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Yes! I love my white appliances! My sister got stainless steel fridge, stove and dishwasher and highly regrets it. Of course the prior appliances were avocado green so that's how long it'll take her to replace these.

My friend and I are runners, she is actually someone who got me into running and inspired me to live a healthier life. She usually posted about physical fitness and loving yourself no matter your fitness level but now she's off the rails. It really does make me sad because she was so motivating and positive about living life. Yes - this exactly.

@Anela, I feel your pain. There is someone who I really admired, I thought she was kind and smart and well-educated. I looked forward to her FB posts because they were positive and funny and sometimes enlightening. Then covid started and she became....well, kind of a nut. It has changed how I look at her now and I no longer follow her on FB because she is constantly posting misinformation and while she asks for others to be tolerant of her and her "freedom of choice" to not be vaccinated, she will chastise anyone who has chosen to be vaccinated for "being sheep." In her view you can only 'live and let live' as long as you do it her way. So sad.

Nope, she had all her faculties, very nice lady. With my mom its about attention, she LOVES to have the focus on her. If someone, especially my dad, is the focus of a conversation she will start interjecting things about herself to get everyone to feel sorry for her. Case in point: my dad had a mild stroke last September (fully recovered, thank heavens) while at home with my mom, she had to call the ambulance. In a later FB post about it she thanked the EMT's for "coming to my aide at my time of need." My sister and I just shake our heads.

LOL, my best friend and I have the same pact! Sadly my mother is one of these people, I can't have a single conversation with her where she doesn't launch into whatever is ailing her and in great detail. But she is not alone, I was at a bridal shower recently and was seated next to a nice older lady. After we introduced ourselves we started chatting about the bride, the wedding, etc., about 10 minutes in she started telling me about her recent surgery. It had nothing to do with anything we were talking about. It was a long afternoon.

I have the same struggle with the house next ours, it was a rental property when I moved in with my now-husband 2 years ago. It's been vacant since last October and this summer the yard became quite overgrown. The owner finally showed up in June when I happened to be outside and she told me she planned to clean the place up and put it on the market. The town came and mowed the lawn (they bill the homeowner) and a dumpster arrived in early July and sat in the driveway for a month. We randomly saw people there, the dumpster got filled and taken away last week but the house is still filled with crap (I can see through the windows) and the backyard is overgrown again and still has a pile of shit that the renters left there (bikes, random wood things, a trumpet case, an old mower etc.). It's frustrating since I'm in the process of getting my yard in shape from years of neglect as it too used to be rental property before my husband bought it.

Me too. I've never asked them what he was like as a father, I'm not particularly close to them as they lived in another state growing up and I only saw them at reunions, and since they didn't come to the funeral (that I only went to out of respect for my mom), I've never had the chance. But if he was anything like what he was as an uncle, I'm sure they are very happy to be rid of him. This is true, a former HS classmate of mine posts about her now deceased father and her still living mother like they were Ozzie & Harriet. They were not. I would do sleepovers at her house when we were in our early teens, her older brother used to shove her into the wall and pull her hair for no reason, she'd go crying to her parents and they'd tell her to stop being such a baby. When she got married to her first husband they refused to pay for the wedding because she was pregnant. Her two older sisters got full on $$$$ big white weddings but not my friend. Now, 30+ years later she posts about her "wonderful daddy in heaven" and getting to see "her sweet mommy today". I guess it makes her feel better about her childhood but her parents were assholes.

My ex-husband used to spit all the time, in parking lots, on sidewalks, at parks and beaches. I don't understand the need to spit, can't you just swallow your saliva?? Other than when a bug inadvertently flies into my mouth I don't think I have ever spit. It's a big pet peeve when I'm running a race and another runner spits, there are people within inches, wtf???? So gross!!!

I have the same uncle, now deceased, but when he was alive he was an A1 Asshole. Just mean for no reason. The fact that I only saw him once a year at family reunions and that I remember to this day, 40+ years later what a dick he was to me when I was 10 and every year after that says volumes. He was the oldest of my mom's 14 siblings and apparently thought of himself as the "elder statesman" and therefore gave him the power to deem any niece or nephew not worthy of his patience or kindness. My mom ended up taking care of him for the last couple years he was alive and she would try to cajole me into stopping over to see him (he moved in with them for a few months before he was able to get into a VA nursing home). I refused. To this day she will talk about him with reverence, I just bite my tongue. He had 4 kids of his own, NONE of them attended his funeral. These cousins will always post on FB about their mom, who was the sweetest woman, for her birthday, mother's day or on the anniversary of her death, they have never posted about their father. Just because we're "blood" does not mean I have to put up with someone treating me like crap.

My coworker says "If you got a cheater, you have a cheater."

I get that the person him/herself might be noseblind but what about their significant others? My brother-in-law was a high school teacher and the kids complained to other teachers about his stench, swampass and bad breath, the school counselor finally pulled him aside and told him. I asked my sister "How could you not smell him???" she said "Oh I guess I'm just used to it." WHAT????? You sleep next to that ?????? 🤢🤮

@Jane Tuesday, thank you, that is very helpful!

Pet Peeve: I'm trying to unsubscribe from the numerous emails I signed up for. Sometimes it is as simple as clicking on the "unsubscribe" link but some companies make you jump through hoops, or the link itself goes nowhere. Also, since it is a company email address I use, sometimes the firewalls will make the link unusable. It's my own fault for signing up to begin with, going forward it ain't worth the 10-15% discount to do so. Tired of having to clear 70+emails in my junk file every morning....

So much this! We have a seasonal place in northern NY, it's in a mobile home park with 40 other trailers. Our neighbors run the gamut from 80+ years old down to mid-30's, everyone gets along because there is an unsaid understanding that we don't talk politics, religion or any other hot button topic. We talk about the weather, park maintenance, our kids/grandkids, issues with our trailers, etc. It's not hard.

