lovingly, I just wanted to say, sounds like depression. I know from personal experience, and yes, our places do tend to be extensions of our mental state. And then some of us are just not great organizers. But...things can get better. So much fun to have a new start, and new house. Rooting for her!
PS. I would NEVER NEVER have put that pic up of the car. I would not let my "stuff' impact my little ones, so nothing less that keeping their area safe, and CLEAN would suffice for me. I am completely repulsed by the show of neglect in that back seat, front too I am sure. (I am also a hand washer for dishes...LOL, have to get it done right)
Side note: I am more than over having to see everyone stuffing their faces all of the time. Even in the church revival/rock climbing pic, kid is sitting with a plate of food. Does Jill know what else to do besides give food to her 2 1/2 boys?
Does she bring little snacks into bed as foreplay for loser boy Derrick? or does she give the little boys boxes of Krispy Kreme to distract them while she gussies up for sexy times? I imagine it's 4 hours of "prep" time and 30 seconds of flailing by boy wonder.
Sorry for visuals.