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  1. On 12/1/2019 at 10:57 PM, sondraK said:

    Yes,I think Jill truly wears the pants in that family,even though she hates pants.LOL

    Many of these fundie families preach patriarchy,even though a lot of times,it's the woman running the show.I get that feeling from Ben n Jessa Duggar Seewald as well

    I keep forgetting to mention, this is because they're also told that "women are supposed to be in charge of The Home, which also means children."  So what this really means is, the woman can (and usually does) do anything up to the line that involves "putting his foot down".  Papa is supposed to step in only whenever Mama can't browbeat Child into doing whatever she thinks Child ought to do. 

    This in fact generally results in women finding passive men who are completely happy to let the mother do all the child-rearing; and who in fact proffer opinions only after much haranguing on the part of the mother in his direction. 

    This is supposed to convey "what your father says, goes". 

    In reality, what this means is that generally said fathers loath "putting their foot down", and would rather be seen as "the kind non-disciplining father", so the kids get lots of seeing and hearing Mama tell Papa what to do, to which Papa generally reacts with silence until forced to make a decision.  (Unfortunately, I think the brainwashed kids generally see Papa's silence as assent to whatever Mama is saying.)

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  2. 7 hours ago, Zahdii said:

    The Rods have known the Kellers for years, so Nathan and Nurie have met often and spent a fair amount of time together during family visits.  In fact, when Nurie was courting her first fella, there were some people who asked Jill R if Nathan was the guy.  Jill R denied it, the courtship fizzled, and the Rods continued to visit the Kellers.

    I don't know if David Waller has ever met the Rods, but surely he's heard plenty about them, and he's probably afraid acknowledging them in any way would be construed by Jill as in invitation to drop by some day.  Jill's posted enough about 'visiting' people.  They park their RV in the driveway, expect to be fed and entertained, and kitchen, bathroom, and laundry facilities are to be shared with her family while the hosts pay for everything.

    Dingdingding!  I think we have a winner!  Frankly, I'd have the same reaction, even as a heathen.  Few people can withstand being descended upon by 3/4 of a football team, half of them caked in makeup that would do Tammy Faye proud.

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  3. On 11/30/2019 at 6:36 PM, Madtown said:

    These fundy girls and their "man of my dreams" shit. They've known each other for all of 5 minutes. Does she know anything about him. besides that he is "Godly?" When I think of all the things these girls know nothing about and what they are truly missing out on, it makes me weep for their future of nothing but babies.

    "Man of my dreams" =

    (1) Has penis;

    (2) Said "yes";

    (3) parents gave permission;

    (4) presence of beloved results in first hints of acceptable sexual feeling.

    On 12/1/2019 at 7:59 AM, Churchhoney said:

    I sounded a bit like that as a kid. And I wasn't dropped on my head! Mostly I didn't talk at all. And I don't sound anything like that now, and I talk constantly.

    Infantilizing people and forcing them into a position where they don't really dare say anything spontaneous or unrehearsed is a favorite weapon of many tyrants and can produce a sound like that.

    You're just crippled in your ability to utter anything of your own mind and in your own voice, I think. I'd occasionally get really angry -- angrier than I was every minute of most days, that is -- and bust out with something loud and unprescribed. But that carried dangerous consequences so most of the time I did the Rodrigui thing and tried to stay under the radar.

    I'm positive, although I'm unclear as to how it makes psychological sense (or maybe that's the point), but the kids have developed this voice specifically because they don't want anybody to take them seriously, and/or are hoping their statements get lost in a crowd.  Just in case Ma and Pa Rod take it into their heads to start lecturing them about said statements; at which point they can say they were "joking" or similar.  Or, maybe they've adopted these stupid voices for the "in the world, not of it" campaign...

    On the bright side, if any other Rods ever get to move out on their own/go to school like Timmy, and are savvy enough not to tell the story of how the bear really came to be, I suppose they can attribute the Build-A-Bears to mushy teen presents from a boyfriend or girlfriend.

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  4. 5 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

    Finally watched the episode. Apparently I fell asleep before it ended and missed the vow renewals. I was very surprised/not surprised that Lauren bailed a second time.

