Small Talk: Out of Genoa

[NinjaPenguins]

Do any of you have the type of parent who likes to blame stuff on you? Like I love my mother and mostly we get along but she was the sort to ask "Well what did you do?" when I came home from school and reported being mocked unmercifully. To be clear, she meant "what did you do to provoke the mocking?" 

Tonight she asked about work, so I shared the adventures of ShopAss, supervisor of the shop who is rather over the top with his favoring of our new worker. He's been doing a lot of stupid little passive aggressive things to me and my other co-worker. After he discovered my political persuasion, he started saying pretty offensive things aloud because everyone else pretty much agrees with his worldview. I told him to troll somewhere else because I'm not playing that game, but he still pops up with offensive crap now and then. I ignore him and refuse to react. My co-worker ignores him as well. Naturally, his behavior is my fault because I won't tell him where to get off, according to my mother. I do blame myself for sharing my problems witn her knowing how she'd react. I just want to vent sometimes and not be told how I'm doing everything wrong. Is that too much to ask?

[PatsyandEddie]

No Ninja, it's not. Sounds like my mother. Always assumed you were guilty and brought it on yourself. : sigh

[miamama]

Your mom sounds like a fixer. My husband can be like that. "Should have said this. Don't let people..." Gah. Just let me vent!!

Vent here Ninja!!!

[NinjaPenguins]

I think you hit the nail on the head, miamama. You just want a friendly ear, and they take it as an invitation to offer advice. And sometimes they get all shirty when you don't salivate over their pearls of wisdom.

I had a feeling I wasn't alone, Patsy. Sad but true.

[jewel21]

So after 8 months, the SPCA finally got back to me. They want me to go for a training on Saturday at 7:00 pm for an hour and a half to help socialise cats.

The only thing is, after 8 months of working and commuting 3+ hours a day, I'm exhausted.

And the SPCA is even further than my work. And I don't know what to do. I need to get back to them today to confirm if I'm going to not. And while it's volunteer, they want you to commit for a minimum of 6 months.

On the one hand cats! On the other hand, homeless sad cats that might break my heart. And I'm so tired of overcrowded buses, insane traffic, and a metro system that has broken down every single day this week. 

Gah.

[boes]

13 hours ago, NinjaPenguins said:

I think you hit the nail on the head, miamama. You just want a friendly ear, and they take it as an invitation to offer advice. And sometimes they get all shirty when you don't salivate over their pearls of wisdom.

I had a feeling I wasn't alone, Patsy. Sad but true.

My mother told me and my brothers at an early age that "I'll always believe any adult before I'll believe you".  That set the stage for an interesting life long relationship......

Sorry about your Mom's reaction, Ninjapenguins.  Sounds like her particular well of empathy is pretty low.  Tell us instead.

[valleycliffe]

good gracious me..

the orange clown did an interview with larry king on his podcast which is funded by RT.

RT is russia today, fully funded by the kremlin...side eye to larry king..

he did his usual, bad mouthed america, president obama , the media (who he says is against him), mrs. clinton and the military...

when it got out, his mouthpiece kellyann said they didn't know it would be aired in russia (major rolleyes cause michael flynn , one of his advisors is a regular guest and has appeared on the show in MOSCOW.

why isn't he being charged with treason?  i really want to know why he isn't and can you just imagine if it had of been hillary who did it?

read this on my facebook page under "trending".

Edited September 9, 2016 by valleycliffe
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[miamama]

4 hours ago, jewel21 said:

So after 8 months, the SPCA finally got back to me. They want me to go for a training on Saturday at 7:00 pm for an hour and a half to help socialise cats.

The only thing is, after 8 months of working and commuting 3+ hours a day, I'm exhausted.

And the SPCA is even further than my work. And I don't know what to do. I need to get back to them today to confirm if I'm going to not. And while it's volunteer, they want you to commit for a minimum of 6 months.

