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Pattycake, good point. I'd either not heard of that before about Ken or had forgotten. Nothing redeeming about the guy whatsoever.

I agree, Meow Mix, about Barry vs Ken. Crazy how Kim thinks Barry should become BFFs with Ken. One big happy family! This is especially rich considering we've never seen Barry criticize anything about Ken's existence while Kim has no problem announcing she can't stand being in the same room as Barry. I've never been divorced, but isn't it Divorce 101 not to denigrate your ex-spouse in front of your kids--even if it's just them witnessing it on TV later? BTW, I wonder if it bothers Kim that her new beau has so many marbles rolling around in his mouth that he requires captioning? He may (or may not) be a nice man, but the guy's clearly no Rhodes Scholar.

Gotta love how Barry made Ethan feel oh-so-much-better by assuring him he'd done nothing wrong with his marriage. I feel for whomever Ethan partners with the future. Boy will have learned absolutely zero. Ethan still will be Mr non-communicator fused to a toxic family without boundaries. He'll remain incapable of eye contact while allowing his narcissistic mom to poison his relationships. Good luck with that, Ethan. Olivia seems to be thriving, though I find it both sad and fascinating how cult escapees like her often abandon any and all faith. I suppose they've had it all too closely tied together to distinguish between them.

I suspect your are correct, Notabug, about a therapist preparing Olivia for her encounter with Ethan, though she didn't say these things until Ethan's words about his family necessitated it. I was impressed by how calm she remained through it all. Olivia is over it in the healthiest of ways. I think leaving Ethan's family behind, especially, has removed a huge amount of stress and turmoil in her life. She may miss Ethan a little, but the family package he'd tied himself to made staying with him unbearable. Plus Ethan himself got so nasty and angry near the end. I'll never forget how he tormented Olivia in the car by spinning around in the snow that time, knowing she'd been traumatized by a serious auto injury in the past. He deliberately used her traumas and vulnerabilities against her. I don't know how you can trust a spouse who does that. I'm a big promoter of marriage and doing what you can to make it work, but Ethan made it impossible. Olivia is better off without him.

I was so impressed by how Olivia conducted herself with Ethan, keeping the conversation on task, not allowing him to trigger her or divert her away from her mission. And she did it all so gently and kindly. It's clear to me that she continues to receive excellent therapy away from the camera to help her navigate such situations so maturely. I loved how Ethan tried to get Olivia to say she was at fault for not trying to work problems out with some of his toxic family members. Instead she simply apologized for not recognizing the futility of the situation and cutting it off earlier. It's obvious this wasn't what he wanted to hear. Something I found odd was how Ethan remains mad how Olivia made him chose between her and his family. Surely he was raised with the biblical scripture and mandate about leaving your parents and cleaving to your spouse. The idea of the spouse coming first is precisely what Ethan surely had been raised to believe. This should never have been an issue for him or his family. Interesting how Olivia admitted that she had been relieved that Ethan had been the one to suggest divorce as she was already there but didn't want to be the one to pull the trigger. Watching Ethan's lack of eye contact and minimal words probably reminded Olivia of how painful it was to communicate with Ethan. I imagine it assured her she'd made the right decision to split. They had some tough issues between them but any chance of surmounting them became impossible with his incapability of talking about them.

My guess is that Natalie has histrionic personality disorder. https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/histrionic-personality-disorder

It really was quite remarkable, wasn't it, Quof?

Excellent points, Shelbie. The show has been careful not to explain exactly the religious differences between Ethan and Olivia. I'd been leaning towards her losing her faith entirely, which for sure would be a big deal for Ethan going forward with raising children. But this episode made me wonder if it was more just that Olivia has gone from deep fundamentalist beliefs to a more liberal Christian faith. That thought only occurred to me when Ethan made his "When have you last cooked me a meal, Woman?" comment. I think Olivia knew, in that exact moment, it was hopeless for her to stay married to Ethan. He'd seemed to have made a lot of progress in life but suddenly made clear that the patriarchy drilled into him growing up had cemented inside him, deep inside. If Olivia actually still holds to the basic tenants of the Christian faith, that remark was an extremely stupid one for Ethan to make, as it was the nail in the coffin for his marriage. Either: 1. Ethan is an idiot. 2. Olivia is now an agnostic or atheist or holds to a non-Christian faith. 3. Ethan was just desperate to touch back to the more predictable (yet toxic) ways of his youth given all the recent turmoil in his marriage and the painful rejection of his family. I did like how Ethan earlier explained to Moriah (and the cameras) how much the Plaths contributed to damaging his marriage right out of the gate. Their toxicity couldn't help but seep into their young relationship. At first Kim was threatened that Olivia might lessen her control over the family. Then later the entire family saw Olivia as a convenient scapegoat given the implosion related to Barry and Kim's divorce. Even Ethan recognized the scapegoating part, and expressed it well. It will be very interesting to see what happens next, particularly if Ethan returns to and embraces his family as they surely will expect. But one thing for sure, as someone else wisely pointed out earlier, is that the Platts will be in a huge need of a new scapegoat. They will do anything but face the facts of their own harmful acts and the destruction left in the wake. In the meantime, I agree that Olivia should prosper. I look forward to watching that happen.