    I chuckled at how spot on we all are with these couples. The only real surprise for me was Abbie being so passive, but at least she realized it later.

    Jessa and Ben aren't even friends, nevermind partners - she's the mom and he's the dad. It's going to be a long marriage for those two. Joy and Austin seem to have the healthiest and most normal marriage. JD and Abbie are still figuring it out. Joe and Kendra appear to have a marriage that, without the love they both have for each other, could go the way of Jessa and Ben. I don't think it will, because Kendra isn't a selfish bitch and Joe seems happy enough to just plod along.

    Josiah and Lauren - just wow. Nothing they did at that retreat was for their marriage. Josiah was hellbent on winning. Winning the boat race, that wasn't a race and winning the nest building, which wasn't a contest against the other couples. And Lauren can't get out of her own way. IMO, Lauren wasn't standing up to her headship or playing it up for the cameras, she was having a passive-aggressive tantrum. And I thought that before I read that she bailed on the vow renewal. I'm betting these tantrums occur without the cameras or any other audience and I'm guessing every moment of every day is all about Lauren.

    One last thing, I think Jessa purposely made Ben look like a fool during the duck retrieval. And Ben obediently let her.

    I’d amend that to ‘Jessa is the mom and Bin is her first child’, lol.

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  5. 4 minutes ago, Barb23 said:

    ETA:  I did like reading about Terri's dislike of the non-conservative background music that played while they were filling the  Feed My Starving Children Christmas boxes at a local church.  I would love to know what songs they played.

    Probably Switchfoot, or anything similar the Duggars object to because it has a beat.  Outside possibility that someone failed to groom all their CDs of every occurrence of ‘Here Comes Santa Claus”, etc.

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  6. On 11/24/2019 at 1:20 PM, cmr2014 said:

    Once again, the entire photo is horribly composed.And, once again, we have the ridiculous head-to-toe photo of the entire group. This is a photo of a BABY. Can anyone find the baby in this photo? 

    I can’t even see the baby clearly when I zoom in, the photo composition is so poor and blurry.  What kind of hideous old tech did they use?

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  7. On 11/24/2019 at 5:29 PM, emma675 said:

    I'm a coldhearted bitch a lot of the time but I'm not going to comment on if any of the babies are cute or common or ugly. They are babies, there is nothing they can do about the way they look.

    Their parents on the other hand are free game.

    isn’t judging, rating, etc. the looks those kids under 18, against the rules of this site?  Like the discussion of whether or not any of the under 18s are gay?  I thought it was... then again, as someone who spent 20-some years reading the comments sections on Slate and Salon, I can attest that there’s nothing particularly daring or countercultural about running down the looks of infants, or ‘not thinking all babies are cute’.  Seinfeld did a whole episode about it quite brilliantly, and that shit’s already 20 years old.

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  8. 6 hours ago, babyhouseman said:

    An article about Jim Boob and Smuggar avoiding each other supposedly. 

    https://radaronline.com/exclusives/2019/11/josh-jim-bob-duggar-avoid-each-other-after-homeland-security-scandal/

    Another blind item from Crazy Days and Nights. 

    In addition to all of the other federal crimes this sprawling reality family is facing, some of which are horrific, are all of the money laundering/embezzling/failure to report on taxes charges at least four of the family face. They took all sorts of payments under the table or didn't report them and spent them on strippers and escorts, not just for sex, but also paying for rent and other expenses. It is unknown if they were using them solely for themselves or were also hiring them out for added income. The latter seems likely considering the agencies doing a great deal of the investigations and what they do. The patriarch of the family is involved and several other men in the family, including one who has been in trouble before

    Multiple strippers and escorts hired by multiple men in the same family?  Yeah, that lets the Duggars right out... I know protests like these are often the equivalent of shouting into the wind, but no way is this accepted underground (or even networked) operating procedure for multiple Duggar men including the patriarch.  These people are too prudish, sheltered and trapped.

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  9. 9 hours ago, xwordfanatik said:

    Dear God.  And people thought 70's era hippies living off the grid in buses were crazy?  I'm old enough to remember those days.