On the one hand cats! On the other hand, homeless sad cats that might break my heart. And I'm so tired of overcrowded buses, insane traffic, and a metro system that has broken down every single day this week. 

Gah.

That is tough, Jewel. The commute sounds really brutal. And they want a 6-month commitment??? How often would you need to go in? What if you propose you try it for a month or a few weeks and decide? See what they say. 

3 hours ago, boes said:

My mother told me and my brothers at an early age that "I'll always believe any adult before I'll believe you".  That set the stage for an interesting life long relationship......

Sorry about your Mom's reaction, Ninjapenguins.  Sounds like her particular well of empathy is pretty low.  Tell us instead.

That makes me sad, Boes.

Poor little Boes and brothers. :(

[NinjaPenguins]

I know, right? I'm no parent (I'm sure my mother blames me for my infertility though), but I can't even imagine saying stuff like that to my nieces and nephew, let alone my own kid. 

Jewel, that is really tough. I feel bereft of good advice. You obviously love animals but a commute that's longer than 3 hours? Damn.

[Cupid Stunt]

You won't find this on your FB Trending page:

http://www.aftenposten.no/meninger/kommentar/Dear-Mark-I-am-writing-this-to-inform-you-that-I-shall-not-comply-with-your-requirement-to-remove-this-picture-604156b.html

 

This is the latest crack in the conceit that Facebook is not a media company. Facebook isn’t driven by the kind of news judgement or journalistic principles by which most newspapers and other traditional media outlets are driven. Facebook refuses to admit that it has any such responsibilities. Because it sees itself as mostly a place where people share photos with their friends, Facebook removes violent or disturbing images as part of its “community standards.” And what if those images are newsworthy? In most cases, the site’s desire to maintain a friendly and non-threatening atmosphere takes precedence.

This problem didn’t start with a Norwegian newspaper editor posting an iconic Vietnam war photo. Facebook has been removing disturbing or violent images of the war in Syria and Iraq for some time now, as well as scrubbing clean news and imagery from Saudi Arabia's war in Yemen. in May 2016, its Trending feature, highlighting certain news stories, triggered a row in the US after it was reported that FB asked editors to inject political bias into the results. About two weeks ago it was reported in legitimate news media that FB fired its entire Trending editorial staff, then the company endured internet mockery after its algorithm selected and prominently displayed a fake news item.

Facebook controls what news users see in two fundamental ways: Its news-feed filtering algorithm decides how to rank various kinds of content to make the feed more appealing, and a team of human beings flags and/or removes posts when they appear to be offensive or disturbing. Both of these methods can break down, or have adverse effects on how the world is presented to us through the news venues we use.

Mark Zuckerberg has described Facebook as a technology company that “builds the tools,” not the content. Yet Facebook has already shown it has trouble distinguishing between “sensitive content” and photos of breastfeeding mothers, authentic news items and fake news, and a Pulitzer-winning photo and pornography. A dose of independent human editorial discernment might make those "tools" work judiciously for the FB user.

The photo in question ...

Trang Bang, South Viet Nam, June 8, 1972

AP Photographer, Nick Ut -- Pulitzer Prize Winner

Edited September 9, 2016 by Cupid Stunt

[PatsyandEddie]

I love animals too jewel and I applaud your enthusiasm for wanting to help the ones in need. However, YOU come first! The stress would be overwhelming. 

My mother wasn't a fixer,she was a blamer. I love her to pieces( she's still with us at almost 97) but she was a hard mother to deal with. Heard the same stuff boes. 

Valley, I saw that Putin crap he spewed and all I could think of was the two of them horseback riding shirtless,on the same poor horse. What a pompous windbag! 

[Cupid Stunt]

6 hours ago, jewel21 said:

So after 8 months, the SPCA finally got back to me. They want me to go for a training on Saturday at 7:00 pm for an hour and a half to help socialise cats.

The only thing is, after 8 months of working and commuting 3+ hours a day, I'm exhausted.

