The goal with my sister is not to ever have her show up on my doorstep. She just showed up one day on my sisters and didn't leave for 7-8 years and mooched off of her. I'm going to pay her property taxes. Which is something I agreed to do with the dead sister. What she needs the money for is her septic system, some cracked pipe. So she passive agressively tells me "oh no, septic pipe cracked and a plumber is going to charge me $95 an hour" I asked when her next SSI "chunk" of cash is coming and she said April. I said "well I'd schedule that around april or find a plumber that will take payments". So she's on her own with the plumbing. but in order for the state or county to not seize the property, if I have to pay the property taxes forever, I will. Her utilities can get turned off, no cable, whatever I aint paying for that but the taxes will be paid. (Actually quite cheap compared to the rest of the country, my own taxes are 4 times as high) But yes, she and my niece both kind of have their hands out. Nothing I can do about the niece either, she's in prison. I told her what I can afford ($50) a month and she can figure it out from there. Her step dad sends me money every once in a while to bump it up. He's not unreliable but he does things on his own time. He owes her nothing, he was divorced from my sister since she was 10, the fact that he is not her father and she maintained a relationship with him is astonishing. She's robbed his house before (or set him up with her friends to rob him) I think he feels that helping her is his amends for what went down with my sister. He was an alcoholic and there might have been stairs and a broken wrist involved.
Apparently the goal in prison is to not eat any of the food they serve you and to eat entirely from the commissary. Guess what? Not on my dime. My taxes pay for the food they make. I'm sure it is garbage. But she keeps telling me about pizza day and ice cream day. she bought 12 <-- TWELVE pies for thanksgiving. They're individual size and like a buck but she bought 12! She wanted pecan and pumpkin nad they were all out so she ended up with apple and cherry which she complained about...and then told me she ate them all in one day. (This child is not fat, I say child she's 45) And ice cream day they can get pints and she ordered 4! The thing about ice cream...she has no storage, the pies she can keep in her "locker" thing at least overnight if not a couple days...ice cream doesn't do well in a locker which means she knew she'd have to eat all of it in one sitting. Or share (maybe that helps in prison?) I know I'm not the one sitting there for the next 5 years but you're irritating me with your ice cream stories. It will be better when she gets to her final destination (ha!) right now she's being shuffled around because of covid. So every time she moves she loses all her stuff, any extra clothes she's purchased, things like radios or headsets, any "perks" so she has to rebuy them all. She has to make 1 more move to Oklahoma for her drug counseling classes and then her final prison stop which she can request but not guarantee. She wants to look into what the different prisons offer. Her last prison stint she learned wood working and did ok as a cabinet maker/fitter when she got out. She's looking at cosmetology for the next thing. She can earn money once she's in a permanent place but cannot while she's "temporary"