    That sad video takes it to an insane level.  I am sorry I watched it.  It would be nice if it had been a parody.  So awful for those robotic brainwashed kids.  

    I had such profound secondhand embarrassment for Nurie that I didn't make it past Nurie.  Now everybody can see why I was rooting so hard for Timmy to stay at Moody.  I mean... Nurie clearly doesn't even know what the "bad schools/kids" do that is so bad; or is too mortified a little mouse to say bad things like "using ungodly language" - because her crippling parents are so determined to keep them ignorant "until [Nurie] is ready" for these things.  (That being the point in time where I wanted to stand up and scream at the "parents", "You idiots, that's the point.  None of these kids will ever be "ready" for anything, because you won't even have had them slowly walk from the shallow end to the portion of the pool where their feet start to give way.") 

    For anybody who thought that no real family could possibly live like the Flanders', the Rodrigues kids are literally like Rod and Tod.  I'm surprised people haven't come upon them falling to their knocking knees in the middle of a shopping mall/parking lot/grocery store quavering out prayers.  Nurie would make a terrible witness to any heathen; as she literally doesn't know how to frame anything about her upbringing in a positive light.  (Paraphrase:  "Well, it's much better to be homeschooled because then we can all run on Rodrigues time, and never have to worry about being anywhere at any given time, and will never learn anything necessary about meeting disciplinary markers or milestones in life, or functioning as productive members of society making the trains run on time; because nobody cares what we do.  They certainly don't care about what we girls do outside of slaving away at chores and landing a man; and it's even pretty questionable that they care if the boys do anything with their lives.") 

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  10. I thought I had that colander (Oxo I think?), but then I remembered that mine had triangular feet as well, so now I'm just stumped.  It is a really nice colander; but of course I can't speak to its comfort upon the head 🤣.  I had to farm it out to an aunt after I switched boroughs (I gained in overall location what I lost in kitchen, and had no more room for such a kitchen behemoth).

    Ivy looks as if she is actually reading the book (aw!).

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  11. 5 hours ago, Westiepeach said:

    OMG. Those kids... They really hate public schools don't they? Actually they are not too fond of Christian schools either. Thank God they are so blessed that they don't have to associate with those ungodly public school heathens. Sheesh. My opinion of that whole family even fell lower than it already was. Jesus Christ... *shake my head*

    Did you note how Nurie made it pretty clear that they're not even allowed to socialize with the church kids who go to ebil public school?  "I imagine they would say that their fellow students are the people they spend the most time with..."

    So, Nurie, you "have to imagine" because... they're mutes?  Can't you ask them what they think of public school?  Bless the Rodkids' poor little stunted hearts, JillR probably ushers them away from the half-heathens every Sunday, with a loud judgy stage whisper about their "corrupting influence". 

    And then some people don't understand why or how the kids are so sheltered, and speculate about all the (nonexistent) exposure to regular people they've inadvertently managed to get, lol.  Of course not - you were raised normal.  

    Also, I've been storing this one aside... Jill, there ain't nobody in the world who believes that every person in a family of 15 magically "forgot" to pack proper swimwear.  Nobody.  Lying is a sin and you know it...

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  12. On 11/13/2019 at 6:44 PM, Future Cat Lady said:

    Is it possible that all the kidults agreed to be "paid" to a Duggar Company? And of course, JB is the owner of that company. The kids have always been controlled by their parents. They are raised to think that their parents are always right. I don't think they would go against their father. 

    That's what I'm thinking - that TLC pays some sort of "Duggar Family Trust", instead of a batch of individuals; which means he can negotiate for everybody.  How/if this continues to work when everyone reaches their age of majority, I do not know.  

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  13. 8 hours ago, Absolom said:

    It's gravy which does start with a roux.  It's usually made with pan drippings from frying the meat.  Similar to, but not exactly, a white sauce.  It looks like chicken gravy to me since steak would be darker.  Sometimes the gravy is made with water, but this looks like they used milk which again would be lighter.

    In my menu-reading experience, "country fried" steak/chicken is always referred to as having "cream gravy".  I think pan drippings are involved; but the main distinction is the white color of the sauce.

