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It's also not actually going to cost them that much if it's all a scam. Even if Katherine and co got sucked in, the second the lawyers did due diligence the entire thing would be off and they'd pay a small percentage to break the deal at worst.

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Yep. There's a few reasons/options: -Could be that there was a complication or concern that the grafts wouldn't take, which can happen. -Leon didn't want them/it would have been an added expense to re-attach nipples. Either way, there's medical tattooing options that can be done to replace nipples, and those are usually done at least 6ish months post-top so the skin and swelling have settled and it's clear there won't be a revision or other issue.

There is binary gender (people who use she/her or he/him pronouns) and there is non-binary, broadly categorized as people who do not fall firmly into one gender or the other. Many non-binary people prefer they/them pronouns. As far as why, there's a number of reasons and they're all pretty individual to the person. I can't speak for Leon, but I can say that I see myself as non-binary transmasculine, meaning I lean more male than female but I don't feel comfortable identifying 100% as male (and that's a longer explanation than is on topic for here). But my understanding from social media posts is that both Audrey and Leon tend to fall into roughly the same category, leaning more masculine but not identifying as necessarily binary male. However, non-binary is part of the trans umbrella, so yes, someone who is non-binary can consider themselves trans.

Yes most insurance covers it in some capacity but it depends on the insurance, the area, the doctors in the area, etc. There's a lot of extra hoops over, say, a cis person seeking a reduction. Hormones are not required for top surgery and vice versa. There used to be an expectation that all trans people should medically transition completely, but that's no longer required. Generally speaking, you only need to take hormones forever if you have your ovaries removed because the human body needs one sex hormone or the other, otherwise you get soft bones.

"Doesn't fit in with the rest of the family" definitely sounds like code for "we don't approve/they're not fans of us/politics has torn us apart"

Madoff also ran a ponzi scheme, and that's my theory on Cam. He's managing money but got himself tied up in a ponzi scheme, and he's mad Ethan didn't tip him off because if he'd been able to take advantage of Ethan selling his company, Cam could have unwound some of his ponzi scheme with the windfall. Something about how he was talking like Ethan should have tipped him off, followed by the immediate pitch to manage some of Ethan's money, made me think that.

They're hot, and it's like wearing an expensive voluntary straightjacket. 0/10 for comfort, 20/10 for euphoria, so it's a tough call most days. I've flown with a binder on and it's not fun. Leon should be lucky they didn't get flagged by the TSA. I get flagged when I fly because they read me as a male but then their body scanners get confused by the binder, so I end up with a super uncomfortable patdown.

It can be but it's not a requirement. It also depends on the person's specific transition goals, whether they intend to look androgynous or more specifically male, as well as their finances, family history, many reasons. Likewise, someone can have top surgery and NOT be transitioning, I know of masc of center lesbians who just never felt comfortable with their chests and opted for reduction or removal but still identify as female. FWIW, from the photos it looks to me like Leon is wearing a chest binder, which temporarily flattens your chest and is definitely the worst piece of clothing in existence unless you enjoy trying to extricate yourself from a straightjacket nightly.

They both look happy. And I like Leon's sweatshirt-I've seen that design before and I've thought about picking up one of those.

My mother does this ALL the time with Jewish celebrities (and sometimes with queer ones for my benefit). It's that there's some affinity that sticks in their head, but not enough to stick the whole name/set of details, hence the mixups. I totally followed how it would happen, and I agree it's not a memory thing, it's a "someone with this name-ish has a connection I care about" that makes it sort of stick but not with a significant amount of detail.

It's actually not super uncommon for people to be drawn to each other who both have gender identity issues. Or you hear about (outwardly) hetero couples where one spouse transitions and the other realizes they were always bi/gay. Attraction is multilayered.

One thing that hit me about the Poppy/Becky change in hairstyle-I think it's supposed to drive home how very forgettable Becky was. She was so plain and boring to the people around her that someone with a new haircut, glasses, a different accent, and a totally different context didn't twig anyone's suspicions. Which drives home how sad she truly was as Becky. No one knew or remembered her well enough in life to recognize her in a disguise. They only cared about her as a symbolic dead girl.

Its possible she put on a play dress over her regular clothes.

From the brief glimpse in that video, Audrey's top surgery looks like its healing nicely.

Trans people can be very good at masking. Not everyone has the narrative of "I knew who I was from age 2", a lot of people struggle and suppress that side of themselves. I would imagine that goes doubly for anyone with a camera shoved in their face who probably felt they had to mimic the values of their father as part of the expectations involved in the tv show. And there are trans women who were hypermasculine before transition and trans men who were hyperfeminine. It's not uncommon.

Top surgery also takes time because there's usually some degree of hoops. You need a letter from a mental health professional most of the time, then a consultation, determination if there's any insurance coverage, and then scheduling. I know people who came in fully prepared and ready to go, and it still takes 6-9 months from "here's all my documents and I've already worked with insurance" to actually having surgery. A good top surgeon will also usually have a waiting list because they're in demand. It's possible Leon had top surgery, but I will say that a good chest binder or combo of binder and trans tape can do a lot to flatten/masculinize a chest temporarily.