And the SPCA is even further than my work. And I don't know what to do. I need to get back to them today to confirm if I'm going to not. And while it's volunteer, they want you to commit for a minimum of 6 months.

On the one hand cats! On the other hand, homeless sad cats that might break my heart. And I'm so tired of overcrowded buses, insane traffic, and a metro system that has broken down every single day this week. 

Gah.

You mentioned occasionally being shorted hours after your long commute; have you had an opportunity to search for a job closer to home?

I realize the SPCA invitation is very appealing, but what do you have left for yourself after the frustration of your commute and job?

[Cupid Stunt]

Speaking of cats ... There's a new Simon's Cat: Trash Cat!

 

 

https://www.youtube.com/user/simonscat/videos

There's 50+ videos, all equally silly.

[Capricasix]

Cupid, I know many folks online who use Facebook as their main news source, which is a little scary. I get a lot of my news from Twitter by following journalists whose primary focus isn't American news or politics, and who are often much closer to war zones in Syria or Yemen. Also, Canadian news tends IME to be less biased than American news.

Also, I love Simon's Cat!

[peacheslatour]

On 9/10/2016 at 6:00 AM, Capricasix said:

Cupid, I know many folks online who use Facebook as their main news source, which is a little scary. I get a lot of my news from Twitter by following journalists whose primary focus isn't American news or politics, and who are often much closer to war zones in Syria or Yemen. Also, Canadian news tends IME to be less biased than American news.

Also, I love Simon's Cat!

  Also it's good to check in with PBS/NPR and Al Jazeera.

[Capricasix]

Yup, and BBC, The Guardian, The Intercept also

[NinjaPenguins]

Good luck, jewel. I am currently in a similar place, because while I enjoy my current job, it doesn't offer enough hours and ShopAss is ramping up his dickish behavior. I send out the resumes and receive a complete lack of interest in response. Okay, I did get the one polite email telling me I wasn't even going to get an interview. Meanwhile, the new ShopAss pet hoovers up the hours while my car stubbornly refuses to pay for itself. 

It is such a grind, trying to string together a living. You judge yourself and think others are judging you. You feel like you have something to offer, but nobody seems to want it. It's like...I have a college degree, but that and a buck will get me a cup of coffee where I live. All this depressing venting just to say, you're definitely not alone. You're obviously a good person with a good work ethic and it shouldn't be so damn hard for someone with those qualities.

[jewel21]

Aww, thanks, Ninja. I'm sorry you're having problems as well. *hugs*

It's definitely frustrating. And Steve is acting weird again and I might have to bring him back to the vet. And I need new shoes because the sole of mine are cracked. Second pair that have died on me in the last month. It's like everything is breaking, or getting sick at the same time, and I'm just stressing.

The economy sucks and it's so hard to find a full-time job these days. I don't know how anyone can be expected to make a living, especially when no one wants to hire full-time, or offer benefits. And, then they make it even harder for you to find a second job, because they want you to commit so many hours to them.

I hope you find something soon as well. You're clearly smart and talented and you shouldn't have to put up with ShopAss.

[NinjaPenguins]

Thanks, jewel. I hope Steve is alright. Pets are a great comfort during stressful times.

[boes]

jewel21, NinjaPenguins, I'm sorry that you're having this kind of stress.  It's so dispiriting to be talented, to try and do the right thing and to be made to feel unsure, to have the buzzing worry of the insecurity of life always in the background.  It's not what life should be and I'm sorry.