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  14. On 11/11/2019 at 5:51 PM, Lukeysboat said:

    Wow. I think they look like regular people. Not sure what the expectations are but looks don’t indicate brains anyway. 

    Plus, law firms now are all about "real people", says the person who used to manage miles of attorney contacts for her bosses.  Once upon a time, law firms were so insular, afraid of stalkers, etc., that they would never, ever use pictures of real people upon their law firm webpages, and instead did use uniform pretty stock models whenever people were called for.  Somewhere along the lines, this changed 180 degrees; and now law firms have "picture taking days"; and derive all their website pictures from the source of their actual employees, including group shots in a conference room.  Probably some sort of push towards "customer service" orientation.

    On 11/11/2019 at 5:03 PM, Jeeves said:

    It's dormant now. Should green up next spring.

    About the icy weather. I know this is true in Oklahoma and probably also in NW Arkansas, which is next door. They can get nasty ice storms, or just icy roads. I swear, I'd rather drive in or after a serious snowstorm here in Denver, than have to drive in the icy conditions they can get in OK. And unlike Denver, I doubt that the city where the Dillards live, has much equipment on hand to clear snow and deice roads. I hope Derick makes it home okay.

    But, Jill, really. His "stuff" is cancelled. Not his study group or project meeting or whatever, but his "stuff." Sigh.

    You know that the only reason Jill didn't say "study group" etc., is because she's so ignorant of what goes on in a real school that she doesn't know/can't remember the highly technical terms such as "study group"; so has to flail around to figure what to call it.

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  15. 15 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

    The English language changes it's rules more often than the Duggars.

    twenty-one-reasons-why-english-is-hard-t

    Funny! but I'm pretty sure, it's "blonde" for females and "blond" for men, and "brunette" for females and "brunet" for men, because this terminology is derived from the French:

    https://www.dictionary.com/e/blond-vs-blonde/

    Blonde and blond essentially mean the same thing. It’s just that in French, blond is the masculine form, both as a noun and adjective; adding the E makes it feminine. So, a woman with blond hair is une blonde, a man, un blond.

    In English—if we are being technical about the word’s French origins—blonde as a noun or adjective should be applied to women or girls “having light hair and usually fair skin and light eyes.” That means a man or boy is a blond, or has blond hair—not blonde hair with an E.

    The Associated Press (AP) Style Book upholds this rule. Garner’s Modern American Usage, on the other hand, cautions against using blonde due to risks of sexism.

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  16. 20 hours ago, dargosmydaddy said:

    Wow, they're already color coordinating their outfits... is that allowed, before marriage?

    Those are some sadly tiny cake slices at the end. Did David get the rest of the cake or something?

    I imagine it's a household of females above a certain age encouraged to "sweetly demur", much in the manner of ladies in the workplace "Oh no, that piece of cake is MUCH too big... cut me half of that.  No, less.  No, that's fine - I'll just take the top triangle!"

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  17. 2 hours ago, irisheyes said:

    Does Moody even participate in the federal financial aid program (Pell grants, Stafford  loans, etc).  Those come with a lot of nasty “government oversight”.

    Pretty sure the answer is "yes, because Moody is a real accredited school", no?  I have this vague thought nagging at the back of my mind that if you're going to be affiliated with one of the accreditation bodies, you have to accept the government-connected financial aid program...?  It's Jill and David whom we're pretty sure wouldn't fill out a FAFSA because of the "nasty government oversight"; which leaves me hoping that subsequent siblings who want to attend college have enough knowledge and grit to get themselves emancipated.

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  18. On 10/25/2019 at 4:18 PM, GeeGolly said:

    I've spent 2/3s of my life going to Buffalo, NY a few times a year. It was only around 10 years ago when I realized I've never actually been in Buffalo.

    Yeah, "Buffalo" definitely seems easier to go with as a label because of the football and hockey team, you know you at least stand a fighting chance of running into someone who knows enough to say, "Oh yeah... it's cold out there, right?  Like, really cold?"  Whereas if you tell them where you actually are ("Elma?"  "Orchard Park?" "... no?"), nobody's ever heard of it.

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