Dimi1

We all see influencers everyday...but...most do not FOCUS on their kids....they are included yes...but are not the focus..( aka..Daphne Oz)....also - big influencers understand the culture and have barriers in place...like body guards, gated houses or even gated communities...the bates and duggers do not...so they are vulnerable...you only need to listen to the podcast " small town dicks" which I love! ..and you realize..there are people out there that are evil....no way no shape no form would I put my life out there....I am online -- but not under my own name...and my daughter got off FB and most other sites after her kids were born...so they are not shown online...

Her whole vibe reminds me of the movie pleasantville...only Jill lives in Amishville....daily life is all performative....these kids are in the cult of Jill who controls all.....I have hope for Heidi and Tim...the others not so much...unless one of the other siblings breaks free...

per the milkmaids white kerchief---- if you look closely in the pics on jills socials....kaylee and Renee have on black kerchiefs....mmmm...is this a religious thing, an amish copycat type head covering, or are they just trying to keep the hair neat and tidy on the bike ride...We will have to keep a lookout on future pics...

and she is an odd shade of orange...

my husband had asthma from the age of 7-47..many trips to the ER yearly and carried 3 inhalers...in about 2013 he discovered a place that honed in on spiritual roots to disease ...anywhoooo..they were spot on and he has been asthma free for 13 years...

I wish whoever took the girls would take video of them and post online....I hope and pray those girls are exposed to NORMAL...at least in some capacity...maybe allie will see a MOM taking care of her kids and Allie can sleep through the night and eat in peace and not be permanently deformed by carrying a baby cocked on her little hip all day...Alyssa is my least favorite bates ...she is lazy ( unless it's on camera for clicks)....and selfish....she was the cook at home growing up -- but we now know allie makes the breakfasts while alyssa sleeps in and lunch is whatever out of a package on a paper plate...sheesh....crossing fingers the girls get to see some real family in some way...

typical narc behavior...all set up to meet the needs of the narc parent...I know...I have narc parents....and my family is wrecked...going in to second generation wrecked....I got out and got therapy ( still go weekly)....tough to see the nieces and nephews so messed up...my kids are doing great though...cause I was the scapegoat and they are usually the ones who break free and break the cycle...Its is also why I cannot stand Alyssa...she is most like kelly jo...lazy , entitled....and messing up Allie so much ( I think allie is the scapegoat)....I would probably not like Erin either...she just does not post on SM that much...or at least it is very scripted....

I do not get the Duke mayo love...I hate it...lol...if they really wanted to up the game...they could do a quick home made mayo and spice it up to make it their own....

Her southern accent is much thicker already...so I say she will just continue to spend time with family...looks like she is in thick with Whit....and I assume Carlin once they are back from Mama Jane's....

they were in Asheville nc...recording...and they just announced Travis is going on tour .... and leaving Katie at home...he will be traveling out of nashville and opening for someone I have not heard of....

I think we are beyond just " heathens" at school ...at this point..from my point of view...this world is turned upside down....

I went back to look at her pics on insta...just browsed through quickly...and Allie is Rhett's second mother...I see in just about all of the pics...Allie is paired with Rhett. alot!!...they are making allie grow up before her time , denying her what she really wants ( ballet)...and all part of grooming her to be a young bride and mother...just like Alyssa....I really feel bad for allie

First let me state...Alyssa is the bates girl that I just cannot stand!!! ( then Erin) and its because she does crap to her girls like...dressing up Allie to go out on a DATE with John...in Make up!! as in rosy red cheeks and lipstick...ugh...sexualizing young girls at that age...can she be so clueless , not realizing how she is setting Allie up for life with " preparing" her for her subservient bride status....I just cant stand it....Alyssa must actually be brain dead....I know this site rants on Carlin, Josie and some others...but at least they are exposing themselves and their kids to society--which will help at some point....Alyssa is living in the stone age, sheltering those girls with no interaction ....she is no better than the Amish who seclude their women...no better.....I just want to scream..if you want to see Allie tarted up for her "date" its on her Insta

I just saw a post on Carlin's Insta - Layla was sending carlin a message...I have no clue...I could not understand what she was saying at all...not one word....that is really sad...

it got about as dark here as it did at Jills...we are a bit southwest of her....all the outside lights came on and the solar sidewalk lights...it was really spooky...

we bought a corolla cross....my daughter has a cross trek...I like ours better...smaller than our Honda CRV....so far it's done great...