[miamama]

Jewel and Ninja: you have my sympathies. Looking for a job sucks. It is demoralizing to have to present yourself as having worth in such a stupid way and then asking the world to decide if in fact you do have worth. Of course that is all bullshit because your worth is unquestioned and this is just a process but that's how it feels. I hate job hunting just about more than anything. I'm so Canadian that way -- in that I'd rather undersell than oversell myself, lol, which is really not helpful when job hunting. Thankfully I currently work part-time (at a pretty great place) to pay bills but I am a writer (and hope one day to write full-time). I have published a novel (my first in 2014) and am currently in the editing stages of a second book (creative non-fiction -- it's very personal). I just received the editorial notes from my editor this week. Don't know if you know the process but publishers will tell you how much they love your book (or in this case because it's nonfiction, your book proposal) when they offer to buy it. Then your editor goes through it thoroughly and sends you pages and pages of "editorial notes" -- which is basically everything that they feel is wrong with it. sigh. Talk about demoralizing; it's kind of gutting, tbh. I really can't whine because this is a big publishing house and they have already bought the book (as well as published my first beautifully). And I'm truly grateful that such a wonderful editor has put so much thought into my draft and wants to help me pull out the best book I can. And she's good and fair and this is a process too. But it's astonishing how we can feel judged and judge ourselves at any stage of so-called "success" (I think this is why I commented about Heather Tom being bummed by a stupid fan in the other thread).

Anyways, it's all got me thinking. Why do I watch this show with such an obsessive level of commentary? It's clearly offering me something. I feel like it's my drug of choice. When I obsess about stupid Pratt or how much I love PB I don't have to focus on painful thoughts about myself. 

I have never come across such a highly intelligent and thoroughly decent group of people online as I have here. And we are connecting over a really un-intelligent soap opera. It's kind of beautiful in the way that life can be so mind-blowing in how it surprises you.

[valleycliffe]

 miamama, you'll have to let us know when your book is made into a movie...

job hunting is the absolute pits..at one point in my working life, i got very disheartened cause i got so many reject letters..went on for quite a while.  then one day, my daughter came home from work (she was working for a parts company called lordco) and said one of the people who buys parts from her mentioned they had been looking for an office person and couldn't find one and the lady working there was moving and they needed someone soon.  so, the next day, she faxed a copy of my resume to them, i got a phone call for what i thought was an interview and it turned out they wanted me to start that day...i was shocked but elated.  i was hired sight unseen just based on my resume...

so, hang in there you guys, it's always darkest before the dawn..

[NinjaPenguins]

That's amazing that you have a published novel, miamama! I do hope you get to write full time; how awesome would that be? 

Yesterday, ShopAss made a crack implying I'm lazy. A person can make jabs about my politics, my looks (homely people know they're homely, society!), and my favorite sports teams, but snide comments about my work ethic just about drive me around the bend. I wouldn't even mind the hostility if he were, like, having trouble at home and taking it out on everyone, but his hostility has been very selective and accompanied by flowery, over-the-top praise and teeth rotting sweetness for his little apprentice. It's sad because the apprentice is actually a nice, pleasant person, and I feel like ShopAss is trying to cultivate resentment. 

I don't understand why every workplace needs a token asshole, but it seems to be a law of the universe that there be at least one. 

[miamama]

7 minutes ago, NinjaPenguins said:

That's amazing that you have a published novel, miamama! I do hope you get to write full time; how awesome would that be? 

Yesterday, ShopAss made a crack implying I'm lazy. A person can make jabs about my politics, my looks (homely people know they're homely, society!), and my favorite sports teams, but snide comments about my work ethic just about drive me around the bend. I wouldn't even mind the hostility if he were, like, having trouble at home and taking it out on everyone, but his hostility has been very selective and accompanied by flowery, over-the-top praise and teeth rotting sweetness for his little apprentice. It's sad because the apprentice is actually a nice, pleasant person, and I feel like ShopAss is trying to cultivate resentment. 

I don't understand why every workplace needs a token asshole, but it seems to be a law of the universe that there be at least one. 

God this guy sounds like a treat. Sheesh. Just poison.

And yes workplaces apparently need assholes. My nice workplace has one, only one, but her capacity to spread her misery is quite something. Luckily she is kept in an office away from others and I generally only deal with her via email. But she is THERE. And I don't get it. 