I noticed that about Kim's skirt, too, Quof. Does she not own a mirror? The woman is so delusional in a number of ways. BTW, I love how Kim mentioned something about how nice Barry has been with the family, and that she might have stayed had he been like this in the past. Hmmm... wondering if Kim is already experiencing some regrets? You are no Barbie, Kim, and your Ken is no Ryan Gosling.

My notes for this week’s episode, which I'm putting here because there's still no thread started for the newest one— Moriah: Scored a tiny bit of credit by admitting she “over-reacted” about the supposed music thievery, but then immediately lost it by refusing to acknowledge how Olivia shared the passwords before they left for Italy. (I totally believe Ethan on this one. Moriah’s already proven herself to have horrible recall about such things.) Moriah appeared a little grieved at the thought of Ethan suffering with his marriage because of the family drama, but I suspect that inwardly she’s thrilled to hear of his trouble there. Her sudden willingness to be “civil” to Olivia is much too little, too late. Even Ethan was like, don’t bother. Moriah, your new tattoos aren’t helping with your unfortunate fashion sense, one that has taken an otherwise cute young woman and made her look trashy and haggard. You can recover from your sorry clothing and fried hair when you finally figure it all out, but dealing with your sad ink choices is going to be a more painful and expensive hill to climb. But you do you. In the meantime, you should just go get a bunch more similar tats. Ethan: I liked that he didn’t let Moriah off the hook by reminding her how she’d already had a terrible relationship with Kim well before Olivia entered the picture. Moriah didn’t seem to appreciate hearing that. Good on Ethan for bringing up how marriages need to take priority over other family (a very biblical concept) but of course Moriah didn’t want to hear that, either. Also score for Ethan for finally not being afraid to have difficult conversations with either Moriah or Olivia without running away. In Ethan’s summit with Olivia, he started out making sense about their differences of values when it came to big ticket issues like religion. But then he went and blew up all sympathy by suggesting that Olivia return to her family of origin to get some reminders of her family’s old values, including those good old patriarchal ways! Like how women-folk need to cook three meals a day because that’s how it has to be plus it works for him and proves her love as “one of the only keys to his heart”… Oh, Ethan. Judging by Olivia’s face during this exchange, I think that’s the very instant she knew it was hopeless. Then she doubled down by reminding Ethan of his lack of honesty, communication, and care for her. Ethan, you screwed up big-time in a whole lotta ways and it’s going to hurt for a long time. Olivia: I give both Ethan and Olivia credit for talking in a calm and mostly rationale manner about such deep and painful stuff. Too bad that this willingness to communicate has come years too late on Ethan’s part. The whole break-up scene was one of the most heart-breaking, raw, and real moments I’ve ever seen on television. Olivia, go off somewhere beautiful for college and live your best life. It’s not too late for you. Kim: Pretty low of her to snide about Barry wanting to sell the house for money reasons when she’s the one who blew up the family and made it all necessary. Actions have consequences. I know it must come as a shock, but you no longer hold all the cards with the Plath family, including Barry. Kim, just go away. Enjoy your man who has so many marbles in his mouth that he needs closed-captioning. Barry: Good for you for not automatically saying you’d take Kim back. You surprised me with that but I’m sure it will shock Kim even more when she hears those words come out of your mouth. Isaac: Somehow Isaac turned into a hot teenager overnight. How did that happen? Good on him with his plan to go to college. Run, Isaac, run, and never look back—for your sake as well as any woman in your future. Micah: I don’t recall too much about him from this episode except for his crazy eyebrow acting making another appearance. I was just too distracted by those eyebrows to pay attention. You're not nearly as cute as you think you are. Micah, you used to be an attractive young man but your nasty personality now trumps your looks and you come up negative. Lydia: Good on you to keep your new beau private so far. But please don’t move too fast and it’s a shame you’re not going off to college first like Isaac, because you would thrive at a small conservative Christian college.

