bethbox December 17, 2014 Share December 17, 2014 Oooh always happy to see JGL! Carol of the Bells is BY FAR my favorite Christmas song. The Darlene Love and Charlie Brown ones are great too though. I think I am done shopping! I still need to finish a photo compilation for my mom but I have zero desire to work on it. I take way too many pictures. I've been home sick all afternoon from what I am calling the Baby Plague. I kept my friend's 10 month old on Friday/Saturday and he was sick with something, which I seem to have picked up. I think I understand why he was so cranky!!! Boo sickness. Link to comment
smrou December 17, 2014 Share December 17, 2014 (edited) Carol of the Bells is BY FAR my favorite Christmas song. That's such a fantastic song. I do love me some Christmas music. When it comes to singing I just love many of the traditional carols ("Silent Night", "Adeste Fideles", "It Came Upon a Midnight Clear", etc.). When my family stays home for Christmas instead of going to Minnesota we go to the Christmas Eve service at our church, which is mainly a carol sing and then from there we go across the street to the carol sing accompanied by high school brass ensemble in the center of town. That's easily one of my favorite Christmas traditions. Even when it comes to popular Christmas music, I still often like pop versions of those traditional carols. Like BNL and Sarah McLachlan singing "God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen" and "We Three Kings". Or Sufjan Stevens doing "Lo How a Rose E'er Blooming". Oh, and there's a version of "Do You Hear What I Hear?" from Glee, sung by Alex Newell and Lindsay Pearce (I'm not sure it was ever actually on the show) that I think is fantastic. But for the last few years or so I think my favorite Christmas song, at least as far as expressing my general sentiment about the holiday, is Tim Minchin's . Edited December 17, 2014 by smrou Link to comment
LiberryLady December 20, 2014 Share December 20, 2014 Helloooo, everyone! I've been working my booty off student teaching, but I have a glorious two weeks off! Woooo!!! Christmas isn't Christmas, and a wedding or a shower or a party are not complete unless you have these:http://www.mccormick...an-Cookie-Balls We call those "Butterballs" in my family, and they are a non-negotiable part of Christmas. (Except we use walnuts, not pecans.) I'm making them tonight, in fact, for a family gathering tomorrow. Thanks for sharing that Darlene Love / David Letterman supercut, KOB! I have always loved the Phil Spector Christmas album, and have been an even bigger fan of Ms Love's since I saw 20 Feet From Stardom. 1 Link to comment
Too Late Kev December 20, 2014 Share December 20, 2014 We called those cookies Sandies and generally made them with pecans. Delicious. I should try to make them GF sometime... Link to comment
possibilities December 20, 2014 Share December 20, 2014 I love pecan sandies. I still remember craving them so much that I got out of bed at 3 a.m. and walked in the Chicago winter to an all night grocery store to buy them-- back in the 1980s. I'm sure the homemade ones are better, but in that moment, I wanted them NOW, not after a baking project. Link to comment
Pixel December 21, 2014 Share December 21, 2014 My daughter and I are going to try making Oreo balls this week. I hear they are fabulous. My favorite Christmas song is Mariah Carey's "All I Want for Christmas is You". However, I recently discovered that Seth MacFarlane put out a Christmas album (this year) and I really like it. I also love "Baby it's Cold Outside", even though it's a little date rapey. It always cracks me up when people ask me if we celebrate Christmas because my husband and I are atheist. Of course we do! When's the last time Christmas actually had anything to do with religious beliefs? It's all about consumerism, and we have kids, so we participate. 1 Link to comment
Glory December 22, 2014 Author Share December 22, 2014 I baked for 8 hours yesterday Lemon Bars Lemon Cookies Strawberry Cookies Chocolate Chip Peanut butter kisses (total failure - need to be dumped) Turdilli Cucidati I'm freaking exhausted. And, because the peanut butter cookies didn't turn out (they're crack your teeth hard) I need to make a batch of oatmeal tonight. Ugh. NO MORE BAKING! I still smell like fried dough - even after a shower. Guts says it's a nice smell. LOL Link to comment
