I don't think there is anything wrong with having aspirations to cheer for DCC, marry, and be a stay-at-home mom. I am a stay-at-home mom and find it very rewarding and my husband works hard for me to have the privledge to raise our children.
That said, I equally don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to cheer for DCC for a time and have higher aspirations, dance/performance goals. Kelli was playing an unfair game here. It is approximately 3 years of their life.