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I agree with everything you wrote except the part about Kody being disgusted with Meri. I think he is so completely not in love with this women that he flat out doesn't care if she was in love with another guy. He is not responding to the idea that his wife fell in love with a guy (when she thought she was a he) like any normal boyfriend/husband does! That is because he has no romantic feelings for her, which on some level she must know and this is why she is so sad.

I think Kody is much more attractive than Tony, in terms of looks, ability to communicate, intelligence, etc. I think that the Brown girls are choosing boyfriends who are less desirable than their father so that (on a subconscious level) they can have their man all to themselves and won't have to share him with other wives. The more I think about it they more I feel that the Brown family is based upon the unsaid fact that the women are not as attractive as Kody for various reasons. He accepts that each woman isn't that incredible on her own, but having several of them makes up for that fact, and he never feels disappointed with any one wife. This is why Janelle is the "easiest," because her weight lowers her self-esteem just enough that her expectations are really low and she is grateful for any attention from Kody. No truly hot and highly educated woman would put up with any of this, but it doesn't seem like the polygamous men would ever bother setting their sights on a girl like that.

I got the feeling that money was an issue for Chantel's parents. They didn't mind their beautiful daughter having a poor boyfriend, but for a husband they wanted her to have someone wealthier. And this could have been the "unsaid" reason for why Chantel kept her big secret. Ultimately, her parents couldn't really get that excited over a guy they found really unimpressive.

I had some thoughts on Nicole. I agree with what other posters are saying about her, but I also feel that she is the "scapegoat" in her family. The mother talks to her like she herself thinks Nicole is a loser. I also get the feeling that her siblings enjoy having Nicole be the scapegoat in the family so they can look better in comparison. This is a very common pattern in dysfunctional families. I also think Nicole had a very good point about Azan not showing emotion easily; some men are just like that. Also, I was somewhat annoyed with Alla's comment that Anfisa has a big heart. I don't think Anfisa has shown any evidence of having any heart, let alone a big heart. I think even Anfisa seemed annoyed and disagreed with the comment. Anfisa might have some heart for a few select people back in Russia, but that's it. Some people are like that. Everyone else is to be used or ignored. And Anfisa is wrong about Jorge only wanting her for her body- he obviously wants more than that from her.

I'm not talking about just being thin, but they are usually thinner too-- people from many of these countries are actually healthier (less heart disease, diabetes, better skin, etc.) But they don't eat "health" foods and they don't "work out" like Americans.

I agree. Alexei has the better face, but is too tall and lanky. Devar has a more proportionate body, but maybe too large a nose.

Melanie has always been pudgy. Weird how the foreigners don't "work out" and are more in shape than the Americans who do. Explain it!

I know right-- total lie right there.

Okay, Okay, everyone is 100% certain that Mark is a creep, but I cannot give up hope on anyone! I think it is positive that Mark admitted that he is the one with all the baggage. This could be a step in the right direction, in that he is admitting he knows he is the one with the issues. Maybe with time he will realize that Nikki is not the ex-wife and he will come around and learn to not be so stingy and defensive. I think above all Mark is looking for somebody who is completely loyal to him, which is why he fears American "independent" women (I also think this is part of the draw to Asian women, including Kyle's draw to Noon). Again, in Mark's defense, American culture does "allow" people to easily move on from relationships and situations they find difficult. This can be good and bad-- I think it is possible that for men who want a partner who will stick by them no matter what, they feel that an Asian is less risk than an American. I believe that Mark will begin to trust more and more, and might even end up being very generous in the end.

I agree! I had a baby at 36 and I can tell you that I don't have nearly enough energy for what a male toddler demands (little sleep plus non-stop on the go mischievous behavior). I have to say that I did have that much energy in my early twenties!

I wonder if viewers are seeing Josh as immature because of his boyish face and soft voice; people might be judging him based on how he looks, which is much younger than he actually is. His features are nice, so maybe in 5-10 years he'll get a more manly look that matches his age and position. For now though, he does look odd as a soon-to-be father and husband, like a daddy-kid.

Women choose abusers all the time, and they choose to stay with abusers. That doesn't mean they don't need help or that they are bad people for making the decision to partner up with bad people. Many people are codependents in some form or another and they need therapy to make them understand their patterns and find normal partners who can love them in healthier ways.

I think both Loren and Alexei are extremely good looking, the best looking out of all the couples. I find it weird how everyone goes on and on about carolina and noon's looks. Did we watch the same show? I wish I was as pretty as Loren!

I agree with this. In addition, I wonder if this is part of the attraction he has towards her. Somehow I can't see him getting so excited about dating a Mormon girl who is already a "good" girl. It's like she's his "project" and he's saving her soul and by marrying her he's fulfilled the most important part of his mission.