King of Birds December 22, 2014 Share December 22, 2014 LOL smelling like fried dough. My Dad used to cook dough up for a church carnival way back in the 70s and yup, it's tough to lose that smell. Hey! The voting for "favorite Xmas song" is open til the 31st. This week's poll is the opposite now-- What's Your Least Favorite Christmas Song? Link to comment
MichelleAK December 23, 2014 Share December 23, 2014 LOL smelling like fried dough. My Dad used to cook dough up for a church carnival way back in the 70s and yup, it's tough to lose that smell. Hey! The voting for "favorite Xmas song" is open til the 31st. This week's poll is the opposite now-- What's Your Least Favorite Christmas Song? I voted for "Wonderful Christmas Time" (first time hearing it). I've never liked that song; it seems like there's no melody at all, and it's just a jangling annoyance. I've never heard the "hippopotamus for Christmas" song, so I can't weigh in on it. And I like the Chipmunks song, as long as I don't hear it too many times during the season. I don't care too much for "Grandma," but I don't actively dislike it. Link to comment
Pixel December 23, 2014 Share December 23, 2014 I voted for Wonderful Christmastime AND Grandma. Both are annoying as fuck. Link to comment
LiberryLady December 23, 2014 Share December 23, 2014 Peanut butter kisses (total failure - need to be dumped) *Cracks knuckles* You're in luck, Glory, because those are my son's favorite cookie, so I make them every year for Christmas. I am a freakin' expert on Peanut Butter Kisses Cookies. There are two recipes for this cookie: the long one with flour and butter and whatnot, and the much shorter, easier and tastier one. I use the later. Here goes: 1 jar (18 oz) creamy peanut butter (I noticed that the jar I just bought is only 16 ounces. Booo! They're doing that sneaky thing! So I'll add a bit more than the jar.) 1 1/4 - 1 1/2 cups white sugar 2 large eggs approximately 48 Kisses, unwrapped (a 9 ounce bag) 1) Blend all ingredients except Kisses with wooden spoon. Start with 1 1/4 c. sugar; if the texture of the dough changes and stiffens up and looks grainy, you're good, but if it still looks like peanut butter add a tablespoon of sugar at a time until the texture changes. 2) With floured hands, roll tablespoons into balls. 3) Bake at 350 degrees for 12-14 minutes until tops crack. They don't need to be brown on top! Just dry and cracked! 4) Remove from oven and immediately place a kiss on top. Cool a couple of minutes, and remove. The Kiss will harden back up when cool. Link to comment
Glory December 23, 2014 Author Share December 23, 2014 Thanks, LL! I used what I thought was a Betty Crocker recipe I've had luck with in the past but they were truly inedible. I'll try your version! I did make oatmeal raisin cookies last night that came out really well! Packaged all that up and sent it to work with Guts today! Tonight I'm going to make some peppermint bark to bring by our friends secret santa exchange. I hope I get the iPod. 1 Link to comment
Too Late Kev December 24, 2014 Share December 24, 2014 (edited) I voted for (/against) the hippo song because I've never heard of it, so...how good could it be? (Logic! We hates it!) I don't particularly dislike any of those songs, but there's no room for "Other." I'm sure there are Christmas songs I don't like, but of course I can't think of them right now. I'm not particularly behind, which is very rare for me. I wouldn't say I'm ahead, or that I don't have a lot to do in the next few days (family stuff goes through Sunday this year for us), but usually I'm doing way worse than this. frenchtoast, I dreamed last night that you quit your job. Please tell me I'm not suddenly psychic. Edited December 24, 2014 by Too Late Kev Link to comment
Pixel December 25, 2014 Share December 25, 2014 I Just heard the hippo song for the first time. That's just...awful. Link to comment
King of Birds December 25, 2014 Share December 25, 2014 I hope I get the iPod. This has to be a shout out to the "Christmas Party" ep, right? I thought you'd want the teal teapot, Glory. How soon y'all forget. To the non-Hateballers- there is a first time for everything. This includes ME, the amazing King of Birds, winning the Mug O'Gloriousness. Yup. I'm #1. Merry Christmas to everyone! 3 Link to comment