I listened to a podcast on Mr. Harris, it was really sad, if I remember correctly he was having issues with drugs which were causing some paranoia, among other issues. It was just so bizarre that someone like him could just vanish without a trace. I've been addicted to the Charley Project website, (charleyproject.org) lately. While most of the ones I've read up on are victims of foul play there are several I looked at where the person just disappeared without a trace, where it seems like they just walked away from their lives.

Thank you so much. My husband has no relationship with his brother that's why I don't care if he doesn't like me. I asked my husband what I did to make him so cold to me, my husband replied "He's a miserable person who hates to see anyone happy, especially me." I'm sure it's a competitive brother thing, I've never gone any deeper than that. Yes to both of these, I will be conveniently unavailable, but I will send a nice gift. I do like the niece.

Hello - I need some advice or maybe just someone who understands. I got remarried 2 years ago to a wonderful man*. He has an older brother and a younger sister. We are all in our 50's. My husband's brother has never been warm to me, as a matter of fact he has been pointedly rude on a couple of occasions but I have ignored it as I am at a point in my life where I no longer worry about what others feel about me, especially those who don't take the time to get to know me before deciding I'm not important to them. The brother is married and has a daughter who is getting married later this year. His wife and daughter have been friendly, but we are not besties and we do not communicate on a regular basis. We plan to attend the wedding and I am looking forward to it. Here's where I need help. I don't want to go to the bridal shower. And it's not because I don't like my husband's niece, I don't like showers, baby showers, bridal showers, it doesn't matter who or what its for. I've had to do them for close friends and family's in my 20's/30's but I have zero desire to waste a Saturday afternoon watching someone open gifts while playing games guessing where the bride/groom's first date was. I have no problem sending a gift, I just don't want to be forced to smile and make small talk with strangers. I will know no one other than the bride, my stepdaughter. my sister-in-law and my husband's ex wife (we're friendly, nice lady). My husband has no problem with me not going, (he doesn't even want to go to the wedding), maybe if the brother was nicer to me I'd suck it up and show up in my party dress, but at this point I don't think it will make a difference. Thoughts? Ideas? Suggestions? Support? *My husband and his brother are not close, rarely see each other. I've told him not to intervene with the brother's comments to me, again, I don't care.

Agreed. I was never a big fan of fireworks growing up but I loathe them now. My poor 14 year old dog will be a mess for the next week.

Pet peeve related to those upthread about signature lines with inspirational/religious quotes: Work emails that come with no contact information, especially the department you work in, a phone number/extension or what your title is. Nothing, just "Bob". Double that if it's from someone outside the company. And don't get me started on the long disclaimers at the bottom of some business emails, sheesh, couldn't you just say "forwarding this will get you fired, imprisoned, or sent to North Korea, keep it simple folks!

I will have to watch this, Tammy was found in my hometown when I was 12, it was so disturbing at the time. My parents knew the farmer who found her body. I was so happy when they finally found out who she was, it was so sad knowing she was all alone and no one seemed to miss her. I hope they are able to find her killer while I'm alive.

I used to enjoy that show in the early days, but then it got so ridiculous. every episode you got 1. Bar cart or 2. an ugly "conversation piece", usually a coffee table with "wacky" paint job or a chair with some "fun" fabric. I wish they would revamp it to a how-to of repurposing or just restoring flea market items and having judges decide the winner. Exactly.

I got that beat, one of my FB friends is hawking a 'take care of your pelvic floor' class, there are different levels you can sign up for, all via Zoom, but they start at $49.99/month up to over $100/month. Her post are "How often do you masterbate?" and a pic of a cave that simulates a woman's vulva pinpointing the clitoris. Look, I'm no pearl-clutcher and I am not offended or disgusted by any of it, it's just what I consider too personal to share on a public forum. Private group or not. No one can see that you've looked them up, thank god. Let's just say I am very much a "FB investigator" and use it to check up on ex's, ex-friends, former coworkers, people in the news, etc. I'm sorry your kids won't help you, do you have any friends that can show you how it works? I hate saying "it's really not hard" because it can be to someone who is unfamiliar, but you will get the hang of it.

Omg, I was taking them because I heard they could help with lowering cholesterol, worst mistake of my life. Extreme hot flashes, face turning bright red, it was horrible. I hear ya. I had a coworker take credit for a gift I arranged, ordered and set up. Although I had discussed it with this coworker, and she paid her share, it was my idea and I did the work. Hearing her accept all the thank you's and not saying "BexKeps did all the work, I just signed the card." was gut wrenching. Never again.

I sleep in a t-shirt and undies, with one sheet and a very thin blanket. The blanket is supposed to be cooling and supposedly doesn't hold body heat. It's made out of bamboo product, I tell you I still wake up in a sweat and throw them all off.

Hahahahaha, this is my mom! Growing up it was a running joke to see what she would run over on the mower, she has a lead foot on that thing and apparently couldn't see a small tree stump/tonka truck/plastic garden gnome so it all got shredded. I don't know how many blades my dad had to replace because of her excuse "I never saw it!" It got so my dad stopped planting trees because she would mow over them repeatedly, even after he'd mark them with stakes. And the stakes got mowed as well. OMG, this is starting at my house. I run warm anyway, add in the beginning of menopause and I am sweating constantly. And if I'm doing housework it triples. I like the house at a cool 69. He thinks it should be 72, as he's sitting in his chair watching baseball. I throw a blanket at him and tell him either get up and help me and see how "cold" it is or put a blanket on and shut it. Don't even get me started on needing a fan on me all night. Again, I throw a blanket over him and tell him to thank his lucky stars he doesn't wake up in a pool of sweat 3 or 4 times a night.