[valleycliffe]

yeah, when i worked at one of the car dealerships, my direct superior, the office manager, was who i called "the dragon lady"...if she was mad or something and needed someone to take it out on, it was usually me cause i was in her direct line of vision.

however, she did teach me how to reconcile the a/r accounts (using the one write system, very old school).  

anyone ever use it?  it was a common accounting system being used at alot of different places.  then we went computerized.  very old school computers.  when i took my training for it, they sent me to vancouver to head office of adp.  i used what was called, a printing keyboard..  i look back now and have to laugh at how huge the computers all were.  and slow..and complicated.  and then they would crash...

[jewel21]

Thanks for the kind words and support everyone. It's much appreciated.

And Miamama that's amazing you have a published novel. I worked at Chapters for 10 years and loved being surrounded by books. I always thought it would be wonderful to be a novelist.

So my plan for tomorrow had been to go to work and go job hunting afterwards. Now it's going to be, bring Steve with me in the morning on the crowded bus and metro and drop him off at the hospital at 8:30 am and then pick him up right after work and bring him home. By then, I'll be exhausted, heh. I'll have to do the CV drop offs during the weekend. There are a few places within walking distance from my house that I want to apply at.

I'm still not sure if bringing Steve in is the right choice. But he's been off for two weeks so I figured I would just get him checked out and avoid the uncertainty. But I'm worried the visit will just stress him out all over again and cause him to stop eating once more. Gah. Such a neurotic bird I have.

[Cupid Stunt]

Give Steve our best, and sending you positive job hunting vibrations.

You can do this, Jewel.

 

 

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[PatsyandEddie]

How scary! My mother has picked up a bacteria common in retirement/ long term care facilities called MRSA, Methicillin Resistance Staph Aureus. Not particularly serious but still a problem. Sigh 

Best of luck jewel! Job hunting is so frustrating. 

[NinjaPenguins]

Sorry to hear about your mom, Patsy. MRSA can go straight to hell. 

I hope you get good news about Steve, jewel.

[miamama]

@jewel21 Steve McQueen sounds like the most magnificent creature evah. A neurotic bird???? I love that. And I love that you love him so much. :)

So I had a night. I will start by saying that my 8-year-old Lily (I'm Lilymama too) is absolutely fine now.

But she had a nasty fall in the playground yesterday after meet the teacher night. One of those "how did she twist her body and hit the ground in that physics defying way and not crack??" Gah. She landed smack on her chest. I ran over and as she slowly stood up her face looked horrified and I braced for the crying, asking her "What hurts? Tell me what hurts!" But she couldn't breathe. Poor panicked baby. She had the wind knocked out of her. Amazingly I didn't freak out (as a child I played soccer and knew that having the wind knocked out feels like death but is okay; but when your kid can't breathe -- ugh.) After 10 seconds she was breathing normally. But at home not long after (Lily breathing fine but very subdued) I noticed her chest looked uneven -- the bone on one side seemed to stick out (the side where "it hurt," she said). My husband works evenings so I was on my own and headed to the E.R. They were awesome. Triage nurse was soooo sweet to Lily. Figured yes just wind knocked out but this bone thing was weird. Anyways, we saw a doctor within 80 minutes of arriving -- which is the fastest Emerg visit I've ever had. They did a chest x-ray and she's fine. Doc told me there is some bone (?) below sternum that can be pushed back into the chest cavity -- when there is a blunt force injury to chest -- and cause serious internal damage so I was right to bring her (I always feel like such a ridiculous parent in those moments of rushing to ER.) He said to give her advil for inflammation and I still don't know about the uneven bone thing (it may be she's just asymmetrical and it's only apparent now that she's had a growth spurt) but you know ER docs. He was nice but rushing (she's fine so gotta run to someone who may not be) so I didn't really even have time to discuss. I'll take her to the doctor this week. But I'm not panicked. As we waited in the ER her subdued mood improved and she was her sprightly self again.