sacrebleu December 25, 2014 Share December 25, 2014 I can't believe I wasn't able to express my hatred for "The Christmas Shoes" in KoB's poll. I loathe that treacley piece of crap. Flying on Christmas Eve was event free! The flight left on time, we even had a well behaved baby on the flight- barely a peep, and we got in 20 minutes ahead of schedule. A Christmas miracle to be sure!. I realize I will probably pay for it on the way home. Happy Holidays! And congrats to KingofBirds for his first Hateball championship. Link to comment
frenchtoast December 25, 2014 Share December 25, 2014 I did not quit my job, Kev. They did let me get home early yesterday. With everyone working and Skype being a pain in the ass there was a bit of a dent in the festivities but otherwise it went well. And, kids, when I deliberately tell you what's for dinner, and that it's set up for you in the living room, do not bitch at me an hour later when I come down to do something because we are now finished with dinner. Link to comment
Too Late Kev December 26, 2014 Share December 26, 2014 Phew about the job. We had a lovely Christmas. I ended up staying up late Christmas Eve, but it wasn't because I had to. I decided sort of last minute that yes, I would make that gluten-free pound cake mix after making the quiches for Christmas morning. But in general, I was way ahead of how I've been any other year since having kids. Link to comment
King of Birds December 27, 2014 Share December 27, 2014 I can't believe I wasn't able to express my hatred for "The Christmas Shoes" in KoB's poll. I loathe that treacley piece of crap. I didn't even know about that song's existence! I just watched/ listened on YT and didn't make it a minute in. Should've had it in the poll. 1 Link to comment
Glory December 27, 2014 Author Share December 27, 2014 I hope everyone had a lovely Christmas! The question on my mind is: "Will KOB make his own Mug of Gloriousness in celebration of his victory?" Link to comment
King of Birds December 27, 2014 Share December 27, 2014 You bet your sweet patootie that I've ordered myself a Mug O'Gloriousness! Also, the other winner (in 8.2) was the poster known as Actinolite (I'm unsure if she joined up here at PTV?) Two first-timers. Our motto should be "Keeping the Mug from sacrebleu and bethbox for over two years." Guessing at the 2 yrs bit. 2 Link to comment
MichelleAK December 28, 2014 Share December 28, 2014 Woot! Well, I've just gotten myself a new car! Did a 39-month lease on a 2015 Subaru Legacy Limited. They threw in a free auto start, so I'll need to take it back in to get that installed, but I was able to drive it home today. Handles nicely, and has good response for a 4-cylinder (my Saturn was a V6). And the AWD will be nice for winter driving conditions. 3 Link to comment
King of Birds December 28, 2014 Share December 28, 2014 (edited) 2015 Subaru Legacy Limited This furthers my belief that Subarus are only sold in the Northeast, Alaska and maybe Minnesota? I had a laugh when I saw a Subaru here in Los Angeles and it had Maine plates. I'm stumped right now on what the next poll should be. I mean, there's no "favorite New Years song" is there? (Has to be U2, right?) Edited December 28, 2014 by King of Birds Link to comment
MichelleAK December 28, 2014 Share December 28, 2014 This furthers my belief that Subarus are only sold in the Northeast, Alaska and maybe Minnesota? I had a laugh when I saw a Subaru here in Los Angeles and it had Maine plates. I'm stumped right now on what the next poll should be. I mean, there's no "favorite New Years song" is there? (Has to be U2, right?) Suburus are definitely popular here in Alaska. In fact, I think they retain their value better up here than in the lower 48 because of that. The SUVs are probably better sellers than the sedans, though. Since I don't haul a bunch of crap, and prefer not sitting up so high, I prefer sedans to SUVs. Hmmm, New Year's songs? Yeah, other than U2 (and, of course, Auld Lang Syne), I can't think of any off the top of my head. Maybe romantic songs for Valentine's Day? Link to comment
Glory December 28, 2014 Author Share December 28, 2014 You mean, this seminal classic is not on your list of amazing New Year's Songs? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGZjQF23g44 Link to comment
