S03.E08: The Perfect Fit

[Door County Cherry]

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One couple works through setbacks and another pair resets while others get to know their partners' friends.  The brides and grooms go shopping. 

[Irlandesa]

I liked the dresses, although they all seemed to have a similar silhouette. 

I'd be having doubts if I were Raven.  That conversation with SK's family would make me wonder if that's what he expected from her as well.  "Have stew" is a funny and a rather innocuous piece of advice but humble yourself to support your man is just not who Raven is.  She doesn't seem like someone who will dim her light and nor should she. 

The Cole lock fakeout was cute. 

Another person who should run is Colleen.  Gosh, it's always amazing to me how often friends tell on their friend.  "He yells."  And it makes me uncomfortable for them to discuss how their "hiccups" were over small things because it just highlights how much of Matt's reaction was over-the-top.

[LuvMyShows]

15 hours ago, Irlandesa said:

And it makes me uncomfortable for them to discuss how their "hiccups" were over small things because it just highlights how much of Matt's reaction was over-the-top.

I thought it was interesting to learn a little more about how the "club" evening progressed.  So apparently the guys were actually supposed to to go to the club too, but changed their mind and went home.  And it sounds like she Facetimed him twice.  If I were Matt in that situation, my first reaction if it was really after 2:00am and she was expected home earlier, would be to be worried that something had happened.  But instead, he got angry, and not just somewhat angry, but angry enough to pack his bags to leave without knowing any facts AT ALL, to supersede any amount of caring he might have had about her well-being.

[jabRI]

Yeah, I don't like the strapless look on most people, not sure why they all think they can pull it off. 

Got annoyed with Zaneb about missing her mom on her big day, going on and on.  Would have been a nice gesture to say something to her adoptive/stepmother gratitude for always being there for her, instead of all the 'emptiness' in her life.  Sorry, just seemed like a bit of a slap in the face to me.  Unless she did say something, I start fast forwarding some of her lamenting.

[Empress1]

Alexa’s friends look exactly as I thought they would. So do Matt’s.

I cried when Zanab was talking about missing her parents. My dad won’t be there if I get married, and that hurts. 

23 hours ago, Irlandesa said:

He yells." 

Yelling is a deal-breaker. No one is allowed to yell at me; I don’t tolerate it. Matt’s temper is not something I could deal with.

[DearEvette]

I didn't even realize this was back for this next batch of episodes because I am so very meh about everyone.

So this was a heavy Raven/Sk episode for me.  For all that SK is eschewing some of the Nigerian customs (polygamy) I knew that at some point the family and the different culture would come into play in a conflict way.

I will say I loved how Raven looked in the Gele.  But her face was my face when they were telling her about her 'duties' as a wife.  It is one thing to have food in the house, it is a whole other to 'humble yourself' before your husband and I think at one point someone used the word 'bow'.  Oh, fuck no.  LOL.  And then the woman talking about how she was to behave so as not to bring dishonor.  I wonder what 'gallivanting' means?  It feels all very coded language like oh, you're an American woman and therefore you are automatically expected to be loose or something.  And then their surprise when she said she didn't want a full on Nigerian wedding and wanted to make sure it reflected her as well. 

I think that last conversation between Raven and SK  felt heavily edited.  I wish we had heard about her asking about those duties and what his expectations for her were and how that fit into what they were saying. 

I was glad to hear a little bit more about her family.  She sounded really, really frustrated when she said 'I don't have 17 brothers and sisters to call on."  It felt like it was the tail end of a longer conversation where it seemed as if she was being judged by her family not being there. 

Other than that the only thing that pops from this episode are Alexa's friends' very plump lips and Bartise going on about how he is till processing information about 'the abortion.'  Dude... you do realize that no actual abortion actually happened?  Right?

[Tess23]

Am I the only one that thinks Zanab is SO much prettier than Colleen? Colleen is cute, Zanab is pretty.