Then my husband woke up at 4 a.m. throwing up in a completely unrelated illness so I cleaned up the bathroom and helped him the best I could (poor guy).

Now I am working. And drinking caffeine. But everyone is okay. Lily is at school feeling fine and husband is still sleeping. ;)

[NinjaPenguins]

That's one hell of a rough 24 hours, miamama. Lily sounds like a trooper. Goodness, I'm glad she's alright! 

[miamama]

1 hour ago, NinjaPenguins said:

That's one hell of a rough 24 hours, miamama. Lily sounds like a trooper. Goodness, I'm glad she's alright! 

thanks, N. :) Every day experiences of being a mother/wife. But jesus sometimes you just need to share and whine, no? 

I need to finish work so I can watch Peter Fucking Bergman rock....

[valleycliffe]

hahaha, this is so cool.

i'm on the ferry heading to vancourver to see my rheumatologist.

not sure when they installed wi-fi, but i sure am happy they did..

tomorrow (we're staying over for 2 nights) i get to see my daughter and hang out for a while..haven't seen her since end of june.

[boes]

Good Lord, Miamamma, what a terrible night!  So happy things seem better.

[PatsyandEddie]

Driving your suffering child to ER is the longest drive ever! Hope your darling Lily and hubby are feeling much better! Sharing is not whining! 

valley, how wonderful for you! 

[peacheslatour]

Damn, poor Lily. She sounds like a trooper though. I remember once when my son was about that age, a neighbor called me and said "your son has been hit in the face with a rock and there's blood every where." Talk about heart-stopping terror! We sat in the ER for 5 hours before anybody looked at him, 4 stitches later and he's trying to talk the doc into delaying removing them until after Halloween- he thought they made him look extra gruesome.

[jewel21]

Thanks for the well wishes, everyone! Steve does indeed have a small crop infection so I was right, lol. Ten days of antibiotics and a reeval and he should be fine. I'm so happy it's nothing serious.

Miamama, I'm glad your baby is okay and hubby is on the mend!

Peaches, your kid sounds hilarious.

Valley, enjoy Vancouver! I'm so jealous, I would love to visit again.

[peacheslatour]

I'm so glad it was nothing serious! Sexy Steve will be all right!

Yeah, he was (and is) a crack up. He and I both share a very morbid sense of humor. 

"All children are morbid, it is their chief charm."

Other Voices, Other Rooms- Truman Capote

[miamama]

Yay, Jewel, Steve McQueen is good!!!

Your boy Peaches? lol. Does he play hockey??? Um who would call someone and say THAT about their child???? SHEESH.

My Lily is a tough guy. She's as right as rain today. :)

[peacheslatour]

I know, right? Scared me half to death. There used to be woods behind our house and there were some trashy folks who lived back there. She could have just said that the kids were playing and throwing sticks at each other. One kid picked up a rock and hit him in the chin. Yes there was blood, but it was not "everywhere" Stupid bitch. No he doesn't play hockey, he just wanted to look realistic in his home made zombie costume. :)

So glad Lily is o.k., it just about kills you to see your child take a tumble like that and the fear on their faces when they get the wind knocked out of them is something you never forget. Thank the gods that you were there and knew what had happened!

[miamama]

14 minutes ago, peacheslatour said:

I know, right? Scared me half to death. There used to be woods behind our house and there were some trashy folks who lived back there. She could have just said that the kids were playing and throwing sticks at each other. One kid picked up a rock and hit him in the chin. Yes there was blood, but it was not "everywhere" Stupid bitch. No he doesn't play hockey, he just wanted to look realistic in his home made zombie costume. :)

So glad Lily is o.k., it just about kills you to see your child take a tumble like that and the fear on their faces when they get the wind knocked out of them is something you never forget. Thank the gods that you were there and knew what had happened!