possibilities December 28, 2014 Share December 28, 2014 Congrats to The King for conquering Hateball. I will raise a mug of kefir-banana smoothee to celebrate this milestone. Late weighing in on hated xmas songs: I don't even know what the lyrics are to this one (they're indecipherable to my ear), but every time I hear it I feel like someone is trying to drug me with some horrible potion. The only words I can make out are something like: barumpabumpum. I swear, whatever the message is supposed to be, the musical composition is like a toxic brainwashing chant. Maybe for New Years Day we can survey the membership for most popular/least popular resolution. Subarus are good cars! I had no idea this was a regional preference. What do Alaska, Minnesota, and the northeast have in common? Are Subarus extra good in snow?? I guess what I know of them is that they get decent gas mileage, come with AWD, and are reliable. Seems like a good foundation. 20 years ago, it seemed like everyone I knew either had or wanted to have a Toyota, with Honda being second choice. Now it's Subarus, for those who can't afford a hybrid (unless they need a truck). My internet connection has been coming and going since early xmas morning. The entire neighborhood is out of service due to "high winds" on xmas eve. It's hard to be patient, even if in theory I think people do deserve time off from work. I just want them to fix it!! On the dessert front, I made three kinds of rhubarb cobbler the other day (one with strawberries, one with apples and ginger, one plain). There was a lot of rhubarb in the freezer and we needed the space, so I had to defrost and cook it-- like I needed an excuse! I'm going to try a non-rhubarb recipe with chocolate and pecans today. It's not even seasonal, and I really have no other excuses to offer; I'm just feeling self-indulgent. Link to comment
Pixel December 28, 2014 Share December 28, 2014 I'm not a U2 fan. What U2 song is for New Year's? Link to comment
MichelleAK December 28, 2014 Share December 28, 2014 (edited) I'm not a U2 fan. What U2 song is for New Year's? "New Year's Day" is actually the name of the song. It's from their War album, one of their early albums. It's about the Solidarity movement in Poland. Lyrics: http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/u2/newyearsday.html Possibilities, they are good in snow and other bad driving conditions, due to the AWD. It's a way to get AWD without having to get a big SUV, since they put it on their sedans, and they have smaller crossover SUVs (and previously, station wagons). Edited December 28, 2014 by MichelleAK Link to comment
Too Late Kev December 29, 2014 Share December 29, 2014 possibilities, the song you dislike so much must be "The Little Drummer Boy." Little Drummer Boy: Lyrics Come they told me, pa rum pum pum pumA new born King to see, pa rum pum pum pumOur finest gifts we bring, pa rum pum pum pumTo lay before the King, pa rum pum pum pum,rum pum pum pum, rum pum pum pum, So to honor Him, pa rum pum pum pum,When we come. Little Baby, pa rum pum pum pumI am a poor boy too, pa rum pum pum pumI have no gift to bring, pa rum pum pum pumThat's fit to give the King, pa rum pum pum pum,rum pum pum pum, rum pum pum pum, Shall I play for you, pa rum pum pum pum,On my drum? Mary nodded, pa rum pum pum pumThe ox and lamb kept time, pa rum pum pum pumI played my drum for Him, pa rum pum pum pumI played my best for Him, pa rum pum pum pum,rum pum pum pum, rum pum pum pum, Then He smiled at me, pa rum pum pum pumMe and my drum. Angela sings it in A Benihana Christmas, with Dwight providing extra pum pum pum pums. It's one of my favorites, actually, but tomato/tomahto. I'm so glad to have another week off (of driving kids around and such); Mr. Kev took it off, too, so I'm hoping to get a home project done, or at least started enough that it'll have to be finished. Link to comment