In Indy and we are in line for total eclipse for a little over a minute...schools are out today..so grands are coming to watch as we sit up on a mini mountain...hubby has to work...but they all have glasses and are going to be out on the building roof...but in case of something Hinky happening he did take a back pack with water and his walking shoes and snacks....however I have a friend with a Son in law - in a 3 letter agency and he is not on alert ...so hopefully everyone stays safe and whole and out of traffic.....

Dunno....nothing makes sense on this ...

my son is flying out of newark....he felt it...He has been trying to get home for 3 days...major airline issues and now this...sheesh...He cant even fly direct...has to land in cincy...and drive a few hours to home...but not before a stop at jungle jims....lol...that place is amazing and if you have to have a place to land ( and then drive the rest of the way home...well this is a little light at the tunnel to be able to stop there and shop that amazing place...)

meaning you tried and could not...or its posted somewhere?...I am beginning to think there is some legal issues coming from somewhere??? as in this site received a legal threat...its just been so weird....so so weird....

Alyssa posted to IG -- a poll asking followers what they wanted to see...I never respond because I do not want to be blocked...of course I wanted to...but is was a miss mash...do we want to see fashion, outings etc...WE WANT to SEE...Allie take Ballet and the others do little home improvement projects or do volunteering at a vets office...we want to SEE YOUR GIRLS....do SOMETHING......and Alyssa looks 6 shades of exhausted...Rhett is a year old now...my personal opinion is the pregnancy with Rhett took something out of Alyssa due to her heart issues...and she has not recovered...lets really hope she puts the brakes on no more babies and enjoys the kids she has...but alas --BROTHER...

Also wanted to add...the party is not the problem...it is a symptom of the problem...boys are better/ more valuable/ more wanted - than girls...also some of the girls are more wanted than other girls... poor kids grow up without having individual parties, birthday cakes etc....but...if the poor kids are loved, valued, given attention with words and actions...they have a better chance of turning out better than kids with "things" but no love...I read a study once on Chronic post traumatic stress syndrome...have you ever wondered why some people have it and some people do not...those who had grown up in a loving family tend to be able to process trauma through a loving lense...as in " they have the memory of coming back to the love they were given as children"...so fancy parties don't matter...what matters is what was said to them, what was shown to them, what value they were given daily....the issue with A and J...is the they treat all their kids differently valuing one more than the other...all have roles to fulfill ...( google dysfunctional family systems)....and all the roles are for the purpose of maintaining the facade of a perfect family for outsiders...and orange given to a child can have all the specialness from a parent if it is given in love ..vs .. a party that is over the top with cakes and costumes...

Because Allie is non compliant to alyssa's agenda...Allie is the scapegoat of the family...I think Allie does not perform for the camera...I have seen her being aggressive toward the other kids...grabbling thinks first etc...because Allie cannot perform for the camera - she gets less focus...it will go one of two ways with Allie..either she will continue to rebel/ act out or she will fabricate a personality to please Alyssa...lets hope she continues to buck that whole system...also note...it is the "scapegoats" that "see" what is wrong in a family ...it is the scapegoats that will not maintain the "show" for the public --- the show meaning -- what is presented to the public - vs - what really goes on behind closed doors....so go Allie...go Allie....lets hope she has enough exposure to be around people who value her for who SHE is...that speak into her ...

Alyssa has pics up on her IG..they spared no expense for Rhett with a banner, matching t-shirts etc...I compared it to Allies Bday - the one with the ballerina theme....I did not see any family there...but did see some other pics..not sure who the kids were as they all had towels on their head...ala getting ready I guess for the princess party or whatever it is they are doing

I have been to some other sites...meh...this reminds me of how I felt when I used to frequent a site called..beauty buzz...it was all about make up , but I was there for over 20 years ...the digger comments are down..and the bates thread is down too....I think everyone one at this point is just scared to post as we don't know what the problem is....so its typing tenderhooks on the keyboards...