I know. "Blood everywhere"????? Even if there was blood everywhere how does it HELP you to KNOW??? ack. anyways. He's good. whew. Awesome zombie look though. lol. He was right. :)

I considered texting my husband while at the hospital or when deciding to go and I thought: He is a ONE HOUR drive away at work. He will panic no matter what I tell him (that she's likely okay) and he will be unable to do anything. He told me later he would have just driven home (and what a horrid drive -- as Patsy says) so I'm glad I didn't call.

Yeah, I am horrified recalling her face and attempts to take a breath (and failing). :(  Poor little Lily mouse. Okay now I'm going to hug her (she is getting rather annoyed with this constant hugging today, lol).

[peacheslatour]

Annoyance or not, give her a big one for me too! I'd give anything to have my boy be 8 years old again, even just for an hour. On second thought, I'd have to be 37 again too or the shock of seeing his 59 year old mother would kill him.

Edited September 16, 2016 by peacheslatour

[Petunia13]

13 hours ago, PatsyandEddie said:

How scary! My mother has picked up a bacteria common in retirement/ long term care facilities called MRSA, Methicillin Resistance Staph Aureus. Not particularly serious but still a problem. Sigh 

Best of luck jewel! Job hunting is so frustrating. 

Damn. I hope she recovers quickly .

[PatsyandEddie]

Unfortunately Petunia, once acquired,it is permanent. She's almost 97 and strong willed,making some pretty remarkable comebacks from issues which might have been fatal to others. I'm thankful for whatever time I've had and will have with her. Even though she has dementia,she sill knows that I'm "her baby". 

[Capricasix]

Miamama, I am at the library to borrow your book, and it's on the shelf right next to 50 Shades of Grey O_o ROFL! I thought you'd appreciate that :D

[miamama]

39 minutes ago, Capricasix said:

Miamama, I am at the library to borrow your book, and it's on the shelf right next to 50 Shades of Grey O_o ROFL! I thought you'd appreciate that :D

Hey awesome!! haha! 50 Shades of Grey and my book share shelf space in Chapters/Indigo as well. 

This is because of last names not subject matter, of course. ;)

[valleycliffe]

22 hours ago, PatsyandEddie said:

Driving your suffering child to ER is the longest drive ever! Hope your darling Lily and hubby are feeling much better! Sharing is not whining! 

valley, how wonderful for you! 

when my daughter lizzie was 4 yrs old, she fell out of the top bunk to the floor and put a tooth threw her lip.  lots of blood too.  so, i took her to emerg. in ft. st. john at 3:30 in the morning.  when we got there, i told them what happened and they took lizzie to a emerg. cubicle and asked me to wait outside.  i heard them ask her "what really happened'" and "it's ok for you to tell us, nothing will happen".  so, she did.  she said she told mommy and daddy she didn't want the bed guardrail anymore cause she was a big girl now and didn't need it and then she fell out of the bed..she also said, she guessed mommy and daddy would be putting the guard rail back up.  which we did.  i didn't really blame them cause of how i looked.  my hair was messed up, so was my make-up and i was wearing the clothes i wore the day before.  but what the heck did they expect?  i was woken up out of a sleep by my daughter screaming....

[PatsyandEddie]

valley, didn't you know that you're supposed to ignore your child's screams so that you can do your hair, apply makeup and chose an appropriate outfit  before you go in? 

My one son made so many trips to Emerg that they knew his first name. 

[Petunia13]

I am feeling y'all on the career front. There's been a bunch of upheaval at my company location also Friday some of my male coworkers were discussing their pay and it is much more than me and the other female coworkers in the same roles (and I am more educated and experienced. For instance that booger eater creep Joel makes more). I was pretty mad but keep it inside. I got a second job for extra ? & to see where it'll lead. 

I was so irritated lol after I cried alone I went and dyed my hair darker and cut a couple inches off. Ever do something silly when you're pissed off or hurt? 

[peacheslatour]

I once got a perm when we were having trouble getting pregnant. I got pregnant.