King of Birds December 29, 2014 Share December 29, 2014 You mean, this seminal classic is not on your list of amazing New Year's Songs? (link to N*Sync which I won't duplicate here) NOPE.com With further inspection, when I tried to find more "modern" songs, they say a Snoop Dogg song called New Years Eve. And Daft Punk's One More Time is cited as a NYE song. And Beyonce's End of Time. One site mentioned Howard Jones' Things will only get better. And, there's this ditty too. Both Mariah Carey AND the Red Hot Chili Peppers have their own version of Auld Lang Syne. And you knew this was coming. Dan Folgelburp's song. Lastly, I've spent too much time on YT and found this too. What New Years type song might you play this week? Link to comment
Kalliste December 29, 2014 Share December 29, 2014 Lastly, I've spent too much time on YT and found this too. I've never really thought about what the song means.. I mean it's usually midnight when it comes on and you've had a lot to drink by the time you get there :P That's the first time I've ever listened to it in it's entirety and it's quite lovely :) I don't know if I can bring myself to listen to the RHCP version as since reading Scar Tissue by Anthony Kiedis I can't support much of anything they do. Link to comment
LiberryLady December 29, 2014 Share December 29, 2014 Dan Folgelburp's song. Heh. Intentional or unintentional typo, KoB? Bringin' it full circle, I actually have a Dan FolgelBERG Christmas cd. I am grinchy about a lot of Christmas, but I looooove Christmas music. I had a container of cds on my passenger seat of my car, and spent the last couple of weeks cycling through faves. I sing along with gusto, too. Angela sings it in A Benihana Christmas, with Dwight providing extra pum pum pum pums. It's one of my favorites, actually, but tomato/tomahto. I'm fine with Little Drummer Boy, too. I honestly can't think of a widely-played Christmas song that I don't like. And Benihana Christmas is my favorite of the Office Christmas episodes. 1 Link to comment
King of Birds December 30, 2014 Share December 30, 2014 Heh. Intentional or unintentional typo, KoB? Intentional, of course. Looks like I over-exaggerated the misspelling, but I was alluding to the classic Bloom County "Who the dickens is Dan Fogerburp?" Movies! I caught Whiplash and Wild during the holiday week. Both very good. Excellent. Thumbs are all up. I hope to catch the Imitation Game, and maybe The Babadook. Link to comment
possibilities December 30, 2014 Share December 30, 2014 Sorry about stepping on one of your favorites, Kev! I was afraid that would happen, after I posted. But seeing the lyrics, I don't mind them at all. I think it's just the tune that irks me. I wonder if anyone has ever recorded a different version? This weekend I saw "The Normal Heart" and "The Butler" finally. I'm always behind on movies because I wait for them to get to Netflix or non-premium TV channel repeats, usually. I knew I was being manipulated by cinematic tricks, but I still bawled my eyes out. I also recently got around to finally seeing Avatar; I tell myself better late than never on movies. I can't keep up with both recent movies and current TV. Link to comment
Too Late Kev December 30, 2014 Share December 30, 2014 No worries. That song could be annoying if you're shopping and all you hear is the repetitive rumpumpumpum part. I was a churchgoer through high school (after which my parents let us make up our own minds whether to go, and I mostly didn't/don't), and I always found the lyrics very sweet and humble, and the tune simple and lovely. :) Link to comment
Pixel December 31, 2014 Share December 31, 2014 (edited) The holiday TV offerings have driven me to reading Walking Dead fanfic. Some of it is pretty well written. I'm amazed at the Daryl/Beth shippers. I'm not one who ships Daryl with anyone. He seems kind of asexual to me. Still, it's been fun. It's been a long time since I read fanfic. Edited December 31, 2014 by Pixel Link to comment
Too Late Kev December 31, 2014 Share December 31, 2014 (edited) Pixel, do you have any links? It might be good to have a Walking Dead Fanfic thread for recommendations. ETA: Whoops. I'm also involved in the WD Small Talk thread -- You confused me, talking WD in the Chili's thread. Edited December 31, 2014 by Too Late Kev Link to comment
King of Birds December 31, 2014 Share December 31, 2014 Walking Dead fanfic? That's ... a terrifying thought. LL can confirm this- but I think we're due to be below freezing tonight, in good ole SoCal. And, the wind just blew the tree in my front yard down. Remarkably, it missed the shared neighbor fence, and mostly missed the new tree I put in last summer. But come morning, it'll irk the dog-walkers as it's blocking the sidewalk. Link to comment
