame yourself. He's such a "nice guy". Barf.

I'm not even a native English speaker, yet it's clear to me that Eric is speaking a dialect and I have no problem understanding him. I also find it simply incorrect to compare a dialect to obvious grammatical mistakes like "Rachel and I's". The whole point of a dialect is that it has its own rules (unlike an accent), so saying it's still grammatically incorrect and a sign of poor education makes no sense, because if the standard written version of a language is the only acceptable one, then that means dialects shouldn't exist at all. And guess what? They do. And I for one am glad they do, because variety is the spice of life. I'm sure Eric knows how to write SAE since he's graduated college and all, but he's obviously grown up speaking AAVE and that's how he's most comfortable expressing himself. I don't see why he should make an effort to speak "properly" just because he's on TV. He's not in a job interview, he's trying to date and fall in love with a woman, a black woman no less who is surely familiar with AAVE even if it's not something she uses at home. In my opinion he would be doing himself and Rachel a disservice by expressing himself in an unnatural manner. What if he did speak SAE to her, they got engaged and then he switched back to AAVE and she had a problem with it? I think he's best off doing what he's doing, and that is being his authentic self. I don't think Rachel has that romantic spark with him, but I think she does appreciate how real he is and that's why he's still there unlike the highly educated but stiff black men. When it comes to the use of 'articulate' as a compliment, I'm going to have to dissent a bit. I can see how that could be seen as offensive, but I disagree with the notion that the word would never be used to describe a white lead or contestant, and that's because I know for a fact I've used it myself on several occasions. Like Ben for example, I praised him for being articulate because the lead before him (farmer Chris) was one of the least articulate people to ever grace this franchise. He could not string a coherent sentence together to save his life when put on the spot, so Ben being able to express himself clearly was noteworthy to me. Before Chris it was Juan Pablo, who wasn't even a native English speaker. There are also plenty of contestants who insert 'like' after every other word or 'you know' at the end of every sentence, hesitate a lot and get tongue-tied, have painful vocal fry etc. That bothers me infinitely more than any dialect or even the occasional grammatical error, so I always notice when a contestant can express themselves effectively in full sentences and is quick on their feet. Rachel is one of those rare gems. Maybe it's because she's a lawyer, but I am in awe of her verbal skills. The way she handled DeMario? A++. Verbal communication is one area is personally struggle with, so I'm always impressed with good speakers and I might have even unwittingly called Rachel articulate. I certainly did not mean articulate in comparison to other African Americans, but articulate in comparison to most Bachelor contestants. Is 'eloquent' a more acceptable word? I would hate to think she can't be praised for communication skills at all without it being seen as racist.

I don't buy the editing excuse with Sheila. I think she's suffering from a massive victim complex and blaming editing and producers is par for the course. It can't possibly be her fault that she looks bad, it's the cameras/producers/editors/Nate who are to blame. *eyeroll* I don't even care what Nate said to her, he owned up to crossing a line and apologised, over and over. That's more than you can say for Sheila ever. I also don't believe he was throwing stuff around, probably just threw his bag on the bed forcefully or some clothes on the floor while getting changed. I doubt he was throwing plates across the room or anything, since I've seen no sign of him having that kind of a temper. Sheila just exaggerates everything to justify her victimhood. I think it's clear by now that Nate really does care about her and it affects him when they argue, and I believe that he sincerely regrets some of the things he's said. Sheila, however, seems to just randomly decide he's an asshole who gets off on "wounding" his wife, rather than a normal human being who sometimes says the wrong thing when angry, so it doesn't matter what he says. I don't know why she can't just accept an apology. Perhaps because she's never apologetic herself, so she can't even comprehend someone's apology being sincere? What is he supposed to do, hire a plane to drag a banner saying "Sheila, I'm sorry. I love you" across the sky? Nah, she'll just punish him for a few days again before she's ready to bury the topic (or file it for later use). It's abusive behaviour IMO. I really hope Nate doesn't just roll over and let her continue this nonsense, because it's unlikely to ever end if she sees that it works. Cody and Danielle are so painful to watch. I don't particularly like either of them, but I hate how Danielle's expected to have sex with him at this point. I think he's actively sabotaging any chance of that ever happening by constantly reminding her that she's "holding out" and acting like he's gonna die if he has to go one more week without sex. I know for me there's no bigger turn off than a man trying to guilt-trip me into having sex when I'm not feeling it. That just ensures that it won't happen anytime soon. Not that I think Danielle would be ripping his clothes off even if he never mentioned it, but I don't think whining about it in front of friends, siblings and strangers will help. He's so clueless. How could anyone be attracted to him at this point? Danielle is no prize either but Cody's just so immature. I don't think either of them are trying as much as they say they are. I actually find it baffling how you can still act so awkward around someone you've lived with for over a month. A&A clearly have no doubts about staying together so it's ridiculous they're still trying to create suspense. I also love how they are so wary of Rachel. They clearly don't want to tell her anything at this point and are annoyed she's prying into their private business. Can't blame them, since the last time she was there, she created issues out of thin air. Just go away, creeper. Surprised Anthony's fine with living next to Ashley's sis. Hope he doesn't come to regret it.

Good for Nick! He clearly has his issues, I mean clearly, but at this point I prefer him massively to Sonia and it kind of tickles me that she's so butthurt. Not that that's anything new, since she's been whining and shading and acting like a victim for months and months now. I liked her on the show and wanted them to work out, but I honestly can't stand her anymore. She is such a mess. SO hypocritical, so attention seeking and so bitter. I can't even begin to compare her to anyone else. Last time I checked she was tweeting like 50 times a day, posting on IG every day and every few days I get a notification about her starting an IG live, which I just ignore these days because I find her so obnoxious. Then there's the podcast (haven't listened), comments on Nick's IG posts that have nothing to do with her etc. She acts like an obsessive teenager. I don't care if this makes me a "hater", I never leave her any comments, I'm just expressing my opinion here as we do. I just find it baffling that an adult woman would feel the need to keep airing her bitterness day in day out while contradicting herself continuously. Grow up, Sonia! Phew, felt good to let that out. Good luck to Nick and Heather! I hope it works out for the sake of the children.

I agree. If you don't want to argue on camera then the smartest thing to do would be to act civil until you get some privacy, not storm off and ignore your husband completely while a camera crew is following you. She's the one always picking fights as well, apart from the Donnay thing. It's pretty idiotic to start an argument on camera and then refuse to talk things through while the cameras are there. I'm sure talking things through won't make you look any worse than starting an argument in the first place and being super rude and condescending to your husband. I'm starting to really think she just suffers from severe PMS, since the last time she was acting like this was about a month ago. She seemed more positive and patient in between. I just find it disturbing how she can talk to him with such complete lack of empathy especially in front of other people. I might get mad too sometimes when I'm PMS'ing, but I still manage to act normal around innocent bystanders. Sheila just turns into a self-absorbed teenager who gives no f*cks. It's bizarre. A 31-year-old should have more self-control. I was feeling sorry for Sheila with the mother-in-law from hell, but maybe she deserves her.