My notes from last night's episode: Micah 1. Just shut your trap, especially in regard to your obsession with Olivia. Their marriage is not your business. 2. You are hardly a relationship expert. You fail at that more than eyebrow acting. 3. Manipulating Ethan to be forced to talk to Moriah before he's ready. 4. I'm still rage-y at Micah for real-time suggesting publicly that Olivia may have been a cheater when there's nothing to suggest such a thing. I'm thinking this betrayal may actually have been the final straw for Olivia. How can you be part of such a cruel family that would do something like that to you? Barry 1. One step forward by encouraging Ethan to work on his marriage. 2. Two steps back by calling Olivia "toxic" in his solo interviews. Just what is toxic, Barry? The lies that Moriah and Micah reported about Olivia and you believed? Maybe you've not heard how Moriah now begrudgingly admits she made up the credit card and music theft stories? Ethan 1. Didn't irritate me so much this week 2. Liked his boldness in asking Barry if he and other family members were secretly hoping Ethan would divorce Olivia. (Loved watching Barry's immediate physical squirm at that question.) 3. Actually tried to call Olivia. 4. Didn't let Moriah off too easily with her lies and blame game, at least so far. 5. Hoping he holds her feet to the truth fire in next week's episode. Kim 1. Somehow don't really care that much about her as she's becoming increasingly irrelevant. 2. Does anyone buy the idea that Ken's scene of suggesting the shack-up wasn't totally arranged, planned, and rehearsed by them both? Laughing at Ken saying he had a couple extra rooms Kim could use...yeah, right. As if those two hadn't been knocking boots already for some time. And Kim vacillating because of the kids? You've already demonstrated just how much you care about your minor children's well-being, Kim. 3. This all from the same woman who once shamed and punished her older teen/obedient slave for simply texting a boy a few extra times. Olivia 1. Looked the knock-out walking around Florence. 2. Ethan will be full of regrets. But now he gets all the time he wants now with his family, many of whom actually are toxic. Choices have consequences. Hope they're worth it.

Excellent thoughts about the plane purchase, Pinenut. Methinks Kim also saw the plane purchase as: 1. A way to introduce Ken into the show in a way that seemed like he was a stranger (when most of us recognize that Kim had likely been with Ken for a while already and was the basis of her blowing up her marriage.) 2. A way to curry favor with Isaac so she could feel better about herself hanging around Ken in front of him. BTW, way to go, Kim, screwing with your minor child's head by chirping if it weren't for him, you'd have not met Ken in the first place. Basically, Kim let Isaac know that if it weren't for him, his parents' divorce might not be progressing and his family continue imploding. Then Kim added on the head-screwing suggestion that they should double date. Seriously messed up parenting there.

Scotsgir, I just took their use of "patriotism" as a code word for politics. I think they're all deliberately trying avoid bringing politics into this discussion, nothing more than that. But I do believe that Olivia has swung from one end of the pendulum to another, how ever people might prefer to call it.

Olivia did say one time that her faith had drastically changed. Something about going from espousing a religion to just being a spiritual person. I could be wrong, but I took her as saying she had rejected Christianity altogether. That would bother Ethan a lot, for sure, but Christianity teaches that a person is supposed to remain married to an unbeliever, not leave them. My guess with the patriotism is that she switched political affiliations from one far end of the spectrum to the other. All of this could be worked out between them except it gets much trickier if they have children. I'm referring here especially to the faith part, not the political part. Parents having vastly different beliefs is a tricky one. I imagine this is what is freaking Ethan out and causing him to say he's hesitant to have children with Olivia. Ethan says a lot of crap I don't like, but in some ways I get him with the having-children part in this case. It's all very sad.

My observations from the latest episode. There's no thread for it yet, so I'm putting it here for now. I'll move this when it opens up: KIM: 1. I enjoyed seeing Kim jealous at the praise Barry gets for being a decent parent. “What about me?” Kim seeths. 2. Kim suddenly claims that Barry treated her poorly during their marriage. Though possible, we never saw anything remotely to suggest that. 3. Funny to see the preview with Kim pretending to be shocked by Ken’s request to “take their relationship to the next level” (producers from The Bachelor having been called in to rehearse that line with marble-mouth Ken) when we all know they’ve likely been knocking boots since before she moved out. 4. Kim pretending to be involved in “the little girls” homeschool assignments. 5. It just occurred to me that Kim didn’t argue much about having to move out of the family home instead of Barry since it provided her a convenient love nest with Ken. MICAH: 1. Is this week’s biggest villain with his messing with Ethan’s head, something he clearly planned. 2. Threatens Ethan's man card: “You need to stand up to Olivia!” 3. Justifies his refusal to talk with Olivia by saying, “Olivia is selfish!” 4. Informs Ethan, “I don’t respect your wife. I used to respect your marriage, but not anymore. I wouldn’t ever want a marriage like yours with Olivia!” 5. Repeatedly pushes the narrative that Olivia is controlling and surely refused to let Ethan go to California. Despite the opposite. 6. Manipulates Ethan into meeting Moriah by deliberating not informing Ethan of her coming. (Always fun to get ambushed.) 7. Decides that the answer to the trauma of his parents’ divorce is to create family unity by causing a divorce between Ethan and Olivia. And drinking coffee from a mug that says “unity.” ETHAN: 1. Announces that “I’m not gonna put my family relationships on hold to save my marriage.” (Good luck keeping any marriage with that attitude.) 2. Expresses regret but took zero action. Even missed a flight due to action paralysis. 3. Realizes his marriage is on the rocks. Olivia gently suggests therapy. “Damn therapists,” Ethan scoffs.