This is correct, testosterone will redistribute fat to how men typically carry it, so you will carry more in your stomach and less on your hips, for example. That is generally one of the areas where testosterone is not permanent-if you stop taking T, the fat will redistribute along normal estrogen distribution patterns. Hair growth/loss, voice changes, and some other physical changes do not stop if you stop T, but muscle and fat will revert to being influenced by estrogen. Hope this helps!

They could also be using a chest binder. A properly fitting one will do wonders for flattening. So will trans tape (basically KT tape but you use it to flatten your chest down...just NEVER remove it without soaking the adhesive in oil first or you will not be a happy camper. Hypothetically.) It's incredibly hard to tell from the picture BUT if I had to speculate I'd say they're wearing a binder. It's not usually a quick turnaround to top surgery.

Yes, you do need your legal name on your passport, license, etc. FWIW I do recall that the last time I flew, American Airlines asked for both my legal name and my preferred name, so there are places that try to accommodate both. This is a beautiful way of looking at it. <3

There would not be a T for trans, that's absolutely not a separate gender. Someone who is a binary trans person would use the gender with which they identify, so a male to female would mark as Female and female to male would mark as Male. Some states (including my home state) offer the option of listing X for your gender instead of M/F if you identify as non-binary. Every state has their own requirements. Mine was a self-declaration and I just had to present them with a signed form saying I was making the change of my own free will so my legal license would match my gender identity and I had no intent to cause fraud in making the change, and the DMV didn't blink an eye. But the euphoria at seeing X when i look at my license is priceless. I was not required to change my birth certificate or any information with Social Security, it was purely for self-reporting purposes on my driver's license. Plenty of people go by nicknames instead of legal names. I started dating someone recently, and she only knew my nickname, and in fact in doing her due diligence to make sure i wasn't a serial killer she had a friend google me because she didn't want to know my legal name unless I wanted to tell her. Which was incredibly sweet. Yes, when I go to a doctor's office or call my insurance I have to use my legal name. Same with work. But, for example, I put down at my orthopedist's office that I preferred a different name than my legal name, so while they know to file my insurance under my legal name, they call me by my nickname. In my job, I have people who prefer to go by their middle name or a nickname, and we'll input their legal name along with a note (IE John goes by middle name Sam). There's nothing wrong with going by a name that's not your legal name, and the process to make that change can be fairly arduous. But honestly, unless Leon is working with their insurance, banking, a doctor's office, or an employer HR form, there's absolutely no scenario where they'd have to use their legal name outside of paperwork.

Could be but any competent therapist will help someone sort out "is my parent being malicious or just forgetful/adjusting?" There is definitely a difference, as I've said before. Leon might have gotten shit from siblings like "Naw, you'll always be <deadname> to me" and let me tell you from personal experience, if someone says that it's like a fucking ice dagger to the heart. It's also very possible that Meri either gets a lot of trolls or has seen a lot of trolling and nastiness coming at her via social media, and she's keeping quiet about Leon because no one wants to broadcast something that's going to trigger people to go after their children. Meri might also be worried about Leon, and working through those issues, and doesn't want to set HERSELF up to hear about it because it's a hard topic for her. (and again, as a transmasculine person and a parent, I'm very sympathetic to the position Meri is in.) It's still fairly new-ish news, and I wouldn't assume anything based on what others do or do not post on social media.

Life is a two way street but there's also the tolerance paradox. You don't have to be tolerant of intolerance, and everyone has their own measure of what they can take. And it's a reasonable boundary to say that someone voting directly against the safety of a family member is not welcome...I have the same boundary, though thankfully I've never had to enforce it. Again, I can't stand the grifting, and I hate social media with a passion, but asking for someone to use the correct pronouns and not vote to strip their rights away are both fairly reasonable IMO.

I have a lot of issues with Leon's behavior over the years but this isn't one of them. Respect is earned, absolutely, BUT you don't need to respect or even like someone to use their correct pronouns and name. Just like how articles can criticize the hell out of Ezra Miller but still reflect their proper pronouns. My guess is that Leon's post is not about someone making an innocent mistake as they're adjusting. It's about someone not listening and repeatedly making that mistake. Here's an easy example: my best friend who I've known for 20+ years still has trouble with my name and pronouns, and I will never get upset with her about that because she's trying her best. On the other hand, if someone I just met fucks up my pronouns and name AFTER being corrected at least once, I'm going to cut them significantly less slack because they don't have the excuse of having known me for a long time. No one is saying it's easy or simple to adjust to new names and pronouns, but there's also a world of difference between "I'm going to try and if I screw up, I'll do my best to correct it" and "You know I'm going to call you what I always did and you can't get mad because this takes time." When someone chooses to go by different name and pronouns, it's not for shits and giggles, it's because it feels better on a visceral level. Again, I can't speak for Leon, but I can say that when people using the wrong pronouns even innocently with me, it fucking hurts, because admitting those felt wrong is still an open wound for me. But I also recognize people make innocent mistakes. It's when it feels like those mistakes are less innocent and more "well I don't want to/don't think you deserve to have me use your correct pronouns" that it cuts a fuck of a lot deeper.

Someone can change their name/preferred name without legal means, or while the legal process is still ongoing. For example, I don't go by my given name, and I probably will legally change my name in the future but not to what most people call me. But no one has ever said they won't call me by my chosen nickname because it's not my legal name. I would assume any legal changes are separate from Leo(n)'s request for people to use their chosen name.