S06.E20: He's Just Not That Into U.S.

[TwirlyGirly]

Corona is torn between her dream job and her dream man; Lily has doubts about her future with Josh; Tatha begs James to stay in Indonesia; Joanne and Sean are back to square one; Shekinah is thrilled by the traditional Turkish engagement ceremony.

➡️Air date: 11/11/2024

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Season 6 Cast: Names & Locations 

The Agony... (Returning couples):

Shekinah (California) & Sarper (Turkey)

Statler (Texas) & Dempsey (England)

...and the Ecstasy (New couples):

Josh (S. Carolina) & Lily (China)

James (Maine) & Meitalia (Indonesia)

Corona (Pennsylvania) & Ingi (Iceland)

Joanne (New York) & Sean (Ireland)

[Tango64]

“I’d rather have my mom in the same country.” That’s heartbreaking to see him struggling to say what he knows is not what his mother wants to hear.

Mom comes to her senses finally, but she still told her kids she was willing — no, eager and excited! — to leave them behind. That is damaging even if she doesn’t go through with it in the end.

She and the head tattoo boyfriend are not selfless enough to be good parents. 

[SunnyBeBe]

I don’t understand why any of these couples want to be married. Let me think of the word that describes their relationship…..INCOMPATIBLE!  I doubt any new revelation at  the Tell All will matter.   This really is the most dismal group they’ve invented, I mean featured yet.  

Edited November 12 by SunnyBeBe

[Chalby]

I enjoyed this episode, until we got to the preview of The Tell All.

I know Igli puts off a lot of people, but I enjoy him and his approach to life. I like when he and Corona interact, despite her inability to feel secure in the relationship.  Sadly, it looks like he may have messed up, but I won't condemn him for his expressions - they don't always mean something negative, and I know this through experience. 

I just can't imagine Shekinah choosing Sarper over her entire family, which makes me wonder if this is more producer driven, than reality based?

I do like the Irish/US couple, but again, how can they forge ahead when the kids and family still haven't processed the deception. I would like her to move with kids to Ireland as it would open a new world to them, and maybe with less temptations than in the US?

Josh and Lily...? Jury's still out. I know it's important to her that they marry, as she's about appearances, but we don't know the true reason for their partnership. Heck, I'd marry Lily and all she offers, in exchange for appearing as her husband. The issue hours before, re: no $$ is silly. Still owing... 8100 yuan. That is under a $1000, and he had the other $1200 in cash on him. Come on, this was an 'imagined' dramatic snag for viewers.

Edited November 12 by Chalby

[Back Atcha]

3 hours ago, Chalby said:

I just can't imagine Shekinah choosing Sarper over her entire family,

Hadn't she been estranged from most of her family for several years ... before there was a Sarper?

22 hours ago, Tango64 said:

Mom comes to her senses finally, but she still told her kids she was willing — no, eager and excited! — to leave them behind. That is damaging even if she doesn’t go through with it in the end.

My boys' dad left us (no warning; shocked everyone) when they were nine and eleven.  They were such easy boys, doing well in school and in life, that when I finally became "okay," (6mos later), I decided that I could wait to get "serious" about anyone until they were out of high school ... then I thought "maybe college."  I think it worked out best for us.  I did get "serious" about a couple of great guys, but we never married.  No regrets.  Of course, I don't think I met anyone as kind and thoughtful about someone's kids as Sean.

[Chalby]

I was watching a YouTube video and Farah Abraham was the subject. That's when I realized Farah and Shekina could be twins, or at least, sisters. I tried to attach an image, without success...

[Tango64]

14 hours ago, Back Atcha said:

I think it worked out best for us.  I did get "serious" about a couple of great guys, but we never married.  No regrets.  Of course, I don't think I met anyone as kind and thoughtful about someone's kids as Sean.

Kudos to you for doing the right thing for your son. Been there, and it's not always easy.

But I don't think I understand how Sean is kind and thoughtful about someone's kids. Up to this episode, he we perfectly willing to have his new wife leave her children behind in the U.S. I'm sure he wouldn't do the same to his daughter, but he didn't care about her sons and was surprised that their feelings might even have to be considered.

(If you meant that sarcastically, then my mistake and I agree.)

Edited November 13 by Tango64

[surfgirl]

2 hours ago, Tango64 said:

Kudos to you for doing the right thing for your son. Been there, and it's not always easy.

But I don't think I understand how Sean is kind and thoughtful about someone's kids. Up to this episode, he we perfectly willing to have his new wife leave her children behind in the U.S. I'm sure he wouldn't do the same to his daughter, but he didn't care about her sons and was surprised that their feelings might even have to be considered.

(If you meant that sarcastically, then my mistake and I agree.)

Yeah, I gotta agree with this, I dont think Shawn would leave Ireland and leave his darling daughter behind either, so why he thinks his wife's boys should come to Ireland and leave all their family behind. That said, I did see a hint of ugliness when Shawn admitted he was bit angry that the boys didn't want their mom to move overseas. I guess that, for better or worse, a grown ass man with tattoos all over his face, head, and body is sending me a message of 'do not ever fuck with me' and I'm taking that seriously. I hope for Joanne's sake he is not violent when really angry, but man, he scares me a bit.