MichelleAK December 31, 2014 Share December 31, 2014 Walking Dead fanfic? That's ... a terrifying thought. LL can confirm this- but I think we're due to be below freezing tonight, in good ole SoCal. And, the wind just blew the tree in my front yard down. Remarkably, it missed the shared neighbor fence, and mostly missed the new tree I put in last summer. But come morning, it'll irk the dog-walkers as it's blocking the sidewalk. Wow, and it's above freezing here, although that ends today. It's supposed to get clear and colder for the next several days. This will be the first calendar year since they began recording that information (in 1952) that we didn't have below-zero temperatures in Anchorage. And we haven't had much snowfall yet this winter, either. Link to comment
Pixel December 31, 2014 Share December 31, 2014 Hmm...I haven't kept any bookmarks. I've just been googling and finding stuff. Is there a thread over there for fanfic recs? Link to comment
Glory December 31, 2014 Author Share December 31, 2014 Ha! I alway seem to turn to fanfic in the winter as well. Right now I'm playing Dragon Age: Inquisition and I've been reading fanfic about a certain sexy commander. 1 Link to comment
Too Late Kev January 1, 2015 Share January 1, 2015 I haven't checked there yet for a fanfic thread. I'd say if you find something great that you want to recommend, start a thread. Link to comment
Pixel January 1, 2015 Share January 1, 2015 (edited) So, I've been thinking a lot about my age (47) and how I've always been one of the "cool" people (seriously, there's a point to this). I'm a gamer, I'm pretty up on the current language used by teens, etc. But lately I've been feeling like it's kind of exhausting and pointless trying to prove I'm in touch with today's trends. I'm finding I don't really care anymore about doing that. I work with people who are in their mid thirties, mostly, and I've been making an effort to connect with them on their interests, and I've just realized I don't feel like doing it anymore. Despite the fact that I've been very good at it and it seems that I'm pretty socially entrenched at work. Now, this isn't a message of surrender, or despair. It's triumph! I'm freeing myself from the obligation to be anyone but who I feel like being. If the 33 year olds think I'm boring because I'd rather eat lunch at my desk than go out for two hours with them, I don't care! It's entirely possible they won't even notice that I've stopped trying, and they'll still think I'm funny and fun to be around, but...I don't care! I'm just going to be my boring old 47 year old self who happens to love video gaming but doesn't give a shit about what's on sale at Express or Maurice's (wait, I do love Maurice's), or going out to bars or anything that doesn't involve hanging with my family or closest friends. Just because it took me a while to grow up doesn't mean it won't stick this time. :) Now, does anyone have a recommendation for a good eye serum? Edited January 1, 2015 by Pixel Link to comment
King of Birds January 1, 2015 Share January 1, 2015 (edited) If the 33 year olds think I'm boring because I'd rather eat lunch at my desk than go out for two hours with them, I don't care! Now, does anyone have a recommendation for a good eye serum? TWO HOUR LUNCHES? I want to live in your world. I often have to eat lunch at my desk and there are many days when I just want to hang out with some 33 yr old nurses for long lunches. And yeah. What's a good eye serum? I'm looking like a raccoon over here. PS- Happy New Year! Edited January 1, 2015 by King of Birds Link to comment
Pixel January 1, 2015 Share January 1, 2015 Yeah, these young whippersnappers have an interesting work ethic. They don't do it every day, but it's way more common than it should be. Link to comment
Too Late Kev January 1, 2015 Share January 1, 2015 I had to look up "eye serum," that's how out of it I am!! And ikar, haven't you heard? Raccoons are in! (Isn't that why GotG hit it so big? The raccoon?) Be yourself, Pixel! 1 Link to comment