I do think they are an example of opposites attract-- He seems emotionally disconnected and she has enough emotion for the two of them. I'm trying to get more of an idea of Alexei's personality and I don't think he has much of one. Maybe he's with Loren because she supplies the personality and he just passively responds to it.

This is very interesting- I had guessed something similar regarding Nikki. Somehow, maybe because she's so young yet she's so sure that this is the right thing and sleeping with Mark is not a problem and a "beautiful thing," I got this feeling that she was brainwashed into believing this. In societies like Nikki's older women teach their young daughters to use their youth and beauty to snag a man who can give them a better life. It's a way of thinking that women from prosperous countries misunderstand, but in a world where women have very little power or opportunity, the only way they can make anything of themselves is through their physical appeal and willingness to sleep around.

Call me weird on this one, but I thought that Devar's dedication to his sister reflected very well on his character and made me like him more. This proves to me that he is capable of true loyalty which not everybody has. With time it seems to me that Devar will grow to also feel that loyalty towards Melanie; she is just being impatient. I think it shows great character on his part that he didn't immediately drop his sister after falling in love and moving far from home.

I hate to say it, but Kyle fits a certain type of Asia-phile white guy I've encountered in the US. Part of the draw to Asian religion and culture appears to be because they have become so turned off towards white culture and white women, most likely because of a very dysfunctional white heritage. Not to say that Kyle is like this, but I've seen it numerous times-- Sometimes these men can be very misogynistic, but not towards all women, only caucasian women. I guess this works in Noon's favor, but friends of mine who are Asian American run from men like this very quickly.

Nikki is getting more flak because she fits the stereotype of the skinny, hot Asian with long hair. Maybe there is a perception that she could do better than a weird old man so if she's with someone like that it can only be for the money. While her type of looks would help her in the dating market in the US, they probably wouldn't in her country where her look is probably associated with poverty (the skinniness) and is commonplace. In those countries they also love light skin which Nikki does not have. Mark may see Nikki as beautiful yet she may believe she is very average and can't do much better than Mark. Surprisingly, thin, dark skinned women in certain countries will never be considered pretty. I think there is also a tendency to "like" women who are more motherly and rounder like Noon-- This isn't generally what men like better, but what women like more in other women as they are probably less threatening in general.

Maybe you don't like Noon because you feel safe liking her, but I'm sure this is why Kyle loves her...but he just doesn't know it, at least not on a conscious level. That poor guy probably received very little normal nurturing growing up and now by marrying Noon he's going to get all the sweet, supportive nurturing he needs. Noon doesn't fit the profile of a typical mail order bride because she isn't being chosen for her "hotness" which may seem like a good thing, but it's not really better to be chosen because you are a good mommy/stability figure either. Kyle is wounded and he has an emotional need for someone like Noon, but something tells me he is going to have two lives eventually, one at home with his "great" woman and another wild life. There's a reason why he is a bartender on Bourbon street and it's not because there aren't other jobs out there.

Noon is a nice mommy figure for Kyle-- I can see why she is likable, especially to female viewers who may be put off by hotter or opinionated women. Aleksandra seems kind as well, but this could be some kind of trained passivity. Her parents gave off the same passive vibes.

Does anyone think thyroid disorders run in that family? Loren is hyper and wiry while her poor sister seems motionless and overweight. Something seems off about Loren, but I don't think she is spoiled-- It seems like she has ADHD with poor impulse control, and also might not be the sharpest pencil in the box. She is cute though which must of been how she got into Alexei's heart. I wish we could hear the sister's opinion on things. I should have relistened to what her mother was saying (it didn't seem to make much sense the first time around).

I got the feeling that Devar comes from a culture which is not typically monogamous, so the males don't usually support their own kids (because they can never be sure those are really their kids), but support their sister's kids who they are sure they share genes with. From this cultural perspective he would be financially loyal to his sister's kids, but not his own future kids with Melanie. I think Devar is better looking than Melanie and that could be where some of the skepticism is coming from on the part of Melanie's sister. However, I think Devar sees Melanie as a big step up, and this could have something to do with the low self concept that people of color from poor countries seem to have.

Alexandra is an excellent dancer. It really seems to be her passion; I find it very strange that a Mormon can come to her country and so easily convince her that by dancing in night clubs she did very "bad" things. Her parents were very oddly passive IMO. That bothered me because I feel that they could have steered Alexandra in a better direction, but by being so quiet and passive they've let their daughter make an odd choice in a husband. Maybe they are just thankful their daughter found a decent guy from the west. I don't know, but I wish they would have defended their culture a little more.

Noon is obviously a "mother" figure for Kyle; I don't see much passion there, just a chance for Kyle to get the unconditional love he never got in the first place. Noon is going to be both a mother type and a therapist I'm afraid, but her personality seems suited for that. She does appear genuinely caring. I think this is why we saw Kyle acting flirtatiously as a bartender-- he will "love" Noon and lust after other women.