[lilysmom]

2 hours ago, surfgirl said:

Yeah, I gotta agree with this, I dont think Shawn would leave Ireland and leave his darling daughter behind either, so why he thinks his wife's boys should come to Ireland and leave all their family behind. That said, I did see a hint of ugliness when Shawn admitted he was bit angry that the boys didn't want their mom to move overseas. I guess that, for better or worse, a grown ass man with tattoos all over his face, head, and body is sending me a message of 'do not ever fuck with me' and I'm taking that seriously. I hope for Joanne's sake he is not violent when really angry, but man, he scares me a bit.

I agree with your post. I am thinking that maybe he is going on the information that Joanne was giving him about the boys, that they would want to move to Ireland.  He had never met them, so he would only have the info that she fed him and maybe in her desire to be so, she thought it was true, also.

[Back Atcha]

3 hours ago, surfgirl said:

I dont think Shawn would leave Ireland and leave his darling daughter behind either, so why he thinks his wife's boys should come to Ireland and leave all their family behind.

I rarely watch this show and I do  fast-forward through a lot of the couples, so I don't know much about Sean (I WILL say that it's unfair--though many simply can't help it--these days to judge the nature of men and women with tattoos... unless the tattoos spell out specific hurtful messages). SURELY, Joanne must have convinced him (and herself) that her boys would be "fine" with this international plan.  Did she talk herself into that?  Her relationship with them was SO GOOD that they would agree with anything she chose to do?  I don't know*.  I think SHE is much more responsible for this morass (I love this word for this swampy problem).

*I DO know that teenagers are normally AGAINST any major change in their lives: moving**, new parental unit, new "siblings," new school, less income, and so much more. They don't want the slightest change that could be negative.

** Even just a different school district a mile away!!  International?  WHOA!

Edited November 13 by Back Atcha

[surfgirl]

18 hours ago, Back Atcha said:

I don't know much about Sean (I WILL say that it's unfair--though many simply can't help it--these days to judge the nature of men and women with tattoos... unless the tattoos spell out specific hurtful messages). SURELY, Joanne must have convinced him (and herself) that her boys would be "fine" with this international plan.  Did she talk herself into that?  Her relationship with them was SO GOOD that they would agree with anything she chose to do?  I don't know*.

I agree with you, it's just that he gives off a vibe when he presents himself as such. I don't completely buy that he overstayed his visa and that's why he cannot move to the USA. I think there is more we're not being told, but again, it's just a vibe and how he comes across. Remember that guy who married the lady in the USA, and he couldn't come here because he had a criminal record for getting into fights in the UK? This guy reminds me of him, unfortunately. I hope I'm wrong, I really do.

[SunnyBeBe]

On 11/13/2024 at 12:54 AM, Chalby said:

I was watching a YouTube video and Farah Abraham was the subject. That's when I realized Farah and Shekina could be twins, or at least, sisters. I tried to attach an image, without success...

You’re right.  Who knew? For those who may be interested.  Farah was a former realty tv cast member and insufferable character. 

https://people.com/all-about-farrah-abraham-daughter-sophia-abraham-8623654

[Chalby]

On 11/14/2024 at 10:16 AM, surfgirl said:

Remember that guy who married the lady in the USA, and he couldn't come here because he had a criminal record for getting into fights in the UK?

Whatever happened to that couple? Did they stay together, in England? Did first hubby keep custody of the firstborn? I wish they'd do a "Where are they now?" special.

[surfgirl]

21 minutes ago, Chalby said:

Whatever happened to that couple? Did they stay together, in England? Did first hubby keep custody of the firstborn? I wish they'd do a "Where are they now?" special.

I think they divorced last year bc they couldn't be together.

[Shrek]

5 hours ago, surfgirl said:

I think they divorced last year bc they couldn't be together.

I was impressed they lasted as long as they did in all fairness. 

This is what makes me think that the Sean is being honest about overstaying his visa as I'm sure he was shown on the tell all & he wouldn't be allowed in the country if it was for anything too dodgy. If he's not then maybe not.

[surfgirl]

3 hours ago, Shrek said:

I was impressed they lasted as long as they did in all fairness. 

This is what makes me think that the Sean is being honest about overstaying his visa as I'm sure he was shown on the tell all & he wouldn't be allowed in the country if it was for anything too dodgy. If he's not then maybe not.

Oh he's at the tell all? Interesting.

[Shrek]

48 minutes ago, surfgirl said:

Oh he's at the tell all? Interesting.

I thought I saw him on the trailer but I'm not 100% sure so I may be wrong.

[lilmarysunshine]

He was at the reunion. Not gonna lie. I don’t even like tattoos but I find him hot.

I will slink away now. lol

[Back Atcha]

On 11/16/2024 at 1:40 AM, Chalby said:

Whatever happened to that couple? Did they stay together, in England? Did first hubby keep custody of the firstborn? I wish they'd do a "Where are they now?" special.

I can't recall the commercial, but the female lead looks SO MUCH like the wife in this couple.  Next time I see it, I'll include the name; I KNOW you can't wait.