Glory January 1, 2015 Author Share January 1, 2015 Aw, Pixel, this 30 year old still thinks you're cool and hip! I have come to the conclusion that I am just going to do me and people can take it or leave it. You know what? If I want to spend my entire vacation mainlining video games, I'm going to do it! I'm an adult damnit. I have two jobs, time off is rare. I'm going to be me and spend time with the people who allow me to be myself most. This past year my husband and I were welcomed by a new group of friends and it's pretty awesome. We're all in similar stages in life and have the same hobbies and interests. We were talking about 2014 and how it might have been our best year yet. 2015 is shaping up to be the same. Just, do what makes you happy. That's really all there should be to worry about! 2 Link to comment
possibilities January 1, 2015 Share January 1, 2015 I used to worry so much about stuff I no longer care about, and it's AWESOME not giving a shit anymore. I mean, there are things I care about quite a lot, but the things I don't deep down really care about? I'm happy to let them go. Just recently, a plumber was coming over to fix something and I was kind of a mess and briefly considered that I should "clean up my act" before he arrived. I remember in the past, feeling I should do that before repair people came in. And then I realized I honestly didn't feel a need to impress this person with my wardrobe or my housekeeping and all I really wanted was for him to fix the sink. So I didn't knock myself out getting ready, and it was fine. In fact, I have come to expect a certain baseline level of respect and politeness from people, so that if they are rude enough to comment negatively about my being, I would consider them to be at fault etiquette-wise, where in the past I might have felt humiliated and like a failure. In this case, if the plumber had commented on my housekeeping I would have been really angry and also... it's just not something they do! l amuse myself thinking about if he'd said something like "you're not professionally dressed, ma'am, how can I fix your sink if you are not looking spiffy today?" when I have moments of insecurity about such things. It's just absurd! Sometimes I do things to conform to peer pressure, like I feel a certain amount of anxiety about my front lawn being extra spiffy because it's in a very prominent place in town where people have to drive by to get anywhere, so it kind of means "everyone" will see it (small town mentality here), and I don't want to get a bad rep as creating an eyesore or whatever. People definitely DO gossip in a town of 900 people. But then I was talking with someone I'd never met before, and she was saying how nice my yard looks and I was surprised because it was at a time when I really had fallen behind and it was, to me, a mess. And I realized that most people are not judging everyone like the mean kids in junior high school. The assholes of the world are probably looking for things to condemn, but those kinds of people will always find something to hate because that's the way they are. But anyone worth knowing will not be like that, they will be friendly and will cut you some slack or just not be obsessing about what other people are doing. When I realized I was doing some things because I really did value them, and other things out of fear of hostility from other people, it really made me have to look at my view of other people. Yeah, some people are hostile jerks. But to hell with them anyway. Btw, I'm 49. It's incredibly liberating to only care about what I really care about, and to let go of anxiety about not pleasing everyone. Sometimes I worry that if I don't do this or that to appeal to people, that I'll wind up too isolated. But then I realize that doing whatever it is I don't want to do makes me feel isolated even around the people I did it to appeal to... so it doesn't work anyway!! No escape from being real.... 2 Link to comment
Pixel January 1, 2015 Share January 1, 2015 (edited) I'm enjoying having sparked a common interest and support. If I wasn't on mobile I'd thumbs up all of your posts! It's kind of funny; if you ask people who think they know me, they'd tell you I've never cared what anyone thought of me. I just put on a good front. My plan is to internalize it and let go (but not like Elsa). Edited January 1, 2015 by Pixel Link to comment
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