S03.E03: Wedding Night

[StayingAfterSunday]

I really do not think Tres is all that, either, but he is definitely superior in looks to either David or Neil. Here's what baffled me to no end when I first turned on this show and "met the matches." The relative unattractiveness of all of the men (again, Tres scores slightly higher -- ok, considerably higher -- than the other two) threw me for a loop. What are the execs./producers thinking?? I mean, come on, now, when Neil was initially presented via video or photo (not sure which) he was sporting a full, Blackest- Black rug on his face. He looked like something that had escaped from the Bronx Zoo or ISIS. Not sure which, but either choice firmly placed him in a high risk/potential threat category! Ironic, considering his ultra-passive nature.

I don't like to go on and on about physical appearances because of what most of our mothers once said to us as children; you know the one: "People can't help the way they look." Still....

I do not find Neil bone ugly, though. I just wish he'd get the slickest, sharpest electric razor or maybe buzz saw? he can find and get to work on that furcoat covering his face. It's not the least bit appealing, and hiding behind it won't prevent Sam from finding him during one of her search and destroy missions.

David is a pudge in the making, as someone else observed. I am distracted when he talks because of the way his top teeth sort of overlap his bottom lip. Makes him look like a young child, for some reason. And while he seems like a very nice guy, he sure lacks sex appeal. I like Ashley and think she is pretty, but I empathize with her lack of physical attraction to David. Thank God for the $100K payoff at the end. One thing I did notice about both David and Ashley was that they visibly loosened up during their restaurant dinner. Therein lies the trick, I guess, to surviving a spouse whom you can barely look at. Drink until you can no longer see his face. Not an original bit of advice, by any stretch, but oh, so true!

Samantha: (I'm skipping my hate speech on Sam since she's been already covered by (un)popular vote too many times to count. Nothing more can possibly be added).

Vanessa. I find her to be pretty, but I did not think of her as African American; rather, I could have sworn she was Indian (Asian). I was once friends with a girl whose parents had emigrated to the U.S. from Northern India and Vanessa could pass for this girl's twin sister. I keep thinking of Tres specifically saying he dated mostly (exclusively?) white girls, so it did seem rather oppositional for the experts to have chosen a woman whose description fell outside those specs. In any case, Vanessa is a very pretty young woman with a dazzling smile and great body. Tres, being the "playa" he fancies himself, will undoubtedly fail to appreciate his pretty little wife's beauty, personality and warmth once he makes it to the five week or so mark - or, come to think of it, once he makes it to third base. But what could anyone expect? He seems on the immature side - nothing wrong with that, though, as he does seem to have a pleasing personality and some charm. He just needs to be let outside to play some more until the player label no longer applies. He won't stay good looking forever and, come to think of it, for being so tall he looks as though he could develop a bit of weight problem later in life. I guess at this point he could be aptly described as "husky." Imagine having to buy food and feed a guy of that size!

[Neurochick]

Vanessa. I find her to be pretty, but I did not think of her as African American; rather, I could have sworn she was Indian (Asian). I was once friends with a girl whose parents had emigrated to the U.S. from Northern India and Vanessa could pass for this girl's twin sister. I keep thinking of Tres specifically saying he dated mostly (exclusively?) white girls, so it did seem rather oppositional for the experts to have chosen a woman whose description fell outside those specs. In any case, Vanessa is a very pretty young woman with a dazzling smile and great body. Tres, being the "playa" he fancies himself, will undoubtedly fail to appreciate his pretty little wife's beauty, personality and warmth once he makes it to the five week or so mark - or, come to think of it, once he makes it to third base. But what could anyone expect? He seems on the immature side - nothing wrong with that, though, as he does seem to have a pleasing personality and some charm. He just needs to be let outside to play some more until the player label no longer applies. He won't stay good looking forever and, come to think of it, for being so tall he looks as though he could develop a bit of weight problem later in life. I guess at this point he could be aptly described as "husky." Imagine having to buy food and feed a guy of that size!

 

 

 

I bolded that part because that confuses me.  I never thought Vanessa was anything else other than black; I see girls in my neighborhood that look like her.  Black people come in all colors, we don't all look like Viola Davis.  Sorry but this is a peeve of mine, for people to think all blacks look the same.  

[ClareWalks]

I bolded that part because that confuses me.  I never thought Vanessa was anything else other than black; I see girls in my neighborhood that look like her.  Black people come in all colors, we don't all look like Viola Davis.  Sorry but this is a peeve of mine, for people to think all blacks look the same.  

 

"Black" is a skin tone and can come from any country in the world, "African-American" is more specifically an American of African ethnic origin. I think maybe the poster was saying that she looks the sort of Black that could come from India (similar to her friend), not saying any kind of comment on "Black people all look alike."

[Neurochick]

When I used the world "black" I used it to mean "African American."  I don't call myself African American, I call myself black.  I keep it simple.  My point was that Vanessa looks "black" to me.  

[Snarklepuss]

"Black" is a skin tone and can come from any country in the world, "African-American" is more specifically an American of African ethnic origin. I think maybe the poster was saying that she looks the sort of Black that could come from India (similar to her friend), not saying any kind of comment on "Black people all look alike."

 

I agree.  If you're talking about skin tone only, Vanessa is black.  But saying someone is "black" doesn't mean they can only be an African American.  It can be used to describe African Americans, but it's a color and isn't an exclusive term only reserved for those of African descent as far as I am concerned.  It can also be a descriptive term for the skin tone of someone from anywhere.  "African American" is generally an exclusive term meaning black Americans of African descent.  There are blacks that come to America that are not from Africa or are descended from Africans but not by way of US slavery.  There are also Africans that come to America that are not black.  My Sicilian grandfather was born in Tunis in North Africa when his family moved there as a temporary residence before coming to America in 1904.  When he came here he did not get to call himself "African American", although technically he was from Africa and an American, which is because that term is exclusive to blacks descending from Africa.  That's OK, at the time my family came here they might as well have been black the way Sicilians were discriminated against in those days, but I digress.

 

ETA:  A lot of blacks from the Caribbean decline to be called "African Americans".  I found this article interesting:

 

http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/im-not-african-american-im-black-racial-labels-matter/1008819/

Edited December 29, 2015 by Snarklepuss

[Almost 3000]

I bolded that part because that confuses me.  I never thought Vanessa was anything else other than black; I see girls in my neighborhood that look like her.  Black people come in all colors, we don't all look like Viola Davis.  Sorry but this is a peeve of mine, for people to think all blacks look the same.  

There were several more confusing thoughts in that post.

[Neurochick]

Yes, I never thought Vanessa was anything OTHER than African American.  She looks like a lot of African Americans I've seen.  (I'll use the AA word because just using "black" seems to confuse folks these days, when I was younger, shit was simple, you were black, case closed.)

[Wings]

I am just catching up with this show and this episode is missing on my DVR.  May I get a short cut answer, please?  Did any of them have sex?   

[ClareWalks]

I am just catching up with this show and this episode is missing on my DVR.  May I get a short cut answer, please?  Did any of them have sex?   

 

Nope.

[PityFree]

There is no $100,00 payoff at the end. They are there to find love/spouses, not win a game show.